Hi for those who don't know me I'm Nayah and brand new in your forum which is very funny and interesting. Well brothers and sisters, I would like to have your opinion about something African community used to say about the fact Nigerians use to marry each other. It means even though they can date other women their family are conservative especially step mother who wants an original Nigerian sometimes from the same tribe, some African like, Ivoirians, Ghanians, Liberians have told me that. What do you think, thanks

Yes they do!!!

Nayah:

Hi for those who don't know me I'm Nayah and brand new in your forum which is very funny and interesting. Well brothers ans sisters, I would like to have your opinion about something african community used to say about the fact Nigerians use to marry each other. It means even though they can date other women their family are conservative especially step mother who wants an original nigerian sometimes from the same tribe, some africain like, ivoirians, ghanians, liberians have told me that what do you think, thanks

Not entirely true, many Nigerians do marry from other tribes, race, countries . .etc

welcome to our forum.well i tink the above statement is not always true.not applicable to all nigerians.pple are different

welcome to our forum.well i tink the above statement is not always true.not applicable to all nigerians.pple are different

hummmm answers seem to be shared so most of times nigerians prefer marry each other so you young generation what do think about this trend? I' m note nigerian but I have some ibo friends,

Nayah:

hummmm answers seem to be shared so most of times nigerians prefer marry each other so you young generation what do think about this trend? I' m note nigerian but I have some ibo friends,

While we cannot concretely generalize, it's very true that majority of Nigerians would rather marry from their country. Even within the country, people like to marry from their tribe and some really conservative people would prefer to marry from their state, or even town.

It's something we are all used to and honestly, I think it's the safest thing to do. Nigerians have a strong sense of origin probably because of the hardships being faced by people here and the high level of tribal clashes and wars.

If you are dating a Nigerian, just have it at the back of your mind that he moght not marry you and even if he does, there's every possiblity that he'll take another wife from his village.

Ujujoan:

While we cannot concretely generalize, it's very true that majority of Nigerians would rather marry from their country. Even within the country, people like to marry from their tribe and some really conservative people would prefer to marry from their state, or even town.

It's something we are all used to and honestly, I think it's the safest thing to do. Nigerians have a strong sense of origin probably because of the hardships being faced by people here and the high level of tribal clashes and wars.

If you are dating a Nigerian, just have it at the back of your mind that he moght not marry you and even if he does, there's every possiblity that he'll take another wife from his village.

That is very misleading there UJujoan.

justwise I think she pointed out a very important point I'm french but originally form cameroon and germany but actually my cousin had a Nigerian fiance he wanted to marry her but my family strongly refude this union saying the same thing as Ujujoan. And to be honest a lot of africans think that especially in my country

Nayah:

justwise I think she pointed out a very important point I'm french but originally form cameroon and germany but actually my cousin had a Nigerian fiance he wanted to marry her but my family strongly refude this union saying the same thing as Ujujoan. And to be honest a lot of africans think that especially in my country

I'm not disputing the fact that some Nigerian men or women prefer marrying other Nigerians or from their tribe, yes it does happen but many Nigerians does marry from other countries, tribes and race as well.

ok that's what I think as well, but this is not only in Nigeria in Cameroon as well people prefer eing each other because of the culture but I think it's not faire heart in not about race or tribe,

Nayah:

ok that's what I think as well, but this is not only in Nigeria in Cameroon as well people prefer eing each other because of the culture but I think it's not faire heart in not about race or tribe,

The younger generation is more open minded than our parents who are still blinded by tribal issues. More and more educated Nigerians are more interested in who you are rather than where you come from.

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yes I agree sister but family pressure still very strong I know what I'am talkin' about

Madlady don't be so sure someone from your own nation could make you suffering and does not care about the fact you are her sister or not. Anyway for me it's all about indiiduals not nationality. Some people think the fact people who are native from the same country could get on well rather than someone from foreign one, I don't think it's always true or verified, you can learn and discover another culture and be opened minded. The world it's a little village right now

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Am Nigerian, happily married to a non Nigerian and i dont have another wife in any nigerian village or in any village for that matter.Our families are both fine with our marriage,

so hopefully this will stop this typical stereotype of Nigerian Men and their families,

Nayah:

Madlady don't be so sure someone from your own nation could make you suffering and does not care about the fact you are her sister or not. Anyway for me it's all about indiiduals not nationality. Some people think the fact people who are native from the same country could get on well rather than someone from foreign one, I don't think it's always true or verified, you can learn and discover another culture and be opened minded. The world it's a little village right now

Exactly!!!!!

sesman I can understand your erasment about this cliché but try to understand a lot of Nigerians are different than you there's a strong family pressure

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justwise:

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That is very misleading there UJujoan.

It's d harsh reality.

Ujujoan:

It's d harsh reality.

Yes misleading is harsh reality

sesman:

Am Nigerian, happily married to a non Nigerian and i dont have another wife in any nigerian village or in any village for that matter.Our families are both fine with our marriage,

so hopefully this will stop this typical stereotype of Nigerian Men and their families,

Yours is a case of one in a million an like I said, you cannot concretely generalize.

I have a cousin who married a German and after a 10 year marriage is asking us to find a 'Nigeria wife' for him. And that is not an isolated case, it's very very common especially with Igbos.

How many threads do we get on this forum where Nigerians abroad dont even want to marry their own people there. They prefer Nigerians living in Nigeria. Are you telling me they NEVER dated a non-Nigerian they could have married comfortably

justwise:

Yes misleading is harsh reality

You are the one trying to mislead her, all I'm giving her is a soft landing. So we dont have another thread her on 'he dumped me to marry a Nigerian lady' . .

Ujujoan:

Yours is a case of one in a million an like I said, you cannot concretely generalize.

I have a cousin who married a German and after a 10 year marriage is asking us to find a 'Nigeria wife' for him. And that is not an isolated case, it's very very common especially with Igbos.
How many threads do we get on this forum where Nigerians abroad dont even want to marry their own people there. They prefer Nigerians living in Nigeria. Are you telling me they NEVER dated a non-Nigerian they could have married comfortably
You are the one trying to mislead her, all I'm giving her is a soft landing. So we dont have another thread her on 'he dumped me to marry a Nigerian lady' . .

Is that not one in a million case as well?(bolded part)

I know alot of Nigerians here who are married to non-Nigerians and still living together till today. Marriage break down could be as a result of many things, not cos the wife is non Nigerian. Marrying a Nigerians doesn't mean that the marriage will last 4ever

Is that not one in a million case as well?(bolded part)

I know alot of Nigerians here who are married to non-Nigerians and still living together till today. Marriage break down could be as a result of many things, not cos the wife is non Nigerian. Marrying a Nigerians doesn't mean that the marriage will last 4ever

And they didnt marry them for papers and have another wife living with their parents back at home. Please read my post again, I said that case wasnt isolated. I could list a lot of other instances but you and I both know it's not necessary. What I'm saying, like I said before, it the harsh reality.

Marry someone who you can build a life with, its not by force to marry a Nigerian.

Nayah:

ok that's what I think as well, but this is not only in Nigeria in Cameroon as well people prefer eing each other because of the culture but I think it's not faire heart in not about race or tribe,

Please, just know the guy you are dating very well, and you should be open enough to discuss this with him.
My Uncle was born in Cameroon and married a Cameroonian lady, They have a beautiful baby, just avoid people that are stuck in backwards thinking

I agree being marry with the same people doesn't mean taht will last forever but I admit I knowo some ghanians, british and so on marry to nigerians

Do nigerians always marry each other?
this is another dumb question that made it
to the headline.

Ujujoan:

And they didnt marry them for papers and have another wife living with their parents back at home. Please read my post again, I said that case wasnt isolated. I could list a lot of other instances but you and I both know it's not necessary. What I'm saying, like I said before, it the harsh reality.

ibabalol:

Do nigerians always marry each other?
this is another dumb question that made it
to the headline.

apparently its not dumb because some people belive that Nigerians would never be satisfied in a marriage unless that person is a Nigerian 

Nigerian men can always double team on a woman, no matter if she is Nigerian or not, Stop looking for excuses.

Do Female always Marry Men?

platinumnk:

Marry someone who you can build a life with, its not by force to marry a Nigerian.

Please, just know the guy you are dating very well, and you should be open enough to discuss this with him.
My Uncle was born in Cameroon and married a Cameroonian lady, They have a beautiful baby, just avoid people that are stuck in backwards thinking

Absolutely! There are too many of them, they never move on, always going back to something that happened 100yrs ago within the tribes, passing it from one generation to another.

Well, its true most nigerians especialy the men who are about to travell abroad are warned by their families not to bring home a white woman. The only exception are those born abroad but for most of those young men who are born here and plan to travel they are strictly warned not to bring home OYINBO woman. Maybe if you are french or anyother and black they will bend a bit more unlike when you are white. Athough nowadays a few marry caucasians or non blacks but its not realy welcomed by old parents. I know of men who are married to white women and they come here to marry nigerians and have kids here cos mama and papa want grand kids from home. I just wonder what their so called wives here are thinking you marry a guy you see once in 3 years and when he comes he knocks you up and goes back to his first woman you live with his family and all.