stuffs4me:
It is rather unfortunate that the woman is feeling like a god just because she's wealthier than her husband.


The woman has a very ugly and evil unforgiving heart. After 9 years and three kids, she still has the mind to keep a grudge in her heart.

Even if she refused to help the man, it doesn't mean God cannot answer the prayers of the man the way he answered her own. Nobody knows tomorrow.

u obviously didn't read the story.....that's why u posted trash

did u read the part that says the man is now begging her for marriage cos the wife is now opportune to travel abroad?if reverse was d case,u wud have been insulting the woman,calling her a gold dogger


Ur problem is chauvinism..

Reelmii:
the kids can never ever hate their mum, it is very difficult for a child to live tge father more than him mother, they will belive wat ever she tells them abii the man folo them dey there, they will definitely come back home to meet their father but he can neva turn their heart against their mum

hmmmm.....
maybr the 3kids r girls...

but if a male is there, Dont play with male child...

they always come bk...

I know of one Airforce officer in my village... that was even sent to newyork for 2years Course... bt dude is bk now to the dad.

his dad dumped the mom and married second wife...

but he is back now and even the one setting up 2nd wives kids in business/school...

built the only awesome structure in that compound tho his mom is married to another man...

Correct babe with correct father nobody has the monopoly of wickedness

AFONJACOW:
yeah I will train them ,but I will make sure I poison those children mind against her... she will end up been a loser

u see dat u are not also a good person, now u ar saying the woman is a wicked woman but u have a darker heart, but sorry to shock u, they would even be happy they have a mum abroad and I know the woman would be visiting and sending things to them, na the man go die of bad belle

AreaFada2:

God bless you.

I was expecting to hear how the man neglected her when she had no job, what a bad man or father he has been. None of those.

She can leave the man and try her luck with American men with three kids in tow.

I just don't know what she is trying to prove by all these and her father? hmmm I tire oo what will be his pride if his daughter's home is broken due to all these.

Muzanga:
Kpomo man. I love bold women.

Bold women? Mtcheeeww!

donnaD:
y shud she hold a grudge for so long? haba she does not love the man.What is she trying to prove?two wrongs can never mk a rite.she shud pipe down .

aunty,go back and read the story.......the man is a gold digger.he refused to marry the lady.now that the. lady is chances to go abroad with her kids,he is now vying to marry her


how am I so sure he won't dump d woman when he gets abroad

Muzanga:
lol. See this mumu. Na woman get pikin worldwide. Which marriage cert him go show for court? See you supporting your fellow kpomo gold digging man. because she wan travel out marriage certificate done dey hungry am. Opportunist.

no mind those deluded chauvinistic Nigerian men....if it was the other way round,dey for don call d woman a gold digging prostitute.


truth is dat,both Nigerian men and women got gold digging spirits in them...nobody got monopoly of dog digging

AFONJACOW:
yeah I will train them ,but I will make sure I poison those children mind against her... she will end up been a loser

u will be shocked that u will not be able to poison their harts because they would be happy they have a mim abroad and also she would be visiting and also send things home, na bad belle go kill the man, u think it is easy to break between a mother and a child

HeWrites:
According to the story shared on Facebook, a man who refused to do court and white wedding with his baby mama is now begging to wed her in court after she got an opportunity to relocate abroad with her family. The story is quite interesting.

Read below;
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up. I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason. My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions. He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock. My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me. I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me. My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also. His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/04/man-who-refused-to-marry-his-baby-mama-for-9-years-now-begging-to-wed-her-see-why.html

Why would a church request for a court certificate before conducting marriage to people?

I like stories like this. Forgive but don't forget

jasmines:
Pls, stop saying the woman kept a grudge. Why hasn't the man changed his mind all these yrs about her and wed her legally? Oversense man wey no want his wife to claim 1 Kobo from his family incase of anything even after her family begged. Do you know the silent stigma that hangs around her? My cousin didn't Wed his wife legally or in the church. His wife still hasn't gotten over it. Their kids are cute but she refused to let them participate in anyone's wedding. After she seized the kids twice on the day of my cousins weddings, all of us learnt our lessons that she's still angry over the wedding ish. Meanwhile their marriage is about 16yrs. The sad part was we tried talking to her hubby about the wedding but for reasons best known to him, he refused. I no talk too much cus I understand.

I advise her to take him along as common law partner or something in that form it they have it

no mind those idiots.they obviously didn't read the story.

some foolish naija men with their chauvinistic mindsets are persuading the woman to marry him.if it was the other way,they wud available been calling the woman 'olosho' and advised the man to marry another woman


how are u so sure the man won't dump the woman for another American when they get abroad
the man is an opportunist and agold digger

northvietnam:


hmmmm.....
maybr the 3kids r girls...

but if a male is there, Dont play with male child...

they always come bk...

I know of one Airforce officer in my village... that was even sent to newyork for 2years Course... bt dude is bk now to the dad.

his dad dumped the mom and married second wife...

but he is back now and even the one setting up 2nd wives kids in business/school...

built the only awesome structure in that compound tho his mom is married to another man...

na male children dey love their mother pass girls sef

Read the story before. Poetic justice really. Madam please find it in your heart to forgive him.

Reelmii:
u see dat u are not also a good person, now u ar saying the woman is a wicked woman but u have a darker heart, but sorry to shock u, they would even be happy they have a mum abroad and I know the woman would be visiting and sending things to them, na the man go die of bad belle

Fact is when they realise their lives can be better with their mum rather than suffering in naij with pa, the said husband would be shocked when the kids arrange behind his back to go join their mum.

Who no wan be American citizen? The kids would hate him if he stops them from joining their mum.

But sis what do you want? ALthough you have got 3 children for him, but do you want to continue living with him as your husband? If yes, go ahead and wed in court that is if he is truly sorry and when you are too sure he wont divorce you when u guys get to US. However, if you think he has another plan of dumping you when he has crossed over, then there wont be need of travelling with him, so no court wedding.

One of the cases where blaming the woman for her decision would be irrational.

The best I will advise the man to do is to beg his wife and her father like his life depends on it .
And then hope for the best and accept the outcome with bravery.


He has no justifiable case here. He already made his bed.

A sensible woman will not want to leave her husband though, but he needs to beg and pet her.
This is not the time for male ego.

thesicilian:
So men too can become desperate.
But to look at it from another angle, it was his refusal to 'legally' marry you that served as the man driving force for you to become successful in life. Maybe if he had done exactly what you wanted from the beginning (court and church wedding), you'd have just ended up like 99.9% of other women: an ambition-less Nigerian housewife.

that's what u think. so cause there was a turn around in her life, so it was good thing for the man to put her and her family through all that embarrassment? my dear what God has ordained shall surely come to pass. What's gonna b is gonna b. I support her. The guy never thought of this. he felt he was a demi god. Now The Almighty has shown him pepper.

northvietnam:
Court wedding or not..

woman at the end of the day, ur husband still wins... cuz he's the father of ur 3 kids....

and this shyte happened way bk..
why nt let go and move on.

if the man has been good and caring husband then why not take him along with his kids...
but if the dude has been an A$$hole then SCREW HIM...

if she leaves with out the man then she never loved him at the first place, she jushegot married cuz of the pregnancy...

She loved him but he killed that love...she stayed with him because she was already with child!
Most men don't know how to nurture a woman's love and make it strong, they just take it for granted when women love them...of all the things in life, you don't want to lose a woman's love believe me!

Shhhh01:
that's what u think. so cause there was a turn around in her life, so it was good thing for the man to put her and her family through all that embarrassment? my dear what God has ordained shall surely come to pass. What's gonna b is gonna b. I support her. The guy never thought of this. he felt he was a demi god. Now The Almighty has shown him pepper.

The way some men reason though...how annoying

HeWrites:
According to the story shared on Facebook, a man who refused to do court and white wedding with his baby mama is now begging to wed her in court after she got an opportunity to relocate abroad with her family. The story is quite interesting.

Read below;
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up. I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason. My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions. He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock. My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me. I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me. My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also. His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/04/man-who-refused-to-marry-his-baby-mama-for-9-years-now-begging-to-wed-her-see-why.html

For me, I'd tell you to play the bigger person but then, given the number of people who supported him and those he abused in his egoistic display, give him the same treatment! I can't believe he remained unbothered the while you put up attitude...

But then again, he felt there's no need then. Now there's a need, so I guess you can forgive him... But still show am small pepper... God forgive me.

martineverest:
aunty,go back and read the story.......the man is a gold digger.he refused to marry the lady.now that the. lady is chances to go abroad with her kids,he is now vying to marry her


how am I so sure he won't dump d woman when he gets abroad

try to always read a story well and digest it,stop jumping on issues.read very well he married her and paid her bride price but nope she wants more and when he said he is doing all that she held it against him.she shud be happy he removed shame from her face,Than counting and bottling up his sins in her heart.is she a saint in the marriage?

GreenMavro:


WATFORD must beat or draw Tottenham today, so that Chelsea go go champions League

Amen oh,but is just like a dream.

Mariangeles:
She loved him but he killed that love...she stayed with him because she was already with child!
Most men don't know how to nurture a woman's love and make it strong, they just take it for granted when women love them...of all the things in life, you don't want to lose a woman's love believe me!

and because she was with child and he felt he had power over her he decided to play god. forgetting the future. I'm sure he thought the lady cannot do without him or be a better person. the wicked thing.

Oyindidi:
I like stories like this. Forgive but don't forget

Yea she will forgive him, I encourage her to do that, but leave his sorry ass here in Nigeria and not do any court wedding. Make she and her kids travel

northvietnam:
Court wedding or not..

woman at the end of the day, ur husband still wins... cuz he's the father of ur 3 kids....

and this shyte happened way bk..
why nt let go and move on.

if the man has been good and caring husband then why not take him along with his kids...
but if the dude has been an A$$hole then SCREW HIM...

if she leaves with out the man then she never loved him at the first place, she jushegot married cuz of the pregnancy...

I personally think your last statement is flawed. Those before that one suffice.

rita25:
good decision I am facing the same dilemma.......may God answer my prayer soon like he did yours....am so happy for you

Wow, your husband didn't legalize your marriage? This is so sad.

Please endeavor to be successful and once you make it, move on with your life.

He does not care about you yet both of you decided to have two more kids.

Court marriage will not save a bad marriage and it will not turn an irresponsible man into a responsible husband.

Shhhh01:
Yea she will forgive him, I encourage her to do that, but leave his sorry ass here in Nigeria and not do any court wedding. Make she and her kids travel

men treating their wives like they are slaves. He did traditional marriage but refused to marry her in court. Now the he is desperate to do same court marriage. May God disgrace my enemies like this anuofia.
She should give him money worth her brideprice as gift to spite the fool.

donnaD:

I just don't know what she is trying to prove by all these and her father? hmmm I tire oo what will be his pride if his daughter's home is broken due to all these.

I don't under stand. home broken how? because she was pregnant the man refused her a court wedding. so cos things done turn around u dey talk broken home. the home has been broken since when he decided not to do d court wedding and not respect the lady's family.

cinoedhunter:
Wait till d children grow.... na there u go hear am y didn't u say no from d onset? U still agreed to marry him, had 3 children with him and now u're claiming as if u're separated as if u're doing him a favour. Aya carry ur children and go abroad na... mind u, he can withhold those children cuz he's their father...
It was simply ur fault from d beginning cuz u were desperate to answer Mrs

No legal document to back it up. That's the thing. Two people can cohabit and have kids. Once there is no legal document, everything na wash. After 9yrs d idiat still no legalize him marriage.

Oyindidi:
men treating their wives like they are slaves. He did traditional marriage but refused to marry her in court. Now the he is desperate to do same court marriage. May God disgrace my enemies like this anuofia.
She should give him money worth her brideprice as gift to spite the fool.

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