[quote author=biacan post=67379549][/quote] shut up...menstruating bitter ashawo!

joeeee240:



SHUT UP

loool..biancan' BOO. Her legs is always open to u. Am in charge of her mother own.

kuchikau1:
loool..biancan' BOO. Her legs is always open to u. Am in charge of her mother own.

HAHAHA

.....
While everybody is dropping their contributions on the issue on ground...
Kuchikau1 ... biacan ... joeeee240 ... Bahddo are just in one corner minding their business.

I'm here laughing my head off because of the four of you... Hahahaha!!!.

Shey wetin dey ground nor concern una ni?.... Heheehhehe!!.

BTW... biacan and joeeee240.. You guys should chillax nah...lol
#nobody should insult me ooo. I'm having headache in my leg...hahaha!!#

goldcrossxx:
Greetings All,

To all that followed and commented on the thread created by “amaraokafor”, i decided to create a new thread for this as per the advice of a Nairalander. The below is the thread link and also my response.

https://www.nairaland.com/4484675/should-continue-wait-date-another#67236204

I have been following this thread on proxy and never wanted to comment because, i don’t believe in seeking emotional advise from a Public forum due to the fact that many advisers may be underage, inexperienced and would advise you based on what they have read from one party.

The young lady in question comes from a family of 2 girls and 4 boys of which she’s the 1st daughter and the 2nd is as well single. The relationship is also not 3 yrs as she indicated but was suppose to be exactly 2 yrs on the 1st of May.

A new relationship is always very sweet but the challenges that will follow is what matters most because relationship itself is filled with uncertainties just the same way as life. The way a relationship is handled is what justifies what the outcome would be.

The lady in question is nice and as humans, we all have our flaws. Yes, i am a very quiet and reserved person that hardly go out so it’s safe to say that i am an introvert while she’s not that type. I won’t completely analyze everything and what caused it but i will try within my capacity to disclose some so that those that gave their one sided advise can rethink again.

I am not a married man, as a matter of principle and respect to whoever i am involved with, i don’t double date. My problem with the lady in question was bourne out of the fact that she was disrespectful to me several times, domineering, unstable in the relationship and sometimes blackmail me to achieve her desires and a lot more. Those were what caused our problems from the first few months of my involvement with her. Several reasons may have prompted her actions but i don’t see it as being enough for someone you genuinely love.

I told her from the 1st 3 months of knowing her that marriage is what i want and she agreed accordingly. She met with my family, i met with the parents and made my intentions known to them in less than a year of relationship commencement. In fact if not for the financial challenge due to wrong projection of business dealings, marriage would have happened 2 or 3 months after.

Before i met with her family, she ended the relationship twice and threatened that she will proceed with the next man available that love is not a criteria for her in marriage. After i met with her parents, she did same to the extent of giving me a deadline that if i don’t fulfill her rites, i should go my way which she executed her threats. I will be begging for her not to leave, the mother will beg, the father will also talk to calm her down, people from my side sef the same thing. I HAVE NEVER ENDED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER even when i had reasons to have done so but she has done so numerous times.

I later spoke with the Dad and told him that immediately finances arrive, i will come in to do the needful. The man told me no problem that he understands the economic situation and once i am ready, i should come in. But my woman was still not stable as it was one issue after another. The same woman that told me when love they sweet that, she would stand by me through thick and thin but when water pass garri, she said NO that it’s only in marriage.

Already people close to me that knew me and her already were concerned about her actions, the way she talks to me, etc and majority told me outrightly to withdraw. I never did but believed she was going to change. As a concerned man, i do sometimes meditate because no responsible man wants to end up with a woman that doesn’t respect her man and can easily be unpredictable in her actions.

I commend her though for her sacrifices. She rejected a guy that had cash, built house and was relatively very comfortable because i knew him. In fact, at a point it was like a competition and my blood pressure was affected when the guy was policing her bumper to bumper since they lived in the same state.

To cut the story short, after several happenings resulting to series of emotional injury, she apologized that she won’t disrespect me again and even knelt down when we finally met to beg and i accepted. Weeks later, she wanted us to meet but i wasn’t chanced to see her and told her i will let her know when i am free. During this time, i was observing her actions but she got upset and told me she doesn’t want the relationship.

I called to resolve the issue but she wasn’t forth coming. Relationship or marriage ooo she said she’s not doing again. I informed the parents and they said it’s not the first time that i should remain calm. I kept calling for resolution in the month of November, December(she only agreed to see me once and her actions weren’t the lady i used to know), January and February but still no show.

Note: Her words to me when she responded was that she can ONLY be my friend that if i don’t want friendship, i should go my way and if i continue to disturb, she will block me. Also note that my finances started picking up late last year and improved early this year to the glory of God.

I continued to beg through the mum till i stopped after realizing that it was stupid of me to have done so. Reason being that i won’t marry the mother and she as a matured lady has the final say to this. I am a principled man and she knows this because Rome wasn’t built in a day. But as a man, i cannot subject myself to all those shenanigans which has always being the problem from the onset. What you beg to enter, you beg to sustain.

So the relationship officially was 1 year and 6 months when she ended it. It was the aspect of reconciliation that kicked off just last month. So my people, even though me i dey sometimes hide inside my shell, i hardly go out at night and i also admit that i can stay for a while without seeing her, but the 4 months is not justified here. Is it not one that you have a relationship with that you can see?

My write up isn’t to castigate her person and it’s also never to praise myself. Seeking emotional advise on Nairaland isn’t my thing but i felt i should throw some light as this will also aid others that wishes to give advise before doing so.

Remain blessed all and excuse my typos.

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So you took your time to actually give a response to a disrespectful and rude lady? Lol. Ever heard the saying silence is the best answer for a fool?

No time to check time and no patience for bullshit bro.

Bahddo:
lol. Yeah she likes the mentions, but she isn't interesting. Or maybe na me no get that kind time today.

pls dnt FVCK her when she is menstruating o!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Frustrated foooool ... Ntooooooooooooorrrrrrr

frustrated? Looool.... Ask ur mother if i am. She will testify.

mrphysics:
Lol, but Abuja retained

yes. They retained.

DebTem:
.....
While everybody is dropping their contributions on the issue on ground...
Kuchikau1 ... biacan ... joeeee240 ... Bahddo are just in one corner minding their business.

I'm here laughing my head off because of the four of you... Hahahaha!!!.

Shey wetin dey ground nor concern una ni?.... Heheehhehe!!.

BTW... biacan and joeeee240.. You guys should chillax nah...lol
#nobody should insult me ooo. I'm having headache in my leg...hahaha!!#

HEHEHE, WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE

joeeee240:


HAHAHA

lol..no put me for troble o! See my ampit, hair no dey am o!

So now who is the better story twister? Wait, let me go and read the girl's side of the story.

kuchikau1:
frustrated? Looool.... Ask ur mother if i am. She will testify.

You lack respect. You'll suffer for your stupidity. Go and mark it down.

Will i call this Nairaland Public stunt?

DebTem:
.....
While everybody is dropping their contributions on the issue on ground...
Kuchikau1 ... biacan ... joeeee240 ... Bahddo are just in one corner minding their business.

I'm here laughing my head off because of the four of you... Hahahaha!!!.

Shey wetin dey ground nor concern una ni?.... Heheehhehe!!.

BTW... biacan and joeeee240.. You guys should chillax nah...lol
#nobody should insult me ooo. I'm having headache in my leg...hahaha!!#

.....headache in ur legs...LooooooooooL...abeg no kill me with laugh

goldcrossxx:
Greetings All,

To all that followed and commented on the thread created by “amaraokafor”, i decided to create a new thread for this as per the advice of a Nairalander. The below is the thread link and also my response.

https://www.nairaland.com/4484675/should-continue-wait-date-another#67236204

I have been following this thread on proxy and never wanted to comment because, i don’t believe in seeking emotional advise from a Public forum due to the fact that many advisers may be underage, inexperienced and would advise you based on what they have read from one party.

The young lady in question comes from a family of 2 girls and 4 boys of which she’s the 1st daughter and the 2nd is as well single. The relationship is also not 3 yrs as she indicated but was suppose to be exactly 2 yrs on the 1st of May.

A new relationship is always very sweet but the challenges that will follow is what matters most because relationship itself is filled with uncertainties just the same way as life. The way a relationship is handled is what justifies what the outcome would be.

The lady in question is nice and as humans, we all have our flaws. Yes, i am a very quiet and reserved person that hardly go out so it’s safe to say that i am an introvert while she’s not that type. I won’t completely analyze everything and what caused it but i will try within my capacity to disclose some so that those that gave their one sided advise can rethink again.

I am not a married man, as a matter of principle and respect to whoever i am involved with, i don’t double date. My problem with the lady in question was bourne out of the fact that she was disrespectful to me several times, domineering, unstable in the relationship and sometimes blackmail me to achieve her desires and a lot more. Those were what caused our problems from the first few months of my involvement with her. Several reasons may have prompted her actions but i don’t see it as being enough for someone you genuinely love.

I told her from the 1st 3 months of knowing her that marriage is what i want and she agreed accordingly. She met with my family, i met with the parents and made my intentions known to them in less than a year of relationship commencement. In fact if not for the financial challenge due to wrong projection of business dealings, marriage would have happened 2 or 3 months after.

Before i met with her family, she ended the relationship twice and threatened that she will proceed with the next man available that love is not a criteria for her in marriage. After i met with her parents, she did same to the extent of giving me a deadline that if i don’t fulfill her rites, i should go my way which she executed her threats. I will be begging for her not to leave, the mother will beg, the father will also talk to calm her down, people from my side sef the same thing. I HAVE NEVER ENDED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER even when i had reasons to have done so but she has done so numerous times.

I later spoke with the Dad and told him that immediately finances arrive, i will come in to do the needful. The man told me no problem that he understands the economic situation and once i am ready, i should come in. But my woman was still not stable as it was one issue after another. The same woman that told me when love they sweet that, she would stand by me through thick and thin but when water pass garri, she said NO that it’s only in marriage.

Already people close to me that knew me and her already were concerned about her actions, the way she talks to me, etc and majority told me outrightly to withdraw. I never did but believed she was going to change. As a concerned man, i do sometimes meditate because no responsible man wants to end up with a woman that doesn’t respect her man and can easily be unpredictable in her actions.

I commend her though for her sacrifices. She rejected a guy that had cash, built house and was relatively very comfortable because i knew him. In fact, at a point it was like a competition and my blood pressure was affected when the guy was policing her bumper to bumper since they lived in the same state.

To cut the story short, after several happenings resulting to series of emotional injury, she apologized that she won’t disrespect me again and even knelt down when we finally met to beg and i accepted. Weeks later, she wanted us to meet but i wasn’t chanced to see her and told her i will let her know when i am free. During this time, i was observing her actions but she got upset and told me she doesn’t want the relationship.

I called to resolve the issue but she wasn’t forth coming. Relationship or marriage ooo she said she’s not doing again. I informed the parents and they said it’s not the first time that i should remain calm. I kept calling for resolution in the month of November, December(she only agreed to see me once and her actions weren’t the lady i used to know), January and February but still no show.

Note: Her words to me when she responded was that she can ONLY be my friend that if i don’t want friendship, i should go my way and if i continue to disturb, she will block me. Also note that my finances started picking up late last year and improved early this year to the glory of God.

I continued to beg through the mum till i stopped after realizing that it was stupid of me to have done so. Reason being that i won’t marry the mother and she as a matured lady has the final say to this. I am a principled man and she knows this because Rome wasn’t built in a day. But as a man, i cannot subject myself to all those shenanigans which has always being the problem from the onset. What you beg to enter, you beg to sustain.

So the relationship officially was 1 year and 6 months when she ended it. It was the aspect of reconciliation that kicked off just last month. So my people, even though me i dey sometimes hide inside my shell, i hardly go out at night and i also admit that i can stay for a while without seeing her, but the 4 months is not justified here. Is it not one that you have a relationship with that you can see?

My write up isn’t to castigate her person and it’s also never to praise myself. Seeking emotional advise on Nairaland isn’t my thing but i felt i should throw some light as this will also aid others that wishes to give advise before doing so.

Remain blessed all and excuse my typos.

CC: geniushawlah

Iamd18
jasonscoolari
preetiex
mrphysics
presva
david2
Lakeside79
sisioge
mutemenot
Nwaohafia1
Ambitionsway
Maingwaest
yeyerolling
emerged1
Itsmeurlady
Olajadon
valentineuwakwe
Yoged
Isaacmacdon
Nwalie01
agarawu23
Mowunmiaf
Boyooosa
TGM2015
farady
Style007
Innobarca
Spaxon
Franchasng
Bibicici
Itzonlyme
Patani
Iilyheaven

Those wey go complain say I quote your whole story, do accept my apologies.

Bruv! I read her story to be honest buh didn't comment. Now, that I have read your side of the story, it's safe to say that there are times a man needs to develop the culture of letting go.

If something is pinching you repeatedly, would you wait till it bites you before you seek to remove that thing by any means necessary?

Be rational and logical with your thinking, that's the job of a man, no be like woman by letting your emotions let loose over the former.

If she fit dey do like this now wey you dey relationship, sit down and reason how she go be when you marry her?

Think about your future kids safety and happiness, think about your business, think about how she would relate with your mother, father, brothers and sisters, even close friends.

Dude! My advise to you na to think am well.. Think am well well...

I have already given you an advise in what I have said so far, buh it takes a real man, which I do hope that you are, to decipher it.

Do take care and all the best.

joeeee240:


HEHEHE, WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE

...abi o!

Donald95:


Let me advice you
1. Buy Fat Fowl tomorrow and give thanks to God for delivering you from being slave husband.

2. Next time you notice unstableness and pompousness from a lady, f.u.c.kk her up, down , front and back double shift so that even if she leaves, it won't hurt you

3. Don't involve parents whenever you are having problem in relationship
(Mom always see we guys as unserious bad boys despite your coat ), the mom may even be the brain behind the unstableness of the girl

4. Make sure you are financially stable before even talking of serious relationship else she won't respect you.


Ayam coming let me read the other side of the story

The number one mistake relationships and marriages makes is involving, parents, pastors, and outsider in their affairs, no good can come of it. NEVER! NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES TO ANYONE, YOU WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE! The moment both of you can't talk about your problems and solve it, the relationship is as good as dead, no need waiting for funeral, get your things and move on.

kuchikau1:
.....headache in ur legs...LooooooooooL...abeg no kill me with laugh

.

..... Shebi una dey kee me with laugh since.... Na my turn... Lol

kuchikau1:
.....headache in ur legs...LooooooooooL...abeg no kill me with laugh

THE DEBTEM NA FUNNY SOMEBODY SHA

joeeee240:


HEHEHE, WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE

.
.... Abeg,take am easy.... Lol

Michelle55:
I don't even know what to say... women are just confused beings. Haba!! If the man in question didn't come out to say his own side of story, we wouldn't have known she's the problem all along. meanwhile I wouldn't advise Op to leave her, you can work on her and make her stable. no one is perfect you know, if you still love her, kindly give her another chance to work on herself and mindset about some certain things.
marriage is scary to me these days and I don't even know how to go about it when the time comes but we're all wired differently hence the reason for her desperation. NOTE: marriage does not guarantee happiness or how fulfilled one can be. peace of mind and happy state of mind is dependent on oneself.
just give the relationship one last try@Op

Please why should a young man spend his valuable time working on a woman who has no respect for him,when he can channel that energy on his siblings or even use it to make money?


Life is too short to waste on inconsequential persons without loyalty and respect.

joeeee240:

HAHAHA

abeg take am easy, her toto dey FRAGILE.

DebTem:
.

.... Abeg,take am easy.... Lol

WHY ARE YOU NOT INTERESTED IN TWITTER? OR YOU'RE JUST HIDING

killuminati:
So now who is the better story twister? Wait, let me go and read the girl's side of the story.

pls carefully read the part wey she menstruates.

DebTem:
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..... Shebi una dey kee me with laugh since.... Na my turn... Lol

....lol na beg i dey beg...just feeling happy today.

kuchikau1:
pls dnt FVCK her when she is menstruating o!

thanks bro. I'd relay the advise to my dog

joeeee240:


THE DEBTEM NA FUNNY SOMEBODY SHA

yea.. She is funny and cool...unlike the mensturating bitter ungrateful backward hypocritical used and re-used ashawo called biacan.

DebTem:
.....
While everybody is dropping their contributions on the issue on ground...
Kuchikau1 ... biacan ... joeeee240 ... Bahddo are just in one corner minding their business.

I'm here laughing my head off because of the four of you... Hahahaha!!!.

Shey wetin dey ground nor concern una ni?.... Heheehhehe!!.

BTW... biacan and joeeee240.. You guys should chillax nah...lol
#nobody should insult me ooo. I'm having headache in my leg...hahaha!!#

lol. I was contributing o, then biancan's foolishness happened.

How far, looks like you are interested.. Pick your side

joeeee240:


WHY ARE YOU NOT INTERESTED IN TWITTER? OR YOU'RE JUST HIDING

oga, leave this one for me NA! Ok, i dash u biacan

kuchikau1:
oga, leave this one for me NA! Ok, i dash u biacan

OYA DEBTEM COME AND CARRY HIM

DebTem:
.

.... Abeg,take am easy.... Lol

can u imagine a bitter ashawo that feels or think she can out talk a man. She don hide her face. The bashing don too much. Dear abeg rate me!

Bahddo:
lol. I was contributing o, then biancan's foolishness happened.

How far, looks like you are interested.. Pick your side

Lol... Naim una kon surround her like that?. Not fair.

Pick side?... Naaah. I don't have the strength.