SenorFax:

Girls are soft hearted than guys, if you guys have been together for a year I got some questions for yah

1. Does she get jealous when she sees you with other chicks
If yes, she's keeping you as a spare (one year no be moinmoin)
2. Have you seen her with other dudes, expecially fine boys
If yes maybe you are not her taste.
3. Does she call you as much as you call her, be honest pls
If yes, human invest where they think they can profit.
4. What value did she plan on adding to you or added to you since you've been friends.
If none, guy, just delete her number quickly. Vampires alert

Truth is bitter bro, and the maths is simple. Those questions might guide you better.

Choose to be the number 1 and never a spare tire.

We doesn’t live in same street. We doesn’t live in a same state. I was in ABJ then and she stays in IB when we used to talk over the phone. I doesn’t know any dude with her. She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men. But if she beep me at times and I failed to call her within a couple of minutes, her number will be busy then. (Let me say, she receive a lot of calls). She only beep me (tho I told her to beep me when she wants to talk to me.) she beeps me almost everyday. She doesn’t add any value. We only talk over the phone and we share a lot of things like that. Although when I wooed her. Her first response was, why didn’t I tell her all this while and why will I have to wait till this moment. I don’t know what she was trying to insinuate.. that not a proper excuse to me

Thuglife2020:


No I won’t do that. One thing about life. You don’t force people to love you. She used to tell me then that she doesnt have time for relationship as what she’s going through won’t make her want to jump into any relationship then. If she calls me at times and trying to explain things to me, she will be crying like a baby. So the thought of wooing her then, I buried it. Tho she never for once ask me for help but I used to send me some money.. I promise to send her some money for her clearance. I will only be giving her that since I promised her already and I will cut ties with her and move on.

u didnt sound like this at first...all the best man

Thuglife2020:


We doesn’t live in same street. We doesn’t live in a same state. I was in ABJ then and she stays in IB when we used to talk over the phone. I doesn’t know any dude with her. She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men. But if she beep me at times and I failed to call her within a couple of minutes, her number will be busy then. (Let me say, she receive a lot of calls). She only beep me (tho I told her to beep me when she wants to talk to me.) she beeps me almost everyday. She doesn’t add any value. We only talk over the phone and we share a lot of things like that. Although when I wooed her. Her first response was, why didn’t I tell her all this while and why will I have to wait till this moment. I don’t know what she was trying to insinuate.. that not a proper excuse to me

Now that's the problem, you are already an extra in case the present person bleeps up
Plus, out of sight is out of mind, the moment she expected it is gone bro. Someone already gave her a shoulder to cry on when she needed it. Let it go but be a good friend to her yet, in your own way.

EMEKUSBOY9:
You are still inexperienced, try to be around women most times and try have female as friends too. You will stop been desperate. You acting as someone who has never seen women before. Come with me let go to "Ivory Coast Republic " for one week.... I bet You when you come to Nigeria that girl will look like old witch in your face. Nothing move me anymore have Seen girls.. ...............

Remember what dispatches from your mouth may be despicably rude to others.

OneSentence:

u didnt sound like this at first...all the best man

How bro? How did I sound?

SenorFax:

Now that's the problem, you are already an extra in case the present person bleeps up
Plus, out of sight is out of mind, the moment she expected it is gone bro. Someone already gave her a shoulder to cry on when she needed it. Let it go but be a good friend to her yet, in your own way.

I once deleted all her contacts and her account number on my phone then. I can’t just be friends with someone I love . It won’t work that way. Like I said, when she told me about her stories. I can’t help but to bury the thought of wooing her then. But I can’t continue being friends with her. I would rather cut ties with her and move on because she will always cause a distraction to me as long as we are talking

Thuglife2020:
I swear I’ve been battling this for awhile now. I don’t know what to do. I need you guys’ advice. I’ve been friends with this particular girl for more than a year now. We are good friends and we do talk almost everyday. It get to some extent because I couldn’t continue with her being a friends. I truly love her. I wooed her but she declined and told me we can only be good friends. I have a very good plan for her and planing to help her further her education but I’m afraid to loose her to someone else. I’ve tried my best to gain her heart but she will always tell me we can only be friends. I love her more than anything in this world even my current girlfriend. I want to move and cut communications with her but it’s not been easy for me. She will beep me almost everyday and the moment I her call, I can’t help myself but to call her back. I don’t know what to do. Please I need you guys advice.

When guys say they are in love I get confused..

A girl is probably somewhere bleeping and you are giving yourself unnecessary stress.

Watch your BP.
If you die, that same day the girl will bleep someone and might not even attend your funeral.

Forget these prostitutes and get a life..

Thuglife2020:


I once deleted all her contacts and her account number on my phone then. I can’t just be friends with someone I love . It won’t work that way. Like I said, when she told me about her stories. I can’t help but to bury the thought of wooing her then. But I can’t continue being friends with her. I would rather cut ties with her and move on because she will always cause a distraction to me as long as we are talking

Cut all ties, until you find someone who feels the same way with you. I bet she can do fine without you. You owe her nothing, and time heals all wound. You'll get over it.

milemimi93:


When guys say they are in love I get confused..

A girl is probably somewhere bleeping and you are giving yourself unnecessary stress.

Watch your BP.
If you die, that same day the girl will bleep someone and might not even attend your funeral.

Forget these prostitutes and get a life..

It is important to try to understand the things you don’t know. No need for insult. Thanks!

SenorFax:

Cut all ties, until you find someone who feels the same way with you. I bet she can do fine without you. You owe her nothing, and time heals all wound. You'll get over it.

Thanks bro! I really appreciate.

Thuglife2020:


I stopped myself from sending her money because I doesn’t want her to feel I want to entice her with money..

your English is so bad how would she date you.

Seriously stop acting like a pussssy and ask her why she can't date you and just be her friend or not. What kinda nonsense is this. Is it by force to date you. Leave her alone dude she's not into you. Focus on your girlfriend or find another who tickles your fancy.

Thuglife2020:


Some people are so entrenched in their beliefs that they failed to notice things that are in plain view.

Change your moniker to sissylife

eterisan:
your English is so bad how would she date you.

Seriously stop acting like a pussssy and ask her why she can't date you and just be her friend or not. What kinda nonsense is this. Is it by force to date you. Leave her alone dude she's not into you. Focus on your girlfriend or find another who tickles your fancy.

Moronic ignorance equals negative reaction. Bro can you please turn off your phone and turn on your brain. It doesn’t matter you make contributions.

Thuglife2020:
I swear I’ve been battling this for awhile now. I don’t know what to do. I need you guys’ advice. I’ve been friends with this particular girl for more than a year now. We are good friends and we do talk almost everyday. It get to some extent because I couldn’t continue with her being a friends. I truly love her. I wooed her but she declined and told me we can only be good friends. I have a very good plan for her and planing to help her further her education but I’m afraid to loose her to someone else. I’ve tried my best to gain her heart but she will always tell me we can only be friends. I love her more than anything in this world even my current girlfriend. I want to move and cut communications with her but it’s not been easy for me. She will beep me almost everyday and the moment I her call, I can’t help myself but to call her back. I don’t know what to do. Please I need you guys advice.

Welcome to friendzone, enjoy your stay

SenorFax:

Girls are soft hearted than guys, if you guys have been together for a year I got some questions for yah

1. Does she get jealous when she sees you with other chicks
If yes, she's keeping you as a spare (one year no be moinmoin)
2. Have you seen her with other dudes, expecially fine boys
If yes maybe you are not her taste.
3. Does she call you as much as you call her, be honest pls
If yes, human invest where they think they can profit.
4. What value did she plan on adding to you or added to you since you've been friends.
If none, guy, just delete her number quickly. Vampires alert

Truth is bitter bro, and the maths is simple. Those questions might guide you better.

Choose to be the number 1 and never a spare tire.

You just made me delete someone's number now. Shít!

I really don't understand people who can't just cut people off. My God, sever the ties already! Nothing worse than being an emotional slave to someone. Tell her to fùck off.

XhosaNostra:
I really don't understand people who can't just cut people off. My God, sever the ties already! Nothing worse than being an emotional slave to someone. Tell her to fùck off.

Id drink to that

Thuglife2020:


No I won’t do that. One thing about life. You don’t force people to love you. She used to tell me then that she doesnt have time for relationship as what she’s going through won’t make her want to jump into any relationship then. If she calls me at times and trying to explain things to me, she will be crying like a baby. So the thought of wooing her then, I buried it. Tho she never for once ask me for help but I used to send me some money.. I promise to send her some money for her clearance. I will only be giving her that since I promised her already and I will cut ties with her and move on.

You say you don't send her too much money but I see a bitch who's partly dependent on you for monetary value without giving value to you in exchange and still raises your hope high.

The truth is, she doesn't see you as someone she can fall in love with. I tell you, your excessive care has sidelined you to be looked upon as someone who cares -more like 'brother-zoned' or 'father-zoned'. In this case there's only little you can do.

Lmao, I read the part where you said she calls in tears but doesn't ask for money and you give her because genetically, you're programmed to be a gentle and a king in shinning armour. These days, when ladies call you in tears while telling you her problems, she is indirectly requesting for your help cause they know you can help them but don't want to come across as been too demanding.

I bet when she calls you and tell you her problem, you'll be like calm down, 'how much do you need'? and then she'll tell you a definite amount and also add that she's depressed as she doesn't know where to get it from.

Something like this...

You: So like how much will you require?
She: Don't worry. It will be fine. (still sobbing)
You: (You'll insist then she tells you the amount)-This is where you shot yourself.
She: It's 30k for my clearance. I don't even know what to do. It comes in 4days. I tried every way to get the fund but only came up with 15k. (amidst sobs)
You: Don't worry ehn.. I will see what I can do about it. Cheer up dear. It will be fine.
She: You know you don't really have to do anything. I'll just... (burst into sobs again)
You: Stop crying now. You know I don't like hearing you cry. I'll do something about it.

That's how girls control guys. I tell you what; If she totally dig you, she'll never call to tell you her problems because she knows you've got problems too. You'll even be the one trying to know her problems.

Reduce your communication with her and your affection will eventually dwindle. Absence makes the heart grow fonder but too much absence makes you fall out

Further her education at your own risk.

Please don't buy her freedom of choice with money, it makes you less attractive.
If she doesn't like you, move on immediately. One can't force Emotions.

SirMichael1:


You say you don't send her too much money but I see a bitch who's partly dependent on you for monetary value without giving value to you in exchange and still raises your hope high.

The truth is, she doesn't see you as someone she can fall in love with. I tell you, your excessive care has sidelined you to be looked upon as someone who cares -more like 'brother-zoned' or 'father-zoned'. In this case there's only little you can do.

Lmao, I read the part where you said she calls in tears but doesn't ask for money and you give her because genetically, you're programmed to be a gentle and a king in shinning armour. These days, when ladies call you in tears while telling you her problems, she is indirectly requesting for your help cause they you can help them but don't want to come across as been too demanding.

I bet when she calls you and tell you her problem, you'll be like calm down, 'how much do you need'? and then she'll tell you a definite amount and also add that she's depressed as she doesn't know where to get it from.

Something like this...

You: So like how much will you require?
She: Don't worry. It will be fine. (still sobbing)
You: (You'll insist then she tells you the amount)-This is where you shot yourself.
She: It's 30k for my clearance. I don't even know what to do. It comes in 4days. I tried every way to get the fund but only came up with 15k. (amidst sobs)
You: Don't worry ehn.. I will see what I can do about it. Cheer up dear. It will be fine.
She: You know you don't really have to do anything. I'll just... (burst into sobs again)
You: Stop crying now. You know I don't like hearing you cry. I'll do something about it.

That's how girls control guys. I tell you what; If she totally dig you, she'll never call to tell you her problems because she knows you've got problems too. You'll even be the one trying to know her problems.

Reduce your communication with her and your affection will eventually dwindle. Absence makes the heart grow fonder but too much absence makes you fall out

Thanks for your advice brother. I was even thinking perhaps we are too close that’s why she’s giving me hard time. It get to some extent when she complains about how she’s being treated where she stays and the kind of stress she pass through at her work place. She told me she earn 9k as salary. I Wanted to tell her to stop working and to calculate 10-20 months salaries that I will pay her but I just had to caution myself then.

She complains about the phone she’s using. I thought of getting one for her or let me say I got one for her already but chose not to give her then before the phone was stolen (can still get one for her if I wanted). She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men when we started talking because of what she’s going through. But the worse apart of it is when I wooed her, she told me she has a boyfriend but she used to tell me then that she doesn’t have time for me. If any problem arises, I would be the first person to call. I was really disappointed when she told me she has a boyfriend. She said we can only be friends. And I told her that’s going to be the last thing I would ever do. She would still call me and tell me about her problem. She even called to remind me of the money I promised her (her clearance fee). I don’t know if I should give her that and cut ties with her or I shouldn’t. Please advice

Thuglife2020:


Thanks for your advice brother. I was even thinking perhaps we are too close that’s why she’s giving me hard time. It get to some extent when she complains about how she’s being treated where she stays and the kind of stress she pass through at her work place. She told me she earn 9k as salary. I Wanted to tell her to stop working and to calculate 10-20 months salaries that I will pay her but I just had to caution myself then.

She complains about the phone she’s using. I thought of getting one for her or let me say I got one for her already but chose not to give her then before the phone was stolen (can still get one for her if I wanted). She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men when we started talking because of what she’s going through. But the worse apart of it is when I wooed her, she told me she has a boyfriend but she used to tell me then that she doesn’t have time for me. If any problem arises, I would be the first person to call. I was really disappointed when she told me she has a boyfriend. She said we can only be friends. And I told her that’s going to be the last thing I would ever do. She would still call me and tell me about her problem. She even called to remind me of the money I promised her (her clearance fee). I don’t know if I should give her that and cut ties with her or I shouldn’t. Please advice

give her the money and let it be the last... Don't cut ties with her completely. Reduce your care and attention for her. if she calls you sometimes, don't answer and don't call back immediately after any missed calls.

Thuglife2020:
I swear I’ve been battling this for awhile now. I don’t know what to do. I need you guys’ advice. I’ve been friends with this particular girl for more than a year now. We are good friends and we do talk almost everyday. It get to some extent because I couldn’t continue with her being a friends. I truly love her. I wooed her but she declined and told me we can only be good friends. I have a very good plan for her and planing to help her further her education but I’m afraid to loose her to someone else. I’ve tried my best to gain her heart but she will always tell me we can only be friends. I love her more than anything in this world even my current girlfriend. I want to move and cut communications with her but it’s not been easy for me. She will beep me almost everyday and the moment I her call, I can’t help myself but to call her back. I don’t know what to do. Please I need you guys advice.

...is she lightskin?

Brinebryne:

give her the money and let it be the last... Don't cut ties with her completely. Reduce your care and attention for her. if she calls you sometimes, don't answer and don't call back immediately after any missed calls.

Thanks bro. I think that’s the best thing. If she needs any help again, I guess her boyfriend should be there for her and not me.

Thuglife2020:


Remember what dispatches from your mouth may be despicably rude to others.

Am sorry bro

Thuglife2020:



It is important to try to understand the things you don’t know. No need for insult. Thanks!

You are really a good guy...I have been reading your comments.....if you really love that girl let me have her number.

Thuglife2020:


Thanks bro. I think that’s the best thing. If she needs any help again, I guess her boyfriend should be there for her and not me.

Exactly