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Is It My Mum's Responsibility by CuTTiieAngeL(f): 11:24am On Aug 13, 2018
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Orchid45: 12:06pm On Aug 13, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?
Your mum and dad have a 50/50 responsibility stake towards you kids. In a situation one person is unable or unwilling to perform their duties, the other is expected to step up - till they sort out their differences.

If your mum can afford your sister's fees, she should pay it. Her(your sister) interest comes first. She is her child as much as she is your dad's.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by iupac120: 2:06pm On Aug 13, 2018
The responsibility is not settled in any of the two ( Dad or Mum). Your dad has a stake in your education likewise your mum but the major factor that determines who contributes more is who is financially capable and has less responsibilities.
However, since your dad presently has two 'wives' and your step mum is now the chief decision maker; the best thing to do is to endear yourself and siblings to her. Perhaps, she wants to secure her children 'future' and decided to take some decisions that presently do not favour you.
Finally, don't draw blood unless you want to worsen the situation knowing well that your dad heeds to her advise.
I will say also that you start thinking outside box by engaging in legally productive ventures that can fetch few cash.
It is well!
God bless!

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by eyinjuege: 7:10pm On Aug 13, 2018
Yes, your parents should jointly contribute to your education. To be honest, what your parents owe you is secondary school education. If they decide to send you to higher institution, that's awesome. If they can't afford it, your sister will really need to consider your step mother's suggestion of working to finance herself in school.
Good things seldom come easy.
If your mum can afford it, pls she should help her daughter out. If your dad can, he should help out too. Or 5hey both contribute 50/50 to make life easier. Your sister too should look a for a means of supporting herself in school whether your parents help out or not

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Nobody: 11:44pm On Oct 12, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?

Honestly your dad seems manipulated by your step mum but don't let it stop you or ur sister. I see some really funny posts here... Education isn't a priviledge, its your right & your parents obligation. A man should be a man. My dad married 5 wives & everyone of us at least has a university degree as the lowest cert/ educational qualification courtesy of my dad alone.. All i am trying to say is if ur father cannot handle the situation himself maybe its best your mother gets involved.. Your step mom just gave birth to a boy i am guessing the child is ur dads first male. Anyway keep ur head up & u will scale through.. Also know that ur kid sister looks up to u & the world is watching...

You are damn pretty tho cheesy

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:37am On Oct 13, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?

its both parents responsibity to provide for there kids, wether divorced or not, by law they should till the child is 18, from a family structure they can still support till the child is able to stand in his/her feet usually when one tell parents that s/he us grown up and wants to leave on his/her own

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Lotannad2: 5:21am On Oct 13, 2018
My parents got separated at my early age, my mum single handedly trained 5 of us thru university while my dad was still alive. It was tough by we scaled thru. My dad died just when I was in 200level and my sister just graduated. My mum is not working again but enjoying herself at home.
If ur mum can do it, she shd. I can't wait for a man to give my kids anything they need in life as long as I hv 2 hands.
If ur mum can't, for some reasons, then u ppl shd work and train urself. It is d end that justifies the means. Your dad will come to regret his actions but don't let him destroy ur lives in d process.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by EternalTruths: 11:50pm On Oct 25, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?


Sorry about your case but did you find out why your parents broke up.?
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by mexxy1(m): 10:22pm On Oct 27, 2018
I concur with Lotannad2.

If your mum can foot the bills, let her continue. She'll never regret it. But, you and your siblings owe her a duty to work hard and stay focused so you can take care of her and put smiles on her face as a reward for her labour.

I'm talking from experience I wouldn't want to share in the open.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Chubhie: 7:12am On Oct 28, 2018
I don't understand the selfishness and wickedness in bringing children into the world when you can't guarantee atleast the very basic essential things in life for them.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Chubhie: 7:15am On Oct 28, 2018
EternalTruths:



Sorry about your case but did you find out why your parents broke up.?
That's not his/her business to know.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by EternalTruths: 10:23am On Oct 28, 2018
Chubhie:

That's not his/her business to know.


If you are mature, you would have known that finding out why both broke up can also help her in the future to amend the broken marriage.
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by eyinjuege: 6:41am On Oct 29, 2018
EternalTruths:



If you are mature, you would have known that finding out why both broke up can also help her in the future to amend the broken marriage.

The father is remarried...
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by CAPSLOCKED: 12:32pm On Oct 29, 2018
WHEN YOU TELL THEM NOT TO HAVE KIDS (YET) THEY INSIST THEY MUST BECAUSE "CHILDREN ARE A GIFT FROM GOD", SO THEY GO ON TO LITTER THE WHOLE PLACE WITH CHILDREN THAT THEY'RE INCAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF.

THIS LEADS TO SOURNESS IN THE MARRIAGE AND DISCOMFORT FOR BOTH THE PARENTS AND THE CHILDREN, WHO WILL GROW UP WITHOUT ADEQUATE PARENTAL CARE AND LOVE, PEACE, AND THE SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY SINCE ALL THEY GREW UP KNOWING WERE ARGUMENTS BETWEEN THEIR PARENTS ON WHO'S SUPPOSED TO BUY TOOTHPASTE OR PAY FOR THE KEROSENE THAT WAS COLLECTED ON CREDIT. undecided

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Nobody: 10:29am On Nov 06, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?

I'll pay your sisters school fees till she graduates IF she can live-in with me at my self con apartment and we be Friends with benefits.

I give her shelter, school fees through school, food,she goes to school.

In turn she gets Hiv test before moving in and be willing to satisfy me. That's all. Mail me.

I'm single and 28 and doing well financially.
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Ginalex(f): 12:00pm On Nov 06, 2018
Funnicator:


I'll pay your sisters school fees till she graduates IF she can live-in with me at my self con apartment and we be Friends with benefits.

I give her shelter, school fees through school, food,she goes to school.

In turn she gets Hiv test before moving in and be willing to satisfy me. That's all. Mail me.

I'm single and 28 and doing well financially.
GOAT

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Nobody: 12:22pm On Nov 06, 2018
Ginalex:
GOAT

GOAT means "Greatest Of All Time". wink
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Ginalex(f): 11:46am On Nov 09, 2018
Funnicator:


GOAT means "Greatest Of All Time". wink

ok goat undecided

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by frozen70(f): 8:39pm On Nov 09, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?


This time is not the time to ask questions on who should and who's duty it is

If your mum had the money or can source for money, let her train that child

Your father is with another woman and nothing will make him listen to you people till his senses comes back

As for your dad, that woman will show him what women are made off

Just keep observing them

By that time he will look for you all and your mum and nobody, I mean no body will have time for him

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Stocking: 8:16pm On Nov 14, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?
What if your dad dies?
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by revolt(m): 10:00pm On Nov 14, 2018
If another woman can weild such influence over your dad then your mum destroyed her home. She must the been a gragra person. Both of them created you people ..botg of them share equal responsibility. Obviously buharis change has hit your dad. After he solely has been paying the bills. So let her come in too.
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Casemiro(m): 9:55am On Nov 28, 2018



> >>they should make up for your sake <<




choi cheesy
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Olufemiolaolu(m): 5:10pm On Dec 01, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?
it's ur dad's duty. But ur mum can pay for ur sister to get educated due to dad's irresponbilities
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Ayofaks(f): 6:19pm On Dec 01, 2018
revolt:
If another woman can weild such influence over your dad then your mum destroyed her home. She must the been a gragra person. Both of them created you people ..botg of them share equal responsibility. Obviously buharis change has hit your dad. After he solely has been paying the bills. So let her come in too.

Because you were there...right? When she destroyed her home...you must have been there undecided undecided Oponu.

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Ginalex(f): 7:15pm On Dec 04, 2018
revolt:
If another woman can weild such influence over your dad then your mum destroyed her home. She must the been a gragra person. Both of them created you people ..botg of them share equal responsibility. Obviously buharis change has hit your dad. After he solely has been paying the bills. So let her come in too.
Mumu... In fact, you're a nincompoop for saying this.... I guess you were there when she was destroying her home... ODE! undecided

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Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by revolt(m): 9:43pm On Dec 04, 2018
Ginalex:
Mumu... In fact, you're a nincompoop for saying this.... I guess you were there when she was destroying her home... ODE! undecided
who is this damaged h@rlot? Go n mke peace with your father...
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Ginalex(f): 9:47pm On Dec 04, 2018
revolt:
who is this damaged h@rlot? Go n mke peace with your father...
HE-GOAT
Re: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by revolt(m): 10:08pm On Dec 04, 2018
Ginalex:
HE-GOAT

Harlot

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