moral of the story


either keep your legs closed or come clean with whoever you're dating.

people have extremely long memories and i'm not referring to this thread.

deniyor:

You obviously missed the memo. Swiftycool is dead and gone to his grave -hmm haaa gone to his grave!

can you explain further.

Well I dont know if this matter has been resolved since the date of the post was August of 2010, but in my humble opinion, the past is the past, what matters is the present and the future, whatever needs to be known will be revealed in time and you being a friend to the groom (future groom) I understand your position and how you feel, but if he is truly in love it won't matter what is revealed, he will proceed, so if your compelled to reveal what you know do so, if not be quiet, what ever will be will be regardless.

deniyor:

Until swiftycool comes out of his grave, this is a lesson to everyone - keep your f-ing mouth shut, and MYOB!

If the OP is dead,it is because he kept his mouth shut for too long. This kind of issue must be revealed ASAP. A woman with such a filthy past with video evidences all on people's phones now claiming virgin IS OBVIOUSLY DANGEROUS and what a real man will do is to bring out the issue in the open ASAP.

Here is an analogy:
A Nigerian woman who used to be your neighbor in South Africa has been convicted for secretly aborting her pregnancies twice and then poisoning her rich husband and his 3 children from another marriage so that she could solely inherit his wealth. You were at the court.You witnessed the trial and have it recorded on video.
There was a riot and consequently a jail break in SA and she escapes alongside many other convicts.
5 years down the lane you realize your widowed uncle with only one child is about to marry her and she claims that she is still a virgin.
Will you tell you uncle about who she really is?

This is a  Catch 22 at it's finest !! Whichever way you decide to go be ready to loose a friend.See it this way if you tell your friend and he ends up with the woman she will influence her man to hate you.(remember she has 25k for an operation ready what more could she not do?)

If You don't tell him and keep your distance from both of them and he eventually finds out you knew about her previous lifestyle all along then he'll be mad at you.I feel for you bro this situation is so unpredictable from whichever angle you look at it.

Guess what guys, he found out after all, am glad we are back to being friends now after a big misunderstanding and quarrel propagated by her even without my telling, thats a story 4 another day. He got a link to a website from one of our guys posted to Tanzania and there were even more detailed uncut videos taped of his fiance. The weding was called off it was supposed to be this may. I only told him what i knew a week ago. Oh what a burden off my chest!

I dont know your tribe, but i will want you to watch this yoruba home video call OMOTARA JOHNSON staring the likes of Bukky Wright and Chidi Mokeme the story line is not 100% same like your but with some similarity guess you can borrow a leave from the story.

Swiftycool is alive !!!!! Hurrrrrayyy.
It's nice to see this issue concluded the way it did.

Wow, guy u lucky oh, but I guess some posters were rite that she wuld try to mess u up. . . And by the way I think it's pretty cool that u came back even months later to tell of what happened. . .I'm sure there were lots of people who were also faced with the same issue but one of them decided to tell . . .I hope the guy wasn't too hurt. . . Pls tell us how d girl reacted and what she did btw u and your friend. . .

op
u don fu-ck d girl?

EVERYONE HAS A DIRTY PAST, IF SHE HAS CHANGE AND NOW TRYING TO TURN THE PAGE OF THOSE ERRORS . GIVE HER A CHANCE TO BECOME A


BETTER PERSON. NO ONE IS PERFECT. THAT IS WHY WE HAVE WORDS LIKE. ( SECOND CHANCE).

@akpan123,
People like u make me wonder if the average Nigerian has a fair sense of judgment. Have you tried to put yourself in the position of the husband to be?
If her dirty past has a permanent evidence such as Bleep videos all over the web and on people's phones, or she has had a child, a damaged womb,etc and she claims to have turned a new leaf,she wouldn't be claiming that she is a virgin.
If truly she has turned a new leaf,she will let him know what he is"buying".

@akpan123,
how will you feel if a few days after your wedding you accidentally find your wife's eight-month old HIV test saying "positive" ?

Actually, I have been following this thread for a long time. Thank God that the young man finally find out about the true identity of his girl-friend (wiffy)
I couldn't contribute because I would have been repeating what many people had posted. However, what will be will be. A man/woman can not plant cassava and come back to reap yam. whatever a man/woman sow, that shall he/she reap.

Just hope many of us can learn from this.

I wouldn't much here cos a lot has been said. I advise you should tell your friend everything . Cos if u don't u re indebted to him forever, this marriage is set for doom. You will ve the greater blame if u don't.

I have said it before "The only thing the Past knows how to do is to Catch up with the present". You only need to come out clear ahead of your past

If she doesn't tell him then you should. he's your friend and deserves to know. It doesn't mean he'll crucify her but he has a right to know.

If you don't tell him then you're sure his enemy.

1. Marriages based on falsehood never last, and it also mean the marriage is invalid.
2. Golden rule: do to others what you want them to do for you.
3. What a friend for, if you are in his shoe what will you want your friend do, to tell you or to wait till you find out.
4. You need more than 10 lies to cover one lie.
5. Truth is truth and it last forever.
6. A repentant sinner will confess and never want to cover up an explosive device under his/her roof.
7. A word is enough for the wise, let those who have ears let them hear.

swiftyc00l: Three days ago, i met the fiancee of my very close pal from Nigeria, she had come to the UK for a medical check up. Seeing her face to face shocked me to the marrows as i realised she was someone i had known way back in my Uni and early working days in Naija. I would spare you the dirty details, but basically she was a slut. She was known for a lot of bed hopping in those days with married and single men alike. She even had various dirty escapades with expatriates from the company I worked for in naija back then, where someone had filmed her on a mobile phone having a foursome with  three guys. This recording was passed round and saved on phones, computers and so on amongst other crazy ones by those expatriates of their escapades. it clearly shows her face and some distinctive futures on her skin.

Two weeks ago my friend had told me his fiancee was coming for a check up and for some shopping here in the UK, he had told me a lot about her, that she was a virgin, honest, caring girl and a whole lot of stuff and desperately wanted me to meet her to boost his opinion as he knew nothing of her past which she has kept from him. Now as we met for me to send some stuff to Naija through her, it was obvious that she was equally shocked to see me.

Now my problem is this, do i tell my friend about who she really is and save him the heartache of finding out himself as the video recording are still in circulation even with some colleagues in various parts of the world. I suspect she might have come here for the "re-virgin" operation now gaining popularity in the UK as she claimed to have spent several thousands on the said "Check up". Or do I just keep quiet and pretend not to know anything. I am to play an important role in the wedding come mid next year.

Please I need constructive advice and even if you must yab try make it subtle , thanX.

Ewooooooooo! I pray never to be in your position O. However, at great risk to myself, I think I would tell my friend. If I didn't, I would become an accomplice to deception. The right thing can be very difficult at times. That doesn't change it from being what it is.

Why u dey hesitate.. Oh boy ja irawo e jor.. Save your friend from a heartbreak

nikkykay: Please poster, dont tell ur friend.I know most guys r loyal to their friends and they will do that but they dont know that it doesnt always help matter.You shld leave ur friend to find out this himself.Like u described here that there are some many connections btw the 2 families,will u want to jeopardise that as well?
I will just advise u that u confront the lady and ask her some Qs if she has actually changed and hw she will feel if her fiance finds out abt her past.Check if she will show remorse while discussing ds with her.U never can say, she might be a changed person now.
But the issue of virgin is what i dont support cos we all have our past and there is no big telling the person u want to marry that u are no more a virgin and he will understand.This might be one of teh reasons ur guy loves her more and she wants to go to any length to fix this.
Just talk to her.

bolded is the reason most of our girls are turning into sluts and runz gurls....the useless idea is their cover for moral decadence...it gives them a platform for running fyne in serial prostituting....changed my foot.....runz gurls nw get the good guys to marry....boyz are now so foolish....just because she can phock you good...u marry the slut under the packaged line " she has changed" ODE....I WANNA TELL THE GUY DIE?

@OP... SEND THE VIDEO TO HIS EMAIL USING PSEUDO NAME AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS!
HE WILL COME TO YOU TO ASK FOR ADVISE, THEN YOU STILL PLAY COOL SO YOU JUST ADVISE HIM NOT TELL HIM WHAT THE GIRL IS CAPABLE OF!!!
THEN PLEASE TAKE NOTE THAT THE WOMAN WILL FIGHTS BACK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU ARE THE ONE WHO TOLD HIM... SO TO PLAY SAFE AND STILL GET THE TASK DONE, YOU HAVE TO BE DISCREET AND SUBTLE!

Na wa o.