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Emotional Needs You Should Never Expect To Be Fulfilled By Your Relationship
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18

Wanting to be in a relationship in order to be "happy" or feel "whole" is one of the worst reasons to be in one. There are just some emotional needs you should never expect to be fulfilled by your relationship or a partner. Happiness, is just one of them.

Do not expect to get from relationship what only God can give.

Many of us go into relationships with a set of expectations we want met.
For instance, a healthy relationship should make you feel connected and safe. So your sense of security, support, and love are just some emotional
needs you can expect your relationship to fulfill.

But in any relationship, no matter how healthy or long-lasting it may be, it's important to understand that one person can't be everything for you. "Our partners end up playing a lot of roles in our lives, but we must strive to understand that they can't play every role at all times and this is perfectly fine," Britanny Burr (Editor at Large and Love and Relationship expert for Psych N Sex).

So what emotional needs should you never expect to be fulfilled by your partner?

1. Your Self-Needs -
Don’t expect your relationship to fulfill your self-love, self-confidence, and self-esteem needs. Most people search from partner to partner to find someone to help them fill the void within related to these inner self-needs.

You will end up disappointed and frustrated because you have erroneous expectations that someone outside of you can give you what you need.

Once we stop expecting others to fix or heal us we can take steps toward creating a life that works from the inside out.

2. Your Source Of Motivation
Sometimes our goals don't exactly line up with those of our partners. For instance, if you want to get out more, make new friends, and just be more social, it can feel difficult and unmotivating for you if your partner isn't
enthusiastic about doing the same. But it doesn't have to be.

If you are seeking motivation and your partner isn't able to provide you with it, you need to seek it elsewhere and be aware that it's not always their responsibility to give us motivation. Instead start a new hobby to make friends or look to new sources of inspiration to keep you motivated.

3. Your Source Of Inspiration
Your relationship can be a great source of inspiration but you can't always expect it, nor should you get upset or think there's anything wrong if it's not happening.

Note- if you and your partner don't share identical passions (i.e. you're interested in the arts while they're interested in the sciences), it may be difficult to draw inspiration from one another.
For instance, if you want to create something but your partner doesn't inspire you, go to a conference or a communal space with like-minded individuals to find a little inspiration.

4. The Feeling Of Being "Complete"
And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power: Colossians 2:10

One need that absolutely can't be fulfilled by your partner is expecting them to "complete" you. Instead, you have to recognize what you're missing, and then work towards filling that need yourself.

5. To Sympathize With You Every Single Time
If you've been together for a while, it might feel like you and your partner are one person. While your partner should show empathy and have your back, you can't expect them to always feel the same exact way as you do, nor should you expect them to help explain your feelings or fix them. You are your own person and they are theirs.

6. A Source Of Healing From Past Baggage
Many of us enter relationships with some kind of baggage from the past, which can cause you to close up and become guarded. While the right person can make you feel more comfortable about letting your walls down, you can't expect them to do it for you.
You also can't expect your relationship to fully heal you from your past. While you can try to forget, it's always going to be there if you don't take the time to work it out.

Being in a relationship can be wonderful, but it's not always easy.

Sometimes expectations, like emotional needs you think should be fulfilled, can just lead to frustration and disappointment if they're not met.

Remember that a healthy relationship should add to your happiness, not create it.