Truthsbitter:
look, i am a mixed personality (spiritual and logical). if you find it hard to understand something I wrote, call me back on the lines that are complex.
Okay let's consider these questions with sincerity before I say the truth.

Would your platonic friend do the same for you if the positions were reversed ?
Would you help any other friend with that amount if you find them in same position as your platonic friend?
If the answers to these questions are negative then consider yourself manipulated by your emotions and by the force of attraction within her personality. And if this is true then you are about to give wrongly.
(Giving in itself isn't bad but most male are too weak to see that emotional manipulation is draining them off everything. Their resources, affections, time, compassion , care...etc. they waste almost everything for unrighteous emotions).
Proverbs 25:28 KJV
He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Women most times don't attach conscience to their judgement, that's why they can dump any relationship coldly at any point in time(If you like kneel down in public to propose marriage or in the presence of your father, they will decline once their heart isn't there but if you find out about the matter you would come to the findings that all the time while they remained in such relationship they would make the man feel so good that he would have spent his life and resources on them not knowing he is being played all along. foolish men). men are the ones who consider these things and so it is easy to manipulate these men by their conscience. But if your conscience aligns with the unsentimental truth within you, then you may offer help irrespective of any manipulation (it would sure backfire against the guilty in the end "the one who manipulates to extort the other. if there is", for you have cleared your conscience rightly).

If you decide to help her, help her because you are aware of her problems and you have DECIDED to help not because you FEEL you should help. your help won't be a blessing if it was controlled by just your emotions and not by the truth of the matter. it is better to give your cash to a beggar than to give your cash to a platonic (girl)friend, if truly the beggar needs the cash more.

Lastly I will tell you this. a girl who wants a platonic relationship with you is probably a manipulative girl than a truthful girl. Here is how it goes; If she has something intellectual to add to you, it's good. If she has a good character to imbibe in you, it's good. if she can support you financially , it's good. if she can ease your stress by sex or romance it's good (Any one of the above benefit is good , if at least she can tender any, but unfortunately most Nigerian girls don't have any to give except for sex, which is why most guys who know them insist on sex before they tender any form of help to a Nigerian girl). otherwise she wants you around cause she wants to manipulate you into being her maga whom will not only spend his cash but his emotions, intellect, time and so much more on her and then she dumps you as soon as she grows past your value .

Love seems to have proved over time to be the strongest emotional force because it seems to create more than it destroys, and all other emotions are mainly viewed as destructive but when one grows into higher level of awareness one finds that all emotional forces could be rightly channeled and to do so is to become emotionally balanced. Balance is the key.
Proverbs 16:32 KJV
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

truthsbitter

nice one bro, every one of line was educative, nice one once again ,
since the moment I release myself from this relationship with 9ja girls my mind has been at ease, my body and soul is always connect, I tell people wat they will like to hear,to gain my favours and grounds,

9ja girls will just get u twist u will b confused on exactly what she wants, and she will stil drive online to write how a guy is so childish, not knowing they are the ones who are childish in attitude, nothing really important to offer the opposite sex,nothing, more than sex,even d sex day go punish u so Tay u go don weak after all d begging and dragging,

what's platonic relationship by the way, if she is the one asking for a platonic relationship op, let her find solutions to her problem, but if u feel giving her money go make her like u, trust me they go manipulate u, last last una go just become enemy of urself,

op let that girl b, for real, she will sought herself out, trust me, even if she sleeps with another nigga to get the complete money and then stops talking to u, bro move on,

franchasng:
Opposite sex = None!!


Close old time male friends = unlimited

simple


The Brotherhood needs to come alive.

To the extent that I can help without struggling.

I always tell people, if you can't give without expecting anything in return, DON't GIVE.

Sometime ago, a friend came to me for 130k. She needed it to buy some things for her business. When she sent the message, I didn't reply fast, she thought I was probably ignoring. So, she sent a VN join...

When I read and listened to her VN, I replied "lol". Not like I was mocking her, but she was almost begging and swearing with her life.

I just told her to send her acct number. I couldn't even imagine her begging a guy like that, knowing how lots of our guys reason. Few wks later, she was back again. Don't forget she paid the former right on time.

I had to ask her this time, why struggling for working capital, lets see your books. That was how we became partners.

I've had another young man ask me for money for his sick mum medical bills, I gave it to him.

Way back in uni, I paid the sch fees of a colleague who was crushing and I didn't "love" him enough to date him.

Just yesterday, a friend was telling me I am too humane, he is scared people (guys to be specific) might take advantage of me. I told him not to worry, as much as I could be fcking generous- I am also VERY discerning.

The good news is, I have never begged my friends for financial help. But they are so nice that they sometimes ask if I have problems at all and I shouldn't hesistate to share when I do have one...

The cosmos has a way of settling people that are truly altruistic.

When it comes to giving, I like to think I see humans, not a gender. Though I am beginning to reconsider my stand.

Rasbel:
It's obvious you won't give her

why should he give her?
Atleast op was mature enough to ask her to define this their relationship, and she confirmed it's a platonic relationship, make I ask u does anyone give out free cash like Dat, or does the term spare money exist?
I just have the impression the girl is a kid let's say 18 years to 23 years

AntiBrutus:
To the extent that I can help without struggling.

I always tell people, if you can't give without expecting anything in return, DON't GIVE.

Sometime ago, a friend came to me for 130k. She needed it to buy some things for her business. When she sent the message, I didn't reply fast, she thought I was probably ignoring. So, she sent a VN join...

When I read and listened to her VN, I replied "lol". Not like I was mocking her, but she was almost begging and swearing with her life.

I just told her to send her acct number. I couldn't even imagine her begging a guy like that, knowing how lots of our guys reason. Few wks later, she was back again. Don't forget she paid the former right on time.

I had to ask her this time, why struggling for working capital, lets see your books. That was how we became partners.

I've had another young man ask me for money for his sick mum medical bills, I gave it to him.

Way back in uni, I paid the sch fees of a colleague who was crushing and I didn't "love" him enough to date him.

Just yesterday, a friend was telling me I am too humane, he is scared people (guys to be specific) might take advantage of me. I told him not to worry, as much as I could be fcking generous- I am also VERY discerning.

The good news is, I have never begged my friends for financial help. But they are so nice that they sometimes ask if I have problems at all and I shouldn't hesistate to share when I do have one...

The cosmos has a way of settling people that are truly altruistic.

When it comes to giving, I like to think I see humans, not a gender. Though I am beginning to reconsider my stand.

u get am excess na
, y do I feel u schooled in edo

ubunja:
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first.

That's just me.

Better the platonic friendship die.

If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for you, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her.
Again. That's just me.

Wow!

Teejayphillip:
Ere kini aja ba ekun shey? (which Kai play Tiger dey follow Dog play)?

Wetin concern me and platonic abi MALTONIC friend

I go too unscrew ur kitten nuts .

I go too scatter ur palace,e mi EKUN

in indirectly u are paying a whopping amount of 30k for a fleeting moment of pleasure
Some weak guys and their insipid thinking sef

DonFreshmoney:
If you give her en.. the thunder that would strike you is still doing pressup in ikeja

people don suffer for some girls hand 80% don't appreciate dats just the truth, even after helping them they feel u haven't done enough and if u can't do more, which they term "that small thing way u do"
another guy go continue ur race

ubunja:
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first.

That's just me.

Better the platonic friendship die.

If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for you, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her.
Again. That's just me.

Bikonu, how does konji kill you o? Ubunja, you and this pus.sy you have turn goal, God go helep you o chai! No be everything be puss.y o. The ones that liked and shared, can you say what this guy is saying? Think o, think!

ArticleBeast:

Everything is not about sex. I hope one day you grow up to learn this truth. I recently secured a contract with a big firm through a female friend I assisted with 20k. If I was thinking like you then I wouldnt have gotten it.

Thank you o. Refreshing to see a man who is not a he-g.oat like u.b.unj.a.

Thegamingorca:



I'm wondering which kind human being go give am such cash to waste on rent

Lol, na her maga na

Useku:
If it's school fees ,go ahead and assist .

This life is somehow, there's something called life after school.

Let her owe you one.

God bless you. This is a refreshing post and Op should heed this advice.

castro316:


Bro. If you have asked her out pls dot give her this money. This is a stale lie girls use to extort money from friendzone guys ad others who have her on their wish list. Observe her. Does she have a phone? She should sell it. Platonic friends right? She should go and meet her boyfriend. I am dead sure this girl has paid her school fees she just looking for a way to milk you off because you are drooling for her pussy. Girls are normally merciless to guys they don't have feelings for so be careful lest you get burnt.

It hurts my badly that men can't help their fellow men.

u just know bro, I almost fell for something like dis, back in campus I just suffery distance myself from the girl, till date if d girl see me she day waka pass me, thank u I like am like dat,,,
some girls can b like demons, d moment u accept to b in d friendzone, they will make u regret ur life,

nothing like friends zone, u reget me I move on watin b friendzone, I b like small pikin,or tenaanger,

na op even Bleep up self, the moment u agree to b friendzone with a girl after u ask her out bro just run for ur life, except u u ready to even give her ur house rent

yemi15:


Bikonu, how does konji kill you o? Ubunja, you and this pus.sy you have turn goal, God go helep you o chai! No be everything be puss.y o. The ones that liked and shared, can you say what this guy is saying? Think o, think!

.what??

Are you really going after people who liked and shared my message??

I don't gender should be an issue here.... You should ask ur self this question, if u were to be in her shoes, will she help out?

ubunja:
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first.

That's just me.

Better the platonic friendship die.

If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for you, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her.
Again. That's just me.

This man ehn Lmao

But seriously once a babe you ask out mention platon... The guy-man thing to do is to give her madt spacing. Hello-hello na once in like 2/3 months. I no no wetin they are still dey discuss to the extent she feels so comfortable discussing her problems with him when her parents are still alive.

Useku:
If it's school fees ,go ahead and assist .

This life is somehow, there's something called life after school.

Let her owe you one.

guy make I tell u ,na man u fit tell say there is life after school, no b woman o,
u think say they send u after graduation, even the ones way they melt for exam hall during university days, day don even kw u exist again after graduation, guy some ladies don't appreciate e just day their gene no vex,

DateMynd44:
When a girl says she's in a platonic friendship with you, what does she really mean?

Is it just Casual friends with no relationship attached or Closed and deep friends to confide in with no emotions or affections or love relationship that you both are dating but absence of sex?

well I got a friend I asked her to define our friendship and she said we are just in a platonic friendship that's all. Though I like it that way cos I don't want any distractions as I don dey near to finish school so I'm battling how I'll shoot from this boundary 2:1 to first class which seems to be a Herculean task so dating and engaging on all those stuff may dampen my goal now.


Okay straight to the point, so this girl that told me we are nothing but platonic friends has some financial issues as she hasn't paid her fees as her parents are financially drained (dad got sacked, mom's business isn't flowing) so she risked suspending her studies cos she couldn't register her courses and the school fees is 50k (Course registration inclusive) and she had to struggle and hustle during the holidays and earned 20k and now needs 30k to complete an pay her fees and register her courses.

I long paid mine and there's this work that entered for me an I had 50k gain and tho I don't have any pressing needs except to boost my wardrobe and save the cash or by my mumsy a present.... But my mind and conscience is irking me that I should send her the 30k and help her out but that money is too much to give out to a platonic friend that I'm not sure I'll marry, so I should just start taking care of someone's future wife Due to the issues she's passing thru she may not be able to pay back.
so guys what's your advice in this? what's the extent of help u can give a platonic friend?
Had it been u were in my shoes would you lease out such amount of money to a platonic friend without refund

cc ubunja truthsbitter luvyaself95 dairrykid

You are a selfcentred person. You can only get blessed when you help without expecting anything. Infact I visited my ex in her school ...as I was driving out I saw a lady crying and I requested to know why she was crying ...I was able to find out from some students that she will not be allowed to sit for exam the next day...I took her to the nearest atm and withdrew the whole cash plus additional cash for her personal need....she was so happy ...seeing that happiness in her face made me happy...atleast I have done something nice. There is a difference btw you not having and having and not helping. Help without any strings attached and you will reap the reward in a great way. That lady might be your saviour tomorrow. I practice what I preach.

larryking540:

why should he give her?
Atleast op was mature enough to ask her to define this their relationship, and she confirmed it's a platonic relationship, make I ask u does anyone give out free cash like Dat, or does the term spare money exist?
I just have the impression the girl is a kid let's say 18 years to 23 years

I typed that because I felt the op didn't actually need the advice as it was obvious from his write-up that he wasn't going to give her anyway and I have no problem with that.

bezimo:
If na guy..I will try my best, at least he won't ever forget that you helped him..but if na girl..I will try very little because from the book of experience chapter 1 vs 1..Girls forget in a hurry the help rendered to them.

They forget but God does not forget. Remember that!

OP you stated what the girl wanted(platonic friendship) but forgot to state what you want or wish,...... that aside how close are you guys in this platonic level?
If it's one of your male friends is in this predicament will you be willing to do the same?
The answers to the above should give you a better perspective, just so you know if you decide to give her the money it won't be a one time thing, there will always be one need or two that will always be there to be met,and guess what, she doesn't even need to ask you for it.
But if the money is not a big deal for you at all, then just give her.

Harddiskng:


This man ehn Lmao

But seriously once a babe you ask out mention platon... The guy-man thing to do is to give her madt spacing. Hello-hello na once in like 2/3 months. I no no wetin they are still dey discuss to the extent she feels so comfortable discussing her problems with him lol.

I tire for the op o,
watin their two day discuss since the girl tell am say na platonic abi na maltonic relationship day day,

some day like use their hands attract wahala

ubunja:
.what??

Are you really going after people who liked and shared my message??

So you are still online? Why would I not? Your way of thinking, God help you is all I can say! I can see a deep hurt by the opposite sex, you have not resolved that is bringing this warped thinking and mindset! Have a great night.

larryking540:

u get am excess na
, y do I feel u schooled in edo

I don't have excess, if you can't give from the little you have, you can't give when you have much.

I had this guy that was a thing to me, I remember asking him to donate to a cause. He said he would never do that, that if I were the one in need of money, he will give and know he is gaining. But he would never do philanthropy...

Pheew! That singular statement changed a lot on how I view him. If you can't be good by people who owe you nothing, people you assume are below you- then you are not good!!!

yemi15:


So you are still online? Why would I not? Your way of thinking, God help you is all I can say! I can see a deep hurt by the opposite sex, you have not resolved that is bringing this warped thinking and mindset! Have a great night.

Light doesn't curse darkness. Light simply shines, and darkness goes away.
If I'm talking trash then talk your own truth. and people will see and follow it.




Otherwise find the nearest lagoon and jump into it. For you have nothing original to say.

DateMynd44:
When a girl says she's in a platonic friendship with you, what does she really mean?

Is it just Casual friends with no relationship attached or Closed and deep friends to confide in with no emotions or affections or love relationship that you both are dating but absence of sex?

well I got a friend I asked her to define our friendship and she said we are just in a platonic friendship that's all. Though I like it that way cos I don't want any distractions as I don dey near to finish school so I'm battling how I'll shoot from this boundary 2:1 to first class which seems to be a Herculean task so dating and engaging on all those stuff may dampen my goal now.


Okay straight to the point, so this girl that told me we are nothing but platonic friends has some financial issues as she hasn't paid her fees as her parents are financially drained (dad got sacked, mom's business isn't flowing) so she risked suspending her studies cos she couldn't register her courses and the school fees is 50k (Course registration inclusive) and she had to struggle and hustle during the holidays and earned 20k and now needs 30k to complete an pay her fees and register her courses.

I long paid mine and there's this work that entered for me an I had 50k gain and tho I don't have any pressing needs except to boost my wardrobe and save the cash or by my mumsy a present.... But my mind and conscience is irking me that I should send her the 30k and help her out but that money is too much to give out to a platonic friend that I'm not sure I'll marry, so I should just start taking care of someone's future wife Due to the issues she's passing thru she may not be able to pay back.
so guys what's your advice in this? what's the extent of help u can give a platonic friend?
Had it been u were in my shoes would you lease out such amount of money to a platonic friend without refund

cc ubunja truthsbitter luvyaself95 dairrykid

An amount u can afford to lose

Harddiskng:


This man ehn Lmao

But seriously once a babe you ask out mention platon... The guy-man thing to do is to give her madt spacing. Hello-hello na once in like 2/3 months. I no no wetin they are still dey discuss to the extent she feels so comfortable discussing her problems with him when her parents are still alive.

men are used to being used that they don't see a problem being used.

I help people... Full stop. If you can do and if you can't then move and create space for a helper to enter.

PrecisionFx:


An amount u can afford to lose

meaning women as platonic friends are a risky investment am I right?

ubunja:

Light doesn't curse darkness. Light simply shines, and darkness goes away.
If I'm talking trash then talk your own truth. and people will see and follow it.




Otherwise find the nearest lagoon and jump into it. For you have nothing original to say.

Ig.nore button! You have brought a gift of anger I won't accept and therefore it belongs to you! Have a great night.

AntiBrutus:


I don't have excess, if you can't give from the little you have, you can't give when you have much.

I had this guy that was a thing to me, I remember asking him to donate to a cause. He said he would never do that, that if I were the one in need of money, he will give and know he is gaining. But he would never do philanthropy...

Pheew! That singular statement changed a lot on how I view him. If you can't be good by people who owe you nothing, people you assume are below you- then you are not good!!!

u and I kw very well that op needs a relationship from that girl, from his write up you can smell it, dats y most advise u see here are just warning him to reconsider the help he is given out and forget it b'cos, he might b expecting the lady to jump on his shoulder after doing it, , and he should nt b surprise if he sees the girl in another guys hux d next day,
actually the girl don define d relationship already for op, so it's left for op

Guest007:
I help people... Full stop. If you can do and if you can't then move and create space for a helper to enter.

no b only helper. Messiah