AntiBrutus:
He shouldn't give, no need for long story. I thank God for parents that could provide.

I also thank Him for contentment.

No the bottom line is:

If he wants to give with no strings attached, fine.
If he wants to give with strings attached, fine.
If he does not want to give, regardless of if there're strings attached or not, fine.

Na him money, he sets the rules on who receives it.

E no reach matter to call God put; because according to religious folks he also created those who do not have parents to provide as well as those who are not contented.

The good thing is that as I was told once, all problems in school end in school; so I wouldn't worry much for the lady.

-Lord

Abeos:


Waoh. I understand your sentiments though, we've been wired to always to expect something in return for every favour.

Thanks for your understanding

DateMynd44:
hehehe that srclark na bad guy lol

confirm one

ubunja:
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first.

That's just me.

Better the platonic friendship die.

If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for you, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her.
Again. That's just me.

but this guy u wicked oo.very blunt person

DateMynd44:
mehn so u are this caring wow that's cool but assuming it was a guy that was in need of this help would u have offered to financially assist?

I’d do it for anyone! Unfortunately women are more vulnerable when they are in need.

luvyaself95:
confirm one

this my thread is it really bad?
one girl here come see this my topic for front page come yarn say she know me but I no know am and that she is disappointed in me.
mehn I dey fear oh if na the girl where we dey talk about so don come see this topic for nairaland. and she registered just day before yesterday and has only one post so I no fit track to know who she be.
see her comment wey I screen shot below.

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ubunja

Enyimbamercedes:


I’d do it for anyone! Unfortunately women are more vulnerable when they are in need.

you're right they're more vulnerable whenever they're in such a pressing need.
nevertheless when next session comes up and it's time for fee payments by then we'll be in our finals and if we can't find any available way to pay our fees can I mail u?

DateMynd44:


very close, before her challenges came up back then during 100level she calls and messages to Know how I'm faring, if I don't call for a week she complains that I've abandoned her I control her anyhow I wish, I do call to see her during odd hours at odd places and she obliges, anytime I asks to see her she has never for once given me excuses even when her schedule is tight she will still find a way to see me, drops loads of messages on WhatsApp and whenever I'm a day or two off Whatsapp she'll flash to know if I'm still alive lol, she says a week shouldn't pass without me calling thrice and a week shouldn't pass without us meeting up each other and she hasn't asked me of any financial assistance before even when she's out of data or airtime she won't ask, I'll only do that without her request and if at all I want to help I'll help because of all these stuff I've told u.
of course Sha but tho it'll be limited after all I helped out a guy i barely knew with 15k earlier for accommodation but when I later come broke for school ehn as foodstuffs finish and everything the guy couldn't reciprocate.

You still didn't state if you'll like to take the friendship to the next, if possible,..... if you can do it out of your goodwill without expectations afterwards then go ahead.
But note that this is typical Friendzoning.

DateMynd44:
this my thread is it really bad?
one girl here come see this my topic for front page come yarn say she know me but I no know am and that she is disappointed in me.
mehn I dey fear oh if na the girl where we dey talk about so don come see this topic for nairaland. and she registered just day before yesterday and has only one post so I no fit track to know who she be.
see her comment wey I screen shot below.

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ubunja

Na she naaa.

Mydazz:


You still didn't state if you'll like to take the friendship to the next

of course

:

if possible,..... if you can do it out of your goodwill without expectations afterwards then go ahead.
But note that this is typical Friendzoning.

she also said she wants a friendship that will end and lead to marriage and I don't know what she means by that.

armadeo:

Na she naaa.

Oboy I don enter one chance! but come na which mod con cast me like this ni? na who carry this thing come front page

DateMynd44:
When a girl says she's in a platonic friendship with you, what does she really mean?

Is it just Casual friends with no relationship attached or Closed and deep friends to confide in with no emotions or affections or love relationship that you both are dating but absence of sex?

well I got a friend I asked her to define our friendship and she said we are just in a platonic friendship that's all. Though I like it that way cos I don't want any distractions as I don dey near to finish school so I'm battling how I'll shoot from this boundary 2:1 to first class which seems to be a Herculean task so dating and engaging on all those stuff may dampen my goal now.


Okay straight to the point, so this girl that told me we are nothing but platonic friends has some financial issues as she hasn't paid her fees as her parents are financially drained (dad got sacked, mom's business isn't flowing) so she risked suspending her studies cos she couldn't register her courses and the school fees is 50k (Course registration inclusive) and she had to struggle and hustle during the holidays and earned 20k and now needs 30k to complete an pay her fees and register her courses.

I long paid mine and there's this work that entered for me an I had 50k gain and tho I don't have any pressing needs except to boost my wardrobe and save the cash or by my mumsy a present.... But my mind and conscience is irking me that I should send her the 30k and help her out but that money is too much to give out to a platonic friend that I'm not sure I'll marry, so I should just start taking care of someone's future wife Due to the issues she's passing thru she may not be able to pay back.
so guys what's your advice in this? what's the extent of help u can give a platonic friend?
Had it been u were in my shoes would you lease out such amount of money to a platonic friend without refund

cc ubunja truthsbitter luvyaself95 dairrykid

The only thing I can tell you is that NO ONE KNOWS TOMORROW. Weather she refunds you or not as long as your mind tells you to do that good then do it.

She could be off help to you too someday.
Cheers

The issue of help cuts across friend, wife, husband etc.
Give and you shall receive

DateMynd44:
this my thread is it really bad?
one girl here come see this my topic for front page come yarn say she know me but I no know am and that she is disappointed in me.
mehn I dey fear oh if na the girl where we dey talk about so don come see this topic for nairaland. and she registered just day before yesterday and has only one post so I no fit track to know who she be.
see her comment wey I screen shot below.

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ubunja

@Rezie,
If you are the girl that was discussing business with this guy then please avoid him very well, he wants to take advantage of you. If you are not the person then warn his friends offline and show them this post.

Hopeless lazy men everywhere.
They whine and complain about how women are golddiggers and materialistic but they secretly want to do the exact same things women do. Even worse in many cases.

DateMynd44:
abeg no forget to tag me infact make I follow u sef so I go dey get updates.
love has been dead long ago, I Just met one shawty here for nairaland and love matter don kpai commot for my heart and she's engaging on self business as she lost her father year's ago,
she's now using the business to feign for herself and she needs a guy to keep her company hence she's disturbing me all over via calls and WhatsApp but like u said my priority should be directed to how I should gain financially from her business and cash much more than her coochie

DateMynd44:
abeg no forget to tag me infact make I follow u sef so I go dey get updates.
love has been dead long ago, I Just met one shawty here for nairaland and love matter don kpai commot for my heart and she's engaging on self business as she lost her father year's ago,
she's now using the business to feign for herself and she needs a guy to keep her company hence she's disturbing me all over via calls and WhatsApp but like u said my priority should be directed to how I should gain financially from her business and cash much more than her coochie

NLmember:


@Rezie,
If you are the girl that was discussing business with this guy then please avoid him very well, he wants to take advantage of you. If you are not the person then warn his friends offline and show them this post.

Hopeless lazy men everywhere.
They whine and complain about how women are golddiggers and materialistic but they secretly want to do the exact same things women do. Even worse in many cases.

go back to that my topic and read it again but this time very slowly so you'll observed that I said I myself I'm not interested in dating or in any relationship of any kind with her or with any other female as academics is my only priority as dating or engaging on relationship or those stuff may dampen my success.
I only sought for advice to see if it's tenable to give such amount of money to a platonic friend as I myself won't ask for favours from her.
read it well and understand well before u come back and start ranting.
anyway both ur opinion and the said reizie's opinion is non of my concern.

DateMynd44:
Oboy I don enter one chance!
but come na which mod con cast me like this ni?
na who carry this thing come front page

Bro, na u F up. I dey observe as you dey spill enough Intel to give yourself up. Na why man suppose get more than one account, secondly no dey drop every details about yourself, like where you said you are a uniben student, you are in your finals. That's almost enough evidence to get you locked up

I have friends and family on Nairaland but they don't know who I am because I usually change my school's name or date of graduation and so on.

Just try reason am via sey you and some guys dey argue about something like this topic then it made you bring it here to seek people's opinion(s).

But you F up sha

larryking540:

u just know bro, I almost fell for something like dis, back in campus I just suffery distance myself from the girl, till date if d girl see me she day waka pass me, thank u I like am like dat,,,
some girls can b like demons, d moment u accept to b in d friendzone, they will make u regret ur life,

nothing like friends zone, u reget me I move on watin b friendzone, I b like small pikin,or tenaanger,

na op even Bleep up self, the moment u agree to b friendzone with a girl after u ask her out bro just run for ur life, except u u ready to even give her ur house rent

Mehn that's the worst place a guy should end up. Worse than prison

DateMynd44:
go back to that my topic and read it again but this time very slowly so you'll observed that I said I myself I'm not interested in dating or in any relationship of any kind with her or with any other female as academics is my only priority as dating or engaging on relationship or those stuff may dampen my success.
I only sought for advice to see if it's tenable to give such amount of money to a platonic friend as I myself won't ask for favours from her.
read it well and understand well before u come back and start ranting.
anyway both ur opinion and the said reizie's opinion is non of my concern.

Hahahaha
I am so glad the girl caught you.

Look at him fumbling and looking for excuses after his evil plan was exposed

Only you said the girl is disturbing you all over with calls and WhatsApp
Only you said you want to gain financially from her and cash out more than coochie

So you wanted to just grab coochie and 'cash out' until your mentor ubunja said its good to also use women financially so you changed gears and said you want to also gain financially from her.

God don expose you and saved that poor girl from your plans. You no get conscience? Somebody lost her dad and is trying to survive on her own in a harsh economy instead of thinking of how to help her you are looking for tips on how to cash out both coochie and money.

castro316:


Mehn that's the worst place a guy should end up. Worse than prison

slave go better pass u,
how u go ask girl out, she go say I just prefer we remain friends, or maltonic friendship, any way sha na children day day do dat one,if I kw I will remain friend with u I wouldn't have made an attempt asking u out,

make guys wise o,u ask girl out, she do shakara move on,

NLmember:


Hahahaha
I am so glad the girl caught you.

Look at him fumbling and looking for excuses after his evil plan was exposed

Only you said the girl is disturbing you all over with calls and WhatsApp
Only you said you want to gain financially from her and cash out more than coochie

So you wanted to just grab coochie and 'cash out' until your mentor ubunja said its good to also use women financially so you changed gears and said you want to also gain financially from her.

God don expose you and saved that poor girl from your plans. You no get conscience? Somebody lost her dad and is trying to survive on her own in a harsh economy instead of thinking of how to help her you are looking for tips on how to cash out both coochie and money.

y u day attack op,

DateMynd44:
this my thread is it really bad?
one girl here come see this my topic for front page come yarn say she know me but I no know am and that she is disappointed in me.
mehn I dey fear oh if na the girl where we dey talk about so don come see this topic for nairaland. and she registered just day before yesterday and has only one post so I no fit track to know who she be.
see her comment wey I screen shot below.

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ubunja

Guy you dey fall my hand why you dey do like small pikin like this are you afraid because of this
See ehn don't let girls control your brain
whether she is the one or not stand your ground if you want to help her do it if not don't stop being a pussy

NLmember:


Hahahaha
I am so glad the girl caught you.

Look at him fumbling and looking for excuses after his evil plan was exposed

Only you said the girl is disturbing you all over with calls and WhatsApp
Only you said you want to gain financially from her and cash out more than coochie

So you wanted to just grab coochie and 'cash out' until your mentor ubunja said its good to also use women financially so you changed gears and said you want to also gain financially from her.

God don expose you and saved that poor girl from your plans. You no get conscience? Somebody lost her dad and is trying to survive on her own in a harsh economy instead of thinking of how to help her you are looking for tips on how to cash out both coochie and money.

lol the one that I want to gain financially from more than her coochie is different from the one in school that has issues.
lol but lala F up as he put this stuff for front page sha

DateMynd44:
3 weeks later?
how come?

Its a long story but to cut it short... Her Phone was stolen; as her BF then I made it my responsibility to make her happy at all cost, I bought her new Phone, to say she was happy it will be understatement, We had a swelled lovely moment together that day.
well She travelled few days without informing me she also ignored me for 2weeks when i called her she laughed telling me that She tasted how i will react without her for days (imagine).
I stylishly stole her facebook password behold she gave her phone number and home address to about 10 Guys!
When she figured out her secret was leaked she ignored me completely.

Helping someone shouldn't come with a price tag. My mum is altruistic to the point of denying herself a lot of things just to help others.

At University, a schoolmate told me of a coursesmate who was pushing barrow in Lagos to pay fees. I went and reported to my mum and asked if she could help. She took over his school fees for year three and four. I sometimes helped him with some small cash for feeding. We were not friends and hardly stayed in the same circle. He dedicated his project to her. I've not met him again but everytime I remember him, I pray that life favours him, I've never ever considered payback or gratitude. My mum too asks of him and prays for him to succeed.

That is why we are on Earth. To be a positive force of change. That girl may not reward you tomorrow, but any act of kindness gets stored up for you or your posterity.

megareal:
Helping someone shouldn't come with a price tag. My mum is altruistic to the point of denying herself a lot of things just to help others.

At University, a schoolmate told me of a coursesmate who was pushing barrow in Lagos to pay fees. I went and reported to my mum and asked if she could help. She took over his school fees for year three and four. I sometimes helped him with some small cash for feeding. We were not friends and hardly stayed in the same circle. He dedicated his project to her. I've not met him again but everytime I remember him, I pray that life favours him, I've never ever considered payback or gratitude. My mum too asks of him and prays for him to succeed.

That is why we are on Earth. To be a positive force of change. That girl may not reward you tomorrow, but any act of kindness gets stored up for you or your posterity.

I wish to help like my mama and your mama but people these days imagine when you help someone and get blame and insult as a reward...
Beside Good people die ultimately and bad people live long..

Coolgent:

Its a long story but to cut it short... Her Phone was stolen; as her BF then I made it my responsibility to make her happy at all cost, I bought her new Phone, to say she was happy it will be understatement, We had a swelled lovely moment together that day.
well She travelled few days without informing me she also ignored me for 2weeks when i called her she laughed telling me that She tasted how i will react without her for days (imagine).
I stylishly stole her facebook password behold she gave her phone number and home address to about 10 Guys!
When she figured out her secret was leaked she ignored me completely.

imagine inside life

Coolgent:

Its a long story but to cut it short... Her Phone was stolen; as her BF then I made it my responsibility to make her happy at all cost, I bought her new Phone, to say she was happy it will be understatement, We had a swelled lovely moment together that day.
well She travelled few days without informing me she also ignored me for 2weeks when i called her she laughed telling me that She tasted how i will react without her for days (imagine).
I stylishly stole her facebook password behold she gave her phone number and home address to about 10 Guys!
When she figured out her secret was leaked she ignored me completely.

she doesn't have an excuse or lie to tell u cos she has been caught red handed hence the reason for ignoring u

luvyaself95:
I wish to help like my mama and your mama but people these days imagine when you help someone and get blame and insult as a reward...
Beside Good people die ultimately and bad people live long..

Has happened several times to me but I'm not daunted. Ultimately, I'm the one who gains because I definitely reap good from the act of helping. Bad experiences almost made me stop, but this year, that was my direct message to help people and I'm not regretting. I don't have much but from my small strength I do what I can.

So don't stop, always understand that those you help ultimately turn round to hurt you, in most cases but preparing your mind ahead helps you overlook.

Also, understand that helping with wisdom is better, good people who die don't exercise wisdom.

DateMynd44:
you're right they're more vulnerable whenever they're in such a pressing need.
nevertheless when next session comes up and it's time for fee payments by then we'll be in our finals and if we can't find any available way to pay our fees can I mail u?

Where there is a will, there is a way. I am pretty sure you will be alright. Let us strike a deal, give your friend the help she requested and I will give you the money back

DateMynd44:
of course

she also said she wants a friendship that will end and lead to marriage and I don't know what she means by that.

Meaning that she's not dating anyone at the moment, but watching you as the prospectI've suitor,....... Back to the matter at hand, give her what you can gI've any ordinary person in her shoes. Money should not be the reason she eventually agrees to date you later on.
Give what you can without the least expecitation from her.
Goodluck

DateMynd44:
lol the one that I want to gain financially from more than her coochie is different from the one in school that has issues.
lol but lala F up as he put this stuff for front page sha

You are just lying because you got caught.
Rezie darling don't believe him.