my mom just gave birth after 19years and it really freaks me out,i am happy for her and ma brother because she alwayz wanted a large family and he alwayz wanted a brother but i am not so happy because of the gap btw me and d baby and i never really liked large families.i am 21yrs old ,i feel ashamed to say ma mum just gave birth.its sounds so weird to me.
i dont knw y but i am just scared of tellin ma friends or lettin dem knw,i knw is non of their biz but,
presently i am not home and i am not so kin on seen the baby's picture .

I hope it is not jealousy I am sensing here? you are too little for this

You wanna choose outsiders instead of your family? you are worried about friends when you should be having your mum's back? you don't wanna see your own brother cos of some sick idea? are you really and honestly with ur head intact?

Even at 21 I wasnt this dumb. Seriously

Good to hear you're happy for her, it's natural to feel odd, however you still have to suck it in and tell your friends, what's the big deal gan sef?

i have a classmate that it happened to, when we were in our final year of secondary school, when she mentioned it, i snorted or something mennnn you should see the way she grabbed me, i was instantly humbled.

My point is, idiots will always be idiots. If your friends act funny cos of that, maybe y'all dont need to be friends. . .

If it were a 13 yr old ehen it is manageable but for a 21 yr old to actually say she "feels ashamed to say her mum gave birth and has not seen her baby brothers picture?" is disgusting, like plain irritating.

First off alot of 21 yr olds are already married even with a child and if this gurl can still maintain this kinda mentality at this age, trust me she will still be unmarried even in her early 30's.

Maybe if  poster had gotten married and prolly had a child I am sure the mum wouldnt bother wasting her time on having kids but would rather spend her time preparing for "omugwo" to come see her grandchild.

Haba a 21 yr old? actually used the word "ashamed" on someone that prolly pays for her fees, feeding,accomodation, clothing e.t.c and tries to give her the best she can afford in life? this is pathetic

Tell your mum and baby brother to buzz off and go tell those friends of yours to start paying for your fees, feeding, accomodation, clothing and even pay for you to grow a brain @ 21

You should have been flushed down the drain 21 yrs ago. Like what, you decide who comes into the world and when?

Ashamed ko, sstupid ni

actually, its rather embarassing to be an adult and see your mum still getting pregnant.

however, once the baby arrives, you forget about all that.

tpia@:

actually, its rather embarassing to be an adult and see your mum still getting pregnant.

however, once the baby arrives, you forget about all that.

hello tpia@, wats up, i hope you are fine, long time no chart, i really missed charting and quarreling with you, i hope you are not angry with me.

Why should you be ashamed of your mother. That's a big word to use. I think you should be happy for her and stop thinking about your friends.

sweetheart, you are jealous.

i dont think it's fair to rain insults on OP, even if you dont agree with her. . .y'all are being a tad too judgemental!

My mom gave birth to her youngest child when I was abt 18yrs old . No biggy.

Just help her as much as you can

19yrs age difference is not unheard of. I know PLENTY of them. So No it's not weird. and it's very harsh of you to say you're not looking forward to seeing the pics of your little brother as if you had previous issue with him. Quite silly I might add. F what your friends bloody say/think or what people might say. Be happy if not for anything else that your mother had a safe delivery, and that your brother have now a brother he always wanted. You don't welcome a new life by being resentful no matter what.
21 is not even that old to have a lil sibling.

I bet if you were the daughter of that woman that have 19 kids and counting and now has a granchild from her oldest 20yr old daughter and is(mom) not done having kids sef, you probably call police on her and force tugal ligation on her.

Tell your freinds if you must, "Omg, my mother just gave birth to a little healthy baby boy!!!. I am so happy for my family ESP my lil bro, cause he always wanted a lil brother. I can't wait to see the pics of his little cheeks" etc whatever your friends after this
other than being happy for you is and should be their bloody business.

You can't change the fact that he's here now. And don't take out frustrations at your parents on him. He didn't ask to be born or be born to in your family where her older sis wouldn't be so cheerful on seeing him. He has nothing to do with your anger my dear.

Radiant:

You should have been flushed down the drain 21 yrs ago. Like what, you decide who comes into the world and when?

Ashamed ko, sstupid ni

MY POINT EXACTLY

@poster, lets see, so essentially what you are saying is that your mom should have asked for your permission first before having the baby

dezzygal:

my mom just gave birth after 19years and it really freaks me out,i am happy for her and ma brother because she alwayz wanted a large family and he alwayz wanted a brother but i am not so happy because of the gap btw me and d baby and i never really liked large families.i am 21yrs old ,i feel ashamed to say ma mum just gave birth.its sounds so weird to me.
i dont knw y but i am just scared of tellin ma friends or lettin dem knw,i knw is non of their biz but,
presently i am not home and i am not so kin on seen the baby's picture .

NA wa oh . , people sef!

Anyways, whe's just telling us how she feels, we dont have to curcify her!

@ Poster . . , NO MATTER WHAT . . . Do not be ashamed to tell people you have a new sibling! Do you know how many people will kill for that opporunity

I have an elder siser who's almost 20 years older than I am and today she brings her kids to my house when she's going on a holiday with her husband. When she's down, she knows she can always depend on me for a loan or something. She's like a mother, a friend and a big sister all rolled up in one!

This is a good thing and you should be grateful for it!

Did she reach her menopause? Else, it aint no biggie, truss me.

Maybe the child is for another man ,  i.e random man that the mom was with when the OP was away, and that's where the "shame" is coming from. Since she doesn't mention any father ?? But still. . At 21 you're a bit too long in the tooth to be pulling off tantrums like this !

Take it easy on the girl and stop raining insults on her abeg! I think it could feel a bit weird truly but you just have to accept it; Take the boy like your own little son and don't allow room for hatred.

I am so happy for you,

I have always wanted a younger brother or sister but,

The age gap is no problem, you would be his second father and i can assure you, it's a good feeling,

I must be weird and very old fashioned cos I'dont see the odd/weird thing in this. 21 is not super old, she is just coming off her teen ages. So it's not as if she is 30 or 35. And coming from a large family such wide age diff. Is not uncommon

Don't let the age gap thingy disturb you.Get on with life and have fun with your baby brother.

Sorry poster but NL sometimes is a wrong choice of forum to discuss certain matters.

be happy for your mum and stop been childish

jennykadry:

Even at 21 I wasnt this dumb. Seriously

I am just 6yrs and most def. aint that dumb

@poster:

Your a terrorist,i hope your not going to kill that baby boy one day? useless girl like you,are you going to suck your mothers bosom again? why not get a man to marry you instead of coming here to talk poo.

My father is 82 years i am 40 yet my father still have a baby of 3 years old,what is wrong with having a younger one? Is it your business,you better put your private part into good use or ZIP UP your mouth

I sincerely hope your mum isnt on Nairaland cos with such a unique story, she might just click on the profile associated with the creator of this thread and see your picture boldly on display.

As for you not "keen" on seeing your baby brother's picture, that is just plain wicked. Grow up!!!!! you are 21 and should be "keen" on starting your own family and not being such a silly child (insult is highly intended).

She brought you into the world and she can take you out too ( my mum's favourite line). Once again, GROW UP!!!!!

if u are ashamed of your mother,what do you say to your dad for impregnating her? my dear you mum is living her life. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. One man's meat is another man's poison.

guy, let them say, wetin be you dey shy, let me tell you something you will be proud of the boy in future,

@Dezzygal think you were dizzy when writin this!!! I was 18 when my mum gave birth to d last born. U shud be happy u've gt kid broda's n sista's! Avnt U seen cases where one can be older than his/her uncle or aunt??

i dont know the reason why u just want to create hatred in ur house cos of the new born baby that just came to the world without knowing anything, are u not aware when ur mum was pregnant, why cant u tell her to abort the pregnancy because u will be ashame of it when the baby comes