All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?"

Abi this babe dey fear to wash baby napkin, or wot?, every member is a blessing oooo,

My dear this feeling will pass, it will be fine by the time the baby becomes fond of u. looks into ur eyes and smile for u to carry him,
Keep praying for God to keep ur family&  provide the resource to raise the child in a Godly way,
Your mum may not have planned for the baby but its time u all must step u and do ur bit
That baby will make u proud and help u & ur family in time of  need years to come,
Dont mind the negative response by some of us in NL.Its expected,
Praise God! for safe delivery. Na God de give pikin,
Invite us on NL for the Naming, lol

I have a cousin who got admitted into versity last year. His parents are old, eldest sibbling is about 38years old and he's his parent's last born. Runs from one "aunty" to "big brother" who have their own kids to care for to "beg" for school fees, books and clothings.                                                                                              

zionic:

Abi this babe dey fear to wash baby napkin, or wot?, every member is a blessing oooo,

why is everybody so myopic? Can't you people think long term?

oweniwe:

All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?"  

from what the poster's point of view, she is not talking about the upbringing of the child but she is ashame that her mama gave birth to a new baby, so i think next time u should read the post before u call those at ur home stupid, i think u are the idiot on this topic

@oweniwe
was there a complain about finance or some sort?? the problem poster had was the gap thing! U'hd better apologise!

I tire for you people o. I said THINK LONG TERM!!

@poster,don't mind the insults and take in the advice,

@all nawa for you na o,u na no fit advice remove the insults??

on topic,
you'd get used to it and find out there is no need to to be ashamed of nada!!imagine how happy your mum must be,most women wish for same,
see it as a blessing!
i even wish i had the opportunity you have
Goodthings,

oweniwe:

All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?" 

Look at this one with a half brain. Did you read the post or you dumb self just couldn't comprehend what the poster posted?

Where and where did the poster complain about taking care of the baby? the poster is more concerned about what her friends are going to say and the shame her mum "supposedly" brought upon herself by having a baby 21rs later.

Why dont u read before calling people names. You and your yeye supporters

djojo:


from what the poster's point of view, she is not talking about the upbringing of the child but she is ashame that her mama gave birth to a new baby, so i think next time u should read the post before u call those at your home silly, i think u are the on this topic

Are you minding the dundee united?

When and where will she take care of the baby? shes in skool i suppose and will only see the baby whenever skool's on hols. Except she wants to end up 30 and still at her parents house she should be married pretty soon and out of the house

Infact the poster is more worried about her "friends" not family

oweniwe:

All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?"  

Are u human at all   .

IF the poster is not happy with the new baby. Let her go and start her own family, after-all she is a 21 year old ADULT  

@jennykadry,

take a chill pill, have noticed you have ready insults for most posts/posters, am sure there are more civilized way to address people,
keyword  is diplomacy!!

formebyme:

@jennykadry,

take a chill pill, have noticed you have ready insults for most posts/posters, am sure there are more civilized way to address people,
keyword  is diplomacy!!

This is a forum and I is entitled to my own opinion whether it agrees with you or not

My main issue with that 21yr old agbaya" of a poster is the fact that she used the word "ashamed" for her mum

Now if that mum of hers maltreated or abused her in anyway then I can accept the word "ashamed" but just because her mum gave birth to an innocent baby and the fact that she refused to even see d babys picture is just a sign of "wickedness" . What did that innocent child do? no lets leave the mum aside self and face the innocent child, what did that baby do?

Sometimes you have to be harsh to send your words across I dont believe in using milder words on wicked people like the poster. If she was in her early teens say 13 or 14 I can manage her words well but 21? hell no

I pray she experiences motherhood.Then she will know how painful it is to hate on an innocent child and a mother that carried a child for 9 months and went thru labour pains

You should be greatful to God, you now have a younger brother to call your kid brother

What the hell is this childish rubbish? At your age you're not too keen on seeing your baby bro? I have truly heard it all.  Are you the one caring for the baby? You even stated that your mom is back home.
My dear grow up! Your concern is what your friends think, tell me, do they pay for your schooling, feeding and rent? Will they have your back when it comes down to it?
Guess what, that baby that you are "not too keen on meeting" will most likely be there for you in the future when no else will.  Family counts.  SMDH

At poster

My advice is for u to start try to love your little brother, cos u will not be happy when your own children will develop hatred among themselves.

Remember that what you sow is what u you will reap

The Baby is a Blessing,How dear you. if we were in the 17th century of sum'in like that, You'll be stoned to death for such post.
You strike me as a "SELF-CENTERED, NARROW MINDED, INFERIOR COMPLEXED PIECE OF BRAT"
Get you "S" together and show the lil man some love.

I believe you don't want people to know that the bed still creaks at night in your house. No big deal. Help your new brother, don't let him make the mistakes you made while growing up. As for your friends, tell them the news in a happy mood, don't sound like you're reading a funeral oration. That way, they'd likely keep their opposing views to themselves.

Guys guys take it easy on the chic.
this is a confuse person wu saw this forum as the only place she can say it the way she feels
its now left for u guys to put her thru.if the parents or the family are communicatin properly,
she was suppose to get this advice from her parents,esp her mum.
if they are Nigerians, it may be difficult, cus our parents thinks they own us no explanation.
but if it were overseas,ones the mother get pregnant(as in dis type of situation),she will inform the family and prepare them for the unexpected
which is what the person is experincin now.its a strange experince to her.
so if u cannot advice,just dont condemn her.
@ poster,try and welcome the new baby as an additional blessin,u may be surprise @ how much
u will come to love him dearly in the near future.

I know that feeling.
I guess her mum didnt have the baby for her dad.
It does happen-my dad is a polygamist and I guess one of his wives is pregnant.
I'm 30

Chei! see lashing!

My first Born is about 30yrs older than me. The funniest thing is that any time i see him even he always wants me to call him daddy. though its been bout 5yrs we met. the last time i saw him he forced me to postrate and call him daddy. i was just laughing inside me but i cannot disrespect him. the same as our second born about 25 yrs older than me. was telling me one day that i know he is old enough to give birth to me. so poster its nothing new with time, you will accept it and be proud of the kid and ur parents. goodluck

Dear, the way and manner u relay this info to ur friends, goes a long way to determine how they too will react. My friend's mom too, same thing. U r not alone.

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she'll get over it once she meets the baby.

and the child probably looks exactly like her i'm sure.

Poster is seriously dumb

lwkmd!! i dun fink tis babe is serioz at all!! wuz so special abt tis sef!! ma mum gave me a sista @ 23yrs & i took d naming ceremony to da club sef!, i tire 4 u ohh, kuku tele ur popsi make him to chop him wife animur!, yeye tins don dey show face for NL ohh, i tire!!!

lovinboi:

lwkmd!! i dun fink tis babe is serioz at all!! wuz so special abt tis sef!! ma mum gave me a sista @ 23yrs & i took d naming ceremony to da club sef!, i tire 4 u ohh, kuku tele your popsi make him to chop him wife animur!, yeye tins don dey show face for NL ohh, i tire!!!

You too mush jare. . Chop Knuckle

[b][size=18pt]Hey, young lady please support your mum.  You've only got one.  You see, those friends you are turning to now, would desert you one day when you need them, my promise! I know, your worry, has a lot to do with confidence and self esteem (What might people say? Would my mates accept me?)

Of course, they would accept you, after all, it wasn't you who gave birth, was it Right now, it is an experience for you so it is for them and it won't surprise me when they start spoiling your baby brother with presents - watch this space!!

Secondly, go see your baby brother and, show him love.  I understand change is a difficulty thing for most people to accept but honest, it does you good.  Go see your brother/your mum and forget about your friends, ok!  Remember, one day you might need your family and friends won't be there for you!!!!!

In fact, when the time comes, this your baby brother will soon be kicking a man's a r s e because of you, do not say I did not tell you because, it will happen one day.   

As of your mum, look she is not your age mate, ok!  You should be thankful to have a young mother and she has proven it.  But hey young lady, you have no rights to dictate who she brings into this world, when and at what age, ok! You did not born yourself nor raised yourself, someone raised you and that's mummy. 

Yes, your mother knows what's best for her and her family so, drop this now and support her for your own good because, when your time comes mummy will always be there for you 'DO NOT FORGET THIS'.

That's all I can say! Now go see your mum and baby brother and cuddle him. Go sweet heart go, for change is a difficulty thing to manage but it does us all good!!!![/size][/b]