shitshappen:


My drycleaner was around the other Saturday and marvelled at the fact that it was just me alone with my daughter watching her cartoons and dancing to the tunes. He complained of the same thing the OP is complaining of and I gave him this same advice.

These children have minds of their own and can always tell

It's not rocket science. You cannot be unavailable physically and emotionally to the child and expect closeness.

Good job with your daughter. So many men like to absorb themselves of too much involvement with the excuse that's it's a woman's job. When the child now clings to the mum alone, they complain and start assuming the worst.

Djbond:
Over the time, I've noticed that my 1 year and 2 months old daughter does not want me to carry her or stay with me. Anytime she wakes up, and maybe her mom is outside doing some house chores she will start crying even waking me up with her loud cries, I always try to pet her but she never stops and cries until she sees her mother.

Sometimes if her mother is going to the toilet or anywhere, she will start crying and I try to pet her but still same thing. Now I'm wondering if she's truly my blood because if she is, she wouldn't be acting like that regardless of saying she's still a baby.


Also, is it possible that I'm black, her mother is black and we give birth to a fair baby cos that's the situation on ground now.
There isn't any black color on her skin

House pls, has anyone ever experienced this or is it normal cos I'm getting tired already.

It's giving me serious concerns.

Some questions should be asked...what kind of husband and father are you? Do you spend quality time with your wife and daughter ñ? Do you help around the house especially with your baby? You don't need to do much to bond with a child especially when the child is living with you.

donstan18:
Your daughter's inability to connect with you has nothing to do with DNA, but your inability to be present and close to her at all time.

People adopt kids and connect with them, it's not all about DNA.

Bring this to your wife's notice, she'll help make her feel comfortable with you.

Get close to her, pay deaf ears to her cries, bath her, feed her, play with her, gift her, laugh with her and always try to make her feel comfortable.

It shouldnt be that hard. If the problem continue, kindly buy KOBOKO!! Simple!

I like the koboko part. In short I like your humor.

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Uyi168:
Ur gate man, is he fair skinned??

Wicked! Lol

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Richy4:
I don't know how to say this properly.. I might be misunderstood.. however, I will try my best to explain.. just BRIBE HER

Any time u are coming back from work or wherever, just get her those little things like banana, peppermint, biscuits, chocolate sweet, egg roll etc.. it doesn't take much to impress kids.. as u are handing those over to her, make sure you are carrying her. Don't let your wife give her that on your behalf. If u are the type that doesn't keep soft drink at home, then start.. Say on a Saturday, bring out a bottle of Fanta.. Sit down and ask her to come. I bet u she will glue herself at your lap until that drinks finishes.. Dads' spoils their daughters.. your case will not be different.. within 2 months of this method, u will be the one that will be tired of holding her..

As she turned 6,7 or 8 yrs, u turn the bribe into negotiations.. go and do your home work or no chocolate sweet.. if u don't do this, I won't take u to the park or wherever her interest lies.. In fact u will be her number 1 well wisher.. super hero dad.. Though I wish that kids comes with manual.. so that one will know what to do..

Please drop that stupid notions about her not being your blood.. are u indirectly questioning your wife's fidelity... Some of the things I read here on NL makes me question people's level of maturity before marriage... especially when they are trying to fish when there's no pond...more like fishing on a swimming pool.

Papa wey sabi!

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extremelygolden:
I have a neighbour whose son used to behave same way towards his father. He clocked 3 years just yesterday. In fact this boy instead of calling his father daddy or baba, calls his father Baba Mustapha, and he's the Mustapha ooo. He never liked staying with his father or even allowing him to carry him. He would cry to high heavens anytime his mother steps out for a few minutes leaving him with his father.

His father started buying him things whenever he's coming back from work, and will drive him to Shoprite to just go have fun and take pictures. Today, the boy loves his father so much that if his mother beats him he will threaten to tell his father when he comes back from work. And recently he will collect his mother's phone and claim it's for his daddy. He now calls him daddy and no longer Baba Mustapha.

Try make friends with your daughter and you will be amazed at the outcome.

Lol @Baba Mustapha from Mustapha!

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