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How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Cosmass(f): 3:06am On Oct 28, 2010
There are different break up reasons, cheating, lying, violence etc that people learn to let go. How do you let go of a person that was very good to you but you had to break up due to factors such as age, religion, culture etc I find it very hard because there is nothing bad to remember about the person so how do you let go?
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by skydeep(f): 3:12am On Oct 28, 2010
Why do you have to let go? :
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Osama10(m): 3:15am On Oct 28, 2010
She gave some criteria as age, culture, religion etc.
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Cosmass(f): 3:18am On Oct 28, 2010
skydeep:

Why do you have to let go? :

The reasons are stated there. When the relationship cannot go on because of the reasons such as age, culture or religion differences etc
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by skydeep(f): 3:27am On Oct 28, 2010
With the problems stated I would have advise you to follow your heart but your family has a role to play in this when it comes to religion and culture. Unless you want to disobey them.
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Cosmass(f): 3:40am On Oct 28, 2010
skydeep:

With the problems stated I would have advise you to follow your heart but your family has a role to play in this when it comes to religion and culture. Unless you want to disobey them.

My question here is after nothing can be don and you are already broken up, how do you make it easy to heal from such break up from a good person?
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Nobody: 9:14am On Oct 28, 2010
@topic

letting go of a good man/woman for the reasons stated above is just plain silly

my 2cents
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by goldmond: 9:45am On Oct 28, 2010
letting go of a good man/woman for the reasons stated above is just plain silly
Pple hav different things they look are seroiusly mindful of in a relationship. the above reasons may not matter to you but when a relationship is serious and probably tending to marriage, all things should be considered.

How do you let go of a person that was very good to you but you had to break up
Am in d same situation and really need help too. A lady asked me out after several advances fr her now we are dating (4 about 2 months nw). She loves me so much, a good lady and she is seriously looking 4wod 2 marriage. But i know i won't marry her cos she is not my idea of "miss right"
how do i loose her cos am seriously searching for miss right as i intend to get married next year. It is defficult 4 me especially as we are in the same church and we see almost everyday and she is already "flaunting" our relationship to her friends.

mondy224@yahoo.com
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Nobody: 9:59am On Oct 28, 2010
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Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Mygoldie(f): 10:00am On Oct 28, 2010
it is very difficult to find a good man/woman these days, my advice to you is that you should not let them go,keep them at a special place in ur heart,because you migth need their presence some time in the future, that's how i see it. smiley smiley smiley
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Cosmass(f): 1:24pm On Oct 28, 2010
chaircover:

Bite me folks but shouldn't the most important things to you be thrashed out on day 1

Things like age, culture and probably religion can be spotted a mile off so why bother going out with the person in the first instance.

@goldmond why say yes when you knew all along that she wasn't your type. You didn't want to hurt her then, so you accepted her proposal but you will end up hurting her more when you break up with her so what is the achievement?

I don't understand how people just deliberately set themselves up for trouble. Remember the saying that Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

I totally agree with you. That's the same thing that hurt me. Why go on with the relationship if any of these factors was a problem.
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Cosmass(f): 1:26pm On Oct 28, 2010
Mygoldie:

it is very difficult to find a good man/woman these days, my advice to you is that you should not let them go,keep them at a special place in your heart,because you migth need their presence some time in the future, that's how i see it. smiley smiley smiley

Yeah but my main topic was about healing from such break up from such a good person
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Mygoldie(f): 1:38pm On Oct 28, 2010
its difficult for someone to heal from such breakup,but i believe as time goes on,you'll meet new people that will tend to occupy your mind, to me,i wouldn't wanna break up with a good person becos of tribe and so on,becos good people are hard to come by,these day.
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by iice(f): 1:39pm On Oct 28, 2010
chaircover:

Bite me folks but shouldn't the most important things to you be thrashed out on day 1

Things like age, culture and probably religion can be spotted a mile off so why bother going out with the person in the first instance.

I don't understand how people just deliberately set themselves up for trouble. Remember the saying that Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

Gbam

It's hard to move on from a good guy/woman.
Just remind yourself the reasons you broke up for.
Keep busy.  
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by OboBoco(f): 1:55pm On Oct 28, 2010
Cosmass:

My question here is after nothing can be don and you are already broken up, how do you make it easy to heal from such break up from a good person?


I was in a similar situation, i helped myself first by always reminding myself that we could not be lover's any more every time we see, i was not ready to lose him totally so i made him become my very close friend ( best friend i can say ) i still can rely on him anytime, i still do everything with him except getting intimate because it will complicate issues, that way you see the person, you are still happy with each other but your heart is beginning to get use to not being intimate but best of friends, with time it will fall in place and you may not even remember so much about the intimate part,  ( i call it a soft landing ). that way you will not have to go through the hurt feeling, but it takes a while to get use to it. i ended up not losing someone i love but i gained a friend and confidant, someone i can talk to, rely on, and tell all my secrets to, without looking foolish. i also opened my heart to accept other of his friends, so it helped me to cope when a new GF came into the picture, i knew i was not left out so i did not feel jealous rather we chat when necessary and he made it clear to her that they are no strings between us anymore and that we are close friends and it was going to stay that way, so she should not get in the way to spoil friendship rather she should join in the merriment and SHIP of love and understanding.

i don't know how you would do your's , but that was what worked for me.  ( MY 2 CENTS ).
Re: How Do You Let Go Of A Good Man/Woman Or Heal From Such Break Up? by Insanity(m): 2:09pm On Oct 28, 2010
^^^datz a really good advice

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