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Are you aware your child like you have a love language with which he receives and communicate love?

Do you know you can love your child and your child knows it without doubt but still doesn't feel loved?
Most parents love their kids unconditionally but not most kids feel same especially as they grow into their teenage years because it is not received in their own terms or desired behaviour. Saying I love you doesn't sufficiently pass the message. Providing basic needs should not make the children automatically accept or receive their parent's unconditional love. Still most parents show their unconditional love conditionally by only giving gifts, rewards etc when a child behave in a desired way.



Children are emotional beings, their first understanding of the world is emotional, even foetus react to anger or happiness of their mother. A child may notice his parents anger or happiness before them. So also your child perceives your love from his primary love language.



A well loved child will channel anger positively. A child or teen is more likely to consider and accept your suggestions when he perceives your love is genuine and consistent. Communicating your child's love language doesn't mean your child won't rebel later but it does brings security, hope and help them grow to responsible adults.



What a child most deeply crave to food, house, clothing, mental and emotional need is security. Security helps a child to develop rational skills, not to be withdrawn or too controlling or authoritative; putting others down to get their own needs.

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Are you aware your child like you have a love language with which he receives and communicate love?

Do you know you can love your child and your child knows it without doubt but still doesn't feel loved?
Most parents love their kids unconditionally but not most kids feel same especially as they grow into their teenage years because it is not received in their own terms or desired behaviour. Saying I love you doesn't sufficiently pass the message. Providing basic needs should not make the children automatically accept or receive their parent's unconditional love. Still most parents show their unconditional love conditionally by only giving gifts, rewards etc when a child behave in a desired way.



Children are emotional beings, their first understanding of the world is emotional, even foetus react to anger or happiness of their mother. A child may notice his parents anger or happiness before them. So also your child perceives your love from his primary love language.



A well loved child will channel anger positively. A child or teen is more likely to consider and accept your suggestions when he perceives your love is genuine and consistent. Communicating your child's love language doesn't mean your child won't rebel later but it does brings security, hope and help them grow to responsible adults.



What a child most deeply crave to food, house, clothing, mental and emotional need is security. Security helps a child to develop rational skills, not to be withdrawn or too controlling or authoritative; putting others down to get their own needs.

To be continued..

What is that issue in your relationship that worries you so much, you want good counsel for?

You want advice on something in your relationship but you feel it is not so big to disturb nairaland for yet it disturb you so much.

You have gotten advice but you still want to go deeper and bare it or with a knowledgeable one for counsel.

Or you just need to talk to someone to ease the pain in you.

Send a mail to marketthe1960@gmail.com

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Your child perceives your love from his primary love language. Although he benefits from the other love languages you speak, the primary language speaks louder than the others. Primary love language may change over time as your child grows, identifying and speaking your child's own is most important. It takes less than 5years to figure a child's love language so use all as they grow, the one the child craves more than others is their love language.


You can spot a child's love language from words like
"I know my parents love me because they always hug and kiss me"
"I feel loved because my parents always tells me positive things about me and encourage me to do better"



The love languages are:
A. Physical touch
B. Words of affirmation
C. Quality time
D. Gifts
E. Acts of service


A. Physical touch is not only in hugs and kisses but pat on the back, head, arm, holding hands etc
Most parents think a touch for boys will effeminate them but rather it will build their emotional tanks, build healthier self esteem and sex identity. Boys tend to resist hugs and kisses affection in adolescent but they need touch on back, arm etc and it should be used alot in time of sickness, hurt, funny circumstances they should be touched as girls. Boys shouldn't be hugged in public or presence of friends.
Touch should be spontaneous not forced. It can be done during
_praying by holding hands
_kisses even if your child feels old
_Group hug
_Games that requires touch like singing, clapping, jumping, spinning
_ Have tickle fights, give high five
_ Snuggle closely together when watching movies
_Hug after discipline
_ Stroke hand or rub back when they tell you about a difficult day



B. Words of affirmation, it includes:
_Words of endearment like I love you, your hair is beautiful

_Words of praise like that was a great act. It shouldn't be too often so as not to expect it and feel something wrong when not used. It should be rightly used because they know when you are lying

_words of encouragement like I noticed the way you shared your snacks, it is good to share; it encourages inner motivation to share against natural desire to board.

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You want advice on something in your relationship but you feel it is not so big to disturb nairaland for yet it disturb you so much.

You have gotten advice but you still want to go deeper and bare it or with a knowledgeable one for counsel.

Or you just need to talk to someone to ease the pain in you.

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