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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Xstremebj: 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


Alright.

I guess you've giving your best.

It's siesta time. Try and observe it.



am really in support of dis idea but instead of lying to her tell her d truth
remember love conquers alll,give birth to kids SS GENOTYPE isnt really deadly,some of d children might suffer buh with GOD'S GRACE and a good medical attention u can limit d suffering

moreover some SS rarely fall sick ,some can go through a year only small headache

Dont let her go because of genotype ,what gives u d assurance dat a lady u will find later with a suitable genotype such as AA will love or care for u

My broda make d right choice

SO My broda
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Calvarynike: 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
Attend Christ Embassy or break up the relationship
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by olasaad(f): 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
aminu114:
u either part ways or marry her and forget about having children with her. the prblm is that u are a westerner means following western style if i were u i will marry her but i wont hv any child with her then i will marry another1 to give me healthy children which i will donate one to her

Why not put it this way, instead of giving her another woman baby, why can she looks for an AA guy too to give her healthy baby and you all live happily. I mean if it's you because this is the most dumbiest advice have ever read on this forum
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Gabrielwilliams(m): 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
Breakup.. Abi? You know this but you want validation from us. Well, there u go.. Next!
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Xstremebj: 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


Alright.

I guess you've giving your best.

It's siesta time. Try and observe it.



am really in support of dis idea but instead of lying to her tell her d truth
remember love conquers alll,give birth to kids SS GENOTYPE isnt really deadly,some of d children might suffer buh with GOD'S GRACE and a good medical attention u can limit d suffering

moreover some SS rarely fall sick ,some can go through a year only small headache

Dont let her go because of genotype ,what gives u d assurance dat a lady u will find later with a suitable genotype such as AA will love or care for u

My broda make d right choice

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by BrightJay: 4:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
etrange:
Sorry, bro.

I think your question should "how best do I part ways with my girlfriend whose blood group does not match with mine?"
Genotype not blood group.
There's absolutely no issue with blood group. Blood group match is only applicable in blood transfusion.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by lollybizzu(m): 4:14pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


Sure, I have no option, my brother.

But that girl is 101% a wife material.

Lucky the man who will appreciate and wife her.

Thanks anyway.

Bro believe me all relationships mustn't end in marriage.

Just see it as God using her to make you better and you to make her better.

Believe me someone somewhere is also doing that to your future wife.
I've heard of miracles as regards this issue but you have to be doubly sure God is leading you on. Otherwise, if your faith can't carry it, just let her go. I know it's hard Pele.

Genotype compatibility is actually one of numerous confirmations that you guys are actually meant for each other.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by abescom: 4:14pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


Ok, So how best do I part with her, then?

Any suggestion from you?
Do it like I did mine. Buy a new sim, get new hobbies, be addicted to nairaland and NEVER EVER EVER make that mistake again.

Let me warn you now, if you decide to marry her, you would regret it big time.

I remember when I discovered my ex was AS, it was difficult. I had a few one nights, then got a girlfriend who was very perfect for me, but three days to engaging her she died. Six 6 years later I am here, better, have two beautiful daughters, likely to move into my own house by December as well.

It was tough, but it all got better. Cheer up, chin up, get out of your comfort zone and do something with your life, it will be end well eventually.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by FreshShavedBalls(m): 4:15pm On Oct 08, 2019
That is why I always ask my prospective dates to come along with their medical certificate of fitness for the first date

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by nextstep(m): 4:15pm On Oct 08, 2019
It's sad, but you two have to break up. Better have a few weeks/months of pain, than to knowingly birth an SS child who will be brought to suffer, and possibly ultimately die after both of you have struggled for two decades.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by georgecso(m): 4:15pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. cry She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.


Before you take any decision l strongly advice you meet at least 3 children in any hospital around who are SS.. Interview the parents if possible how they are coping.. Hear from them if its advisable to venture into such relationship.. Please come back here and share their testimonies..

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Kakamorufu(m): 4:15pm On Oct 08, 2019
run.... you have no other choice brother.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by seangy4konji: 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
Don't listen to any advice to go on.. You have to move on...

My B-Day friend we both grow up was SS out of three kids... I cry almost everytime u had to go see him at the hospital when the crisis comes.. I wish I could share the pain.. He writes exams alone after every one had did their was he some times misses it but was a genius in books.. Her is finished from school now..Firat class in stem class from Oau..dont all the financial certifications you can think of and just finish London business school and Columbia buainnfsa school through out such pain and discipline..

He is a testimony to God but a rare gem...

Some are hot lucky.. Over 6 extended and family friend never reached age 20 after constant spending..no be small spending o. No b:paracetamol and antibiotic
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Duggedised12(f): 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
Do not let anyone fool you with "there is nothing God cannot do". Even God will be angry with you for opening your eyes and diving into fire. "The days of ignorance God will overlook" , now that you know and you still want to use strong head, na you know o.

Two people have died from sick cell that i know ,one when was about 8 he was my age group then, had big stomach and yellow eyes ,we used to laugh at him then didn't know what it was, then another when i was 11 she was about 17 always in and out of hospitals ,prayers upon prayers ,she still didnt see her 20th birthday.where i used to work, the sicklers were self medicating on pentazocine just to get relief from the pain.

so you better dont deliberately bring a child into this world to suffer. This is not 1970 that you will say you didnt know.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by cooljoe(m): 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
Call off the marriage.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Xerox01(m): 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Do extensive research on the child birth process first. And read this novel "Dazzling Mirage" it relates to sickle cell, much like your case here.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by golddare: 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
You better waka if you love her, your unborn children and yourself. I tell you when jungle mature your eyes will clear and love will be no where to be found. You need to go and see Sickle cell carriers and their parents for you to understand the emotional trauma, cost etc... it's a needless trouble in this era. Some Churches wont even wed you. My friend you can go ahead if you have what it takes to bear the burden but I know one thing for sure your eyes go clear las Las. " wisdom is profitable to direct.."
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2019
olasaad:


Why not put it this way, instead of giving her another woman baby, why can she looks for an AA guy too to give her healthy baby and you all live happily. I mean if it's you because this is the most dumbiest advice have ever read on this forum
its the most dumbiest advice u ever read on this forum because u are a female and females are well known for their jealousy towards their own sex i dnt see anything wrong in marrying two wives.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by zonax(m): 4:17pm On Oct 08, 2019
I don’t need to read this in order to offer my advice, but as much as it hurts, end that relationship before it ends your joy and hers.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


@jieta, I kept the guy you quoted quiet because I don't want to dignify madness. I initially replied his first comment thinking he was joking, I never knew he was ex-raying madness.

To the issue at hand,

My brother, though its painful. After investing much time and energy, I honestly won't have much problem moving on. But my girl? Hmm! I hope she understands quickly.

Thanks though.
Give me her number let me explain things to her cheesy
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by MunorAnne(f): 4:19pm On Oct 08, 2019
If you have the money and do not see anything in terminating a pregnancy, you can still marry your girl. There's this medical procedure where couples like that check the genotype of their unborn child and if AS, they terminate it. It costs about a hundred thousand or so. Otherwise, I'll advice you let her go. The earlier, the beta.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by georgecso(m): 4:19pm On Oct 08, 2019
Xstremebj:




am really in support of dis idea but instead of lying to her tell her d truth
remember love conquers alll,give birth to kids SS GENOTYPE isnt really deadly,some of d children might suffer buh with GOD'S GRACE and a good medical attention u can limit d suffering

moreover some SS rarely fall sick ,some can go through a year only small headache

Dont let her go because of genotype ,what gives u d assurance dat a lady u will find later with a suitable genotype such as AA will love or care for u

My broda make d right choice

SO My broda

it seem you did not read what you wrote....

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by dinodangana(m): 4:20pm On Oct 08, 2019
Brotherly let me advise u this way, we aren't leaving in the old days anymore bro, this is the 21st century where technology has taken over everything, science and technology has provided solutions to millions of problems that was probably tagged impossible some couple of years ago.
Bro with the level of technology we have genotype isn't qualified to stop u from spending ur life with the love of your life, There're so many options for couples to take And CVS TESTING is the best, browse on it bro, out of all the ppl here commenting just a few like us can know ur true pain. This is the 21st century bro

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by mikywonder(m): 4:20pm On Oct 08, 2019
Dis shit killed my joy
But bro run on time
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by OdenKelechi(m): 4:20pm On Oct 08, 2019
Fact is that it's a 50/50 stuff. You can have 2 kids without having an SS child if you're lucky. But then you can be very unlucky and get 2 SS kids. It's a risk i won't advise you to take cos just one SS child will drain you emotionally and financially, let alone 2. If you must marry her, then adoption is the only option for kids. I'm AS too and once i like a girl, the first thing i do is to find out her genotype so that I'll know if we move forward or part ways
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by TGM2015: 4:21pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. cry She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.
Let her know first, that is when you will know how best to handle the issue.

Alternatively, if you do want to let go. Consult doctors, at least two to three, get to know what SS entails, any medical breakthroughs to less the chances of giving birth to SS,... No one ever believed that HIV positive couples can give birth to HIV negative children.

But in all, let her know first. Both of you can seek for advice, research on the issues, and take a mutual decision from all information you gather. I am very sure that in near future if not already available, there will be a medical solution to not giving birth to SS or managing SS children.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by wamide042(m): 4:21pm On Oct 08, 2019
Bro God will not forgive you if you go ahead and marry and you start having children on days of admissions from one hospital to another..
Dont come and punish innocent kids fir your stupid decisions.. BTW who told you, that you can’t find another loyal and wife material woman out there...

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by olasaad(f): 4:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
aminu114:
its the most dumbiest advice u ever read on this forum because u are a female and females are well known for their jealousy towards their own sex i dnt see anything wrong in marrying two wives.

Selfishness
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by deor03(m): 4:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
Sorry about this. But please don't marry

BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. cry She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Quelme: 4:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. cry She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.
You can ONLY continue with her if you are financially buoyant enough. There is a test done to know fetal genotype even before birth, right in the mother's womb called cervical vallus sampling, CVS for short .... Cost around 200-250k...
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Olu1000: 4:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
bizza45:
U already know what to do since u are typing with a heavy heart.... U must not follow ur heart shall, just gather enough money for drugs and coffins cos u will definitely need them


Blunt thruth.Till today ,I dont even know my genotype oh.A day to wedding ,I did mine and it was sent to the church directly.My wife did her own and they gave her the result there and then - AA.I guess I'm either AA or AS.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by DocRhymes: 4:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
Have a serious discussion with your fiancée

The way forward is IVF.

During the IVF process you can select embryos that are not SS and that can be transferred.

Ensure you are financially capable of doing this.
Talk to a medical professional.

Period.

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