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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by boban007: 11:50pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
SKYloafFISH:U'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. I KNOW A WOMAN , THOUGH A NICE AND QUIET PERSON , SHE WILL INSULT THE HUSBAND TO SUBMISSION. BUT COS SHE APPEARS CALM, SHE PLAYS THE VICTIM AND EVERYONE BELIEVES HER. ON THE OTHER HAND, THE HUSBAND IS A NO-NONSENSE PERSON. AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE MAN QUIETLY MARRIED ANOTHER WOMAN OUTSIDE , AND BECAME CALM AT HOME. I BELIEVE THE OP IS ALSO A TEMPERAMENTAL PERSON. IF U WANT TO REMAIN MARRIED, U WON'T BE LEAVING UR MATRIMONIAL HOME AT THE SLIGHTEST PROVOCATION, AND WON'T BE CONTEMPLATING, CHEATING JUST IN 2 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. INFACT, THIS ARE NOT THE TRAITS AND VIRTUES OF A GOOD WOMAN. IT'S TOO EARLY AND U OBVIOUSLY DON'T LOVE UR HUSBAND. LASTLY, STOP COMPARING STORIES IN MOVIES, TO REAL LIFE SITUATIONS AND LEARN NOT TO ARGUE AT EVERYTHING, IT WON'T HELP U IN ANYWAY. SOME MEN WON'T TAKE U BACK , IF U DARE LEAVE UR MATRIMONIAL HOME. AND U WILL BE REPLACED, ASAP. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:50pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
MrSly: Interpret! |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by generationz(f): 11:51pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
omonikiba: What will you do if your hubby tells you five different times that you are completely useless. He didn't say I don't love you anymore o. He said you are completely useless. As in, your child bearing, financial contribution, cooking and cleaning, sex, emotional support and the fact that he can be respected as a married man outside are all useless. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Caleycash(m): 11:51pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
ecolime:i thought as much... I have friend like that too he has serious anger issues, everything is not cheating!, please listen to this advice your hubby has anger issues start off from there and remove any thoughts of cheating, I bet he is not! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Midas01: 11:52pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Like your mama own abi? GogobiriLalas: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:52pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
dominique: I just knew I would see this type of post |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by sayisayi(m): 11:54pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I detest one sided stories....would have been better that you asked him to submit his side of the story too. From the two testimonies, we could deduce the koko. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Olu1000: 11:54pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Octopusssy: Wow!! Lovely advice!! I've found my wife.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Unrated900(m): 11:54pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
The point is that you guys didn’t studied your self before you both got married My questions is that did you married legally Or did you just took in and hook him up with the Pregnancy and get wedded Your husband isn’t cheating on you. He is just a temperamental person Everything he says isn’t coming from his heart It was just a mere word of his. I see no Reasons why you have to developed interest in outside Mind you their are millions of single women out there looking for a good man like your man Please embrace your husband seat him down and talk to him Be his guardian angel Looking outside or getting a Bleep mate will worsen the whole scenario Don’t be surprise if your husband marries your best friend at the end. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by udemzyudex(m): 11:54pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
blank: Lol..I go with you,I wonder how some people just find it easy to say sh1t words at their partner. Bad words from someone you least expected can drain you down. The man is just being childish,was he force into marriage? Well I hope you they sort things out soon ,call both families together and resolve any issues,it's just 2 years for Christ sake. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:55pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I hate it when a husband tells his wife to leave his house; it happens mostly amongst illiterates; partially thanks to nollywood and also a father threatening to chase a child away from home, like seriously!!! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:55pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
truthsayer009: Actually wanted to tag you. To come see what your elder brother is doing. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by nedekid: 11:56pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
blackboy:Seeking attention outside? Or she is already getting attention outside 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by godfrey01(m): 11:56pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
blank: See your mouth.. Who is the Head of the house. Who is paying the rent. There is something the woman is not telling us. Do you think is all men that can stand offensive words from a woman without retaliating back.. Thank God for my type. Whenever my woman will start barking, I will just get my headset and start listening to music cos I don't want to hear noise. Or better still just take. Stroll.. When her mind Don come down then we go talk... 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Caleycash(m): 11:57pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Mstick:Her husband is not cheating he has anger issues simple, all you stupid home wreckers knows is albout CHEATING!, rubbish, any small thing cheating so people are not born temperalmental again!? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Fashdeejay(m): 11:58pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
There are too many things you are getting wrong, as a couple ... but this is for u, as a woman. Arguments, over minute issues, u don't exactly respect your husband, yes he can be an ass but, you respect him and accept his bs when tempers are flaring. Swallow your pride and stop reading chimanda adichie books, they'll only ruin Ur marriage. If he says he doesn't like a thing, why argue? He is your husband, tell him you are sorry make necessary adjustments, when things calm down... and all heads are cool, u sit and talk and reach a reasonable conclusion... You are his wife, you bear his name, respect him, don't be a hot head, you should be the sane one... but then, did u ever really love him, or u just wanted to get married? Understand your husband, it's part of the job description. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by flexyrule(m): 12:00am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Till we hear your husband's side of the story... Meanwhile...
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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Kokaine(m): 12:01am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:I may normally not have read a message like this but the topic drew my attention because I can relate to something in it. I actually think I have the tendencies to be in your husbands shoes. Or at least act like him depending on the scenario. Can I ask you some questions ma? 1. You said you are working? Does he value you as a complement in his financial life or as a liability. What do you really contribute to his welfare? Do you see yourself as a complement or a liability? 2. What attitudes do you give him when making demands. Like when you told him to buy baby food. Was there an attitude you think he was actually reacting to? 3. In what state of his life did you meet him? Does he have any course to feel you were with him because he was financially capable of marrying you and not because of love? Because statements like that emanate when the garb is off. The initial smokescreen that beclouded his/your judgement before getting married. And now you guys realise you don't really like each other as such. It was just a marriage of convenience and proximity. 4. At what age did you marry him? Could it be a pressure from within you and a fear you were not getting any younger that pushed you to marry him. Obviously this type of behavior doesn't wake up one day. There were red flags during courtship. Did you ignore all the red flags because he was the only option 5. You have a good command of English language so I can't say you are not educated and so have started to irritate him with illiteracy. But do you match him intellectually? Do you have interests in common, do you watch news or follow events of politics up the way he wants in a companion. This is your side of the story. It could be that you have a way of placing him under mental pressure and you are not aware. Either by way of unnecessary argument or emotionally depressive attitudes. You should look within. Men are nice creatures by nature. If all the answers to these questions are positive, and you actually are not doing anything that degrades respect, then I think he has a problem of aggression. Angry people do or say things they don't really mean to say. You should work on your finances and bring certain infrastructure into the house so he stops seeing you as someone he is squatting. Let him see you as a co-owner of the home 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by feyisy86(m): 12:03am On Oct 14, 2019 |
I will advise you stay away from him for a while till he can behave himself to aviod violence Remember na who dey alive fit take care of baby. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Hotfella(m): 12:05am On Oct 14, 2019 |
In my own experience, been married to my wife for 5 years now, lived together for 7 years in total and known each other for 19 years. You would think all will be soooo smooth. Right? Wrong! When we started living together, it was WAR. My wife is super stubborn and always likes to have the last and final say. Me, I had anger issues, the results was chaos. My wife has a PhD in packing her bags, small quarrel, kpam, five minutes, all her load don ready near door. Give me transport, I am leaving. Friends o, family, pastor, landlord, neighbors nobody wey no settle us that time. I love my wife to the moon and back. So I adapted. Regardless of who is right or wrong, I make peace, she will smile and wahala end. Over the years, I learnt that one person must give in when arguments or misunderstandings arise. Worst case scenario meet half way. If you must have your way, come rain come shine, cannot apologize when you are wrong, cannot look at the big picture, the picture you had in your mind when you said I do, cannot sacrifice for the greater good, wahala dey o, dat marriage is going nowhere. My 2 cents... 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooltola(m): 12:08am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Instead of you coming on nairaland.com, when you and your husband are both calm . Tell him you are not happy and communicate . Let him know |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Igetmyown247: 12:10am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Theres no perfect marriage. Pray, forgive, apply wisdom, have patience. If you wanna leave to be with someone else know that the grass is not always greener on the other side. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by chronique(m): 12:10am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Sorry to say but you are married to someone that his head is not correct. What is the meaning of "leave my house" anytime there's an argument? If he could stay alone in the first place, why did he get married? And then again, what husband forgets to buy baby food and gets into a quarrel with his wife over such issues and the next thing he says is "leave my house"? Like, he didn't even think of the baby at that point? Secondly, why pick offence over foodstuffs brought by your mother-in-law? These issues are quite trivial for it to degenerate into someone saying leave my house. I just think your husband is immature. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by deavicky(m): 12:13am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Ur own better!!!! If i tell my wife to pack her things and leave, she will not even do as if she heard anything. Though i haven't said such words to her anyway but i know my wife and her reactions. 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by foi59: 12:14am On Oct 14, 2019 |
LadySarah:Pls accept my ehug. I hug really tight tho 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Bungay: 12:14am On Oct 14, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by boban007: 12:16am On Oct 14, 2019 |
eni4real:BEST POST OF THE YEAR. THIS IS WISDOM AND MATURITY, ROLLED INTO ONE. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 12:16am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Marital troubles after just 2 years of marriage?! |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Bungay: 12:17am On Oct 14, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Fashdeejay(m): 12:18am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: the fact that he left the house doesn't mean he is cheating, no body chose him for you, so you shouldn't ask how u got here. Couples r meant to compliment each other, when he's hot, you are the cooling agent, when you are hot, he's your cooling factor. Arguments will happen but if you understand the principles of soft spoken words, you'd make a headway. Dont let your ego and u trying to be at par with Ur husband ruin your marriage. If your biggest concern is truely your child and not the new attention you are getting else where you will become a submissive wife to your husband, learning as time goes the principle of actions and reactions , rippling effects, with the hopes that u stop looking at the now and project 10 years into the future... Try to show him love and respect for one week, don't shout, don't be commanding, don't be aggressive, when he's yelling don't try to find out if your voice is louder, just say "baby, I am sorry".... Take the insults and BS, and see if there will be a difference... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 12:18am On Oct 14, 2019 |
boban007:Exactly! |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 12:18am On Oct 14, 2019 |
blackboy: Make it work? It takes two people to make marriage work. Not one person. Why should the onus be on the woman to "make it work" everytime? Op, I think you should see a marriage counsellor 2 Likes |
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