| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Mariangeles(f): 11:33pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Pavarottii:
I pity u, sooner or later u will know what u av done to urself... Be thinking the money She is making is for Taking care of the family...  1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:34pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Pavarottii:
Yes can't she die single... Following ur analogy... It will be better if he or she does single.., abi? This ones brain is under his keypad. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by setobaba: 11:34pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
ekitimanalways:
What has tribe got to do marital problems?  Don't start using collective words (marital problems) yet, the guy is having serious anger issue and some tribes are known to be angry |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by franchasng: 11:34pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Pavarottii:
I pity u, sooner or later u will know what u av done to urself... Be thinking the money She is making is for Taking care of the family... lol. My mom made more money than my father when we were growing up and she was more than awesome as a wife and mother and friend and sister. My sister makes as much money as her hubby and all is going on well. My brothers married financially valuable ladies doing well in their own fields too. My wifey to be is a medic, and I am going to help her so we can even own a family hospital by God's grace. She knows I don't need her dime, but I support her every dream and move. So don't worry about me bra, worry about others and how we can make Nigerian government start working so more Nigerians can succeed financially and build a happy family  7 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:35pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
beeijeoma:
Op truly your hubby has been disrespectful to you but all marriages go through teething problems . Mindset is very important in marriage and you need to decide from the beginning if you want in or out. 2 years in marriage is still early days and you guys are trying to understand each other and establish your boundaries. Words hurt but after a while you just shrug it off . If I go down memory lane and think of some of the names my hubby has called me I would have left him a long time ago. We have been together for 10 years now and I am enjoying my marriage like mad. If you and your hubby are talking and he starts getting upset keep quiet and say nothing. The day you know he is calm and okay go and talk to him and air your grievances. . Fighting and arguing does not help issues will only escalate. My husband is always worried when he gets annoyed and I don't talk he prefers arguments but I am now an expert in keeping mute. The only thing I cannot take is beating any other thing I just ignore. Just like you are a professional and well travelled are so many other women who are dealing with marital issues. If he says leave ignore him, if he leaves ignore him. If you ask him to do something for you and he forgets ignore and do it yourself. Don't let anger rule your heart choose to apply wisdom . I like this one.. Op come and learn o... 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Mariangeles(f): 11:35pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Gforce2015:
My broda, read btw the line you see more than what the op has just scripted.... You can't be of great value to the family and a right thinking guy will tell you that you are not valuable to him...
I'm a guy, I know how it works...
Prophet Gforce2015, the seer !  |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by airminem(f): 11:37pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
he care for both you with a devotion bordering on obsession. |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by franchasng: 11:37pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:
Indeed. Are you not the double-mouthed pattot again. You won't understand, I am already blessed with the best woman any young man can dream of and I am proud of her and what she is becoming everyday, and I will support all her dream, u should be happy for me about that sis, stop being a sadist for no reason  8 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:37pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
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| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by executive12: 11:37pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
LadySarah:
Bearing in mind that your name sounds muslim,are you sure a second wife isnt loading?
What needs to be said.
1a.When someone says hurtful things to you during a quarell,that is wht they have been thinking about you.
1b. 5x and you always come back.You are a good woman but Its time to change tactic.
2.The house belongs to both of you.If he says leave,dont leave.If he didnt push you or your stuff out,stay.Dont give him room to keep disrespecting you.Go to the fridge,take enough food then back to the sitting room.Make sure you stretch your legs well on the cushion and watch your favorite movie.You can Play a song and sing away .you can also Run around the house with your bby
If your presence irritates him,then he should leave.If he doesnt come back and the house is rented,make sure you stay till the last day of rentage and go back to ur parents,thats if he refuses to renew it.
Thankfully,their home is opened for you.
3.The baby's welfare should be paramount to both of you.so,if he didnt buy it,both of you should endure the crying.Do not initiate any discussion anymore .
4.At this stage,you shouldnt think of another baby.Theres no peace here.Work on yourselves.
5.Pray.Counselling is also neccessary.If he refuses to go then let him be.
6.If it gets physical,Nne,run!!!!!!!!!! .
PLS,Thankfully you work.Stop these arguments.Ignore him when he tries to provoke you.Dont watch warroom .Pls make yourself happy.You owe it to yourself.Dont let any human define your happiness.
Well said. Very good advice. |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:38pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
franchasng:
You won't understand, I am already blessed with the best woman any young man can dream of and I am proud of her and what she is becoming everyday, and I will support all her dream, u should be happy for me about that sis, stop being a sadist for no reason I see. One alfa male has found love. He is now retracting his previous submissions. I wish you both the best. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:38pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:
Lol. It is funny how when a man disrespects his wife, you all will CALMLY claim it is because she is not contributing - FINANCIALLY.
But would still bash Naija women for wanting FINANCIALLY CAPABLE MEN.
You still want same Naija women to RESPECT their husbands who are not meeting their FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS.
Why?
Because he has BIG PRICK.
The double standard is nauseating. My broda, different strokes for different folks... Marriage is for a mature mind... So, adaptability is the watchword... But how will this lady adapt to what she didn't prepare for? I pray you wouldn't lose your marriage o! So many ladies come to marriage thinking that all men are great providers, defender , caring, intelligent, mature etc.. it's a lie... Not all men have all what it takes to be a good husband... And unfortunately the wife that supposed to match the guy flaws wants to Japa to her parent House... Obviously , the wife came from a comfortable family... 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by dave4rella(m): 11:39pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
 Sorry about everything madam You both need to see a therapist Also try to avoid arguments and confrontations Your marriage must work IJN 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by richie240: 11:39pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband
Dear all
I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.
Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it. You've told us d 'disrespectful' tns he says during arguments, but what abt u? What 'nasty' words do u say? #2_sides_2_a_coin Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house, ur hubby cuts across as sm1 who lacks patience, an egoistic person. You urself are not better- u have a 'hot' body, aka fire_4_fire personality. This needn't have resulted into argument talk less of fighting if one of u have bn more mature, patient and forgiving. At least one of u shd learn to bridle d tongue when d other is agitated. I got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time. #Pride, ego! I for see a 6th, 7th, 8th t time if u don't work on these two! On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.
Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .
but he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. You shd learn to forgive/overlook certain tins if u really want ur marriage to last! Granted he forgot to buy it, and so? What stops u from going to get it there and then/the next day just to prevent argument? Lady, talk true, u sef get ur own for body. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.
I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else. I laff in idoma. More like cutting d nose to spite the tongue. You think he's cheating, no concrete proof, just speculations. Let's even assume he's cheating, so infidelity on ur part to get even will salvage ur marriage? Note when d bubble bursts, dts d #perfect prelude to u permanently packing ur bagz and baggage to ur parents house. Ppl will focus more on ur own adultery more than his. I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this. ur child need not grow up to see u being 'disrespected like this'. Learn to bridle your tongue, be more forgiving and overlook ur spouses defects the more.The key to the success of ds marriage lies solely with u. Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all Here we go again. Why must u argue in d first place. Lady, pls bear it in mind dt he's a man, he's wired differently from u. What a female might consider as reminder might be 'nagging' to a man. You know d tins dt preceed arguements in ur house/home. Be the proverbial wise woman: work around it.....but most imptly, bridle ur tongue. Me, I yaff torked my own o. Ehn-ehn 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by generationz(f): 11:39pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Rexology:
The level of Jungle justice in Nigeria is alarming and should be checked. A young lady reported her husband's attitude of allegedly disrespecting and disregarding her, without hearing from the husband, judgment is been served against him already. Sadly this is what we have become in this Country.
Since I have not heard from your husband to have a true picture of the situation, I am not in a position to advice you . Beware of the counsels you get from people online or offline. Most people advising you here are either single or had a failed marriage.
In all remember that "a wise man builds her home but a foolish man destroys it"
Peace!
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| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by winkmart: 11:40pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Maybe you are jobless |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 11:40pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Gforce2015:
My broda, read btw the line you see more than what the op has just scripted.... You can't be of great value to the family and a right thinking guy will tell you that you are not valuable to him...
I'm a guy, I know how it works...
The man has an issue with her, thats why he's saying that. I dont think its to do with money. Hes just trying to hurt her feelings 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:41pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Hedonisco:
All these stubborn 'independent woman' kind of women and their wahala. A massive turnoff and a no no for men who desire peace and sanity. Even for casual sexual flings and relationships sef, I can't stand these headstrong, over-opinionated, coarse, prideful, disrespectful types. Prick can't stand for such rubbish creatures. Not to mention going the whole mile to wife her. God forbids. V for Vendetta  |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by manitoba(m): 11:41pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband
Dear all
I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.
Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.
Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,
i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.
On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.
Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .
But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.
I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.
I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.
Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?
Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all
Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.
Emotionally, i am done. Men that don't respect their women are beast. I can't allow my sisters or daughters around such. To be separated is better than enduring abusive relationship. But in all, hearing his own side will allow one give proper advice. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Toks2008(m): 11:42pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband
Dear all
I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.
Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.
Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,
i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.
On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.
Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .
But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.
I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.
I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.
Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?
Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all
Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.
Emotionally, i am done. I see absolutely no problem here. It is about how you respond to it. Please ignore him whenever he asks you to leave or tell him jovially that he will be the one to leave and you will be amazed how he will laugh over it. Most issues we see in our marriages are nothing to worry about. Please stay in your marriage and focus your energy on more important things. PEACE. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by franchasng: 11:43pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:
I see. One alfa male has found love. He is mow retracting his previous submissions.
I wish you both the best. you can go through all my posts, I have always encouraged ladies to be financially valuable before marriage, not because i want them to be spending on their husbands, no, but for their own security and to give them a sense of self worth and personal happiness and love. I have never supported housewife ideology. Which rich man on earth married a housewife except in Nigeria where average men marry housewife and feel like they are don for keeping a housewife. By Gods grace if I have a daughter in future, I will do my best to ensure she is financially empowered before she agrees to marry any man, I am not doing it for her husband but for her own security and value 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by lloyds(m): 11:43pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Marriages of now a days self, after 2 years u are already started saying am done.
It's a one sides story for now.
God is the author of marriage and have u asked him for counsel and direction on this personally?
Pele, while praying. .ask for wisdom, patience and tolerance grace till the hand of God sorts out things. . 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Kazeemakeem(m): 11:45pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband
Dear all
I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.
Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.
Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,
i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.
On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.
Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .
But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.
I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.
I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.
Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?
Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all
Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.
Emotionally, i am done. Ure a Muslim I guess, can I talk to him,he need to be talked to no that he will came down totally |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Ybaby: 11:45pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
ifyalways:
Whatever you do, do not call or text or contact him in anyway to beg him, invite or ask him to come back home. Take a deep breathe, put your feet up and enjoy some peace and quiet.
Tomorrow, take a piece of paper and write down boldly that you will not accept disrespect and emotional abuse from him anymore. List out all his disrespectful attitudes and let him know that as hes walking back into the door, he had better drop them. No negotiations. Also let him know that you are ready to make the marriage work but only if hes ready and willing. Paste or keep it where he'd surely see it whenever his petty ars.e come back.
Emotional abuse and disrespect is as bad as physical abuse. Getting up from the floor, setting boundaries and standing firm is the only way to stop being anyones door mat. Love and treat yourself right FIRST .
This advise should not be taken with a pinch of salt. Straighten that over grown baby. No shouting no argument - practically act like he no longer exists and be for real about it. Only accept huge financial apologies in the future - no smiling, joking, playing - be your own happiness. Your Dad must be hurting. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Caleycash(m): 11:45pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
blank:
Lock the door and send his clothes out to him. Tell him he is of no importance to you and you have decided to move on. Good luck.
I can't stand such disrespect. on the long run you'll find out you are doing yourself... marriage is not bed of roses, better be prepared oo 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by generationz(f): 11:45pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
Thanks all. I appreciate.
Truly speaking, i am just tired of it all.
I do not know how a very comfortable young girl, working in the health sector, traveling to different countries for conferences ended up here.
I feel like this is my life now, no light at the end of this tunnel
No my husband isn’t broke we earn really really well and i am not doing baldly either.
My biggest worry is for my child.
Also when is enough is enough?
I dont want to loose myself. I am just 26.
So sorry for ranting but it is better than talking to family members that will gossip about you.
There are either of two things involved here. Either there is another woman he is comparing you to Or He has serious emotional issues that make him feel he can do without people or women all together. This is mostly caused by not having a good mummy figure around during childhood. How was his childhood growing up? Was it traumatizing? Did he loose his mommy? 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Protein0: 11:46pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Rexology:
The level of Jungle justice in Nigeria is alarming and should be checked. A young lady reported her husband's attitude of allegedly disrespecting and disregarding her, without hearing from the husband, judgment is been served against him already. Sadly this is what we have become in this Country.
Since I have not heard from your husband to have a true picture of the situation, I am not in a position to advice you . Beware of the counsels you get from people online or offline. Most people advising you here are either single or had a failed marriage.
In all remember that "a wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman destroys it"
Peace!
This is the best reply from the first page to this point. I'll read to the very last page tho even if it will take me days. This is the kind of thread worthy of FP. God bless you. In marital issues especially, hearing from only a side is the highest form of injustice one can commit. By the time the man narrates his side of the story, ground will be full. I'm not in support of abuse or disrespect of any form but then, the husband deserves to be heard too. Moving out 5times in barely 2years of marriage, beginning to seek attention outside, leaving the house around 12am, and some other hints from op's narrative make me unusually interested in hearing from the man too. A whole lot of things are involved in this matter. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by lifeisbeautiful: 11:47pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I understand how you feel,I believe you both court before the marriage,two masters or sailors can not sail a ship at a go,women are mothers but our generation ladies lost it all. If a house or family is sweet and peaceful it's the work of the woman will on the other way round it's the woman as well. Sit down ask yourself this questions
1 what are you contributing to the family ?
2 what are your plans for the family?
3 how do you bring out the best in your man?
4 how submissive are you ?
Many more,most people will give you advice that will mislead you,if you can accord your husband the same respect you give your father problem no go dey.some are naturally insatiable despite they might have a good woman but if you can tolerate him know his problems and submit yourself to him then you will leave happily again please don't loss your family because of misunderstandings that you can ammend. Buhari regime can frustrate people but if you are not close to his heart to know is worry you will keep misunderstanding each please say no to single mother. Our mother pass thru alot before they could understand our farher. |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by MrSly(m): 11:47pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband
Dear all
I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.
Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.
Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,
i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.
On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.
Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .
But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.
I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.
I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.
Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?
Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all
Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.
Emotionally, i am done. Married for just two years and you are already seeking for love, attention, bla bla bla, yeah yeh yeah yeh yeh.... A na ekwugheli!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:49pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
dominique:
Men vowing they can't live in homes owned by their wives should come and see threads like this, they don't want to endure what women have been enduring for centuries. Nobody should have a monopoly of disrespect, if you can't take it, don't give it.
How would a right thinking guy live in a home owned by a woman? Who then is the breadwinner and the head of the family? I know you are a feminist ladies... Continue! 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Ybaby: 11:49pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
franchasng:
you can go through all my posts, I have always encouraged ladies to be financially valuable before marriage, not because i want them to be spending on their husbands, no, but for their own security and to give them a sense of self worth and personal happiness and love.
I have never supported housewife ideology.
Which rich man on earth married a housewife except in Nigeria where average men marry housewife and feel like they are don for keeping a housewife.
By Gods grace if I have a daughter in future, I will do my best to ensure she is financially empowered before she agrees to marry any man, I am not doing it for her husband but for her own security and value Yimu! my neighbour is the one working - the way her jobless husband beat her this weekend was quite alarming - she pays for everything but na black eye - abusers no who they can abuse. It is good to have money as a woman absolutely but to stop abuse is to value oneself enough to remove oneself from the abuser. No one will tell a woman to leave her abusive husband except her father and her sense. SImples! 9 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by executive12: 11:49pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:
Thanks all. No i am not a Muslim.
Couples will always have misunderstandings, we are 2 different people with different upbringing so we will always have mis understanding even siblings do.
I just get tired of all the leave my house and stuff.
How do I commit to a marriage financially (although, i do) and emotionally when i can be kicked out any day?
Also isn't the house s ours?
Secondly, how do I protect my child from all this?
Also I believe that every time he apologizes, i tell myself that maybe it was my fault and then i just let it go and go out of my way to please him again. I do not give him space to work on it too in other words,enabling this to continue.
Either ways thanks guys. Of course, the house belongs to both of you. You have to let him understand that. Let him know he does not have the right to ask you to leave the house. 1 Like |
