Zhuhilat:
Thanks all. I appreciate.

Truly speaking, i am just tired of it all.
I do not know how a very comfortable young girl, working in the health sector, traveling to different countries for conferences ended up here.

I feel like this is my life now, no light at the end of this tunnel

No my husband isn’t broke we earn really really well and i am not doing baldly either.

My biggest worry is for my child.
Also when is enough is enough?
I dont want to loose myself. I am just 26.

So sorry for ranting but it is better than talking to family members that will gossip about you.

What attracted you to your husband?

Was he respectful before marriage? Does he respect others around him? How is the relationship with him parents? Who earns more in the home? Who has a richer background?

cooooooks:
How has your comment helped her matter?

If you have nothing to say, watch TV. What kind of a comment is "it's one of those things".

How ur own comment take help, mind you it's not about me but about her.
I told her to make it work that makes better sense than the rubbish you typed

bukatyne:


Fireproof.

I am nice like that

Loool nobody recommends fireproof because the man misbehaved got hold of himself and did all the work to make his marriage right again

It seems making a marriage work in Nigeria is only the duty of the woman even when its the husband that is misbehaving.

elektra:


Somebody needs to make an equivalent of War Room for men
A movie that will provide solution for all their marital problems.
Women cannot be enjoying magical movies alone

Keep enduring..check yourself too.

Sorry sis, dis always happens when ur partner wants to get out of an unhappy relationship. Probably, he was manipulated into marrying u. If so, its not gonna end well except divorcing him immediately.

elektra:


Somebody needs to make an equivalent of War Room for men
A movie that will provide solution for all their marital problems.
Women cannot be enjoying magical movies alone

There is a movie entitled** fire proof** it's for everyone. .

Men and women should see that movie ASAP

Cant judge him nor will i give an advice on this cos their re two sides to story.
U guys shuld visit a marriage counselor. Nd pls cheating is nt an option, pls dnt try it.

Remember marriage is 4 beta for worst.Albeit u wanna do a celebrity kind of union.Any small ish its divorce.

Madam, you cherish and wants to remain married but you ignored one policy . Every relationship works when one sacrifices for the other, I see you always want to get everything sorted and talked about unfortunately your husband is not a man who thinks before saying, he thinks after pronouncing words .
To keep your marriage, avoid whatever that causes the argument, it's easier to bear it than to bear the words you man utters . Pls no marriage is best, it's all about package, I package mine so u should do same.(pls I do not blame u, I just want u to have a key to succeed in that marriage.). One love

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Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

First, was it a forced marriage? did he initially planned marrying someone else before he got married to you? these are questions that needs answers. But then if there is no atom of love and respect in the marriage my sister what's the point?.. however do what is best but don't mess around with people who doesn't worth it cause you might regret later. Good luck

How are you supporting him financially? Madam you have a big ego, you might be good looking have a good job , can get any man. But what guarantee do you have that the new man will not be worse. If he does not beat you . You can make the marriage work. Just lower your ego and offer help financially even if he does not ask

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

Too bad of him, that’s what you get when you have an immature husband.

It works both ways, some wives put their husbands through the same torture.

I’m sure If your salary eclipsed his he’ll be worshipping you.

Get elders to talk to him, if he’s responsible he’ll definitely change.

Forgive him again

Hmmm.... both of you are financially comfortable.... each doesn't need the other....he sees no more benefit in you... and that would make you think why did he really marry you. More likely.... he is seeing someone else..... and why at this stage of would you talk about seeing someone outside the relationship? ...tells me that someone is on pause... or you have already started an outside relationship and are here for some kind of justification. Both of you are about yourselves since absolutely no consideration is given to the child. If there was love...it has turned to hate. Only the two of you can settle your demons.

See how these single brothers and sisters that have never dated before talk more of marriage are forming marriage counselor

I'm very sure dis aunty is about to or has been placed on a good dick diet from on street nigga and she's just looking for excuses to kill her guilt...

theButterfly:
Verbal abuse ✔

Emotional abuse ✔

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I am sure people like you are disappointed OP did not say the guy was beating her. But in spite of that you somehow came up with a formula that suģests he will soon beat her, therefore she should pack and leave.

Well am not married and I know little to nothing about marriage but one thing I know is the feeling of happiness + my sanity. and I will cut anyone off to keep it.

Op happiness matters there is much to life than paying bills and patching a marriage. There is a dolly parton song that talked about a lady constantly abused and snubbed by her hubby she waited for the kids to grow in the song and left to search for happiness.

argument and anger is bad in marriage and relationships. argument can make someone to say what he or she doesn't want to say.for your own good stop arguing with your husband.

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

Marriage is all about all round maturity. Your hubby is suffering from emotional immaturity. Funny how you didn't see the handwriting on the wall while you guys were dating.

what's your husband religion? why not talk to a pastor or imam he listen to or a family member he respect to discuss things out with him. what cause this things could be



1. you're the only active person that made the relationship lead to marriage. he's only inn with body and not in spirit


2. he's proud or a sadist. such person needs counsellor or love ones to nurtured him


3. he didn't meet you virgin. I know of a street guy at Nnewi then, that said his future wife should better be a virgin or else she go suffer in his hand


4. you're a full house wife



whichever one it is, follow my first sentence. you don't deserved to be treated that way as you're legally married to him

Charmingrascal:
See how these single brothers and sisters that have never dated before talk more of marriage are forming marriage counselor

Experienced single people full here o, you’d be shocked

You are sounding as if you have decided what to do already

Anyway, if you intend to give the marriage another trial, I will suggest that you refrain from arguing with your husband at any slightest provocation.

* Learn to talk less.
* Be calm and happy.
* Dress neatly all the time.
* Wear perfume and sexy clorhes at home while with your hubby.
* Try and save more money from your salary for your financial independence.
* Live a happy life.
* Try to find out the reason for some of his decisions and support any good idea he brings

First 2 to 5 years of marriage can be unpleasant for some couples due to reconciliation of differences resulting from the different backgrounds.

Finally, come back and confess the result here.

For me, I don't think the woman is contributing to the family... Is like the woman is a parasite... And the man think am so tee ... And he come dey take am dey talk to am...
Lemme say this: ladies of nowadays supposed to make themselves valuable by contributing to the family financially... I dated a lady sometime ago, the only value I saw in that lady was ; she can cook n make love very well... This is not good enough for a guy... Make yourself more resourceful and valuable in some many aspects... Research on things that I'll make you indispensable before your husband and do them...
The era of housewife has past... Ladies of easy virtue ain't selling any more....
I'm a guy, can you imagine Mrs. Ibukun awosika or Folorunsho alakija 's husband telling her to pack and that she's not valuable....
Something is missing... The truth must be told... Work on yourself ... You can used makeup to attract a guy but marriage is more than that...
To some guys, this is not a big deal but to your husband , it's a big deal... So work on yourself...
Period! and thank me later

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

watch war room watch war room what's in this war room sef

This 1 loud gan. I think he feels irritated around you.

i know it must be afonja family, marriage means nothing to them and their men dont treat their women nice

No singles should contribute on this sensitive topic please!!!

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

Wow!
While I feel bad with what you're going thru, I equally will say that there are always 2 sides to every story.
Lemme say that it is totally wrong and unacceptable for a man to disrespect a woman, to say the least, no to talk of his wife in that manner.
The way you feel right now is 'normal' and I dont blame you...but see it from the perspective of the cravings outside might be worse off; so dont!
The fact that you're not jobless and you bring something to the table should definitely count and that is a plus. Where I'm going to scold you from is the arguing...since you know he wont let issues go without a fight, why do you bother to argue with him? DON'T!!!
Couples argue and fight, that's normal, but when you see it is degenerating to that point, please let go and walk away; it is pointless.
I am a man and will tell you this...he will come around! We have our moments, and this is clearly one of he's. Stay focused on your child and home and continue to trust in and pray to God.
People usually dont know the value of what they have till it is gone...

elektra:


Somebody needs to make an equivalent of War Room for men
A movie that will provide solution for all their marital problems.
Women cannot be enjoying magical movies alone

watch fireproof

You told him to buy baby food, he forgot, and that led to a serious argument? It shows you are the trouble maker here