the husband is not a real nigarrr.

real nigarrrz in this situation take some bottles, parcels of weed and bang some babes to put wife in order.

tosynbaba:
hahahaahhahahaaahahahahhhahahahhaha



So you mean you'd agree to live the rest of your life in misery because of a book written by your fellow men over 2000 years ago?




Don't be ridiculous

it's not funny o, it's a serious issue, you just have to solve the issues amicably, you are in it and can't come out.

anath:

Yeah, that was how I was scared until I got married to my love. The secret when u are dating remove love ,show the lady what u want in ur life. If she doesn't want it during the dating Oga fly. But during dating u observed submission and understanding. Guy the others will b added in future...

people change so there are no guarantees!

Filmewell:

Bros which one is in my house again? So na visitor she be?

Sorry if you feel offended by that. So I change it to "our" or "their" house. But truth be told, the man is the head of the house and it was in that light I made the statement. Afterall, there cannot be two captain in a ship.

What I just see in the case is that no matter the depression, she should have felt remorseful for her those children. And this thing has repeated itself and she doesn't ever feel bad about hitting them or tryiy to stop. It only shows she's not a good person. And she's playing you with silence so that you'll fall again.

Do away with her, even if you love her. Three thing is your children must never be in her care because she'll raise them to be bad ppl or brutalize them in the end. Carry your children to your mother's place. Gosh! This woman is bad.

If she wanted to good, you'd have known since all these years.

This lady just threw a good man away. She is taking you for granted.

Officialgarri:
Tell her you have made up your mind to marry a younger wife. Eat outside, come home late. I hope she will begin to use her senses

She will kill him oooo[color=#000099][/color]

Genqq:
Sometimes? Dude you should regret that sham of a marriage ALL the time.

Moreso, that dirty thing you call a wife should be in jail for the ABUSE she inflicted on those little CHILDREN. You are also an enabler of child abuse by refusing to report her to relevant authorities.

Forget these women citing "depression" etc.. sometimes a badly behaved woman is simply a badly behaved woman and should be treated accordingly.

I can't stand simps who employ KIDS for their LAZY wives in the guise of "housemaids" and further turn a blind eye to the maltreatment of these innocent maids

You and that w!tch must be jailed.

Seconded

Officialgarri:
Tell her you have made up your mind to marry a younger wife. Eat outside, come home late. I hope she will begin to use her senses

And you think this kind of lady will hesitate to kill her husband?

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

What was she like before you got married?
Be honest!

hi bro, I went thru this too, however, i have a counsel for your send me your phone number, to my email i will call you elogionic (at) gmail dot com

Bro i feel your pain this is an advance case of poor anger management. You need to find out her previous experience about life before you got married to her. Its obvious she had an unhappy childhood or adolescent experience this has affected her psychologically. Also, u still need to see a counselor divorce is not the solution there are many women out there behaving the same way your wife is behaving.

palmkaniel:
the husband is not a real nigarrr.

real nigarrrz in this situation take some bottles, parcels of weed and bang some babes to put wife in order.

and you feel this will solve the problem

ogawisdom:
The way she is hitting her subordinates n inflicting injuries on them, this woman can easily kill u while asleep. Your life is in danger as she has anger issues.

She doesnt have any respect for u, gradually start planning ur exit from this bondage bc ur life is on the line.

Just one poisoned food n u are gone

Why did u apologize for reacting with beating when she pushed u to the wall, it was needless n I DNT support hitting women but ie only if they don't push a man to the wall

Oga wisdom i hail this ur wisdom so you too can beat a woman for telling your fellow man not to apologized for beating his wife

1Sharon:


Abeg jo. Stop jumping on the bandwagon


Mental health is being used as a weapon these days

We can't rule it out. That's why evaluation is needed to be done by a professional. If she has one, then she can be helped and managed, if not, hmmm...it is well with OP.

I think you have not gotten a right partner from day one. If this woman really loves you I see no reason why she treated you so sadly.

My candid advice to you as a Man is just look for another woman to spend the rest of your life with. By your story, it seems you are doing well in life but don't allow a woman to kill you inwardly. Though, normally good people always fail to get nice spouses.

So brother, look for a lovely wife. But I am sorry to ask you one question: Are you really satisfying her in bed? If yes, thank God...but if no, it might be the main cause.

Finally, let me advise any good, lovely and kind female NAIRALANDER to visit you and start arranging for D-Day. Good luck!

Please don't forget to invite us for the wedding.

May you find peace in your life.

eni4real:
Ladycewhy....

Your attention is needed here..

I have not seen your comment on this topic o

just like you have bad men, you have bad women, the op married a bad woman. And if he doesn't flee it might be the death of him.

Ladycewhy:
just like you have bad men, you have bad women, the op married a bad woman. And if he doesn't flee it might be the death of him.

It seems the Op want to try every possible options to make it work..
Don't you think we shouldn't discourage him??

eni4real:

It seems the Op want to try every possible options to make it work..
Don't you think we shouldn't discourage him??

a woman who hits another person to the extent of bleeding is dangerous. Simple.

Ladycewhy:
a woman who hits another person to the extent of bleeding is dangerous. Simple.

I am glad you can see that men are also going through a lot in Marriage. ..

If this man still believes that this marriage can work, we should not discourage him..

The final decision is his afterall..

Tough case tho

Lol thanks bro , yes I'm very romantic and always satisfying her . I make sure that I sastify her multiple times before I get satisfied. the problem is , she just wont have sex with me. It's been 10 months now no sex , this year we havnt had sex. Last time was 19 December 2018 I'm not trying to cheat on my wife but the empty hole in our marriage is ruining my life because I'm so unhappy. I reported her to her parents and requested for a urgent family meeting this Sunday at our place. We shall see how everything will go. Hopefully she will realise her mistakes and give our marriage another chance if no I'm out.

quote author=Bigboss111 post=83399614]I think you have not gotten a right partner from day one. If this woman really loves you I see no reason why she treated you so sadly.

My candid advice to you as a Man is just look for another woman to spend the rest of your life with. By your story, it seems you are doing well in life but don't allow a woman to kill you inwardly. Though, normally good people always fail to get nice spouses.

So brother, look for a lovely wife. But I am sorry to ask you one question: Are you really satisfying her in bed? If yes, thank God...but if no, it might be the main cause.

Finally, let me advise any good, lovely and kind female NAIRALANDER to visit you and start arranging for D-Day. Good luck!

Please don't forget to invite us for the wedding.

May you find peace in your life.[/quote]

eni4real:
I am glad you can see that men are also going through a lot in Marriage. ..

If this man still believes that this marriage can work, we should not discourage him..

The final decision is his afterall..

Tough case tho

i never said men were not going through tough marriages,there is no where it is said that only men are monsters. But rather the culture of fix it that Nigerian women have been fed with.In my culture in those days it was a taboo to leave your marriage no matter what ,infact it is better you die there than leave and bring disgrace and dishonour to your family name. That is my point.

As for the op, he is in for a long thing, he is not just dealing with an angry wife but a raging one,thing one has crossed the line of anger to rage, that sometimes takes medication to overcome depending on the cause for me if he was my brother, i will fear for his life. I am not discouraging him o, but i will say it the way it is without sugar coating it.

Ladycewhy:
i never said men were not going through tough marriages,there is no where it is said that only men are monsters. But rather the culture of fix it that Nigerian women have been fed with.In my culture in those days it was a taboo to leave your marriage no matter what ,infact it is better you die there than leave and bring disgrace and dishonour to your family name. That is my point.

As for the op, he is in for a long thing, he is not just dealing with an angry wife but a raging one,thing one has crossed the line of anger to rage, that sometimes takes medication to overcome depending on the cause for me if he was my brother, i will fear for his life. I am not discouraging him o, but i will say it the way it is without sugar coating it.

He will survive it...

eni4real:
He will survive it...

ok

Ladycewhy:
ok

eni4real:

hope you had a great day?

[quote author=Mrcashman87 post=83401594]Lol thanks bro , yes I'm very romantic and always satisfying her . I make sure that I sastify her multiple times before I get satisfied. the problem is , she just wont have sex with me. It's been 10 months now no sex , this year we havnt had sex. Last time was 19 December 2018 I'm not trying to cheat on my wife but the empty hole in our marriage is ruining my life because I'm so unhappy. I reported her to her parents and requested for a urgent family meeting this Sunday at our place. We shall see how everything will go. Hopefully she will realise her mistakes and give our marriage another chance if no I'm out.

quote author=Bigboss111 post=83399614]

Sorry about your experience sir. Please keep us posted as some are following with keen interest.

mountex:


Oga wisdom i hail this ur wisdom so you too can beat a woman for telling your fellow man not to apologized for beating his wife

Yes I will beat a woman silly only in self defense ie when pushed to the wall

Ladycewhy:
hope you had a great day?

Yes I did.
Hope yours was great too??

She is already never home to share each other's company, you already have house help for chores, you already aren't having sex any more...what is left?

It boils down to this...if she were no longer in your house, ie. you get a divorce, what would be different, except for no more arguments?

eni4real:
Yes I did.
Hope yours was great too??

it was,have a great day.

palmkaniel:
the husband is not a real nigarrr.

real nigarrrz in this situation take some bottles, parcels of weed and bang some babes to put wife in order.

How old are you?