Wait more! I dated my wife for 10year and we co habitate for another five before we got married.
Good thing come to those who wait.....

Continue collecting weekly pennis from him, while looking for another person to take home the damage goods as a wife? Guys shine your eyes cos irresponsible girls are increasing geometrically

TruthSpeaker:
IF YOUR CURRENT OBJECTIVE IS TO GET MARRIED TO HIM, IT WILL ONLY HAPPEN IF SOME UNDESIRABLE HAPPENS TO HIM (HE CONTRACTS A CHRONIC DISEASE, HE GETS AN ACCIDENT THAT DISABLES HIM, HE BEGINS TO SUFFER FROM ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION, HE LOSES HIS JOB ETC). WITH ALL YOUR WROTE, HE ONLY SEES YOU LIKE A FRIEND WITH BENEFIT (SEXUAL). NO MARRIAGE PLAN WILL EVER DEVELOP FROM THIS DUDE ON A NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCE. HE HAS SEEN ALL YOU HAVE TO OFFER, BUT THAT WIFE CARACTER HAS ELUDED YOU.
IT’S NOW UP TO YOU TO CONTINUE BEING LOYAL TO HIM WHILE HE IS STILL EXPLORING OTHER LADIES, OR YOU STEP UP YOUR HUSBAND HUNTING GAME ALSO. AS A MAN, HE FEELS NO PRESSURE TO GET MARRIED TO YOU, WHEREAS IN NIGERIA CULTURE THE PRESSURE IS ON YOUR SHOULDER TO GET MARRIED.
IN SUMMARY THE GUY DON SEE YOU FINISH ALREADY. IF HE FINALLY GETS MARRIED TO YOU, HE IS ALREADY CONVINCED YOU ARE VERY COMFORTABLE SHARING HIM WITH SIDE CHICKS.
I RECOMMEND YOU KILL THE (SERIOUS PART OF THE IN YOUR MIND) RELATIONSHIP AND START FINDING A FUTURE HUSBAND. YOU CAN KEEP COLLECTING YOUR WEEKLY PENNIS FROM HIM WHILE YOU SEARCH FOR A LIFE TIME PARTNER.

dawnomike:
Kindly port before it is too late if you feel you are not in his plans for marriage... Forget the 5 yrs!
It is better to lose 5 years than a lifetime of regrets.

Now to the raw truth: DO NOT BE A FOOL IN LOVE WHEN THERE ARE OTHER MEN OUT THERE LOOKONG FOR SOMEONE LIKE YOU!!!
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!!

Two people you can never advise. Those in love & those with money.

Ineedtoheal:

He's not my friend on social media except WhatsApp that we chat once in a while. Wait till evening and you see his texts and calls pouring in. I have blocked him on severally but once I forgive him, I will unblock him again.

This is a sign that even if the guy eventually marry you, you will never enjoy the relationship, he will cheat on you seteey na you go pack your load and run. Plus he will be beating the hell outta you. Save yourself that trouble noooooooow

As the saying goes, maturity doesn't come with age. from all indications, he is immature and indecisive. Above all, what matters is his innocence so my advice to you, stick with him

The writing has been on the wall for years. In your own handwriting. Read it. This "relationship" has never existed, except in your wish-life, and because of your own efforts to keep deceiving yourself.

One of his better points is that he doesn't hit you? Raise your standards! I don't understand why you would consent to stay in this loser/user's harem, unless you lack a male figure in your life (like your father, did he abandon you, and you keep trying to win him back symbolically, through this guy?) Try to understand why you stay with this one, repeating the same pattern and hoping for a different result. When you understand the reason for this your habit, then you can break it.

Meanwhile, hear your late sister's words. Stop being a door mat and walk out the door. Lose his number. No explanation required.

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

Take this issue to your mum or dad. They're best placed to advice you properly

Ineedtoheal:

I wish he will let me be and not try sweet talking me into opening my heart to him again.

He is not gonna let you be.you have to make that decision & live with it.then right one comes.please an not asking you to try (you already failed on that) an asking you to take a long walk away and be fine

Sidon there dey waste your time by yourself, no go look for another man to marry. Baby mama is loading for you

Run o,dated a guy like that o,when I saw the handwriting on the wall,I had to flee.I never thought I could ever be with anyother man except him cos I loved him way to much and he knew and took advantage of the situation.

He wanted me to wait for him while he was busy with other ladies.I rejected all my suitors too like you with the hope we will end up together someday,but the day never came.Last straw was when I heard he took a lady to our home as his wife to be.Confronted him,he said his parents were trying to force the lady on him.That was how I carry myself go marry o!He married another lady diff.from the one he took home.That lady is still still single as I type.

You see this thing called love? It will make you really stupid.What is not meant to be,will never be.Walk away please with the little dignity left in you matter how hurt you'll feel.

Use him as Plan B and start searching for someone else
A single at 40 is a useless man

Ineedtoheal:

And you think this made sense? Common sense indeed is not common.

see who is talking about common sense. Smh

Shibaraba:
Should we tell her?

Please do.... I have tears flow down my chin as I type this comment.

Let's save a sister.

Ineedtoheal:

Ina akogheli nno

Ge nti!! Ndumodu’m bu na:

Mmadu abu Chi!!

I CAN FEEL YOUR PAINS AND I KNOW WHY YOU ARE FINDING IT. DIFFICULT TO QUIT EVEN IN THE FACE OF CONSPICUOUS SIGNS IS BECAUSE YOU HAD ALREADY FALLEN IN LOVE AND IT'S A BIG TROUBLE TO QUIT.
SUMMON COURAGE AND LEAVE HIM ALONE, NO LOVE AT ALL.

YOU CAN REACH ME VIA navigationlove2@gmail.com on how best to quit and save your life.

JUST TAKE IT EASY. IT ONCE HAPPENED TO ME AS A GUY.
CHEERS.

this rubbish was written and composed by a mod looking to attract traffic for his boss, every story they must open new account in a faceless forum rubbish.

eni4real:
You can't be trusted.. I know your type
"Baby, I love you"
Na lie!!!

Sarcastic Belle!

It's funny how you made your conclusion based on a single comment. I was hoping you'd give me more credit than that, but, oh well.

eduman365:


Great! And the earlier the better. Life isn't worth being someone's slave, cos that's just emotional slavery.

u be mumu

Ineedtoheal:

Maybe I forgot to add this, he said its a spiritual thing. That it didn't start with me.

It's an emotional/psychological thing, with you, which gives you the power to end it.
Saying it's a spiritual thing makes it sound like it's not in your hands, and thus disempowers you. He's saying that to benefit himself.

Ineedtoheal:

No one says it must lead to marriage oga. why keep what you don't need? If You really don't see yourself in few years time with someone, why waste their time? did you really read all I wrote? coz if you did, you wouldn't have make this comment.
I have begged him on several occasions to end things with me if he knows we don't have a future together but he refused. Mind you, it's not just a Nigerian thing. you guys are so quick in calling Nigerian girls out.

I don't understand, are you like chained to his house and he refused to unlock & let you go free? . Sis, You are a grown woman, YOU DO KNOW THAT HUMANS AREN'T IMMORTAL RYT?, you are already above 25, do not waste ur productive years on some1 who obviously isn't interested in making you his wife. He will waste ur time, then dump you in d end. Better do the needful

Ineedtoheal:

I know coz I have a man that all these years I have been dating this guy, has not given up. He says one day I will come to my senses and come to him. I even get tired of his complaints and calls. He came for my sister's burial even without me inviting him. he only saw the poster on my facebook wall. he dropped everyone that came from my village that day in town, took my mom home. he's ever ready to do anything for me. he's 31 now, a senior colleague when I was in year 1. the thing is I don't love him. maybe my problem is spiritual coz I tend to love the wrong people.

This. Deep emotional/psychological wounds. You are intelligent enough to know that this situation of yours is all wrong, but your hurt outweighs all reason. Find out why you tend to love the wrong people. How were your parents to you? Why was it your sister raised you? I am certain that the key to your situation and its resolution lies there.

I have the full video

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

I'll assist you with a kind of parable....................

The physical sensory organs available to us are the eyes (for seeing), nose (for smelling), ears (for hearing), tongue (for tasting), and skin (for touching or feeling).

When you see something its because you've verified with your eyes. When you smell something, you'll know through your nose. When you taste something, your tongue tells you the smell. When you touch something, your skin tells you how it feels. Etc.

But there's one more sensory organ.

Those in the metaphysical world says there's another sensory organ called THE THIRD EYE. Some of you stuck in religion call it the holy spirit, which is a dogmatic form of same thing.

The third eye or holy spirit or whatever have you, is an authentic sensory organ and it has already told you something, which is to RUN away. But you don't trust that voice.

If you grow in the spirit or is in the spirit, you'll realize that the third eye carries the same trust you have for your nose, tongue, eyes. The reason you opened this thread is because you know something is wrong. You've actually been warned but you just don't want to accept the truth that he's not really interested in marrying you.

Please listen to the third eye. Its an authentic sensory organ.

ifnyioj22:
Wait more! I dated my wife for 10year and we co habitate for another five before we got married.
Good thing come to those who wait.....

WTF you give her a wrong advice?

Haven't u heard that a fool at 40 is a fool for life. Someone at 40 who isn't married shouldn't even be forming for a 27 y.o lady. U making it easy for him. free him, get a good job and ur man will come for you.

thorpido:
There was a guy on one thread one time that made a wonderful comment about 'old midnight newspaper men' and their weariness to settle down.

You didn't take your time enough to study this guy and see he's just a player/non-committal guy.He showed signs of unseriouness from the beginning.
I will advise you to move on.This guy really doesn't want to settle and definitely won't settle for you.
Block his calls.Stop calling him.Block him on social media.It will hurt for a few days but you will get over it Better than just giving free kpekus to a guy who won't marry you and you are 27yrs already.

You started with a man when you were 20 and 7 years down the line he is still enjoying free sex from you. I can imagine if he was paying N500 per round for 7 years, may be you would have built a house off the prostitution. How very stupid can some ladies be
Please, just leave. If he cares ask him to come to you with the ring or nothing. I hear you saying you love him to a fault. Yrs, he knows it and is just using you for his daily satisfaction. If I may ask you, how do you want him to marry you when he gets it free as he wishes? If you get free food from a restaurant, why would you bother cooking

Chances are, he is attractive, he compliments your ego and makes you feel like you got a catch. He may even knack you well, and each sexual rounds is like going to heaven and back, what more do you want ? And somehow, this has made you overlook other aspect of what makes a man, such as being decisive, responsible and respecting to his woman.

Hopefully you dont join the list of women that will be singing "men are scum", when it obvious you made the wrong choice of a man. You should have left him long ago, but somehow, you want internet strangers to tell you what you already should know by common sense.

That man wont marry you, and your only usefulness to him is sex. If you doubt it, stop having sex with him, and see if he won't change quickly.

He is probably a smart guy enjoying the age of premarital sex in the name of freedom and liberation, and this is the unintended consequence women will pay dearly for. I know many girls that their bf put them on the hook, enjoying their youthfulness while it last, doing countless abortion for him, with the hope that he will marry them, while he periodically dangle the commitment carrot, to keep her hope burning high.

One introduced such career fuckboy to me as her boyfriend. I looked at him, talked with him, and in few mins, I knew that she is in for a very long thing. I just Jump and pass, none of my business.

Having made the mistake of telling a friend that her boyfriend is wasting her time, I thought I've spoken to a matured person, but she used me as a lubricant to strengthen their relationship and assure her bf that nothing will put asunder between them, even me, and I was a proof she used to show she is faithful and love him to death. The end? He left when she pregnant, and then, she saw my truth, but it's too late then.

And the saddest part to me, is that these women are matured, in their late to early 30's, but still can't be able to pick good men even after three decades on earth. With every woman that says men are scum, I always check the kind of man she has chooses to be with, and there lie the answers to her bitterness.

You're a woman, your emotions and feelings is clouding your brain, it's okay, but leave him. Cry to death, bang your head on the wall, infact lock yourself in the room and weep, but leave him. Otherwise means you do not love yourself, which further adds to your woe. I wonder how people even let others to control them like this. From your write up, you sound matured and learned. And a man made of flesh and blood is using your destiny to play like this? You de mad ni?

I know say you no go leave am. Your kind do learn by been permanently bleeped up. Prove me wrong
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It's his d#ck controlling you ..
Please walk away

Stupid people everywhere, our mumu never do walahi. Well this kind of issue is for the poor and struggling. Not for me that's so rich that even Dangote no see my back

Love aside, practice absentism from him, go about doing ur thing. Compare ur comfort and peace of mind with other suitors. If u found him still as a top preference. Called him and give him conditions of changing his habits on how u want to build a future with him. Give him short period, if he doesnt change. Take ur time and build a new relationship and build ur desire future with a man of ur choice. Believe in God and never rush into marriage. Dont be pressured,just keep desiring about getting married. God will grant ur heart desires.

Lol

My God!

O Lord my God!

Why women?

Why always women?

Why are women so foolish?

Why are women so so foolish and so so confused?

You say he is confused but clearly, you are the one chronically confused.

The nigga already knows what he wants.

7 years down the line, you are still trying to figure out what he really wants.

Very very ridiculous, ain't it?

Clap for yourself, madam.

You say you are 27, right?

Just keep on waiting, you hear?

In a few years time when you are already 30 something, you will become wise enough to finally accept the painful but hard truth which I believe you already know.

Nonsense.