| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by africanpride1: 4:49pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Vvs 1 Like |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Azmanaty: 4:51pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Weaklings everywhere. Make decision and stand by it 1 Like |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Nobody: 4:52pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Never ask a man for advice when he's in a bad mood. He will only prophecy death and disaster and load you with pessimism.
You have a brain; approximately equivalent in size to your friend's; use it instead of trying to use his. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by realstars: 4:54pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Everyday Is Full Of Trubble. 
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Hopebringer: 4:55pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
You are a talkative and Very immature You used real names and are trying too hard to paint yourself as a victim You are either a liar meaning this story is made up by a mod or you are a narcissist Either way this nonsense isn't worth my time Grow up |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by GreatResearcher: 4:56pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Lamanii22:
Hmmmm... This is confusing... Go and pray about it first... 
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by GreatResearcher: 4:57pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:
Never ask a man for advice when he's in a bad mood. He will only prophecy death and disaster and load you with pessimism.
You have a brain; approximately equivalent in size to your friend's; use it instead of trying to use his. Word! |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by gentlesmithugo(m): 4:58pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
mtchew,nonsense and buhari |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by kem6898: 4:58pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by kem6898: 4:58pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by LordReed(m): 4:58pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
You have to evaluate the evidence by yourself. Is the wife a troublesome person? Is Abigail a troublesome person? Are they an uncaring lot? Do they have any bad manners that you deem deal breakers? You can't taste food with another man's mouth. Your friend may be lying or telling the truth but you have to ascertain the true position by yourself. 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Panthera92: 4:59pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
The guy Loves your Abigail. He may have attempted to woo her self. He wouldn't want you to interfere because his attention is on the girl. He met his wife when he haven't seen how beautiful the sister is   now he wants the sister badly. This guy is your Enemy flee from him 9 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Nobody: 4:59pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Bad belle friend. If u marry her and he divorces fhe sister. It looks somehow to him |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by koffsman(m): 5:00pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Bro my candid advice is this, you know your friend before knowing the wife and sister he gave you an insight into the family you are about to get hooked on if I were you I would hold his words and go seek spiritual consent myself because bro saying you will go and fight one battle you don't even know the origination is very dangerous I won't advice you to just jump into tread carefully make you own personal findings without anyone knowing then make your decision and when you want to make your spiritual findings bros don't go to all this new Generational Pastors that are just about the Benjamins (Money) go back to the basics because I have seen someone fight such battle hummm and it ain't funny my friend. If you love your life make you findings well niccur 6 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by LivingSage: 5:00pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Go forth and Marty that damn lady. , You'll realize after marriage that your friend has something hidden from you, probably done something to that lady. Meanwhile, how sure are you he isn't painting same picture to his in-law (the lady)?
Go forth and marry that damn lady 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Tonyfx: 5:01pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Tonyfx:
My opinion is that you shouldn't just ignore his advice completely. Take it slow on the marriage process and be very observant and vigilant and more importantly get spiritual as in prayerful and also pray with people that are more spiritual than you. Everything will be fine in the end. |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Righteousness89(m): 5:01pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Lamanii22:
Hmmmm... This is confusing... Go and pray about it first... If GOD Approves Carry on! If HE disapproves! Run 1 Like |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by beautyhd: 5:01pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Move away from that your Victor friend. Someone that tried to kiss your girl now ex is an enemy. Continue your relationship with the said Abigail and ignore him if he brings up the topic again. |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Didi2d(m): 5:02pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
I haven't even read your write up, but my thought is they know her better than you. So heed to the advice |
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Dalby(m): 5:03pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
If you enter their family, there will be a yard stick to compare you and him. You intend to marry the girl not her family. The question to ask here is what is your assessment of this girl if her beauty were removed  Your friends position could be one of 2 things. Speaking from a point of fact, or a point of ego (some facts clouded by emotions). With marriage it's your call. If it works well you say thank God l made this choice!!!, If it doesn't, you go the way your friend is planning to go, divorce. |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by flokii: 5:03pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
You said this friend of yours made attempt to kiss your girl back in 2014, shows he has no self control or principle.
My instincts tell me that this your friend is sleeping with your 'wife to be' under the wife's nose but since he can't tell you that, he said it was spiritual problem.
Yorubas will say.. eni buruku lojo ti e. Your friend is trying to save you from regrets. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by MrColdsweat: 5:04pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Typing |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by basty: 5:04pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Lamanii22:
Hmmmm... This is confusing... Go and pray about it first... I like your response, you are one of the dependable and wise person on Nairaland of today. An epitome of what Nairaland was used to be. God will grant you wisdom to rule over your people. 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by badonkadonk: 5:04pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
I feel there has been or something prior to happening must have occured or is occuring between your friend and Abigail... There is no smoke without fire.... 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Dalby(m): 5:04pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Didi2d:
I haven't even read your write up, but my thought is they know her better than you. So heed to the advice It's only Victor talking here so? |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Nobody: 5:05pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
He’s straffing the Abigail or perhaps trying to... 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by badonkadonk: 5:05pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
flokii:
You said this friend of yours made attempt to kiss your girl back in 2014, shows he has no self control or principle.
My instincts tell me that this your friend is sleeping with your 'wife to be' under the wife's nose but since he can't tell you that, he said it was spiritual problem.
Yorubas will say.. eni buruku lojo ti e. Your friend is trying to save you from regrets. Same thing I said... The guy too jump in my opinion.. just now you meet person, you don quick love up.. Be like e no be Nigerian at all... |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Fairbanks(m): 5:06pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
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| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by MansoryMX(m): 5:07pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
You want me advice, reduce the friendship you have with this friend of yours since you two o will be co-in-laws. It’s bad for friendship. If I were you I will reduce my being too seen by my friend and his wife to once in a blue moon and focus on the said girl you intends to court and marry. Observe things, you aren’t a novice. 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by Bigcowhorn: 5:07pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.
I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......
Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....
Pls ignore my grammatical errors...
Here is the story......
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....
Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks
@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls
If you like the girl go and make inquires about her and the family in 3 different places. If the answers do not coincide, go to a fourth. Your friend is hard to trust 2 Likes |
| Re: Her In-Law Advises Me Against Marrying Her by franchasng: 5:09pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Singing: Egungu be careful na express you de go Op, don't allow me to sing the remaining: Oya I don tell am, e don happen, I don tell am e don happen!!! On a more serious note, why must you a Nigerian living in Ghana marry a Ghana lady I know you are Igbo guy, kedu ihe ufodu n'ime unu bu umu nwoke Igbo jiri nwe nti ike. Iberibe idi otutu umu nwoke igbo anyi. Amam na ichoro ilu nwanyi ukwu sarambara, oburu ihe ichoro, enwere otutu umu nwanyi nwere ukwu sarambara na'ala igb. Iga anwu ma gi laghachie na ala nna gi je chota nwanyi iga alu, eh Imara ihe, oburu na ichoro odi mma gi, alukwala nwanyi Ghana!! 1 Like |
