Yonce:


But why though, if you don't mind me asking?

I mind. Thanks

Fuckingmallam45:
Ahhh someone like my mum? I don't think so, my mum is stubborn, she no dey gree, ahh won lagidi. All of us they fear her. No I no fit, I cannot come and kill myself
But I bet you, if you asked my immediate sister this question, she will tell you that, her prayer is to marry someone like my father. Baba ni baba yen jo. Very cool and intelligent man.

chai
I can relate

My mom yes, my dad nope
Till today, I'm yet to see a woman as good spirited like my mother, I do compare her with other women,but I've not seen anyone like my mother.
My mum loves us so much, she has patience like no other, takes care of my dad, she will even buy my dad cloths, she will cook good foods for him and us, my mum would serve herself last, my dad first and us, many times my mum won't eat fish because of my dad and us, she would say, if she eat it, what will my dad and US eat tomorrow.
My mum would take care of her in-law (my uncle) when they come visit, my dad that is the owner of visitor would say my uncle should manage one useless soup like that,but promise him he would eat heaven and earth on phone call but would refuse to drop 1kobo, but my mum would go to the market, buy everything for soup, pound pounded yam for him. When my cousins visit, she would do same. When they had accident, my mum took them in for a year and did lots of care. They all love my mum, especially my cousins, they come to our house to do any small holiday.
But if my maternal aunts or relatives should come, my dad would intentionally leave the house and won't drop 1kobo. Before I never knew why my maternal aunt dislike my dad until I grew up, I bet my sister not try that shit with me, I will hate her together with her useless husband.
Conclusion
I will treat your people exactly how you treat my people, treat them like thrashes, in fact, I would travel whenever they said they want to visit or lie that I am sick. Thats one of the thing I hate most about my mother, she no dey do TIT for TAT for people


My mum is extremely intelligent, very good in mathematics, with her friends, shes always wanting them to grow, but due to envy, shes usually hated and later loved so so much by thesame people that once did her wrong. In the street, the teenagers are usually are friend, and they would trust her more than they trust their parents during the adolescent age. My mum is also very forgiving, too merciful and emotional.
Conclusion
I'm no way like her, I forgive but van never forget especially if you intentionally plan and do me bad, I will not hate you nor like you either, and we no go dey greet forever, until we meet in heaven

My mum was loved by her mother in-laws and before she died, she prayed so much for her because my mum really took good care of her She takes completely after her mother, my grandmother, my grandmother was an illiterates but a business woman, she would feed her husband, feed her junior wive and all her children, my grandmother would even take food to give to my paternal grandmother. My grandmother died 15years ago and my mum still cry whenever she remember her mother.

But with all these, I can never and will never be like my mother nor my grandmother in all parts, God did not make women to carry heavy responsibilities
My dad is a good person, but my mother completely spoilt him that he doesn't know his responsibilities, he won't pity her and tell her she should stop using her money for the house, my mum bought the highest thing in the house, my dad used his own money as a philanthropist and he doesn't even know how to manage or price things, he can buy something worth of #5000 for #10,000 outside, but can not give my mother #500. He would give her 2k for soup, my mum would buy something worth 6k, and my dad go still chop the biggest part of it. My mum eats very little food
Conclusion
As for me, i will be the first to serve myself, and even put 3fishes under my rice, cover it with soup, then add another fish on top the rice if its my money that is the highest in the soup

There are so many things I don't like about my dad, but he doesn't maltreat us, just that he doesn't plan for us. If my dad just received salary and you ask him, he will give you anything, but if you don't ask him, you will not collect 1kobo, and in the next two weeks, the money would have finished. Meanwhile, my mother would have planned how she would give you money this month, next month, infact for the year. Whether you ask my mum or not, she has already set aside money for you, you don't have to explain to my mum that you need so and so, she already knows and would plan it for you, but my dad, you will need to explain and re explain. And my dad's salary is almost double that of my mum.
My mums property is much more than my dad

If my mum advice my dad, and his friends or relatives say something else, my dad would agree with those ones, and afterwards he would be ashamed to tell my mum that he changed the plan, and he would later use style to beg my mum and ask for another advice

If my mother had married someone like herself, they would have grown so much together, and we the children would be in extremely high places today. I can be friends with someone like my dad, but not marry someone like him.


Truth be told, my mums IQ is extremely higher than that of my dad, so I understand him, and my dad never stayed with his parents, he was made to live with several people for no reason than to suffer because his parents believe that you need to suffer in life to be successful. Whereas, my grandmother was a disciplinarian, and she gave my mum and my aunt, the best of trainings. And my mum's dad was very good to her while she was growing up, and she used to tell me how her dad loved her while she was a child and growing up until she married my dad that her dad did not approve of.
Conclusion
My mum over suffered with my dad when we were extremely wretched (beyond poor), I can not suffer with anyone in my life, its either you suffer your own suffer alone and I suffer my own suffer alone, but to suffer together, its not possible.
If I were my mum, I would have divorced my dad a long time ago, not because he's poor, but because of his lackadaisical attitudes especially when he told my mum that he doesn't buy children things(new baby's stuffs).
My dad is extremely hardworking and would choose him as a father always, at least his 100% better than many of his mates, but his association with my mother is a parasitic relationship[/quote]

Okay

My mom yes, my dad nope
Till today, I'm yet to see a woman as good spirited like my mother, I do compare her with other women,but I've not seen anyone like my mother.
My mum loves us so much, she has patience like no other, takes care of my dad, she will even buy my dad cloths, she will cook good foods for him and us, my mum would serve herself last, my dad first and us, many times my mum won't eat fish because of my dad and us, she would say, if she eat it, what will my dad and US eat tomorrow.
My mum would take care of her in-law (my uncle) when they come visit, my dad that is the owner of visitor would say my uncle should manage one useless soup like that,but promise him he would eat heaven and earth on phone call but would refuse to drop 1kobo, but my mum would go to the market, buy everything for soup, pound pounded yam for him. When my cousins visit, she would do same. When they had accident, my mum took them in for a year and did lots of care. They all love my mum, especially my cousins, they come to our house to do any small holiday.
But if my maternal aunts or relatives should come, my dad would intentionally leave the house and won't drop 1kobo. Before I never knew why my maternal aunt dislike my dad until I grew up, I bet my sister not try that shit with me, I will hate her together with her useless husband.
Conclusion
I will treat your people exactly how you treat my people, treat them like thrashes, in fact, I would travel whenever they said they want to visit or lie that I am sick. Thats one of the thing I hate most about my mother, she no dey do TIT for TAT for people


My mum is extremely intelligent, very good in mathematics, with her friends, shes always wanting them to grow, but due to envy, shes usually hated and later loved so so much by thesame people that once did her wrong. In the street, the teenagers are usually are friend, and they would trust her more than they trust their parents during the adolescent age. My mum is also very forgiving, too merciful and emotional.
Conclusion
I'm no way like her, I forgive but van never forget especially if you intentionally plan and do me bad, I will not hate you nor like you either, and we no go dey greet forever, until we meet in heaven

My mum was loved by her mother in-laws and before she died, she prayed so much for her because my mum really took good care of her She takes completely after her mother, my grandmother, my grandmother was an illiterates but a business woman, she would feed her husband, feed her junior wive and all her children, my grandmother would even take food to give to my paternal grandmother. My grandmother died 15years ago and my mum still cry whenever she remember her mother.

But with all these, I can never and will never be like my mother nor my grandmother in all parts, God did not make women to carry heavy responsibilities
My dad is a good person, but my mother completely spoilt him that he doesn't know his responsibilities, he won't pity her and tell her she should stop using her money for the house, my mum bought the highest thing in the house, my dad used his own money as a philanthropist and he doesn't even know how to manage or price things, he can buy something worth of #5000 for #10,000 outside, but can not give my mother #500. He would give her 2k for soup, my mum would buy something worth 6k, and my dad go still chop the biggest part of it. My mum eats very little food
Conclusion
As for me, i will be the first to serve myself, and even put 3fishes under my rice, cover it with soup, then add another fish on top the rice if its my money that is the highest in the soup

There are so many things I don't like about my dad, but he doesn't maltreat us, just that he doesn't plan for us. If my dad just received salary and you ask him, he will give you anything, but if you don't ask him, you will not collect 1kobo, and in the next two weeks, the money would have finished. Meanwhile, my mother would have planned how she would give you money this month, next month, infact for the year. Whether you ask my mum or not, she has already set aside money for you, you don't have to explain to my mum that you need so and so, she already knows and would plan it for you, but my dad, you will need to explain and re explain. And my dad's salary is almost double that of my mum.
My mums property is much more than my dad

If my mum advice my dad, and his friends or relatives say something else, my dad would agree with those ones, and afterwards he would be ashamed to tell my mum that he changed the plan, and he would later use style to beg my mum and ask for another advice

If my mother had married someone like herself, they would have grown so much together, and we the children would be in extremely high places today. I can be friends with someone like my dad, but not marry someone like him.


Truth be told, my mums IQ is extremely higher than that of my dad, so I understand him, and my dad never stayed with his parents, he was made to live with several people for no reason than to suffer because his parents believe that you need to suffer in life to be successful. Whereas, my grandmother was a disciplinarian, and she gave my mum and my aunt, the best of trainings. And my mum's dad was very good to her while she was growing up, and she used to tell me how her dad loved her while she was a child and growing up until she married my dad that her dad did not approve of.
Conclusion
My mum over suffered with my dad when we were extremely wretched (beyond poor), I can not suffer with anyone in my life, its either you suffer your own suffer alone and I suffer my own suffer alone, but to suffer together, its not possible.
If I were my mum, I would have divorced my dad a long time ago, not because he's poor, but because of his lackadaisical attitudes especially when he told my mum that he doesn't buy children things(new baby's stuffs).
My dad is extremely hardworking and would choose him as a father always, at least his 100% better than many of his mates, but his association with my mother is a parasitic relationship

[/quote]

Okay

Someone like my dad is not even conceivable, acceptable, permitable or even Condonable. He's not a dad material

DukeNija:


What does this have to do with the topic? Or am I missing something?

Okay

Ladycewhy:
lol, I am think this your case is beyond your both parents,this stupidity both of yours must sterm from your ancestors both on your father and mothers side . There is not way this is a first generation foolishness your are displaying here

Oh! So your great grand parents are also dumb?! Now I understand where your problem originated from.

On the side, let's teach you English language: The right thing is "I am thinking" and not "I am think".

So madam dunderhead, run along now.

expert234:


The dumbness that pervades your home has left an indelible mark on you for sure. I fear you will die this way

nah , a wicked man of your kind did that ,a man just like you , wicked ,crude toxic just like you and your dumb father,but I bounced back and rose above it ,today he begs me to even show him attention .

expert234:


My great grand parents are also dumb?! Now I understand where my problem originated from.


I am dunderhead,.

lol ,this is what you meant to say

Ladycewhy:
nah , a wicked man of your kind did that ,a man just like you , wicked ,crude toxic just like you and your dumb father,but I bounced back and rose above it ,today he begs me to even show him attention .

Oh so, your father is wicked, crude and toxic? No wonder you are this way.

And no, you haven't bounced back; you are still as bitter, as angry, as defeated, as mentally damaged as you have always been. No wonder your reasoning is beclouded, leaving you dumb and stupid.

KingAzubuike:

Lol you people aren't still getting the message. Mother- father relationship is different from mother- children relationship.

Yeah understand wat u are saying bro

Bt am talking of d way my mom treat my dad was wonderful even my dad always say his next world he will still marry my mom

Ladycewhy:
lol ,this is what you meant to say

So, you are now reduced to editing comment? Are you that empty?

ThatFairGuy:

@ bolded, YOU'RE TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM YOUR MUM THEN

I can agree with the bolded but only online o. If you know me real life , I show kindness and care for all. Forget these online yarns, this world, we come only but once and I can't waste my little time here hating on my fellow humans.

Johnsghana:
Omo, my mama tough O! I don't know if I can marry her type as she stubborn join the thing. I love her to death as my mama buh as a wife, I go run O jare.

hahaha

Funny u

Biglittlelois:




Of course na, a woman that will suffer and struggle to provide for the family, and put food on the table, while you sit down and not do anything, but still deserve respect abi? Nonsense

U are talking in d rubbish



U are talking in d nonsense



U are talking bullshit





Pls let d admin in dis site need to block some people who did not suck there mother breast very well because we d nairaland people can not allow dis nonsense to continue





Woman like u can not stay in marriage



Because if u mange to marry ur duty is to causes trouble in ur husband home





Our country first female final year first class idiot with qualification of low sense count

adadike:
I can agree with the bolded but only online o. If you know me real life , I show kindness and care for all. Forget these online yarns, this world, we come only but once and I can't waste my little time here hating on my fellow humans.

Okay. I heard you

adadike:
My dad, a strict disciplinarian , provides for most of our needs. A strong prayer warrior, physically strong , very hard-working . Can stand by you even when the world is against you. Love you Daddy but I honestly would love to marry someone like my mom. Gently, tall, great physique, very sweet, light skin and beautiful woman. Kind to a fault. See everyone as a member of her family. Eat in the same plate with her maids and helpers. Takes good care of them as well. No difference between outsider, maid or children. Everyone is the same to her irrespective of religion and tribe, loves and caters for all . Strong and hard-working, supports her husband, keeps my extended family together. Loved and took good care of my paternal grand mother when she was alive. My Super Woman, I don't know if I can ever be like you coz you are extraordinary but I want to marry a man that near these qualities. God bless you mom

Difficult to find such a man. Those are women qualities.

expert234:


Oh so, your father is wicked, crude and toxic? No wonder you are this way.

And no, you haven't bounced back; you are still as bitter, as angry, as defeated, as mentally damaged as you have always been. No wonder your reasoning is beclouded, leaving you dumb and stupid.

my reasoning is at alert,I see fools like you and put you in your place. I am not a woman to be toyed with cos I will treat your fvck up straight up.

Men like you only see good women as those women who support, sacrifice , compromise, worship, abandon their dreams to be married,conform to your rules , bend their back over ,take your bullshit, forgive your intentional mistakes. Infact na robot una dey find, and when women decide to stand up for themselves ,they are called bitter.

Even women with both parents are leaving heir marriages ,the time of taking BS from toxic men is fast fading away, and you men don't know what to do about it . You go cry tire .

expert234:


So, you are now reduced to editing comment? Are you that empty?

I blame your ancestors both on your father and mother's side for this

I will like marry someone like my Dad & Mom combine.

The reason why some chose not to marry someone like their father is because of how their mother brought them up and what she made them believes.

Naturally, I believe all woman are feminist.
You'll hardly see an African home where it's not the mother that's controlling the affairs of their children simply because of the bonds attached. For example: If there is misunderstanding between the both parties, the mother will be like - Michael you see what your father did to me, which will eventually grows hate from the child towards his father even if it's the father that's been responsible for 70percent of their needs. they make the children believe some nonsense which they later resolve within themselves.

Sometimes I feel some woman are selfish, they wanna takes all the glory - Although some fathers are bad but not as its being portrayed, and simply because we were not closed to our dad like we were to our moms.

I realized a lot when I was growing up.

las las, the father will eventually die before the mother.

Lol, My grandpa died around 2007, my grandma still dey kampe dey enjoy the fruits of their labours.

Pls don't let us makes the same mistakes when will are all growing to becoming parents someday.
There should be love sharing within the circle; The father, the mother and their children.
Thanks
My Opinions.

#ImmortalizedRaskal

Ladycewhy:
Girls with toxic fathers are woke,their intuition is highly alerted, they can see through bullshit and smell a man that will pose a problem from afar. Girls like this are not the ones to be naive or cowed by any man,they see the ending of the bullshit from the beginning and are usually courageous to walk away. Maybe that's what scares you cos women like that are quick to stop bullshit before it even takes off .

if you call broken relationships, painful relationships, always being suspicious relationships, monitoring spirit relationships as being woke, okay oh! however, you forget this same daddy issues you have, "doesn't just make you smell men that will pose a problem from afar" but it would also make you smell imaginary problems from afar when you finally meet genuine men.
Like i said, i am speaking from my experience, i once dated a lady who absolutely worshiped her father, she treated me like i was a demi god (you can go through my posts to find where i wrote about her). I also noticed that my guys that were in relationships with ladies who had good relationships with their fathers were enjoying their relationships. Whereas, the the guys that were in relationships with girls with daddy issues, were always quarreling..
if you doubt what i have been saying, go through all the comments you have made under this topic, it is like you don't have anything positive to say about men. Don't hide under "nairaland is an anti women forum"
Like i said before it is not your fault, we don't choose our parents or family. Jada Smith, Will Smith's wife had the similar issues like you. you can google about her.
She had to change her perceptions about men before she could be with Will Smith.
That's my advice to you, try to change before it is too late.

lawrencelaura:
If am a guy, I will want to marry someone like my mother, but since am a lady I can't marry someone like my father, who did not think twice leaving all the responsibility to my mother and died with nothing to takia of we his children.

u sure say no b ur mother finish d money for chicken during honey moon with ur daddy

Ramos16:


What makes her post any different from the OP's post, she should hate anyone she wants to

it is wrong to encourage someone to hate.

Ladycewhy:
I blame your ancestors both on your father and mother's side for this

Shame has caught up with your dumb head; you don't edit comment anymore . Useless, psychologically damaged, bitter soul.

Ladycewhy:
and when men have deep hatred for women on this forum what do we call it? . Or you still don't know this forum is anti- women or you are feinging ignorance?.

I only found out the hate men have for women when I joined nairalandand for the record.It was an eye opener for me. There is even a movement of anti- women with a handful of following on this forum but for whatever reason you choose to be biased or blind .

its not a competition.
no, i am neither biased nor blind.

Ladycewhy:
my reasoning is at alert,I see fools like you and put you in your place. I am not a woman to be toyed with cos I will treat your fvck up straight up.

Men like you only see good women as those women who support, sacrifice , compromise, worship, abandon their dreams to be married,conform to your rules , bend their back over ,take your bullshit, forgive your intentional mistakes. Infact na robot una dey find, and when women decide to stand up for themselves ,they are called bitter.

Even women with both parents are leaving heir marriages ,the time of taking BS from toxic men is fast fading away, and you men don't know what to do about it . You go cry tire .

No, your repeated vomit of hate and display of blindness here indicate that you are still psychologically damaged, embittered and still in bondage.

chiddyok:

Yes ooo. But I’ve not found anyone generous like him so I’m just on my own. My mom says God will bring someone as generous as he is but with her temper. Amen.

Amen!!
so long as he doesn't get violent on your mum when he losses his temper, i think he is okay. i know guys that are hot tempered, they are great guys, you just have to know when to push and when to stop pushing.
All the best.

expert234:


Shame has caught up with your dumb head; you don't edit comment anymore . Useless, psychologically damaged, bitter soul.

it's your ancestors that are useless hence it manifested in you

mikeybrainy:
For me I wouldn't try it, I can never marry someone like my mom. If I try that I would end up in an asylum.

She is a good mother, though not perfect (nobody is).

Some of my reasons are:

Nagging (like the neigbours can narrate everything happening in our house if asked to)
Involving strangers in family issues (like she says everything)

She can't ever take the blame for anything (blames everyone for her woes, and she is never wrong)

She wants to collect back every single penny she spends in the house (which is impossible)
Incites the children against their father (never realized this until I grew up and started thinking like a man, and honestly I'm sorry for all the ways I have acted to my dad, though my own is still fair, my siblings have complete disregard for their father)

Other things too that I can't mention here (makes me feel ashamed.

I realized all these when I started looking at everything from the lens of a struggling husband and father, and I'm still contemplating if marriage is worth it after all, I might as well stay single.... (I only date and break up with girls in my mind, Lol) cos I don't think its worth all the stress. Growing up in a broken, dysfunctional home is hard (sighs).

I wouldn't put all the blame on my Mom but I have resolved not to imbibe my dad's bad habits too (I can't even drink 1% alcohol not because I can't or it's bad, but I run away from it when I think of the things dad would have achieved, if he were not addicted to it)

Sorry for the long post.

Can you marry someone like your mom/dad?

Opinions

Lool... Are you a sibling I never saw living in our house? Just like you, I began to see clearly after growing up.

expert234:


No, your repeated vomit of hate and display of blindness here indicate that you are still psychologically damaged, embittered and still in bondage.

yen yen yen. Toxic masculinity will always see women who won't take their bullshit as a threat and their penis will retract when they meet their match .

angelfallz:


its not a competition.
no, i am neither biased nor blind.

on nairaland,it definitely is a competition.


If you are neither biased or blind ,then I guess you are either new here or feigning ignorance

Ladycewhy:
yen yen yen. Toxic masculinity will always see women who won't take their bullshit as a threat and their penis will retract when they meet their match .

You are actually the one dishing out bullshit. Very angry, embittered soul. . Are you sure 8wont die this way?