People sometimes complain about certain people not being Helpful towards others. You may have been an audience to such a complaint or not, I certainly have �.

What if 'Help' as an act is actually contextual? What if different people have a personal 'Helping Signature', and only find themselves aligned to helping in terms of how they are wired to.

Scenario 1:
Sam needs help with money for a visit to the dentist, he states his request to Rita. Rita doesn't have the money, but doesn't tell Sam she doesn't have the money. However, she knows a dentist, Jamil. And requests a favour of Jamil on behalf of Sam. Jamil accepts, Sam gets a session and is grateful. Rita has just helped using her social currency.

Scenario 2:
Bassey is fond of monetizing help. When her friend is going through a bit of health issues, rather than help her friend do house chores, she sends her friend money to get a paid cleaning service. Bassey rendered help using money as a helping currency.

Scenario 3:
Lukman will readily pick you up from the airport. He will help you tear down your house when you want to change residence, and help you arrange your belongings at the new residence. He's hands-on and helpful like that, but he's not so readily involved with rendering help in the form of money! Here, direct rendering of services is the currency of help.

People are wired to help others the way they know how to. This means that when the need to help arises, their first instinct towards help is usually of a certain method. They may be capable of helping in other ways, but their helping signature pulls them towards the methods that resonates with themselves.

� This is one example that mildly reflects that humans are innately selfish. . . .because, except you don't have the capacity at that material time, help that is truly beneficial to a 'help seeker' is the kind of help that is offered in the terms of the 'help seeker'!

In other words, #Allow-the-beggar-to-have-a-choice �! If as a helper you are willing to be flexible with options, you could let the help seeker know about those options �. And then let them pick the one that best benefits the situation they're in. If you don't do this, it doesn't make you a bad person �. Just that, if you are capable, then helping within the terms of the help seeker might be much more beneficial.