Good Morning nairaland.
I want to sincerely ask all the overly protective parents abeg wetin be una problem. I happen to be around a particular mother hen (Pun intended), whose overly protective nature is becoming too annoying even for me.
The woman in question has two boys (twins) and yet still would not permit them out of the house, and they are over 18. I am not against good parenting, the current generations needs it,but please it becomes a problem where one can do anything at all due to the parent factor.
Now back to the story, the twins are in higher institution already, but believe me the mother vehemently refuses to let them do anything worth while, at the time for their Post Ume Screening, the mother followed the Children to their respective schools, some may agree that the children are new there and other things, but hello they are grown already.
How can they grow sociologically?
How do you expect them to relate with others very well?
This same woman locked the Children overnight at a police station (Life Story), that one of the son went out for days. The guy in particular let's call him (K) was tired of home, since lockdown na indoor things, decided to go out and the mother locked the door, when my guy jakpa commot na there wahala happen, the mother waited for him to come back and gbam he land for police cell, and his twin (E) in the spirit of solidarity land inside cell too.
Another time the mother whipped K, this guy is sporting beards already. I went to the house this money to seek the mother permission to introduce the guy to one job, na wahala for there fah the woman no gree, I kuku carry my wahala commot for there, the thing is overly excessive.
Parents and Guardians here, train your children, give them a chance to be themselves, all the overly zealous and spiritual parents here, that can quote scriptures if a child is found wanting read Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21.
You are to correct and guide them, do not limit them because of your own thoughts and perception the child has his own life to live.
Before tomorrow comes and out of anger the child decides to cut you off, it becomes a problem for you.
Mynd44, Seun

U get sense at all? Why u dey tag slawormir with mods?
Down to business, most of this current generation's youths are generally empty of business ideas, social media freaks(unable to socialize in the real world) and are unable to interact with their environment due to this issue.
I know of a man whose father abuses him daily for not being able to drive whereas his father never gave him the freedom to do so.
In life, we learn primarily from our own experiences and secondarily from experiences of others but some African parents expect their children to have no experiences of their own, too bad!
That's how most youths grow up to be simps, introverts, incapable adults etc. My advice to any affected individual(s); no gree o, it's your life, obey your parents but also, learn to Know when to draw the line. Make mature peers and take charge of your life. The overly protective parents will one day, not be there to protect you anymore. In all you do, seek the counsel of God.

Parents Remember, too much of Everything is bad as they say.

Legally,18 years old is an adult..but,i put it to u.dat economically and financially not an adult in nigeria.so,whom ever feeds u,guids ur convictions...cant be feeding u,clothing and housing u,only to obey constitution and disobey me...then,make constitution take care of u.

donbachi:
Legally,18 years old is an adult..but,i put it to u.dat economically and financially not an adult in nigeria.so,whom ever feeds u,guids ur convictions...cant be feeding u,clothing and housing u,only to obey constitution and disobey me...then,make constitution take care of u.

Chairman I no dey against following constitution fah but make e no choke me for neck

ApostleAnarchy:
U get sense at all? Why u dey tag slawormir with mods?
Down to business, most of this current generation's youths are generally empty of business ideas, social media freaks(unable to socialize in the real world) and are unable to interact with their environment due to this issue.
I know of a man whose father abuses him daily for not being able to drive whereas his father never gave him the freedom to do so.
In life, we learn primarily from our own experiences and secondarily from experiences of others but some African parents expect their children to have no experiences of their own, too bad!
That's how most youths grow up to be simps, introverts, incapable adults etc. My advice to any affected individual(s); no gree o, it's your life, obey your parents but also, learn to Know when to draw the line. Make mature peers and take charge of your life. The overly protective parents will one day, not be there to protect you anymore. In all you do, seek the counsel of God.

Parents Remember, too much of Everything is bad as they say.

You sef you see am make parents sef do jeje if na like this them choke dem we for no exist na

OP, is their father not in the picture?

What exactly is your relationship with these people?

Bro try spacing and making use of paragraphs....



Eheh... That work u be one introduce to K... Is it still available...

Local man needs a job

Would you rather have your own kids become cultists and also have frat boys cut of their heads and send you pictures? Every mallam to him kettle, mind your goddamn business.

proclinician:
Would you rather have your own kids become cultists and also have frat boys cut of their heads and send you pictures? Every mallam to him kettle, mind your goddamn business.

Not necessarily.

I remember growing up, there were these siblings that were never allowed out to play. Our street was a very small close where all the kids knew each other.Their parents locked them in and they would be watching us through their gate like prisoners.

When they were finally released to university, they both unleashed their dragons. The boy was a known cultists. One night he even came back with blood all over. The sister was a correct runs girl. Don't know about now though.

Being too protective has it's consequences. If you bring them up well, trust them to make the right decisions while you guide them.

Mindlog:
OP, is their father not in the picture?

The father is late

Vyzz:
Bro try spacing and making use of paragraphs....




Eheh... That work u be one introduce to K... Is it still available...


Local man needs a job

Vyzz thanks a lot for the heads up on writing but for the job......

Unnerve:
What exactly is your relationship with these people?

We attend same church, it becomes a problem for these folks to even go to church.

proclinician:
Would you rather have your own kids become cultists and also have frat boys cut of their heads and send you pictures? Every mallam to him kettle, mind your goddamn business.

I am not against parenting but you need to let individuals the children you have to sort things out by them self, you are to act as a guardian, a teacher. Not to be the enemy, most people would not even tell their parents nothing. So it becomes a problem tomorrow if the child has any issue at all, why? There is no relationship at all.

That's the way of most Nigerian parents.
Most of them feel they have the right to control the lives their children.

A woman like that deserves no pity.
You see how she'd rather toil hard to keep them dependent on her, than have them work, provide for her and become independent.
Wait until those boys break free, that'll be the end.
They'd leave and NEVER LOOK BACK!
When she eventually ends up pitifully alone, nobody will know she by herself pushed her children away with her strictness.

Sazzy07:

I am not against parenting but you need to let individuals the children you have to sort things out by them self, you are to act as a guardian, a teacher. Not to be the enemy, most people would not even tell their parents nothing. So it becomes a problem tomorrow if the child has any issue at all, why? There is no relationship at all.

Do you have any idea how many destinies that have been truncated by bad company?

Over zealous is indeed the right word. What's wrong with allowing them to explore with guidance? When kids like that now see freedom, they tend to misbehave. No wonder the children in the developed world who from babies are allowed to explore with guidance thrive better than our children here.

Babies take swimming lessons before they even learn to talk, here, grown azss adults ain't even allowed to learn how to survive in the occasion of life! May God help us...and madam is raising fathers, husbands, leaders, men of the future! Tufia!

Sazzy07:
Good Morning nairaland.
I want to sincerely ask all the overly protective parents abeg wetin be una problem. I happen to be around a particular mother hen (Pun intended), whose overly protective nature is becoming too annoying even for me.
The woman in question has two boys (twins) and yet still would not permit them out of the house, and they are over 18. I am not against good parenting, the current generations needs it,but please it becomes a problem where one can do anything at all due to the parent factor.
Now back to the story, the twins are in higher institution already, but believe me the mother vehemently refuses to let them do anything worth while, at the time for their Post Ume Screening, the mother followed the Children to their respective schools, some may agree that the children are new there and other things, but hello they are grown already.
How can they grow sociologically?
How do you expect them to relate with others very well?
This same woman locked the Children overnight at a police station (Life Story), that one of the son went out for days. The guy in particular let's call him (K) was tired of home, since lockdown na indoor things, decided to go out and the mother locked the door, when my guy jakpa commot na there wahala happen, the mother waited for him to come back and gbam he land for police cell, and his twin (E) in the spirit of solidarity land inside cell too.
Another time the mother whipped K, this guy is sporting beards already. I went to the house this money to seek the mother permission to introduce the guy to one job, na wahala for there fah the woman no gree, I kuku carry my wahala commot for there, the thing is overly excessive.
Parents and Guardians here, train your children, give them a chance to be themselves, all the overly zealous and spiritual parents here, that can quote scriptures if a child is found wanting read Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21.
You are to correct and guide them, do not limit them because of your own thoughts and perception the child has his own life to live.
Before tomorrow comes and out of anger the child decides to cut you off, it becomes a problem for you.
Mynd44, Seun

Maybe the kids have not proven they are responsible; maybe the mother is over protective because their father is late; maybe it is a combination of both points.

I do know that a child who 'decided to go out' without informing his mother is irresponsible. Locking him up might be over the top however, if the son is not responsible enough to know the benefits of the lockdown and recreate entertainment for himself within his immediate environment, he might 'deserve' the cell lock up.

@Job, what kind of job did you offer the kids? During this corona period? Did you explain well to the mother factoring the risk of COVID-19 and ways to mitigate against the risk of exposure?

When parents are comfortable enough to cater for their kids, they carefully select what they venture into. A child doesn't necessarily have to 'hustle' before they become sharp or as part of their growth process. Nor do their parents need the extra income they supposedly bring in.

Maybe she would have been more welcome towards learning a vital online skill since they are home on lockdown.

Sazzy07:

We attend same church, it becomes a problem for these folks to even go to church.

Lol, maybe she'll listen to a pastor or someone else she respects enough & recognizes as one who can have a say in how she raises her children.

You on the other hand, your anger is misplaced and honestly over the top, almost like you have a personal stake in the matter.

Sazzy07:

The father is late

Sensing behavioural health issue(s) in their mother.