Did you know that every minute, 20 people are physically abused by their intimate partners? That totals to more than 10 million people in just one year.

And the worst part? That statistic doesn’t even cover psychological or emotional abuse which is even more common than physical abuse. Are you in an abusive marriage?

If you said no, are you sure? Spotting psychological and emotional abuse can be more difficult than identifying physical abuse, but we can help you find the differences and guide you to help.
Signs of Abuse

For those in a toxic relationship, identifying the specific type(s) of abuse can seem daunting. A good place to start is looking for broad and general signs of abuse.

This can include traits of possessiveness and jealousy as well as verbal signs like threats and put-downs. The tell-tale sign of an abusive relationship is, of course, physical and/or sexual violence.

With people now exploring their sexuality more than ever, it can be difficult to decipher whether your partner is exploring a fantasy, or they’re abusing you. During sex and throughout your days, pay attention to their behavior for these toxic traits.

Another sign of abuse is focused on you, the victim. If you find yourself excusing their behavior often or you blame yourself for the way they’re acting all the time, you are likely in an abusive marriage.

In more extreme cases, the victim can experience Stockholm syndrome, which is typically considered as a psychological coping mechanism. If you are experiencing Stockholm syndrome, you are likely to brush off the idea. It helps to see a professional or to reach out to a friend who can help you spot the signs.
Psychological Abuse

Psychological abuse, also known as emotional abuse, is the most difficult to spot as it is very manipulative. If left unchecked, over time the victim will begin to internalize this abuse and they’ll believe it’s true and it’s their fault. Because it’s so elusive and hard to identify, between 50 and 80 percent of adults are at risk of psychological abuse.

Most psychological abuse is used to shame, humiliate, and instill fear into the victim so the abuser can assume power and control. Because the abusers want said control, a good indicator of emotional abuse is the constant knowledge of where you are at all times. This includes tracking you from your phone, controlling where you go, deciding who you hang out with, forcing you to be home at certain times, the list goes on.

Another trick used by psychological abusers is gaslighting. This form of manipulation makes you wonder if an incident or something else was real or not. You will start to question your own sanity, wondering if maybe your abuser is right and perhaps you had just remembered wrong.

Psychological abuse isn’t just limited to these traits and methods, though. Another common trick that psychological abusers use is emotional neglect.

Essentially, they’ll start to ignore you by not communicating with you, perhaps disappearing with no mention, turning others against you. They’ll even attempt to emotionally isolate you from others to maintain control.

They can do this by assassinating your character which would turn your friends away; they’ll try to come in between you and your family, and much more. Doing all this may seem counterproductive on the abuser’s part, especially if they’re shutting you out, but if you have no one to go to except for them, that’s exactly what they want.
Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is the one most often discussed and portrayed in television and film. Just like with psychological abuse, the main goal of the abuser is to gain power and control over the victim. While the methods utilized by an emotional abuser are subtle and hard to detect, those used by a physical abuser are clear and intimidating.

When discussing how the victim feels, in a psychologically abusive relationship, your feelings are sometimes confusing and you tend to blame yourself, painting your abuser as the “good guy”.

With physical abuse, you’ll still wonder if perhaps you are to blame for their behavior, but you’ll also feel afraid of your partner. You may avoid talking about certain things because you don’t want to make your partner angry, you think that you deserve to be mistreated, and in extreme situations, you may even feel emotionally numb.

Physical abusers use tactics utilized by emotional abusers like belittling and they carry similar traits like possessiveness and jealousy, but what sets them apart is that when those methods fail, they get physical. Physical abusers tend to have a bad temper, they threaten you with harm of all extents, they use you for sex, and they can even threaten suicide if you were to leave them.

Another thing to note is that physical abuse follows a cycle: abuse, guilt, excuses, “normal” behavior, fantasizing, and the set-up. If you think you are a victim of physical abuse or you believe you are in an abusive marriage or relationship, refer to this cycle and look at where you are now and how past incidents have played out.
Abuse of Men

While definitely not as common as women with male abusers, men can be the victims. In fact, 29% of straight men have been physically abused by their partners. When discussing emotional abuse, nearly 48% of men have been abused.

Because of the toxic masculinity instilled by the patriarchal society we live in, most men don’t feel comfortable discussing their own mental health, substance abuse, and domestic abuse. Not only do they not feel comfortable discussing these things with others, but they don’t want to admit to themselves that these things are happening to them.

For men, spotting the signs of abuse is the same as if you were a woman. While it may be difficult, it’s time to stop being one of the 830,000 men a year that are victims of domestic abuse.
What Should I Do?
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Hmm marriages this days are turning to war

You need to be prepared.

Don't build your life around anybody.

As a woman, earn your own MONEY, have your own savings. Control your finance.

Have your own properties. In your name. If he added money or give u a gift. Make sure papers are in your Name.

When the time comes, you will make decisions not influenced by how u will survive without the abusive partner.

The reason why ladies want to die in abusive relationship is the fear of how to survive.

Imagine the Madam and 2 kids on the road without a dime to call her own

A lot of young ladies these days don't even think about having a career, having an investment, they just rely absolutely on their partners, and so it becomes very difficult for them leave an abusive relationship. Even sometimes men are also been abused.

Marriage is nt bed of roses...

Yes it is not a bed of roses, It doesn't mean you should die there.
And who said you can't make it a bed of roses?

The annoying thing about marriage these days is one partner rely on the other to make it work. It's a joint work that requires both carrying the burden.
It's just easy for some because they empathize with one another.
If you cannot make your marriage work come what may, you have no business getting married.

True talk

nautybride:
The annoying thing about marriage these days is one partner rely on the other to make it work. It's a joint work that requires both carrying the burden.
It's just easy for some because they empathize with one another.
If you cannot make your marriage work come what may, you have no business getting married.

Marriage is a burden?
Marriage should be about two people who enjoy each other's company.

mariahAngel:


[s]Marriage is a burden?
Marriage should be about two people who enjoy each other's company[/s].

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mariahAngel:


[s] Na de koko be dat naaaaa

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EmperorMaria:


Wen they are old, they will start doing gud girls, tryn 2 trap a nigga

Let me put it this way EmperorMaria: Even if I were close to a hundred years old, almost blind with a walking stick, you would NEVER fall into the category of guys I can ever get attracted to. NEVER!
I've NEVER been so unattracted to a guy as I am to you.
There's NOTHING about you that fascinates or interests me. NOTHING!

mariahAngel:


[s]Let me put it this way EmperorMaria: Even if I were a close to a hundred years old, almost blind with a walking stick, you would NEVER fall into the category of guys I can ever get attracted to. NEVER!
I've NEVER been so unattracted to a guy as I am to you.
There's NOTHING about you that fascinates or interests me. NOTHING! [/s]

Has ur attraction made any man rich? Broke women always overrating themselves

Take it easy guys, we have left the issue that is really important.
Please let not get personal. Your opinions so far is really appreciated and is helping a lot of people out there.

mariahAngel:


Marriage is a burden?
Marriage should be about two people who enjoy each other's company.

Each relationship comes with its own ups and downs. None is perfect.
Did you say two people who enjoy each other's company? When children and responsibilities set in, it expands and when it does, a lot of things one doesn't plan for comes up. Then, we should bear it together not singly.

True talk, and we should also communicate more