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Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by CastedAyo: 2:41am On May 29, 2018
US-Based Nigerian lady @zynnnie on Twitter has narrated how her father saved her from an abusive relationship after a simple dispute with her fiance over wedding venue.

It turns out the guy had issues with violence. He went ahead to marry someone else and years later, he was locked up for beating his wife.

Read the story below;
"At 24,Mr A wanted to marry me,I was excited about it and was eager to take him home.This relationship wasn’t consummated cos I was/is a typical keep your equipment to yourself kinda girl.I snuck out of school to visit him numerous times until it was time for him to meet my parent

My mum liked him immediately mostly cos he was a doppelgänger of my late elder brother. she gave her blessings but it immediately went south upon realizing that he is a Pastor’s son, a general overseer’s son and we are Catholics. My parents are knight of the church .

He refused to wed me in my church and my mum refused I wed outside Catholic Church. Oh my father never said a word. He is annoyingly very calm in times a chaos, he was just smiling at me and my rants.

Everything was called off and I really didnt like my mum at that point, I felt robbed but my father told me something that eventually saved my life. I went to my dad and this man made me narrate the whole story to him. My father is very wise and intelligent.

My dad told me to date Mr A for one more year and after that he will tell me what to do to change my mother’s heart.I asked if he was suggesting I get pregnant and he said”I didn’t say that cos if you get pregnant,you will have the baby in my house and u will still not marry him”

Two months later, Mr A called me that he was getting married to another girl that his daddy arranged for him. I was broken and sad, I called my mum and was ranting on how she ruined my life and made Mr A marry another girl. My dad once again didn’t say a word.

I called my dad and told him then he said, “I knew you guys had no business getting married if something as common as venue of the wedding was an insurmountable problem, I just needed you to see it for yourself”

My dad’s statement woke me up from slumber and something clicked. I wiped my tears immediately and said thank u daddy. He started hailing me with his usual Ada obodo oyibo’m and Ada kpokee nkee kpokee nkee ( I don’t know what that last one means but he calls me that)

I remembered this story cos my dad asked about Mr A today. I told him that his father in law locked him up for beating his daughter and my dad nearly died of laughter.

End of thread. Moral lesson, what an elder sees sitting down, a young person may not see standing on top the tallest iroko tree. There is wisdom in the words of our parents. (NB: If you grew up in an abusive home then this thread is not for you)"

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/05/nigerian-lady-narrates-how-her-father-saved-her-from-an-abusive-marriage.html

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by CastedAyo: 2:43am On May 29, 2018
More; https://www.torimill.com/2018/05/nigerian-lady-narrates-how-her-father-saved-her-from-an-abusive-marriage.html

Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by SoapQueen(f): 2:50am On May 29, 2018
World pipo said I asked an insensitive question by asking 'is she married now?'

I didn't ask because I felt she lost out by not marrying her ex. I asked because just like her dad, I was curious.

I never would condone abuse in any form neither am I in a haste to get married like someone said down there.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:18am On May 29, 2018
She has got a good popsie....

Moral lesson, what an elder sees sitting down, a young person may not see standing on top the tallest iroko tree. There is wisdom in the words of our parents

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by livinus009(m): 5:21am On May 29, 2018
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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Sarang(f): 5:21am On May 29, 2018
SoapQueen:
She done marry now?

Did I just read this? undecided
So she should die because she wan do marriage..
And you are actually a female lipsrsealed

Modified: I read your explanation. I understand now.. sorry about that smiley

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by espn(m): 5:22am On May 29, 2018
The one wey no argue venue with you still fit beat you... Life can be very unpredictable and funny...

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by highqueen(f): 5:22am On May 29, 2018
SoapQueen:
She done marry now?
better to stay single and happy than to marry a chronic woman beater.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Nobody: 5:23am On May 29, 2018
Sorry to derail your thread, but how true is this about introverts?

Have been told to advise people to marry more of introverts if they happen to meet one.

Reason being;
-They have integrity.
-They hate drama or attention seeking issues
-They are conservatives.
-They are good financial planners.
-They are intelligent and acute thinkers.
-They are the best advisers you can get.
-Once you can break one, you have your prince charming.
-They rarely cheat.
-They are barely broke.
-They are neat and tidy

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Sarang(f): 5:23am On May 29, 2018
highqueen:

better to stay single and happy than to marry a chronic woman beater.

That is eeh.. is marriage a ticket biko nu shocked

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by CriticMaestro: 5:24am On May 29, 2018
Moral lesson...your pa is a witch...Knight ke
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by CivilzedTyger(m): 5:25am On May 29, 2018
Lolz.Made a wise decision
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by highqueen(f): 5:25am On May 29, 2018
Sarang:


That is eeh.. is marriage a ticket biko nu shocked
I'm disappointed at her comment.
so she'd actually be happy to see her fellow lady go into trauma with bruises all over her body.



smh!!some ladies shaa.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by BlackHatNaija: 5:26am On May 29, 2018
That's helpful. Some fathers are that calm and intelligent.

The most wise part in her story is her father telling her that if you get pregnant for him, you will have the baby in my house and you will still not marry him.

Mehn, I so much like that because that's the trap many ladies today have fallen into. Once they're pregnant for a potential woman beater they think he will change because they're pregnant or because of the new born. What a mistake. Some will just go ahead and marry him simply because they're pregnant. Even if the guy is not a woman beater but not just compatible with you, pregnancy is not a valid reason to forcefully marry him. Use your head!

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Sarang(f): 5:28am On May 29, 2018
highqueen:

I'm disappointed at her comment.
so she'd actually be happy to see her fellow lady go into trauma with bruises all over her body.



smh!!some ladies shaa.

I hope they don't use her and do banding lol cheesy
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Nobody: 5:32am On May 29, 2018
livinus009:
A father's advice will always be DEEP. Am sure her mum wanted her to marry Mr. A because his father is the senior Priest of thier church and she thought that her daughter marrying the Senior Priest's Son will boast image in front of her fellow mumu Women.
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by highqueen(f): 5:33am On May 29, 2018
Sarang:

I hope they don't use her and do banding lol cheesy
she really needs it;cos it's obvious she's supportive of it.
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Nobody: 5:38am On May 29, 2018
livinus009:
A father's advice will always be DEEP. Am sure her mum wanted her to marry Mr. A because his father is the senior Priest of thier church and she thought that her daughter marrying the Senior Priest's Son will boast image in front of her fellow mumu Women.

no she wanted an opportunity to be sleeping with him, such shameless hag of a mother putting her interests before her daughters.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by SoNature(m): 5:39am On May 29, 2018
She's beautiful grin

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Nairalandmentor(m): 5:42am On May 29, 2018
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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by ybalogs(m): 5:42am On May 29, 2018
That's what fathers does. God bless all fathers and intending fathers. The good ones ooo

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Mikeross62: 5:42am On May 29, 2018
OK cool
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by 7footre(m): 5:43am On May 29, 2018
Lemmi goan add her up at least I'm a Catholic so we will not fight because of venue... Make una wish me luck

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by ybalogs(m): 5:45am On May 29, 2018
She should be thanking her mother instead jooor.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by ybalogs(m): 5:46am On May 29, 2018
Happy Democracy day Nigerians.
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Sarang(f): 5:47am On May 29, 2018
highqueen:

she really needs it;cos it's obvious she's supportive of it.

Lol you wicked grin
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Alexk2(m): 5:51am On May 29, 2018
Her last line spoil the whole story..
" (NB: If you grew up in an abusive home then this thread is not for you)"
What happen to those who grew up in an abusive home? The last time I checked, experience is the best teacher for the 'wise'

Btw, I doubt if she really learn her lession in anyway....and she didn't even get the point from her narration. Her dad want her to understand the that communication, respect for each other and understanding plays a very important role to a working relationship(her parent seems to even lack that). The relationship would've workout if those characteristics are present and the man wouldn't have been an abuser.
Goodluck to her...I pray she get sense she.

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by HarryDuce(m): 5:58am On May 29, 2018
ybalogs:
Happy Independence Day Nigerians.
Democracy...
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by ojeffo: 5:59am On May 29, 2018
Useless people, na so una go dey argue about church till you find yourself at MENOPAUSE STREET..then you will turn to relationship expert.
Any BAD MOUTH? I will curse u with mouth odour

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Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by Alwaysking: 6:01am On May 29, 2018
Good for her.
Re: Nigerian Lady Narrates How Her Father Saved Her From An Abusive Marriage by ybalogs(m): 6:02am On May 29, 2018
HarryDuce:
Democracy...
Thanks boss

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