luminouz:


Lol but I judged you based on your antics here.

Never met you in real life and if you are as anything as online, biko...I no wan meet you for real life o.


Meek as a dove? Ehn ehnnnn.... Wait first, can you cook soup? I hate amala but pounded yam will do. If yes, I could come visit!!!

badt guy! See as you take style chook pin

When falling in love do ensure its mutual

SwTeee:
When falling in love do ensure its mutual

Smh

Ayaaz:


Do you just want the tingly feeling, the blinding love i.e fool's love, or the real thing?

Real love is first of all real, meaning, you go in with your eyes open

Real love is commitment and sacrifice

Real love is a realization that the object of love is precious. This realization, makes loving real


So i'm asking you now, what do you want?

Which one of them will happen the fastest with the least associated problems/pain? That's the one I want

SwTeee:
When falling in love do ensure its mutual

And how can I do that? How do I know it's mutual?

luminouz:


Lol but I judged you based on your antics here.

Never met you in real life and if you are as anything as online, biko...I no wan meet you for real life o.


Meek as a dove? Ehn ehnnnn.... Wait first, can you cook soup? I hate amala but pounded yam will do. If yes, I could come visit!!!

I hate stress so no pounded yam for you. Sorry. However, cooking soup depends on my mood. On happy days, you get non watery ones so you choose carefully the day you're stopping by.

Sixfeetbelle:


I hate stress so no pounded yam for you. Sorry. However, cooking soup depends on my mood. On happy days, you get non watery ones so you choose carefully the day you're stopping by.

Bad geh

Sixfeetbelle:


Which one of them will happen the fastest with the least associated problems/pain? That's the one I want

Go for the real thing, the struggle is worth it, just like the struggle to achieve anything worthwhile

The others will hit you hard and fast but will leave you worse off than you met them

You can give me a shot! I'll show you what true love is

Sixfeetbelle:


I want to fall in love first.


Marriage will come later.

1. Believe that love exist..

2. Have a picture of the kind of qualities you want in a lover.

3. Hunt for a person that possess those qualities. If you succeed in finding such person...

4. Give him a chance by showing him the green light. When he eventually makes the move accept him.

5. Work together faithfully towards the success of your newly found union.

Nazgul:

1. Believe that love exist..

2. Have a picture of the kind of qualities you want in a lover.

3. Hunt for a person that possess those qualities. If you succeed in finding such person...

4. Give him a chance by showing him the green light. When he eventually makes the move accept him.

5. Work together faithfully towards the success of your newly found union.

I know now that there's no love without money so it cancels out number 1.

And since number 1 is cancelled, then so is the rest

Sixfeetbelle:


I know now that there's no love without money so it cancels out number 1.

And since number 1 is cancelled, then so is the rest

Money enhances love no doubt, but that doesn't mean that love wouldn't exist when money is absent...

Unless your definition/understanding about love is quite different from the regular beliefs.

Nazgul:

Money enhances love no doubt, but that doesn't mean that love wouldn't exist when money is absent...

Unless your definition/understanding about love is quite different from the regular beliefs.

There's no love without money, at least not in Nigeria. I'm broke now so I'm no longer looking for love. But once I have money, gbam! I'll fall in love, just like that

Sixfeetbelle:


There's no love without money, at least not in Nigeria. I'm broke now so I'm no longer looking for love. But once I have money, gbam! I'll fall in love, just like that

You're not far from the truth...but like I said it all depends on the partner in question.

One of my course mate in school it was his wife that submitted his CV to the company he's currently working in.

He met her broke, but she saw a future with him and knew that his only problem is that he isn't working, she actually helped him secure a job and as I type this they're happily married.

It all depends on how far you're willing to go in helping your man find his feet. Most girls just don't have the patience to till the soil what they're after is a bountiful harvest. Sometimes it doesn't work that way.

If you choose to love only when money exist, it's not bad either. But the truth is we don't get to choose who we fall in love with. You might just like someone and be willing to do anything for him most especially when you discover that his problem is that he's a victim of bad governance.

Nazgul:

You're not far from the truth...but like I said it all depends on the partner in question.

One of my course mate in school it was his wife that submitted his CV to the company he's currently working in.

He met her broke, but she saw a future with him and knew that his only problem is that he isn't working, she actually helped him secure a job and as I type this they're happily married.

It all depends on how far you're willing to go in helping your man find his feet. Most girls just don't have the patience to till the soil what they're after is a bountiful harvest. Sometimes it doesn't work that way.

If you choose to love only when money exist, it's not bad either. But the truth is we don't get to choose who we fall in love with. You might just like someone and be willing to do anything for him most especially when you discover that his problem is that he's a victim of bad governance.

Was the lady broke?

Sixfeetbelle:


Was the lady broke?

She had a job.

You have to start by loving yourself, define what you want in your supposed partner. Understand what you can deal with and what you can't deal with.
After the above, Love comes naturally you don't need to struggle for it. Just allow yourself.

You might need to watch this video for more details.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o9XwVWAa_0A

Nazgul:

She had a job.

You see the difference now?

Sixfeetbelle:


You see the difference now?

Most ladies feel it should be the other way round. The guy should be the one with the job while the lady should be taken care of.

My argument is love can still exist regardless of who's more financially advantaged. It's all about one's mindset

Nazgul:

Most ladies feel it should be the other way round. The guy should be the one with the job while the lady should be taken care of.

My argument is love can still exist regardless of who's more financially advantaged. It's all about one's mindset

Guys don't even buy into the "she can be broke" notion anymore set. If she ain't working or running a profitable business, they jakpa.

So I still maintain there's no love without money.

Sixfeetbelle:


Guys don't even buy into the "she can be broke" notion anymore set. If she ain't working or running a profitable business, they jakpa.

So I still maintain there's no love without money.

It all depends on the mindset of who you fall in love with.

Guys run because they're scared of footing the bills of someone who sees it as her right to be taken care of. And sadly mose ladies see relationships as a job. A girl has once told me that her ex was giving her 150k monthly as upkeep money and if I want her for keeps I must increase it.

Imagine paying such amount to a girl you know might not be faithful, when you have aged parents and siblings who would forever be greatful if you give them a fraction of that amount monthly... believe me the best option is to japa.

If a girl is broke but her broke state isn't because she's lazy but because she just can't secure a job but is willing to work, and she doesn't have this mindset of seeing a relationship as a potential platform to foot her bills, most guys (myself inclusive) wouldn't mind dating her and try to help her get her back on her feet.

Sixfeetbelle:


Guys don't even buy into the "she can be broke" notion anymore set. If she ain't working or running a profitable business, they jakpa.

So I still maintain there's no love without money.

Being broke is temporary, circumstantial, fleeting, and reversible. But if you are poor, as in, mentally vapid, with a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity that utilizes any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) as a fleeting resource to be exploited, ransacked, and parasite from, then no, I no de do.

So if you're not poor but broke, then maybe, just maybe I'm the Okoro you're looking for.

pansophist:


Being broke is temporary, circumstantial, fleeting, and reversible. But if you are poor, as in, mentally vapid, with a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity that utilizes any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) as a fleeting resource to be exploited, ransacked, and parasite from, then no, I no de do.

So if you're not poor but broke, then maybe, just maybe I'm the Okoro you're looking for.

I am mentally vapid with a predatory mindset.

Nice to meet you

Nazgul:

It all depends on the mindset of who you fall in love with.

Guys run because they're scared of footing the bills of someone who sees it as her right to be taken care of. And sadly mose ladies see relationships as a job. A girl has once told me that her ex was giving her 150k monthly as upkeep money and if I want her for keeps I must increase it.

Imagine paying such amount to a girl you know might not be faithful, when you have aged parents and siblings who would forever be greatful if you give them a fraction of that amount monthly... believe me the best option is to japa.

If a girl is broke but her broke state isn't because she's lazy but because she just can't secure a job but is willing to work, and she doesn't have this mindset of seeing a relationship as a potential platform to foot her bills, most guys (myself inclusive) wouldn't mind dating her and try to help her get her back on her feet.

To not have this mindset of not seeing a relationship as a potential platform to foot a lady's bills is a hard virtue to conceive. I am, but, a mere mortal and do not possess such.


You understand, right?

Sixfeetbelle:


To not have this mindset of not seeing a relationship as a potential platform to foot a lady's bills is a hard virtue to conceive. I am, but, a mere mortal and do not possess such.


You understand, right?

Of course I understand...

Your life, your choice.

Sixfeetbelle:
Chim ooh! Local girl is tired. Ole ihe bu ihe nkaa?

The Genesis of the matter.

I just finished watching a romantic movie and I've been sighing longingly for over an hour. What is in this "love" that people are falling into everyday yet I've been unlucky in finding that place? And although I hear people say "there's no love in Nigeria", I can't help but doubt them when I see my timelines on Facebook. Wedding every Saturday, love in the air. Or is there own feem trick?. Does love segregate?

What pushed me to write this thread?

I just realised that as old as I am, I've never been in love before and I'm suddenly coming to the unpalatable conclusion that at the rate I'm going, falling in love may never happen to me (wails uncontrollably). I want to love somebody's son and I want somebody's son to love me back. Is it hard to do?

There was a time I thought I knew how to achieve this feat but conditions are not favoring my initial plans of travelling abroad, doing a whirlwind romance and falling in love like they portray that they do over there, so I've decided to cut my coat according to my cloth, literally, and just do the type practiced here. So early this year, I made a research (Aproko) on how best to achieve this and voila: Nairaland Romance section popped up in brilliant hues.

Romance-land and the word "love"

But contrary to my expectations, romanceland has failed woefully in trying to help me attain this goal (these peeps here don't know what love is). With their incessant need to discuss on repetition topics ranging from preeks and kitten to redpill and feminism, even broke guys and entitled ladies all day long, I've found it hard to actually pinpoint a topic/thread that centers/teaches on love and how to fall in it. Thus asking, should I consult another section and try my luck over there? Maybe politics section? Those guys over there "sound" vicious enough and since the violent taketh it by force...

What I need?

So I've taken it upon myself to make the necessary clarion call on behalf of all the single people like me who has never been in love before, and for those who wish to experience it again to get the directions they need. As I am ignorant about how to go about falling in love, I'd implore those with expertise to help us with plentiful knowledge on the matter so that we can all learn and apply it.

Specifically, I need clarification on: where the entrance called "love" is located so I can go and fall inside or is that it is no longer accepting applications at this time? Has the door of love finally closed?



Thank you.


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Take my hand n let's go together!

Sixfeetbelle:


I've heard this admonition a few times but I suppose the reason I haven't tried to be serious about looking for love is cause I'm scared?

I heard heartbreak is as serious as a heart attack. I don't want love to kill me

how old are u, this particular comment sounds so childish..

chccho:

Take my hand n let's go together!

Go where?

Abeg leave me. You and who is going where?

LINTUNE:
how old are u, this particular comment sounds so childish..

Before nko. Why won't it sound childish to you?

Oya you that only makes adultish comments, go and get your heart broken numerous times to prove your adult-ness.

Sixfeetbelle:


Go where?

Abeg leave me. You and who is going where?

Taking u to the love land u have longed for

Sixfeetbelle:


Before nko. Why won't it sound childish to you?

Oya you that only makes adultish comments, go and get your heart broken numerous times to prove your adult-ness.

are u for real? are u a teenager that u should be scared of relationships cos of heartbreaks?, thats an absurd excuse na,.i dont think my heart can never be broken, i remember a statement lord bellish (little finger) of GOT, told sansa , go and listen to that quote, apply it in ur life, and u will never have any serious heartbreak, no matter how in love u might be..