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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PataAlhajaKeji(m): 3:23pm On Apr 13, 2021
Greatfullheart:
cryGirls ard Bitches sent by Witches to steal our Riches and leave us with Stiches. Always use your head guys. F**k love am tired of trying.

Oshey!

Tupac Shakur!

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by bignero: 3:26pm On Apr 13, 2021
PrimadonnaO:


Well to be honest, I feel everyone should be able to gauge chemistry. You should be able to know when a girl really likes you.

If communication is strained... she's probably not feeling you.

If you always beg to see her... she's not feeling you or there's someone else occupying her time and mind.

If she starts on from the get-go with billing - high chance she dates people primarily for financial gratification.

In the way you're getting to know her, if she's not also deliberately trying to know you - high chance she doesn't put much thought into dating and just says yes to almost anyone who asks her out.

People should be intentional about dating... before the relationship starts, and during the relationship.

Your dropping sensible comments..

I like the first comment you made.. But.. Am going the direct opposite.. Trump style straight to the point..

I met a girl i really like.. I believe she digs me too.. Though shes playing hard to get evidently.. Some one been checking my profile on truecaller am certain its her etc.. This weekend am. Going to tell her my mind hoha.. Lol, yes i want to marry her, we spoke only about a month ago... If shes still playing hard to get etc... All letting it all go.. I no get power...

A friend married this way, met the girl.. Yo id like to marry you and boom... So if my own no wan mature and wait for frensdship, when she could be laughing in my arms, and giving birth etc.. Shes not very wise.. Na after menopause she wan give birth..

Finally there no hard and fast rules.. Intuition will let you know when some one digs you, irrespective of what they say

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PataAlhajaKeji(m): 3:26pm On Apr 13, 2021
TemmyT002:
The first girl: I told her I like her. She said she will give me answer in a week's time. After one week she said she is dating another guy. I vex delete her number. The guy later impregnated her and dumped her (I am not gloating).

The second girl: I asked her permission to toast her. She said no. I vex delete her number. Na later I realized that she wanted me to try harder.

The third girl said I was too old. She didn't believe I was just four or five years older. Even sent her my ID card. She said no. I ignored her until she later complained about me neglecting her.

You send ID card because of toto!

Wonders ...

I weep for the future of Simpism.

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by zedman1(m): 3:28pm On Apr 13, 2021
bigpicture001:
I stopped chasing my immediate ex to come back. When I saw sh wouldn't pick or reply my calls or even reply my chats..... Pleas lasted a period of a month and half

I just forgot about her!
You don't do that to girls. Ignore them the moment they show u they need space. There's a very high percentage of chances she'll come back than chasing them for so long that you did.

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by DEMZEE(m): 3:28pm On Apr 13, 2021
PrimadonnaO:
See, first develop friendship with a girl. Give her a reasonable amount of time to get to know you.

Depending on the quality of communications you have, a month or 3 months max should suffice. If she's begun to like you, then trust me she's patiently waiting for you to ask her out.

Then you clearly ask her out.

If she tells you no, and the reason is not because she has a boyfriend already or she just got out of a relationship and needs some time to let wafer flow under the bridge before starting a new relationship, then please quit chasing, because she saw the question coming and has prepared for it.

*********
You can decide to hang around and strengthen the friendship so you ask again another time, but the chances of her stance changing is quite low, and you may simply end up investing more resources on a wild goose chase.

P.S This only applies to quality babes, not the ones who;

play hard-to-get for a living,

or the ones who think they should give any guy that asks them out a try.

or the ones who say yes because their birthday is close or they want to bill you for a new phone. grin

No high value man wud do this

Ladies break rules for alphas and make rules for betas

Passing through the friendzone doesn't work 99% of the time ma'am

This just shows u should never receive dating advice from women, they will not tell you the truth

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PataAlhajaKeji(m): 3:29pm On Apr 13, 2021
Toks2008:
Do I even chase? Me I approach and make my intentions known in a mature way but if she starts acting up, I jappa.

With Billions of ladies out there, no time for regberegbe.

For every man a lady is giving stress, there is another man out there she is tripping for so why should any reasonable guy chase an unresponsive lady...

If the vibe is good then I may carry on but if she ever thinks I will continue after she says NO then she is on her own.


Words.
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Mrlcredible: 3:29pm On Apr 13, 2021
PrimadonnaO:


Well to be honest, I feel everyone should be able to gauge chemistry. You should be able to know when a girl really likes you.

If communication is strained... she's probably not feeling you.

If you always beg to see her... she's not feeling you or there's someone else occupying her time and mind.

If she starts on from the get-go with billing - high chance she dates people primarily for financial gratification.

In the way you're getting to know her, if she's not also deliberately trying to know you - high chance she doesn't put much thought into dating and just says yes to almost anyone who asks her out.

People should be intentional about dating... before the relationship starts, and during the relationship.
very true. the green light is always obvious

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Wilespo: 3:32pm On Apr 13, 2021
seyi360:
Men have varying pursuit capacity, some have a short fuse while some have developed thick skin for insults upon insults from women. It has been said many times that women mean yes when they say no at times. How long shall a man continue to read in between the lines of a woman. What are the red lights a man should watch out for?
..............we meet, i tell u about me, u tell me about u....i toast u, u say let u think about it, i walk.......i know what i want and thats why i toast u in the first place...if u need time to make up ur mind on what u want, na u come know...time they say waits for no man......keep thinking while i seek for a lady who will make up her mind without any time wasting......!

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Mrlcredible: 3:33pm On Apr 13, 2021
Coldie:
If I say hi u no answer me I give up
Splitmind:
Try this, just stop initiating conversation with her and wait for her to start it, either calls, text or meeting personally.

If she doesn't say anything just drop her like that, many men make themselves into tools by chasing women who aren't giving back what they get.
Enyimbafc:
I stoped chasing girls,after collecting phone numbers of about 12 girls in two months but whenever i called them most did not pick their calls,even those that give me green,red,blue and black lights.The don't even care to call back,i don't have any other option rather than to delete the phone numbers of all the females in my phone except my mother.
one gave me number on Friday, on Sunday evening I called twice and she didn't pick up I then deleted the number so if she call back I then saved it back.
unfortunately she never did and till then na so she take commot for my contacts.
God punish am sef.
For this Buhari regime Toto no be priority

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Masterpiece93: 3:35pm On Apr 13, 2021
kunkelhanspeter:

Your intelligent conversation is it what is physics and chemistry?
grin grin
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by MansoryMX(m): 3:36pm On Apr 13, 2021
Na who even get time to say hello! I see majority of Nigeria girls as liabilities. undecided

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by steeltrust: 3:37pm On Apr 13, 2021
I chased my childhood love for 11years
And now we re together even after she having two kids and we re planning to get married. Want for introduction last month.

When you love some one them no go tell you

Remember they say love is blind

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:37pm On Apr 13, 2021
bignero:


Your dropping sensible comments..

I like the first comment you made.. But.. Am going the direct opposite.. Trump style straight to the point..

I met a girl i really like.. I believe she digs me too.. Though shes playing hard to get evidently.. Some one been checking my profile on truecaller am certain its her etc.. This weekend am. Going to tell her my mind hoha.. Lol, yes i want to marry her, we spoke only about a month ago... If shes still playing hard to get etc... All letting it all go.. I no get power...

A friend married this way, met the girl.. Yo id like to marry you and boom... So if my own no wan mature and wait for frensdship, when she could be laughing in my arms, and giving birth etc.. Shes not very wise.. Na after menopause she wan give birth..

Finally there no hard and fast rules.. Intuition will let you know when some one digs you, irrespective of what they say

Very true. Some people hit it off from the very first time they meet.

And even when you're trying to first be friends, don't become a brotherly friend because she'll brother-zone you in her head, and it may be nigh impossible for her to see you differently when you eventually ask her out or tell her you like her.

So be friends, but in a way that she's fully conscious that you're a man and she's a woman, if you know what I mean, lol. grin

I'll always support the friendship-first route, though. It lets everyone be their very regular self, that way when it graduates into a relationship, it becomes a largely smooth sail.

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:38pm On Apr 13, 2021
Adeebiwa09:


My sister go and open a vegetable oil factory, the oil that's on your head go supply the whole africa. YOU ARE DOING WELL. #followingyaasap

Lol. Thanks. smiley
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Pimine: 3:39pm On Apr 13, 2021
PrimadonnaO:
See, first develop friendship with a girl. Give her a reasonable amount of time to get to know you.

Depending on the quality of communications you have, a month or 3 months max should suffice. If she's begun to like you, then trust me she's patiently waiting for you to ask her out.

Then you clearly ask her out.

If she tells you no, and the reason is not because she has a boyfriend already or she just got out of a relationship and needs some time to let wafer flow under the bridge before starting a new relationship, then please quit chasing, because she saw the question coming and has prepared for it.

*********
You can decide to hang around and strengthen the friendship so you ask again another time, but the chances of her stance changing is quite low, and you may simply end up investing more resources on a wild goose chase.

P.S This only applies to quality babes, not the ones who;

play hard-to-get for a living,

or the ones who think they should give any guy that asks them out a try.

or the ones who say yes because their birthday is close or they want to bill you for a new phone. grin
Aswearugaaad

Friendship kor friendboat ni. Guys girl wey like you like you. Girls chase. Simple.

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Artisticity1: 3:40pm On Apr 13, 2021
a fool at fourty is a fool for ever. I bet I'll give up 40yrs later
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Nobody: 3:40pm On Apr 13, 2021
ayterajah:
Congratulations on your new title

Hon. Nairaland Observer
you guys never disappoint
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:40pm On Apr 13, 2021
seankafor:
you re right 100%.
But you see that time, that's what most men like me doesn't have..
With money and more money, these protocols will be bypassed.

You men and money, sef! Shey you think it's everyone money blindsides.

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Artisticity1: 3:42pm On Apr 13, 2021
steeltrust:
I chased my childhood love for 11years
And now we re together even after she having two kids and we re planning to get married. Want for introduction last month.

When you love some one them no go tell you

Remember they say love is blind

two kids from who?
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by steeltrust: 3:49pm On Apr 13, 2021
Artisticity1:


two kids from who?
from one rich nigga
Now ex
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by phazotron(m): 3:53pm On Apr 13, 2021
PrimadonnaO:
See, first develop friendship with a girl. Give her a reasonable amount of time to get to know you.

Depending on the quality of communications you have, a month or 3 months max should suffice. If she's begun to like you, then trust me she's patiently waiting for you to ask her out.

Then you clearly ask her out.

If she tells you no, and the reason is not because she has a boyfriend already or she just got out of a relationship and needs some time to let wafer flow under the bridge before starting a new relationship, then please quit chasing, because she saw the question coming and has prepared for it.

*********
You can decide to hang around and strengthen the friendship so you ask again another time, but the chances of her stance changing is quite low, and you may simply end up investing more resources on a wild goose chase.

P.S This only applies to quality babes, not the ones who;

play hard-to-get for a living,

or the ones who think they should give any guy that asks them out a try.

or the ones who say yes because their birthday is close or they want to bill you for a new phone. grin

From experience, girls always know who they want to be with from the moment they see the guy and start to interact with him within the first week of meeting him.

You're aware that For you to even be able to strike a friendship with a female she still has to like you. You know that right?

So how do you then apply your logic to the ones who won't even give you a chance to be their friends?

Once a girl doesn't send you from the get go, or within one week of meeting and knowing her, forget her. She doesn't have eyes for you.

I know how many females don ask me for relationship.... people I have never related with as much as to deem it a friendship.

I've had girls tell me I'm boring

And I've had girls who think I'm the funniest and most handsome guy on the planet.

Guys, No dey allow dat friendship thing deceive you

See, person Wey go like you go like you

Person Wey no go like you no go like you if you like, be her friend for 30 years

Person Wey go like you go like you if you like know her for a week

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Faber(m): 3:54pm On Apr 13, 2021
Yanbaba4u:
Girls in my department really made a mockery of me, I invite people tire from my 200lv, non showed up, ask few out all declined, even my girlfriend then started showing attitude, until she dumped my sorry ass �
Poverty is bad, fast forward to present day, boy don freshen up, come fine like madt, all the girls that turned me down started wondering, because the way I take change ee, the thing sef shock me,
They started seeking my face, even begging for visits, but I had to ignore them and face the one who later accepted me for who I am, I am with her now, and have no intention of cheating.

This post made my day

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by ifydav(m): 3:55pm On Apr 13, 2021
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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Nobody: 3:57pm On Apr 13, 2021
Some girls have turned relationship into a money making venture. That'show one girl was complaining sey I no dey too give her money for hair, clothes, bags and to hold for hand. For my heart I was like your father. If it's easy why not ask your dad to provide all those things. Any girl wey sey yes immediately you better check Wella e fit be say the bday na like 3days time or next week or she get one challenge she dey pass tru

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by phazotron(m): 4:01pm On Apr 13, 2021
Very simple.

Lack of reciprocation and response

Poor conversation and pride

Good advice for guys:

Don't force or beg any girl for relationship

Or change who you are because of a relationship

Someone wants you just the way you are

Person Wey no like you no fit like you

Person Wey go like you go like you

If i like you I ask you once you no gree bye bye

If I really love you I ask you twice you no gree bye bye

I can't kill myself abeg

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by PrimadonnaO(f): 4:03pm On Apr 13, 2021
amrichy:

Every point you have made is very sensible and I'm beginning to think you might be a relationship expert (are you?). If you don't mind, I want to seek your wise counsel on this matter:
If after "gauging chemistry" (to use your words), a guy realizes that a girl he loves so much doesn't like him, is he supposed to give up on her just like that (and look for some other girl that would like him) or is it wise for the guy to try different approaches to get the girl to like him (or at least, agree to be with him)?

If she can be sincere, ask her to tell you why she doesn't like you.

Emphasis on if she will be SINCERE.

Sometimes the reason we're unable to like people are because of assumptions, which when corrected may make a world of difference.

For instance, a girl who likes a man with a good fashion sense may be turned off , if because of one or two meetings she's concluded that the man has a poor taste in dressing. However what she might not know is that maybe his house was recently burgled and all his clothes got carted away... he's yet to restock. Or on the two occasions they met, he didn't come from his house.

Or because from one or two things she misconstrued in conversations, she thinks he's super boring, or intolerant, or stingy, etc

Do you get my drift?

And then there's this thing about spec. When most ladies have a fixed spec, they automatically switch off when they meet a guy who isn't that exact spec. So it doesn't let them open up to discovering other sides of the guy that they may eventually come to appreciate or even prefer if only they'll be open-minded and let things flow.

And then, most women like to be wooed. See most often, it's the man who first likes the girl and approaches her right? If they've never had any real personal interaction in the past, it means you're just a regular John to her, until you begin to show her that you want her. If she's cooperative, she lets you do your thing and woo her. It would help too if you knew her love language, and that's it, she may come to like you, too.

Summarily, have you asked her why she doesn't like you?
How often do you stay in touch?
Beyond calling and texting, have you guys spent a reasonable amount of time in each other's company?
Do you know her love language?
How long have you guys known each other?

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Jayrow08: 4:04pm On Apr 13, 2021
Na Lovette b dis girl name na bastard thief she be.. here is her numbers 0812 458 8375
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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Nobody: 4:05pm On Apr 13, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Settle with a person that's committed multiple abortions? undecided undecided

Did your head nack floor?
yes, but is not paining me.
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by Olumiday15: 4:07pm On Apr 13, 2021
Person wey like you go turn up for you
You seff go see am

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Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by JIMXMAVERICK(m): 4:09pm On Apr 13, 2021
Wahala for who no get banny thankGod am still single
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by amrichy(m): 4:11pm On Apr 13, 2021
PataAlhajaKeji:


Never force a bitch to like or love you .

How many times are we gonna educate you simps on this forum?
@ the bolded
pls try to corroborate your OPINION with some intelligent and sensible arguments. I'm waiting.
Re: At What Point Do You Give Up On Chasing A Girl by hybridblood07(m): 4:14pm On Apr 13, 2021
Girls are move with what they hear! I'm happy for you man. God bless us all
Yanbaba4u:
Girls in my department really made a mockery of me, I invite people tire from my 200lv, non showed up, ask few out all declined, even my girlfriend then started showing attitude, until she dumped my sorry ass �
Poverty is bad, fast forward to present day, boy don freshen up, come fine like madt, all the girls that turned me down started wondering, because the way I take change ee, the thing sef shock me,
They started seeking my face, even begging for visits, but I had to ignore them and face the one who later accepted me for who I am, I am with her now, and have no intention of cheating.

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