Are all mums like mine or mine is just different?

People praise their mums in public and it's so difficult praising mine cos deep down I'm not proud of her attitude towards her husband especially, yes her husband. She remarried even if my dad is still alive, she took me with her during their breakup when I was 6 or thereabouts.




She has just two of us, my step sister which I'm very fond of. She has no child for her present husband, yes she has been in more than three relationships and she has myself and my lil sis for two of such relationships.




I try as much as possible to keep myself from her and her husband cos of too many dramas I feel I'm too young for, no matter how far I try to run, one or two family members reach out to me to report my mum's ill attitude towards her husband to me, it gets me depressed.




I'm just a young boy trying to make a future for myself without depending on anybody for that. My step sister stayed with them, she cried to me everyday about how she had to face quarrels everyday between her mum and her step dad, I couldn't take the last straw, I had to ask her to come stay with me which she presently does and I enrolled her in a hair dressing salon class which has not been an easy step for me so far.




I've tried so hard to help my mum get something doing for herself but I notice how her ego overwhelms her and it ends up making her disrespect her husband and quarrels starts immediately. I helped her raised money to rent a shop close to her so she can be earning so she can be a lil bit independent in some of her private life without fully depending on my lil income and her husband's own too, this was some weeks ago. Today I got a call from my uncle that my mum is seriously quarreling with her husband and her husband is even asking her to pack out of his house. I just weak.




I spent the little airtime I had calling her back to her senses. It goes like this back and forth frequently, I'm tired of this situation I find myself in.




I feel God cheated me with the kind of mum he gave me, unfortunately I'm tied to her for life. Sometimes I just wish I have no mum.




You might want to know why I'm this stuck to her, she's resilient, she selfishly secures and raise her children, she raised me almost singlehandedly. She enrolled me in tailoring school while I was younger and I'm enjoying it now, she took care of my feeding while in the university. My conscience and emotion is really dealing with me on the next action to take. Should I just ghost her? Forget that I ever have a mum before? Should I travel out of this country to cut her off totally? Or should I go stone cold on her financially so she can fully depend on her husband and have value for her marriage?

Don't wish you have no mum one day you will wish you have

Goldbw122:
Don't wish you have no mum one day you will wish you have

Sure but who will wish for my kind of mum for God's sake?

Polyol:


Sure but who will wish for my kind of mum for God's sake?

You know life is not balance but just try to talk to her, it will help.

Ignore her actions, don't ghost her.


Build on your sister and yourself.


I don't know but I see you are gonna be a very wealthy guy. Well done, bro.

Just focus.

Don’t ghost your mum.

She might be suffering from depression.

Take her to a good church and let her be counseled.

gasparpisciotta:
Don’t ghost your mum.

She might be suffering from depression.

Take her to a good church and let her be counseled.

The church is the dead zone.

Goldbw122:
Don't wish you have no mum one day you will wish you have

This is blackmail.

It's like saying having an abusive wife is better than having no wife.

She’s not bad at all, she may just have problems with her personal life and never did she let her personal failures stopped her from being there for you, the reward of which you’re enjoying right now .

I think she’s smart , just can’t put her personal life in order. Instead of you trying to fix her , why can’t you show extra love ? On no account should you ghost her, Na wa o.

Children of these days ... I thought she killed someone.

Goldbw122:

You know life is not balance but just try to talk to her, it will help.

I can't count how many times I've done this before I gave up discussing anything that has to do with her husband with her. I'm not good at giving up but honestly I can't take this advice cos I know how futile it will turn out. Thanks a lot.

chatinent:
Ignore her actions, don't ghost her.

Build on your sister and yourself.

I don't know but I see you are gonna be a very wealthy guy. Well done, bro.
Just focus.

Thanks so much for the advice and for even seeing me in that light.

chatinent:
Ignore her actions, don't ghost her.

Build on your sister and yourself.

I don't know but I see you are gonna be a very wealthy guy. Well done, bro.
Just focus.

Thanks so much for the advice and for even seeing me in that light.

gasparpisciotta:
Don’t ghost your mum.
She might be suffering from depression.
Take her to a good church and let her be counseled.

Thanks for the advice.

Ginaz:
She’s not bad at all, she may just have problems with her personal life and never did she let her personal failures stopped her from being there for you, the reward of which you’re enjoying right now .

I think she’s smart , just can’t put her personal life in order. Instead of you trying to fix her , why can’t you show extra love ? On no account should you ghost her, Na wa o.

Children of these days ... I thought she killed someone.

LoL, actually showing her that extra love fuels her ego. She's a married woman who ought to be submissive to her husband and this has always been where the misunderstanding starts from.

She thinks I'll always be there for her even if her husband chooses not to be because I already made her feel so or she already earned it by raising me into who I am because I've been giving her that extra love even outside of my comfort zone.

And yes she's smart and didn't kill anybody. But how will I achieve my financial goal if she's thrown out of her husband's house cos I don't think I can stand seeing my mother being homeless? I beg her everyday to just be patient with her husband and bottle up everything until I'm strong enough to get her a place to stay if that will ease her up, she always accepts and even thanks me but then again I get called that another quarrel sprung up.

I think I need to start being harsh with her, let her know she'll be homeless and I won't care if it happens and like someone rightly said up there, I'll just start ignoring her excesses.

Thanks for the advice though, I won't ghost her. She'll still be my mum even in her grave, I can't take that away from her.

chatinent:


The church is the dead zone.

Just a suggestion.

There are still some good men in the church

Polyol:
Are all mums like mine or mine is just different?

People praise their mums in public and it's so difficult praising mine cos deep down I'm not proud of her attitude towards her husband especially, yes her husband. She remarried even if my dad is still alive, she took me with her during their breakup when I was 6 or thereabouts.




She has just two of us, my step sister which I'm very fond of. She has no child for her present husband, yes she has been in more than three relationships and she has myself and my lil sis for two of such relationships.




I try as much as possible to keep myself from her and her husband cos of too many dramas I feel I'm too young for, no matter how far I try to run, one or two family members reach out to me to report my mum's ill attitude towards her husband to me, it gets me depressed.




I'm just a young boy trying to make a future for myself without depending on anybody for that. My step sister stayed with them, she cried to me everyday about how she had to face quarrels everyday between her mum and her step dad, I couldn't take the last straw, I had to ask her to come stay with me which she presently does and I enrolled her in a hair dressing salon class which has not been an easy step for me so far.




I've tried so hard to help my mum get something doing for herself but I notice how her ego overwhelms her and it ends up making her disrespect her husband and quarrels starts immediately. I helped her raised money to rent a shop close to her so she can be earning so she can be a lil bit independent in some of her private life without fully depending on my lil income and her husband's own too, this was some weeks ago. Today I got a call from my uncle that my mum is seriously quarreling with her husband and her husband is even asking her to pack out of his house. I just weak.




I spent the little airtime I had calling her back to her senses. It goes like this back and forth frequently, I'm tired of this situation I find myself in.




I feel God cheated me with the kind of mum he gave me, unfortunately I'm tied to her for life. Sometimes I just wish I have no mum.




You might want to know why I'm this stuck to her, she's resilient, she selfishly secures and raise her children, she raised me almost singlehandedly. She enrolled me in tailoring school while I was younger and I'm enjoying it now, she took care of my feeding while in the university. My conscience and emotion is really dealing with me on the next action to take. Should I just ghost her? Forget that I ever have a mum before? Should I travel out of this country to cut her off totally? Or should I go stone cold on her financially so she can fully depend on her husband and have value for her marriage?

That's just your mum nature

A mad man will always blab words any time any day

You see that woman, she needs to go through suffering for her brain to reset as a normal woman

Pls let those who can deal with her, deal with her and by the time she is out of a second marriage, the stigma will be with her
Just ignore her and plan your future with that of your sister

Your mum is in another planet yet causing wahala for everyone who have something to do with her

Worst case, she will be thrown out, she won't be bothered about it,

Ghost her if not, she will draw you back

Be prepared for her because her type is likely to trouble your wife to be

frozen70:


That's just your mum nature

A mad man will always blab words any time any day

You see that woman, she needs to go through suffering for her brain to reset as a normal woman

Pls let those who can deal with her, deal with her and by the time she is out of a second marriage, the stigma will be with her
Just ignore her and plan your future with that of your sister

Your mum is in another planet yet causing wahala for everyone who have something to do with her

Worst case, she will be thrown out, she won't be bothered about it,

Ghost her if not, she will draw you back

Be prepared for her because her type is likely to trouble your wife to be

The wife to be part struck me, if I tell you I don't think about this everyday I'll be lying to you. I'm seriously frightened about it.


Thanks so much.

Polyol:


The wife to be part struck me, if I tell you I don't think about this everyday I'll be lying to you. I'm seriously frightened about it.


Thanks so much.

Don't be frightened, women are the real drama queen especially mothers

You have to be strong because when she is done with your step dad,

You may be next, she just like crisis and tensed moments

Don't be too close but be far, let's see if she will change her attitude

If you feel say you don do where your power reach, make you rest and face you life.
This life too short.