Breathe in and out ,and let go of any emotions that might harm you (anger, frustration) and knowing that with constant experiences and conditions of life people change . Peace man

Leetika:
So I happen to travel to a city . I told one of my old time friends that I will stay with him for a week plus sha trying to save hotel cost.He said he will be travelling to see his fiancé but I can come sha. In my mind I am like ok he will just let me stay for the few days he will not be in. Since I will be leaving next week. Anyways sha he has told me already this evening that he will be travelling tomorrow how I wan take do am, I was shocked, and confused wanted to tell him I will stay until he is back, but I could figure he was trying to tell me I can’t be there, and to keep my lil Ego So I said I will look for hotel. Hoping he will say I can stay but my guy dey even give me hotel options. I buy food to eat as wellI, cos I don’t wanna be a pest. the money I have aint much for hotel for my remaining days in this city but we move sha. Lol just shocked cos I know if he was in my shoes I will tell him to stay until I am back. It’s a 2 bedroom flat so I am not in his space at all. We rented house together in our uni days so na my padi wey i believe suppose reason the matter well. I suppose vex na or it is only normal for me to leave the house?

U aren't welcomed by him, so think twice.

posty56:
commot from pesin house na wao commit from pesin house na wao

I don comot this night, I no get choice.

Leetika:


I don comot this night, I no get choice.

I could help you if you live in my city, Kaduna.

I had a similar experience yesterday and I got the message clearly even though mine is different - I didn't know him from Adam but I just approached the guy to sit in his shop for the first time. It's painful, but then never again, I repeat, never have expectations of humans. It's baseless and tactless for the very fact that we very often disappoint even ourselves.

Blackmiserable:


I could help you if you live in my city, Kaduna.

I had a similar experience yesterday and I got the message clearly even though mine is different - I didn't know him from Adam but I just approached the guy to sit in his shop for the first time. It's painful, but then never again, I repeat, never have expectations of humans. It's baseless and tactless for the very fact that we very often disappoint even ourselves.

Thanks A lot bro I am in I.B though lol , The matter go pass. heading to Lag nextweek sha that’s why I needed to stay at his to cut many financial cost of hotel bills.. Sure I had expectations because of our uni days, So we close well well. Only guy that drives my car in school then.people even thought he owned it. He is doing well for himself by God grace but Now wey water don pass garri for me now, few days assist E shock me. Lol but I guess he changed . Cos he is someone I could swear got my back.Only pained because of the expectation I had. At least I have saved small for the few days I stayed. No bad blood lesson learnt no more expectations.

Nazgul:

Now engaged...na tension in typing cause am.

Okayy. So I should wait for you as per what? Should you not be congratulating me?

Obaxxx:
I learnt this lesson a very long time ago.....Na when my own blood sister kane me for street for Abuja,na from that day I get sense for full 90 minutes

your blood sister ? And your mom raise you with love and passion , HOW TO CARE FOR EACH OTHER WITH LOVE? charity begin at home. But if my own blood relative did such a thing with me, I WILL MAKE SUCH RELATIVE BLEED, TO THOSE IDIO.T THAT WILL CALL ME BAD PERSON ,YOU MUST BE STUPI.D BECAUSE YOU CAN DO SUCH A THING TOO. people with good heart has a anger issue because when people do what we cant do to others to us, it really pain us.

PS: nobody should quote FORGIVENESS BULLSHI.T please , rather quote and preach people should have a good heart

Leetika:


I don comot this night, I no get choice.

which state you dey? Or city ? You might be lucky to see cheap motel Luke 3k or 4k per night. Try and survive but don't forget what that idio.t called friend did to you.

Magnoliaa:


Okayy. So I should wait for you as per what? Should you not be congratulating me?

Congratulate you unto wetin na.

Patience is a virtue...it's in your Bible.

Even bubu waited for 12 years before getting the keys to the aso Rock mansion he's enjoying now, and I didn't say you should wait for 12 years sef,

Leetika:
So I happen to travel to a city . I told one of my old time friends that I will stay with him for a week plus sha trying to save hotel cost.He said he will be travelling to see his fiancé but I can come sha. In my mind I am like ok he will just let me stay for the few days he will not be in. Since I will be leaving next week. Anyways sha he has told me already this evening that he will be travelling tomorrow how I wan take do am, I was shocked, and confused wanted to tell him I will stay until he is back, but I could figure he was trying to tell me I can’t be there, and to keep my lil Ego So I said I will look for hotel. Hoping he will say I can stay but my guy dey even give me hotel options. I buy food to eat as wellI, cos I don’t wanna be a pest. the money I have aint much for hotel for my remaining days in this city but we move sha. Lol just shocked cos I know if he was in my shoes I will tell him to stay until I am back. It’s a 2 bedroom flat so I am not in his space at all. We rented house together in our uni days so na my padi wey i believe suppose reason the matter well. I suppose vex na or it is only normal for me to leave the house?

your guy no try at all....!!!! Let it slide.. But do not forget... Revenge is always an option

Leetika:


Thanks A lot bro I am in I.B though lol , The matter go pass. heading to Lag nextweek sha that’s why I needed to stay at his to cut many financial cost of hotel bills.. Sure I had expectations because of our uni days, So we close well well. Only guy that drives my car in school then.people even thought he owned it. He is doing well for himself by God grace but Now wey water don pass garri for me now, few days assist E shock me. Lol but I guess he changed . Cos he is someone I could swear got my back.Only pained because of the expectation I had. At least I have saved small for the few days I stayed. No bad blood lesson learnt no more expectations.

Eyah, sorry, pele..

My brother lives in IB but unfortunately I can't ask him to let you stay with him, sadly.

There's no bad blood between us at all but I am sorry, I can't. I hope you understand. If I weren't staying alone sef, I wouldn't offer to help.


Having expectations, trusting humans and the likes is a recipe for failure. A disaster brewing to occur.

That's life for you, move on.

aktolly54:
which state you dey? Or city ? You might be lucky to see cheap motel Luke 3k or 4k per night. Try and survive but don't forget what that idio.t called friend did to you.

I got some 5k own finally this night in I.B. Probably check for a cheaper one tomorrow. We will rough it. I go forgive am Sha ,I no go forget. Lol

Moral of the story money stops nonsense.

Leetika:

I got some 5k own finally this night in I.B. Probably check for a cheaper one tomorrow. We will rough it. I go forgive am Sha ,I no go forget. Lol

Moral of the story money stops nonsense.

which area in Ibadan? I can link you with place you can stay around challenge for 3k

aktolly54:
which area in Ibadan? I can link you with place you can stay around challenge for 3k

That will be nice sir. More economical for me

Nazgul:
To be honest with you, many unmarried Nigerian guys are as parasitic as their female counterparts.

Sometime last year when they eased the lockdown, a friend of mine told me he wanted to come to Lagos for an interview or so, he used to be my lodge mate back then in school, when I heard it was a job interview he was coming for, I didn't want to be seen as an enemy friend who feels threatened with the success of his friends, so I went to my parents place and gave him the keys to my place.

This guy stayed for about a week, by the time I came back to my house, I made a vow never to allow any of my single male friends spend the night in my house.

This guy turned my house to a hotel, lodged girls, emptied my fridge, left used plates and pots in the kitchen, even used condom and the sachet was in the bedroom. The rooms were so untidy, in fact I regretted giving up my place to him, cos I took him to be a mature person.

So my friend don't be offended, most people change not because they're wicked or heartless but because of the overgrown kids that disappointed them in the past when they decided to honour such request.

If you have a family member in that city make contact with them or better still contact your church, they can hook you up with a member for the few days you have to spend.

Good luck.

I've experienced more than worse, of what you experienced. And helping people as time goes by becomes progressively unattractive to do. From experienced, I've observed that some of the vilest people are those that needs help. They have a kind of a sensor that detects benevolent folks, to milk and exploit them to the maximum.

There are some help I've also ruled out doing, such as lodging someone in my house. I'll rather pay for somewhere cheap for you to stay, and let the hotel, bear which ever unforseen circumstances that may arose. Also, the friendship may not be jeopardised, and bitter emotions erupted in me.

Lots of folks are in mess right now just for helping. The world is not a good place for helpers. Evil lurks everywhere. Also there is the situation of envy people hardly talk about. Helping someone in many cases simply means the helper is in a better position, and as most people are not the best they should be, vices such as envy may take over.
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As a natural empath, I can feel people's pain. Infact i can even articulate someone's pain more than how they understand it themselves. And malevolent people can sense this and use it to mess up a helper. As an hypothesis, a physically challenged man can see that you have unhindered mobility, but you're oblivious to your mobility because the pain of being cripple is not your reality.

Because life as a cripple comes with so much pain, either deserved or undeserved, the probability that they (the cripple) are angry against the world is very high, and pouring their anger on you just to feel better is an expression of it. Doesn't matter if you're you're helper.

In the biblical story of Cain and Abel, I don't think Cain will be able to kill Abel if Abel was able to see the world through Cain's eye. We are all dealt with a different card on earth, and true anger and bitterness reside in the heart of many people. I still do help, but I'll do it from a distance, not bringing one closer.

OP, in your write-up you did not even appreciate him for giving a place to stay for the past days.

You went straight to the negates and also make sure to let us know you buy your own food to eat.

Stop looking at the glass half empty, focus your attentions on the half full portion of the glass, thank him for his hospitality and move on.

Leetika:
So I happen to travel to a city . I told one of my old time friends that I will stay with him for a week plus sha trying to save hotel cost.He said he will be travelling to see his fiancé but I can come sha. In my mind I am like ok he will just let me stay for the few days he will not be in. Since I will be leaving next week. Anyways sha he has told me already this evening that he will be travelling tomorrow how I wan take do am, I was shocked, and confused wanted to tell him I will stay until he is back, but I could figure he was trying to tell me I can’t be there, and to keep my lil Ego So I said I will look for hotel. Hoping he will say I can stay but my guy dey even give me hotel options. I buy food to eat as wellI, cos I don’t wanna be a pest. the money I have aint much for hotel for my remaining days in this city but we move sha. Lol just shocked cos I know if he was in my shoes I will tell him to stay until I am back. It’s a 2 bedroom flat so I am not in his space at all. We rented house together in our uni days so na my padi wey i believe suppose reason the matter well. I suppose vex na or it is only normal for me to leave the house?

Life lesson: 20 children cannot be friends for 20yrs.

People do change especially our friends as we drift apart. Blessed are those that are not expectant cos they ll not be disappointed

Leetika:

That will be nice sir. More economical for me

opp GENESIS SUITE at challenge, there is an hotel call RAINBOW HOTEL, its 3500 but they won't ON generator for you but you can negotiate with them if you are staying there for like 3 days or week. You can also ask for IMB GUEST HOUSE, beside super K hotel at challenge. Its also cheap like 3k or so

Magnoliaa:


Okayy. So I should wait for you as per what? Should you not be congratulating me?

Did spambot spambot you in your own diary?

Lol

budaatum:


Did spambot spambot you in your own diary?

Lol

Asinnn. Imagine. Mtcheeewww.

I emailed a mod, I was unbanned. I tried to post again, it banned me again. Nonsense.

begoniaa:


Asinnn. Imagine. Mtcheeewww.

I emailed a mod, I was unbanned. I tried to post again, it banned me again. Nonsense.

Very annoying thing, Lol. You carefully craft a post and spambot decides to thrash it and ban you for all your effort.

Hardly a place for ones best work, pity.

Leetika:
So I happen to travel to a city . I told one of my old time friends that I will stay with him for a week plus sha trying to save hotel cost.He said he will be travelling to see his fiancé but I can come sha. In my mind I am like ok he will just let me stay for the few days he will not be in. Since I will be leaving next week. Anyways sha he has told me already this evening that he will be travelling tomorrow how I wan take do am, I was shocked, and confused wanted to tell him I will stay until he is back, but I could figure he was trying to tell me I can’t be there, and to keep my lil Ego So I said I will look for hotel. Hoping he will say I can stay but my guy dey even give me hotel options. I buy food to eat as wellI, cos I don’t wanna be a pest. the money I have aint much for hotel for my remaining days in this city but we move sha. Lol just shocked cos I know if he was in my shoes I will tell him to stay until I am back. It’s a 2 bedroom flat so I am not in his space at all. We rented house together in our uni days so na my padi wey i believe suppose reason the matter well. I suppose vex na or it is only normal for me to leave the house?

Since he wasnt saying anything .At least u could have asked to stay in the house since he will not be around to hear from his mouth his response before you think of hotel

Miracood2:



Stop this kind yarn, friends are supposed to watch out for each other.

A very close friend(atleast I thought of him as my inner circle friend) did something similar to me last year, I cut all ties with the guy.

You're not listening. This guy isn't your friend, or he's not as close a friend as you think he is. Otherwise, why the heck are you so surprised by his behavior? When you say, "friends are supposed to..." that's you putting your expectations on that person. When they don't meet up, you come running to NL to complain. You've been told. Be guided.

Edit: I thought this person was the OP but my point still stands. Friends will continue to disappoint you if you expect too much from them.

DaddyRochie1642:
The wise man said
" It is better to go where you are celebrated than to go where you are tolerated"

He is not even being tolerated.

dhensity:


Since he wasnt saying anything .At least u could have asked to stay in the house since he will not be around to hear from his mouth his response before you think of hotel

Wanted to tell him I will stay back in his house , but he didn’t suggest it. He clearly said ‘how I go do am? nd I said I will look for hotel hopin he says I stay back. Told him the cheapest I saw was 5k baba said that amount is not bad for hotel . better I protect the small ego wey remain for my body..didn’t need to push it. And he didn’t need to say it clearly. Him suggesting hotels I can go to was enough message. I am over it I believe. The hotel came through 4 more days and I am out of the city

Leetika:
So I happen to travel to a city . I told one of my old time friends that I will stay with him for a week plus sha trying to save hotel cost.He said he will be travelling to see his fiancé but I can come sha. In my mind I am like ok he will just let me stay for the few days he will not be in. Since I will be leaving next week. Anyways sha he has told me already this evening that he will be travelling tomorrow how I wan take do am, I was shocked, and confused wanted to tell him I will stay until he is back, but I could figure he was trying to tell me I can’t be there, and to keep my lil Ego So I said I will look for hotel. Hoping he will say I can stay but my guy dey even give me hotel options. I buy food to eat as wellI, cos I don’t wanna be a pest. the money I have aint much for hotel for my remaining days in this city but we move sha. Lol just shocked cos I know if he was in my shoes I will tell him to stay until I am back. It’s a 2 bedroom flat so I am not in his space at all. We rented house together in our uni days so na my padi wey i believe suppose reason the matter well. I suppose vex na or it is only normal for me to leave the house?

Current human nature
leave him leave the house
go and look for accomodation elsewhere
you are blessed

UltimateStarman:

Current human nature
leave him leave the house
go and look for accomodation elsewhere
you are blessed

Did that. Amen thanks

budaatum:


Very annoying thing, Lol. You carefully craft a post and spambot decides to thrash it and ban you for all your effort.

Hardly a place for ones best work, pity.

What I do before posting a long post anywhere is to to copy them many times for as I write and then paste in different places (notebook, email drafts, personal WhatsaApp chat, Wattpad, etc) before hitting 'send', so if the original post got deleted any way, I'll just copy and paste it back from those places I've pasted it to.

It's easier that way.