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Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Kajaard: 1:55pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
NO |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by alizma: 1:55pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio:Sometimes when you look at those innocent faces, their trust in you, the joy they exhibit whenever they see you not knowing what you are passing through, you are definitely going to be 89% ready to sacrifice for their joy. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by JustforMen: 1:56pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio: what is an abusive marriage? your answer depends on the definition of " abusive" |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Kajaard: 1:56pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iyaebe: What did you do to the real Iyaebe? Nice submission |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bluefilm: 1:58pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio: Of course. Kids are everything. Ill trained kids turn out to be a menace to the society at large so anything humanly possible must be done to protect kids from growing up in a malfunctional family set up. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Divoc19(f): 1:59pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
They are not excuse to remain at all |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by mixta140: 1:59pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DabuIIIT:Smiles God go help us... Many dont always want to admit their fault |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Teleprompter(f): 1:59pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Kids are not the reason for staying in an abusive marriage. This has been a common excuse for people who are too weak to move on financially or socially. Kids should grow up in a loving environment that would boost their confidence and inspire great standards. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Acidosis(m): 2:00pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Depends on your definition of "abusive". Some people have used that word "abusive" to end a good relationship to pursue other personal/selfish goals. 3 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by PGKing1(m): 2:03pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Depends the abuse, but eventually it all turns violent .. Still your #1 plug for Original Backwoods in naija |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:06pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iyaebe: This is a wise post. An abusive marriage is even more poisonous for children than the adults. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by tujays(m): 2:07pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
nonsense. I still don't know why my dad didn't divorce my mom until the whole drama leads to his early death at 41. as a kid I thought my dad was at fault coz I see my mom always nagging at him for having a side chick. she never accepted or agrees to his decisions, acted as If she's the man of the house even though my dad was doing well as a NNPC staff. to cut long story short he died at 41. and I think it was due my mom always praying laying curses and visiting pastors to pray against the spirit of womanizing Instead of focusing on adjusting on the reasons why my dad find side chick more appealing. I swore never to allow any woman lead me to my early grave. my mom would always say she's In the marriage because of her Children I call Bullshit. coz sticking to my dad affected my psyche. my advice never stay in a marriage that have lost respect and affection. 4 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by tujays(m): 2:07pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
nonsense. I still don't know why my dad didn't divorce my mom until the whole drama leads to his early death at 41. as a kid I thought my dad was at fault coz I see my mom always nagging at him for having a side chick. she never accepted or agrees to his decisions, acted as If she's the man of the house even though my dad was doing well as a NNPC staff. to cut long story short he died at 41. and I think it was due my mom always praying laying curses and visiting pastors to pray against the spirit of womanizing Instead of focusing on adjusting on the reasons why my dad find side chick more appealing. I swore never to allow any woman lead me to my early grave. my mom would always say she's In the marriage because of her Children I call BVllshit. coz sticking to my dad affected my psyche. my advice never stay in a marriage that have lost respect and affection. + my dad has never abused her by hitting her or something. he was just too quiet and tolerant that he always says someday he will take a transfer to Lagos so you can be with your kids and nag on yourself. my mom is the type of woman that calls pastors daddy but never call my dad a pet name, never affectionate and still thinks he wouldn't have a side chick?? haha she's just too churchy and over controlling for my liking. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by LordReed(m): 2:09pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio: IMO they are not. It is most likely the abuse will even extend to the children. No way I would support staying in that kind of situation. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Teleprompter(f): 2:14pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Abuse is not only physical as many people are mentioning. Why should a child grow up knowing that their parents don't crack jokes with one another? Why should a child grow up knowing his father has other love interests and his mother isn't allowed to complain? Why should a child grow up thinking it is normal for his maternal grandparents to talk down on their father whenever they feel like? Why should a child grow up knowing that their father can not express displeasure on anything going on in the home without being attacked verbally or physically? Why should children grow up knowing that their mother submits all her salary to their father as the only condition whereby she is allowed to work? E.t.c |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by RightToReject(m): 2:14pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
No, at least for sane people. Any given time the union loses justness as the bond that holds it, there will be no need of remaining, maintaining, and sustaining it because of the kids or anything else in this world. Justness will always be a standard. The highest and most fulfilling point of living is reaching the height of not minding losing anyone/anything in principle - thereby staying conscientious. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Cubeman: 2:24pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
ethicallyright: Wisdom baba... wisdom na im you yarn |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by NairaMaster1(m): 2:25pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio: You can endure abusive boss at work. No matter the oppression and injustices you will stick to your job. But you guys will come here to write non senses about marriage as if your parents didn't face issues before they stayed to raise you. The point is that you people value your extra marital affairs than your marriage that's why. Tiwa left her husband citing abuse as her reason, but how far now? Would you leave your parents and siblings because they are abusive? Let's make the world a better place. This generation hates tolerance and it's bad. 2 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by NairaMaster1(m): 2:27pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: But you won't work out of your job no matter what? |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by NairaMaster1(m): 2:28pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: But you won't work out of your job no matter what? |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 2:30pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
NO! |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 2:31pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Maybe try therapy first before walking away |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 2:44pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
ethicallyright: You again. Maybe change your name to ethicallywrongsometimes For example, a mother may love her children more than the man but that doesn't mean that she won't love the children she has with him as much as her previous children Women love men and children differently. It's not the same kind of love |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by sammirano3: 3:00pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
If you know you dont have endurance now Its better to abstainfrom marriage. Marriage is not for everybody. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by sammirano3: 3:01pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: Why would a single, never married guy, marry a single mother. Is he cursed? 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Iwantpeace: 3:07pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43:Hello, please I m really interested in volunteering in an NGO too.. where are you based? Can you help me? |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by brownemmanuel43(m): 3:29pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iwantpeace:Lagos sir |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 3:30pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Vision101: What?? Make the sacrifice as in stay in the abusive marriage?? 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 3:33pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43: Thanks for sharing your experience, but why do you say that 99% of abusive marriages is due to lack of finance? I always assumed the main cause to be poor upbringing |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Iwantpeace: 3:33pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43:Ok . I thought is Abuja.. Thanks for the response |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Karnice600: 3:44pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
BadRadio: Most people will come here to shout ''walk out of an abusive marriage''. No one ever stresses walking out of a courtship with red flags. Yes people can hide their colors for long. These days, they don't mind dating now to die later. So long as paparazzi and money are involved. Abusive marriages have root problems usually tied to individual defects which have been likely ignored as singles over the years. I'm not in support of an abusive marriage in any way.., but If you get divorced, stay divorced and out of sexual indulgences, until your ex is deceased. Anything else is immoral and an abuse of a Divine Institution, as well as a cheap excuse for liberal promiscuity. You can call me names. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by brownemmanuel43(m): 3:47pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:Once the money is their, or once a man can provide the basic amenities, I mean standard basic needs, the wife tolerates alot. But once their is no more or the standard basic needs are not met or diminishes, that's when the woman will bring her through colour. I'm talking from experience, then some men are not worthy to be called men. Some are boys in men skin, 1 Like |
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