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Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by aku626(m): 3:49pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Whatever angle you see this from it leaves a negative impact on the kids I.e. Staying or leavin the relationship. BEST option is to resolve whatever the issues are. Meet a counselor not family on how best to approach this |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 3:49pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Why do you say men prefer to celebrate 50yrs anniversary with unhappy and vengeful wives. I would think women are the most hesitant to leave abusive relationships. Why the reversal? pocohantas: |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by pocohantas(f): 3:52pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DMerciful: Women initiate most divorce. How can these same women be the most hesitant to leave? Is it not on this NL that we see men hailing women who ENDURED abusive husbands? 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 4:03pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43: Interesting perspective. I think it's because the woman loses respect for her husband when he can't provide basic amenities. Add to that both being stressed out by their financial situation |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Ubanz: 4:06pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
For the man who is abused,yes . Because if he leaves his kids will suffer worse. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by descarado: 4:08pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
The same thing will happen to the kids. The boys or girls will become abusive depending on gender of the abusive parent. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Plus10(m): 4:16pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Abusive marriage could be a hell on its own.May God deliver His Children. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by brownemmanuel43(m): 4:26pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:My brother, money brings peace in the home. Forget about love, love will only bring 2 people together, after that love will leave the 2 people to manage themselves. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by bepositive11: 4:35pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43: I disagree to some extent. To have a healthy family, both love and money is important The problem is that many people don't know what love is. They confuse love with infatuation which fades over time. Love only grows stronger with time What is love? It's a strong emotional bond that makes people to deeply care for each other consistently. It doesn't fade with time, even when you see their flaws If a married couple truly loves each other, even during hard times, they would work together to get to a better place instead of tearing each other down Love is required in a marriage to create a healthy environment for the kids Emotions are very powerful |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by lordally(m): 4:39pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43: Then please what's your advice to Guys that would help in picking good women for Marriage? |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Kyf1: 4:53pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Yes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 5:01pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
What percentage of women being abused initiate divorce vs the total the total women being abused? This is the statistics and not versus men because most times men are the abusers. Men being abused may not initiate divorce, they just separate and get a small chic outside and they start coming home late or rarely. Popular opinion suggest women have a higher tendency to stay in abusive relationships than men. pocohantas: |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by pocohantas(f): 5:03pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DMerciful: Good you know that. Now you can fo further to explain to us why men look for women that can ENDURE and celebrate anniversaries with them. Why men get very angry when they see women walk away, despite claiming to be the party benefiting less from marriages. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 5:14pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
You have brought this endurance talk again, I thought I answered you in that other thread? I believe you're now in the marriage institution, you'll know how important endurance is as time goes on. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Amanda4life: 5:21pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
ethicallyright: THIS IS A WHOLE LIE. BUT FOR ME , IF IM OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE. IM OUT OF MARRIAGE FOREVER. FOR me TO LEAVE. A MARRIAGE, THE ACTRACTION HAS ENDED. ONCE I LEAVE I LEAVE, IF YOU LIKE BECOME DANGOTE OR BUHARI IF STAYING WITH A MAN, WILL NOT ALLOW ME TO BE IN MY RIGHT FRAME OF MIND TO TRAIN MY CHILDREN. THE BEST FOR ME IS TO LEAVE. BECAUSE, IM MORE PRODUCTIVE, WHEN MY MIND IS POSITIVE. I CANT FAKE IT. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by yvonncute(f): 5:29pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
And die in the process, thereby making the children suffer. Vision101: 2 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by brownemmanuel43(m): 5:31pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:Yes u are absolutely right, Love is good and beautiful. Mind u, we are talking about Nigerian love and I have come to realise that Nigerian love has being one sided. Who is ready to sacrifice for love in this century? 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by pocohantas(f): 5:42pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DMerciful: Back to sender 2 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Baamivic: 5:46pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Where the two elephant fight it is grass that suffer. Pls, consider your children |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 5:53pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
I don't mean it in a bad way. Sometimes you need endurance even for yourself. Endurance in the Bible is a virtue. When inlaws or visitors come, you may need endurance to cope throughout their stay without transferring aggression to your husband due to their shortcomings. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by queenfav(f): 5:59pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
No.I lost a Client 2015 while working as a legal Mediator for matrimonial disputes.She was at my office on a Thursday,telling me about her husband abusing her and showed me deep scars.Tuesday the next week,she was dead.She slumped and died during a beating session..So no,if your partner is abusive..Carry your bag and run for your dear life.Abusers don't change.It's either you leave alive or leave there in a bodybag.The kids they are supposedly staying for will one day leave the house to start their own lives.Also what about their psychological well being.Raising kids in an abusive marriage is teaching the kids that being an abuser or enduring abuse is normal, which it isn't! 4 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by pocohantas(f): 6:08pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DMerciful: I don’t need endurance for that. They need common sense to be good visitors. If they behave well, we would all be fine. No one would need to ENDURE bad behavior because we all have a breaking point. 2 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Amanda4life: 6:18pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43: WHEN YOU MARRY BOYS. THE ENDURANCE NA FOR EVER. YOU JUST BE WISHING A NATURAL SEPARATION |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by SeniorGee(m): 6:24pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Once violence gets involved, leave! 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 6:24pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
You can't wake a man pretending to be asleep. Suit yourself. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Hathor5(f): 6:32pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
What do you mean by abusive? If the parents' marriage is unhappy and abusive as I understand the word, the childhood will not be happy either so they better go their separate ways. Kids suffer in dysfunctional homes a great deal. But if it is about bumps in the road aka a normal crisis some marriages go through at times then it might be worth holding on to your spouse for a while until things get better. Sometimes couples come out closer and stronger after mastering a crisis. It is difficult to give a one fits all answer and we would need to define the word abusive first. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by pocohantas(f): 6:35pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
DMerciful: Good you know. I would never buy that concept of enduring, especially when it is one party expected to keep enduring the excesses of the other (and his family). 4 Likes |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 6:39pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
You could DM me you know perhaps there's a reason you wanna discuss enduring. I'm merciful pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by calcal: 6:52pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Iyaebe, how many have you walked away from? Alai ni telorun. 1 Like |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Rossycee(f): 6:57pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
There is no reason whatsoever to stay in an abusive marriage. What do you think the kids will grow into when raised in such environment? They will grow up to see domestic violence and abuse as a norm. |
Re: Are The Kids Good Enough Reason To Endure & Stay An Abusive Marriage? by Rossycee(f): 7:00pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Baamivic:And die in the process? |
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