While trying to get professional advice from a former colleague, she told me that she ditch her man because of bad behaviours ranging from cheating, emotional blackmail, abusives etc. Then boom she told me that she want to have a baby and be done with it. She has already made a plan to travel out and get the deal done. I have to pause all my morning activities and engage her in a lengthy but heartfelt conversation. Below is what I told her and I decided to share it so that ladies should know what they are getting into.


People are more aware now of the double standards that shame women for having sex whilst praising men. I agree that slut-shaming is wrong, it takes two to tango, however, I don’t believe that being concerned about this situation is slut-shaming.

If she had sex with different men there would be nothing to criticize, she is an adult, it is her right to have sex. The concern is the repeated instances of engaging in unprotected sex and then having one or more kids than she usually can afford to care for, all the while failing to provide a stable co-parent or father figure in the children’s lives. Note the words "care for". It simply means creating an impact {financially, emotionally, morally, etc} in the life of the kid. Most men that decide to be single fathers end up being deadbeat papa.

I won't mind if you bash me or you don't agree with me. Here is my opinion, It is better to give out a child you can't care for properly for LEGAL ADOPTION or immediately after sex, take medics and do the needful. Again proper abortion benefits society than Street urchins.


So before you accept a situation called "single motherhood" AKA BABY MAMA. Be aware that Statistically, it’s clear that single motherhood is not ideal for children. Being raised by a single-parent increase the chances of teen pregnancy. Children of single mothers have lower educational and occupational attainment. The sons of single mothers are more likely to have behavioural problems. You wonder why we have a lot of thugs, cultists etc. One of the major factors is the result of single parenting. Single-mother families are associated with a higher prevalence of youth crime. Children of single parents are more likely to use drugs regardless of community context. Children of single parents are more likely to join gangs. Children of single parents are at an increased risk of child abuse

There really isn’t much evidence to support the idea that being a single-parent is as good for a child as having a two-parent household, despite popular talking points. Don't allow a man to lead you to a baby mama setup, it doesn't end well most time. I know some men will have some Divergence view. Truly baby mama favours an irresponsible man to an extend. It is not a freedom for you to be a single parent but an act of irresponsibility and immaturity. Unless you lost your man or your woman then I can understand with you. Even at RAPE, baby mama is not ideal.

Have a blissful Monday at work as I go back to the act of making money.

people will impose dia ideology on people just to make point I'm a single dad with a cutie son of 8 years leaving with me here in Germany so all this nonsense you post is useless

Bonesbreaker
Your post kinda made sense until you said he posted nonsense, it's not nonsense, it's his opinion, he has every right to hold these views just like you have a right to disagree constructively. No need for insults pls.

Holly Gram real matters. WTF MAN

Bonesbreaker:
people will impose dia ideology on people just to make the point I'm a single dad with a cutie son of 8 years leaving with me here in Germany so all this nonsense you post is useless

. Germany has laws and rules where bad behaviours are regulated. What can you say about developing countries like Nigeria? Can you give that child motherly care? There are exceptions to everything but it is better to grow up under a sick father/ mother rather than to be raised without both parents. Looking at your response on this thread shows you can't handle your emotions.

This badly needs a good parenting plan https://thedivorcesolutionist.com/how-your-parenting-plan-can-keep-you-in-embroiled-in-court-battles/ just to keep her aligned with BABY MAMA.