Una don mend her?.

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

Pls follow your Initial planned path, returning her to her parents or getting her arrested is further damaging.

If this is a first, am certain she will change.

[quote author=iamwhat post=108515161]I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:
[You said no one knows she's not your sibling as she's been living with you guys since she's five so where do you want to send her to? Were you calling her cousin sister before she stole from you or you changed what you were calling her because she stole from you? Where will you send her to if she's your sibling? I'll suggest you get a military guy to come to your house to give her a stern warning instead of sending her away or taking her to a guard room as it will be to extreme.

Stop romancing this matter and send her back to her people before she land you in a bigger mess that will cost you a lot

Stop romancing this matter and send her back to her people before she land you in a bigger mess that will cost you a lot.

You are doing the right thing. She is your cousin, that means she is blood. She has lived with you since she is five, which means she is now your sister. So if it is your own sister that did that will you throw her away? No. You guys should treat her the way you will treat your own sister

Will the guardroom cure or just punish? I second therapy.

Romanoff:
She has become greedy and lacks contentment.

Her Ojukokoro will lead her to steal more, of not from you guys then from somewhere else.

If she doesn't steal, she will do anything to feed her lack of contentment.

I second the guardroom idea.

This is not the time to throw her out. Love is being tested here. Will throwing her out make her better? Not likely. Counseling and therapy mixed with punishment is what I propose. Blame

Richy4:
Sure.. she has started mingling with bad eggs... People that dates scammers and so on.. she will have to practice with immediate family.. just to belong.

Call her parents if they were alive and explain the reasons why she must take a one-way trip to them... Tell them everything with facts so that it won't look like you guys were deliberately accusing her falsely...

It is a family matter, The family might not forgive u guys if you do that...She has graduated from college.....
Why did u say 'Cousin Sister' though,.. I was thinking cousin is cousin as one starts reading the article, u get the gender.. (initially, I thought it was your Sister's cousin)

Simran94:

Calm down and read the comment I quoted.
They are talking about disciplining the girl, beating her and locking her up in the guard room and I said they should never treat someone else's child in that manner like they would do their sister because definitely the parents won't be happy about it

Never treat another man's child the way you would treat your sister. Never!!!!


You self read your comment now. It lacks clarity. But Good thing is that you have clarified things

DataWiz:


Never treat another man's child the way you would treat your sister. Never!!!!


You self read your comment now. It lacks clarity. But Good thing is that you have clarified things

Comprehension is not really difficult you know.

Now read that my post again in relation to the treatment they want to melt on another man's child

Whatever you sit her down and explain will enter one ear and exit the other. Her mind is set to live life in the fast lane. Teenagers believe they have everything figured out.... the solution is to have her change her own mind. Beating wouldn't do that ... neither would returning her to her parents.... in her mind it may be a good reason for her to run to any Yahoo guy for shelter. Seeing that your family has some status .... connections.... I suggest you make arrangements for her to visit a Prison ... female section ... a notorious one let her know you are considering sending her there for theft ... but just wanted to to see the conditions. Hopefully... she will be scared enough to realize that should she steal again.... be hanging out with Yahoo boys... or caught doing anything illegal.... there will be her new home.

SniperSmurf:


Many Nigerians make that grammatical error. Cousin brother or Cousin sister. It is wrong. Just say Cousin. That's all I have to say.

lolz..I was also confused,cousin brother/sister....all the same is still a cousin...op dey use gender dey separate cousin..

There's no such thing like cousin sister
Is either she is your cousin or your sister

Punish her but don't over do

Op if you don't send the bastard girl to her parents, she will steal more.Send her to her parents please.