Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

So sorry for what you are facing In your marriage ,I dont know why some ladies pretend when dating ,they act so nice as if they can't hurt a fly but once there are married , reverse is the case ...
Even as a faithful ,loyal , caring husband you are ,she stil act this way..some people have head but not cap ,some have cap but no head to wear it. This life no just balance.
Sit her down talk to her ,and pray about it let God direct you ...but what happens to the love she once had for your family? It is well with you brother.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Oga see de secrete. Just wake up one morning behave like mad man. Pursue everybody for de house. I swear na she go use her hand Begin call it siblings. Stop petting or begging ur wife it makes things worst. Use violence, thats de solution

motymop:
I would advise you mimic her way, the same way she act to your family members is this same way you react to her.

Exactly. That's de solution

Too much bile n bitterness for just one person...

Yet again, we put every blame on others and exonerate ourselves.

How can we change or learn of we dont learn to take part of the blame but blame others?

SolaScrivens:
When I read generalized posts like this, I am always careful drawing opinions.
Coz there are multiple sides to a story...

Well from the OPs write up, it's apparent his wife and siblings don't get along well...

But OP never stated reasons, or gave instances.
If you check well the reason they don't get along might not necessarily be the wife's fault.

Judging from my experience of how overly entitled the relatives of African males can be.
I remember my useless mother inlaw telling me she bought me with her money and can do whatever she likes to me, despite my parents sponsored the wedding down to cloth her son wore on wedding day, I paid rent that we live in, my parents as a tradition don't collect bride price...

My husband came with incomplete yams and very empty box I rejected on wedding day despite I and my parents foot all bills and I even paid over 70% of rent o(I basically paid rent and he paid agreement fee and co coz he begged not to postpone wedding coz covid 19 affected his finance etc... Plus my parents particularly my mum kept pressuring it's bad omen to keep shifting wedding date).

So I don't Know what the evil Aduni Ilegbusi (ex mother inlaw) feels she bought me with!

This same inlaw I arranged Xmas package for despite their son refused to drop money asking me if it's only December they will be eating "onje Omo", despite I got married to their son in August and take gifts there even before December, but December was when I took bulk shopping...

Same ppl I sent biscuits to their grandson, and the motherinlaw called me the next weekend I went there, that the biscuits I sent to posi, she went to look for it, it's 1250 naira, it's too expensive, that's how their son will not build house... She bought cabin biscuit instead, so I should be buying cabin...

Now same useless inlaw whose daughter got pregnant twice outside wedlock and wears bumbshots telling me who married her son a virgin that my knee length wear is too short...

All manner of madness demands within one year of marriage.

Stupid inlaws vexing I only come visit during weekends. I explained I work from home during the week. Yet it didn't sit well with the useless ppl.

Now same man(rather 37 yrs old foolish boy) comes saying I hate his parents...
Blabla... The marriage got broken (Story for another day)
And I curse them!

Yes, curse be unto the Emmanuel and Aduni Ilegbusi family, parents of Oluwaseun Ilegbusi who reside in Kajola, berger(Akoko crescent). May their immediate biological daughters never enjoy Marital bliss for their wickedness to me.

Fact is sometimes the relatives of African males just want to Subjugate the woman! And when you can't be Subjugated they tag you bad.


As for the Ilegbusis', I will still open a thread here on Nairaland on their story, but today is not the day.
I just know Oyinade and Busayo (their 2 daughters) will never enjoy Marital bliss in Jesus Name!
According to psalm 35, so shall it be unto Seun Ilegbusi for he and his family's wickedness to me.

[quote author=SolaScrivens post=108646639]When I read generalized posts like this, I am always careful drawing opinions.
Coz there are multiple sides to a story...

Well from the OPs write up, it's apparent his wife and siblings don't get along well...

But OP never stated reasons, or gave instances.
If you check well the reason they don't get along might not necessarily be the wife's fault.

Judging from my experience of how overly entitled the relatives of African males can be.
I remember my useless mother inlaw telling me she bought me with her money and can do whatever she likes to me, despite my parents sponsored the wedding down to cloth her son wore on wedding day, I paid rent that we live in, my parents as a tradition don't collect bride price...

My husband came with incomplete yams and very empty box I rejected on wedding day despite I and my parents foot all bills and I even paid over 70% of rent o(I basically paid rent and he paid agreement fee and co coz he begged not to postpone wedding coz covid 19 affected his finance etc... Plus my parents particularly my mum kept pressuring it's bad omen to keep shifting wedding date).

So I don't Know what the evil Aduni Ilegbusi (ex mother inlaw) feels she bought me with!

This same inlaw I arranged Xmas package for despite their son refused to drop money asking me if it's only December they will be eating "onje Omo", despite I got married to their son in August and take gifts there even before December, but December was when I took bulk shopping...

Same ppl I sent biscuits to their grandson, and the motherinlaw called me the next weekend I went there, that the biscuits I sent to posi, she went to look for it, it's 1250 naira, it's too expensive, that's how their son will not build house... She bought cabin biscuit instead, so I should be buying cabin...

Now same useless inlaw whose daughter got pregnant twice outside wedlock and wears bumbshots telling me who married her son a virgin that my knee length wear is too short...

All manner of madness demands within one year of marriage.

Stupid inlaws vexing I only come visit during weekends. I explained I work from home during the week. Yet it didn't sit well with the useless ppl.

Now same man(rather 37 yrs old foolish boy) comes saying I hate his parents...
Blabla... The marriage got broken (Story for another day)
And I curse them!

Yes, curse be unto the Emmanuel and Aduni Ilegbusi family, parents of Oluwaseun Ilegbusi who reside in Kajola, berger(Akoko crescent). May their immediate biological daughters never enjoy Marital bliss for their wickedness to me.

Fact is sometimes the relatives of African males just want to Subjugate the woman! And when you can't be Subjugated they tag you bad.


As for the Ilegbusis', I will still open a thread here on Nairaland on their story, but today is not the day.
I just know Oyinade and Busayo (their 2 daughters) will never enjoy Marital bliss in Jesus Name!
According to psalm 35, so shall it be unto Seun Ilegbusi for he and his family's wickedness to me.[/quote



Kids yet?

chicogentil:
You made a mistake yet you got 3 kids with her

Lol

Have you discuss with the mum concerning your wife attitude? Is the mum supporting her daughter? If yes,then call a meeting between your family and her's and make your feeling known to them.
Base on the outcome of the meeting,you will know what to do.
Good luck.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

I'm not going to lie or joke here as I've experienced similar from a Jezebel masquerading as wife. Fact is, any woman pursuing friends and family from you is your enemy. Death is close moment you're of no value to her anymore.
My candid advise,
1) Run for your life
2) Marry other wives (if you can afford it)
Remember that you're first alive before your children call you father. If you die, their next father would be any man around their mother (including fuckboys and gigolo)

If you think I'm joking, you're on your own

A simple "Get the fork out of my house" would have cured your problem, but you're weak, and won't do it, hence you suffer. I've said it, and will say it again, how people treat you is a mirror to your standards.

Women especially, that are blessed in the art of social games, knows very well the kind of person a man is. She had surveyed you, and knew that she can even suffocate you, and all you'll do is burn inside and come online to cry.

As someone said in the first page, you need to first work on yourself, your boundaries, limits, and inner depth, that your mere presence will send a chilling vibes to anyone, including your wife, if she thinks nonsense.

Heterodox:
Your family is you, your wife and your children.

I would have loved to conclude your siblings/family members are useless, but then you could be the mumu or the ungrateful one.

ImoleNaija:


I would have loved to conclude your siblings/family members are useless, but then, you could be the mumu or the ungrateful one.

as your grandfather was.

SolaScrivens:
..Now same useless inlaw whose daughter got pregnant twice outside wedlock and wears bumbshots telling me who married her son a virgin that my knee length wear is too short...

All manner of madness demands within one year of marriage.

Stupid inlaws vexing I only come visit during weekends. I explained I work from home during the week. Yet it didn't sit well with the useless ppl.

Now same man(rather 37 yrs old foolish boy) comes saying I hate his parents...
Blabla... The marriage got broken (Story for another day)
And I curse them!

Yes, curse be unto the Emmanuel and Aduni Ilegbusi family, parents of Oluwaseun Ilegbusi who reside in Kajola, berger(Akoko crescent). May their immediate biological daughters never enjoy Marital bliss for their wickedness to me.

Fact is sometimes the relatives of African males just want to Subjugate the woman! And when you can't be Subjugated they tag you bad.


As for the Ilegbusis', I will still open a thread here on Nairaland on their story, but today is not the day.
I just know Oyinade and Busayo (their 2 daughters) will never enjoy Marital bliss in Jesus Name!
According to psalm 35, so shall it be unto Seun Ilegbusi for he and his family's wickedness to me.

Eleyi gidi gan o.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

FutureIsFemale, why are people of your gender so wicked?

You all arre just talking from physical aspect. What of the spiritual aspect. You might not even be able to react because you are under some kind of bondage and you will continue this way till she eventually kills you. I pity men a lot. If you no the kind of evil things women do and get involved in to tie a man down. You will be more careful with women.

That is a classic narcissistic behaviour the reasons are
A) Power and control
B) deny you from support and love from other people
You need to move in silence and speak with actions.
Set boundaries. Become emotionally detached. Focus on creating your own happiness. Go visit your extended family in their own homes. Set a rule. Her family members can't come over either. She has to go visit them in their own homes. Don't let anyone dehumanize you.

Read the following books
The manipulated male
Predatory female
The anatomy of female power
Embrace stoic philosophy
Become a rock. Don't operate from an emotional place. Operate from a place of logic. Get a small notebook draw out a plan of action. Consider the consequences.Execute the plan of action.

ikennamadu1:
Bro lemmi give you one advice .. since her mother and brother are in your house presently.. tell them you want to do a little get together between you and her siblings including her...

* Go out , buy small chops
* Buy soft can drinks and red wines
* Buy cake

After you must have done all this , call all of them inside .... Start your speech by saying .. you wan to appreciate God for a good and wonderful year.. despite all that happened this year .. God kept us alive ... That this is just a way to say thank You God ... Then say mama , tell your daughter I'm no longer interested in this marriage .. mama despite everything I did for your daughter , she has successfully showed me how wicked and evil she is
.. mama can you imagine she has successfully thrown all my family members out of my house.... But whenever yall come around she feel happy... How can a good woman be so evil and wicked to her in-laws .. this is a woman I sacrificed my all for ... Mama at this juncture tell your daughter to pack her things and leave my house.. the children is mine ... I will take care of them .. let her leave with the last born .. I'm no longer interested...

Then sit-down and wait for her kneeling down to beg you .. that she will change ..

avoid her food too.... Add police statement that she wants to kill you to be on a safe side

Too much off Nollywood movies don spoil many marriage in Nigeria. All they do is mimic what they saw in movie thinking it’s reality.

Btw, your wife is doing what her mother is telling her to do if you check well

Sanjemiga:
You all arre just talking from physical aspect. What of the spiritual aspect. You might not even be able to react because you are under some kind of bondage and you will continue this way till she eventually kills you. I pity men a lot. If you no the kind of evil things women do and get involved in to tie a man down. You will be more careful with women.

What kind of stuff do they do??

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

I feel your pain, kpele!!!
1) Speak to her about her attitude and how it’s about destroying your home. if it continues, then
2) Speak to her family as well. If she’s from a good family, they will correct her.
3) if she still doesn’t change, then you need to apply other means. She probably is prepared for wahala and will only change when she sees wahala.

Nyascobar1414:
I pity you mr.man.
How will a female spoil the love you have for your own bloodsiblings..
You allow your wife to control you naa.. You also heed to all her instructions..
I will never tell you the way out..
Just go and wallow in pain cos people adviced you but you decided to allow punna to control you...
Its a cold world bruh.
Leave with your fate

My brother its always good not to mince love with authority as a man o. As a man, husband, head of the house, you have to love your wife but you also have to set the rules to your wife and set the record straight if the need arises

You are obviously a Simpson to her. How the hell is it that you can't handle this as a man and the head of your house?. Is she the bread winner of the family?. Face the music since you've refused to put ur feet down as a man.

No woman. When I mean no woman can ever come between me and my family, so help me God.

this is common everywhere. My senior brother's wife is exactly like that. to make the matter worst, the man is not loaded like you, but his wife is behaving like retarded person.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Marry a second wife

danny34:
Too much bile n bitterness for just one person...

Yet again, we put every blame on others and exonerate ourselves.

How can we change or learn of we dont learn to take part of the blame but blame others?

Your opinion
You are entitled to it

whiteroses:
Do you give resources away to your siblings ? Or did they initially had a habit of assaulting or despising her and you turned a blind eye ?
There will be a reason why she loathes your family.
She’s not a house help that you can use her matter to play games. If she sensed that, she will fight back.
From your write up I can see that your family over steps their boundaries. They don’t need to be coming to your house often and act like they want to take over. If they are around your wife is the boss of all of them and cannot be relegated to the background.
She’s your other half. She’s more important to you than your family.
Two should become one and you ca no longer cleave to your sister.
Nonsense… Your wife is fighting for boundaries if you ask me. If your family has your balls in their pockets please free that babe.

They can never be one with such character. They can only be one if the agree on One thing. Displaying dsame character in public n not fighting n arguing in public

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Hopefully soon.
The parents came to carry him immediately I landed from hospital on account of him beating me to bleed while pregnant.
They said he's gentle so his beating me to bleed during pregnancy is my fault.
They harassed me the night I was landing from hospital and took him away and asked me to go bring my parents
And I told myself that's it.
And I chose to curse them and move on .

The reason for the fool beating me was coz:
We agreed we keep preg private at the time till it starts showing given it took about 10 months b4 I conceived, only to see he's been sending chats back and forth with his ppl I was pregnant and even mocking me I was vomiting (I was in a bad shape then always throwing up, could barely eat, hospital visits wasn't helping coz it didn't change the nausea & vomiting)... I challenged him and he continued mocking me and said he's told everyone & I should do my worst.
And that's how argument started and his usual response was beating me, which he did till I started bleeding.
I was diagnosed with Threatened abortion, and admitted, yet as I was landing from hospital, his parents were outside shouting at me...
I kept audio clips of their madness.

Forgiveness or not I can't reconcile with such wicked shameless ppl!

Very wicked unreasonable ppl still exists on earth. And the Ilegbusi family from Oka Akoko top the chat, coz it beats my imagination how a whole family could be foolish all at once! Everyone listening to audio clips I took during the course of the marriage keeps Wondering how a whole family could be that evil (I started keeping audio records when things started getting complex)...

Anyone who thinks I am bitter is entitled to their opinion.
I curse Oluwaseun Ilegbusi unto destruction according to Psalm 35. Coz even before marriage I told him I dont believe in marriage after divorce until other partner is dead.
I believe it's coz of people like Seun certain scriptures exists!

If you are not afraid of your wife, change the rules.
You said you provided everything from house , car, etc plus you are faithful, no drinking. Change the rules.
Your family and friends no dey come ur house but hers come. Shows u are not In charge. Change the rules.
He that holds the pipe dictates the tone.

This is classical toxic wife. Once she's done frustrating your folks, you're isolated, you will be the target.
She's going to deal so badly with you and no one outside will know and care is not taken, eliminating you with slow poisons is within her plans especially once you have a good savings in your bank account or landed property.
She's seen your weekness and she'll exploit it to the fullest.
The rude shocker awaiting your is a dirty slap on the day you'll make her family unwelcome in your house.

You allowed this.

If your people can't access your house her people Shouldn't too. It's that simple.
You r the head of the house.
Act like one and stop being a simp.

flokii:
You're a weakling jare..

You can't give her own folks attitude too and demand they leave your house.. dey mumu yourself there, let her be manipulating you. Rubbish!

Walai..the guy too weak,,,,smoke igbo him no gree , have igbo friends him no gree...if he likes he should continue wearing suit and tie.....she go soon poison u and sell off ur properties..