Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Get your self a second wife

EXLOVER:
Pretend like you want to commit suicide, just carry an alcohol and the rope pass her at the sitting room with sadness, then go inside your room.


You will see her coming to beg you not to kill yourself, use that opportunity to talk things out. Beg for forgiveness, get her a nice gift the next day.

If this doesn't work just kee yourself


Control your preek next time

Lol, you be werey
I hope this is a joke though..

What if she doesn't blink when he passes with the rope etc..

Women hate weak men.. If you want to buy her with weakness she will ATTACK YOU.

@op
Two wrongs don't make a right though.. But shes the cause, no smoke without fire, she started the fire...

Be remorseful around her.. But still be stern, find a balance, she also needs to know she was wrong... In fact if shes not accepting your apology, you too feign vexation.. If shes seeing another person make she park go stay with am, or is it your inability to cook thats an issue.

Over pampering women that are not god fearing is dangerous.. If the marriage wad based on god, she has no place to deny you sex

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Is a advice or what?

InTheCloudySky:
1. It doesn't matter if you're dating someone, or are married, no means no. Whether na your babe or wife, rape is rape and is a crime in both instances.

2. Learn to read. He said "recently", meaning her refusal is recent, not over a long period. Even if it were over a long period (which isn't the case), the right thing to do would've been talk to her or seek professional help together to get to the root of the matter, not abuse and rape her. Forcing anyone to have sex with you, whether na your babe or wife = rape.

Is there anything like rape I'm marriage.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

You must be sick in the head or just a useless simp to think that you're the only problem.
I'm very sure that you didn't marry your wife as a virgin. She has some sexual experiences. She knows the importance of sex... Etc

SHE MUST JUST BE A VERY SELFISH AND UNREASONABLE WIFE TO BE ABLE TO COMFORTABLY DENY YOU OF SEX FOR EVEN A WEEK AND FEEL OKAY WITH IT.

For me, that's enough ground to use to divorce her unless there's a very serious reasonable reason why she must not have sex and I must understand the reason too.

Rape is evil but in your case, I'll just say it's bad and not evil.

If I were you, I'd have just gave her serious warning and threatened her that I'd get a sex mate outside of she doesn't change and trust me, I WILL DO IT.

NONSENSE.

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

sorry for this but if i were u i would have kuku secretly cheated and gboju.

S I M P

Her calling is a single mother

Why married when you know you can not be submissive to your husband.


I don't believe this story anyways


Rape kwa!!!

i926:
Maybe she even liked it.

She manipulated you by crying and you also showed weakness by begging her. So stupid of you.

When you get home, bath...eat, call her and fvck her from behind so hard. Tell her she's free to walk away, if she can't perform her duties...spank her ass and then pump her harder. Ask her, if she likes being forced? If she says no, handle her breasts and tell her to be a good lady. That way no need to force enter her.

In the morning, before going to work, kiss her & let her know how beautiful she is..play with her.


Men, if you are getting married because of sex, forget it. In fact when you get married, your sex life gon be fvcked up.


Men, stay toxic!

This advice is quite OG! Alpha male stuff.

InTheCloudySky:
You didn't bother asking her/finding out what was going on with her or in your marriage (you obviously had pre-existing issues that may have caused her to withdraw from you) to have refused you, but you resorted to violence.

As if slapping her wasn't bad enough, slapping her to the extent of her bleeding in the mouth meant you did it with a lot of force, not to mention the force you obviously used to rape her. The act of rape in itself is an act of violence. Sorry (not sorry): you're a beast. After being violent towards her x2, what do you expect?

Get on your knees, plead with her and ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her again. Secondly, you're selfish if you're expecting her to cook for you after what you've done. You should be the one cooking for her during this time ―to appease her. Things should fall back into place if you start doing that and catering more to her, then you two can go see a sound marriage Therapist to work out your issues. Otherwise keep eating the indomie you've been eating.

Wahala be like nowaday marriages,,,, with feminists.

Ofadaman:
Women remain the ultimate manipulator, and as a man it doesn't really matter if you see through the manipulation or not, for sake of peace you'd need to pick which of the manipulation you'd turn a blind eye to and fall into.

90% of men who proposed to their girls felt they did it on their own volution, but deep down they know the women planted all the ideas , the time, place ,how they want it etc. The power of being a woman is not being in leadership but subtle act of making the man feel he's in control while they control his decisions, he takes the risk of action, they take the result of it, this is why a woman will do nothing and still claim that he made a man who he's become, now before you think it's just brag, she's actually right. Sex, weakness, guilt ,seduction are few of the tools in their arsenal.

In your case sir, you fell into her trap, she's ochestrated everything, and if she's not giving you sex there's already a reason for this, maybe she's no longer down with the marriage, seeing someone else or have issues with you not yet sorted. you forcefully raping her gave her the ammunition she needs to play the victim and puts her in full position of control while you remain in guilt. She control the odds, you fell into her hands because you allowed your dick do the thinking.
I hate to say this, but you made the matter worse by begging.

My thoughts exactly. She knows he's a weak man and can be manipulated; and he just confirmed it. It will take God for him to come out of this road he's on as she will show him pepper. It has begun sef, as she's already cooking for only herself and her daughter meaning, she doesn't care if she hears he died of hunger. To me, he is a dead man already. He must leave the house for months until he is begged to return....else, he don enter o.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

You need to beg her, prostrate, cry & hold her leg while begging her

She needs to see you are truly remorseful and I'm sure she will accept your apology

Now, never ever in your life rape any woman because it's punishable offence under the law

The best thing you can do now is to have side chick to satisfy your sexual urge, this might sound stupid but it will save you from all these unnecessary embarrassment

Real men cheat but still loves their wife dearly to the extent that if their wife dialed their number while they are on top of their woman, they will stand up immediately and leave their side chick

Be ready to spend some money on side chick but spend wisely and always use condom

Men are naturally born polygamist

Life is to be enjoyed, when your wife needs sex she will ask you

If she died you sex for years, you will not have anything to worry about as long as you have side chick that's giving you that satisfaction

Also, ensure you take good care of your wife btw

You are not even afraid.

You still want to eat her food and sleep on her bed.
That woman may stab you o.

Bro your wife is largely at fault in what just happened i believe if she does not change such will still happened again and maybe next time outside, that may land you in jail so talk to her again apologize if she refuse to listen involve your family and hers and if it hit rock again i advise you take a safer alternative which is to go your separate ways before it is too late because i cant bear it myself.

KiNg0G:
how did you feel when your raping her?
your own wife you married with your money


this set of men needs to be killed.

The wife that refused to do what she was married for should also be killed
The man should just get another wife that is sexually compactable with em

LOL

Somebody committed a crime and people are justifying the crime on the internet


I hope some of you plan to live and die in Nigeria, make nothing carry you reach country wey get working system, because the kind of jail cell you people will see ehn, Pablo Escobar will marvel at it.


OP, well done. I'm surprised you are not complaining about the konji that has hooked you since days have passed since you last raped your life. Suddenly, you can stay and not think about the sex again, you now want to buy useless gifts for somebody whose dignity you have stolen.

You even have a daughter and it did not occur to you to think of her before you violently raped her mother.

Well done. Do yourself a favour and forget about sex with your wife, once you rape a woman, things can never be the same again. Na only her pikin she sabi for that marriage. She doesn't know you anymore and no amount of begging will make her stop seeing you as the violent man that raped her. Everytime you touch her, she will recoil from you, when she sees you, she will only remember the ugly contortion of your face as you raped her, when she hears your voice, she will only hear you aggressively demanding her body. She will NEVER see you as anything other than the animal you were in those minutes you stole her dignity.


Meanwhile, I hope you have gone to pray to God for forgiveness while begging your wife because you have committed a grave sin.

Well done again

InTheCloudySky:
You didn't bother asking her/finding out what was going on with her or in your marriage (you obviously had pre-existing issues that may have caused her to withdraw from you) to have refused you, but you resorted to violence.

As if slapping her wasn't bad enough, slapping her to the extent of her bleeding in the mouth meant you did it with a lot of force, not to mention the force you obviously used to rape her. The act of rape in itself is an act of violence. Sorry (not sorry): you're a beast. After being violent towards her x2, what do you expect?

Get on your knees, plead with her and ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her again. Secondly, you're selfish if you're expecting her to cook for you after what you've done. You should be the one cooking for her during this time ―to appease her. Things should fall back into place if you start doing that and catering more to her, then you two can go see a sound marriage Therapist to work out your issues. Otherwise keep eating the indomie you've been eating.

How did u know that he didn't try asking her what the problem was? And what stopped her from telling or voicing her mind if she had any issue with him? Both of them are at fault. Marriage is not for kids.
sex is a marital right and if u think u can't offer it to ur partner, it is better u voice out what the issue is. U can imagine a marriage of 3 years already denying someone sex for months.
Both of them are wrong. He even said that she doesn't allow him to see her undies.
u don't beg for sex in marriage. It is ur right as both men and women.
when I was getting married, our councilor told my babe and I that sex has brought more issues than money in marriage and as a counselor, he said he was saying the experience he already had with many couples.

He then told us that we should not deny each other sex no matter what. That we can always talk about the issue but we must respond to each other's sexual desire by making our body available. That was a great piece.

This man here na cow. Bro, go and get a side chick. If u married a woman who needs to be begged before she gives u sex, I know their type. She knows what she is doing. She wants to use sex to completely control u. Go and have a side chick else u will become a chicken.
why would u be denying ur own partner of sex. Ur own husband or wife? I know such ladies.
I know a lady who is also going thru same issue. Her husband denies her of sex. She is so frustrated.
when u get married, u have sorrounded some rights such as this. Period.

How do people have erected dicks while struggling to rape a woman? I don't get

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

Gee " if you cry too much for the death of your girlfriend it will be as if you killed her"

Its a simple idiom"
No deh beg her, she shares the blame too, why would a wife deny the hubby of her wifely duties, even if she no deh enjoy sex she for communicate with u in ways to improve.

Relationship be like

Bishopceo:
Bro your wife is largely at fault in what just happened i believe if she does not change such will still happened again and maybe next time outside, that may land you in jail so talk to her again apologize if she refuse to listen involve your family and hers and if it hit rock again i advise you take a safer alternative which is to go your separate ways before it is too late because i cant bear it myself.

You're very stupid for blaming the victim.

Very very stupid.

Millions of women are married to men who have abandoned their matrimonial beds, have they raped their husbands?

You're very stupid for this nonsense you stated.

dokxavi:
This advice is quite OG! Alpha male stuff.

correct man.... Women loved to be rough handled some times

If your wife denies you sex, retaliate by ignoring the things she loves doing for you.
Stop eating her food
Wash your plates and clothes yourself
Buy food for the house yourself
Talk to her about it. Tell her you don't want to cheat.
Rape is not necessary. Never force anybody.

Divoc19:
@ Noah9, Please cheat on her before you turn yourself to a monster.

Give her time to travel. Travel if you can

Thanks for that moral booster

You said it all. Their TARGET is the WEDDING RING. Once they get it bro, sorry is your name. Chairman, go and lodge in an hotel for a week. She will be the one looking for you since she has refused to accept your apology. It's your right to do it anytime, anyhow with your wife. Both of you will learn from this.

freshkpomo:


You just fell into the trap, you just gave your wife something to hold on to.. I don't know why women are this heartless, almost all marriages are having this issue, and before marriage you need to see how these same women will give you all the best position in the world but once them reach house them go put key for tow tow.... It will make you wonder if you are the only one in love,or you are over demanding or you are not giving them good sex or there is another man in their life.. all these plenty thought fit make man loose sanity and for a man who does not want to cheat, loosing his mind might turn him into a monster and do the unthinkable.

Women stop deceiving men because you want to wear wedding gown like your friends because it seems you are after the gown and not the marriage because that gown looks like an achievement to you, if you see a man's labido is too high for you during courtship, kindly quit and tell him your reasons.. Things like this should never be issue for marriage, how woman go stay for a week or more and her husband body nor attracted her, yet she dey shake yansh round house expecting the man to look the other way, is that not witchcraft...

OP, I am not in support of what you did, but if your wife continue with her no sex attitude.. Just leave the house for her, shey she can cook and eat alone... At least if you nor dey see her, you nor go dey turn on.... She destroyed her marriage herself not you... If you get money, lodge hotel, chop better food, if na wine take calm am down.. after all life is more than SEX...

If my wife refuse to give me sex for a minthy sex drive will die for her..
Nothing can bring it back?
Rubbish...
Men like you are the one spoiling our useless women that don't have qualification for the institution called marriage
Tufia

safarigirl:



You're very stupid for blaming the victim.

Very very stupid.

Millions of women are married to men who have abandoned their matrimonial beds, have they raped their husbands?

You're very stupid for this nonsense you stated.

Who was the first victim here ?

ibechris:
Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

Best comment. My only addition is that use a marriage counselor rather than family. Family will always tilt to support their children

Your wife na very wicked lady ,why should she denied you sex ,it is a sin ,... don't hate yourself ,you are being human ,...l would advise you to ignore her and get yourself a side chic,....l bet you she will come after you ,...when you show a lady too much affection ,they tend to misbehave

My Brother, from your explanation, something is wrong somewhere. There is lack of openness in the relationship. You would've sit her down to discuss with her to find out what went wrong somewhere. You might have offended her in the past and she bottled it up and now the issue is complicated. it is your legitimate right to make to have carnal knowledge of your wife. But her consent is needed otherwise forcing her to make love to you is like making love to a log of wood. Her response is needed.

The wrong is already done. Please never lift your hand next time to hit your wife no matter the offence.

Please I strongly advise you to still ask her forgiveness and strongly promise her that such will never repeat. Again, try to make her to build confidence in you. Find out you past offences that makes her to deny you her body. try to reason with her.

After all these if she still insist, then seek for Godly counsel.

Thanks for sharing

ibechris:
Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

Yeah. Ladies did not deny their exes constant sex. When they marry, they start hoarding sex like palliative

Christinaog:

Men are scum

And women are angels. Either way the man loses. If he goes out to relieve stress with prostitutes you will condemn him as well. If I were him, I will give her the red card to allow willing substitutes to come in.

Op, I don't see anything rape here, you are just dancing to her game.. how can u live with your wife for a whole month without sex ?? Is she crazy Please focus on your job, get a babe outside to cure your sexual urge... let nature settle the scores .. I hate women using their kpekus to control man