Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

oga go and do DNA test

You maybe fathering another's man child as your own!

You can't trust those piece of shiit called naija women!

You people will be marrying enemy of progress as wife and be coming here to be ranting when it goes Haywire

When you were simping, telling that ape you can't live without her, I guess you didn't think that you would ended up living this shit hole as a country

Now your wife is pulling your progress back instead

This is want you get when ya simp married a liability


I hate simp

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

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Send your wife abroad for studies after 11 years marriage and join her later?

If second and younger wife dey hungry you, be man enough to say so. Your wife could see through your shenanigans.

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Come and marry my babe

Kobojunkie:
Your wife has a masters and has been jobless for 11 years. Does she even harbor desires to obtain a PhD on top of what she has so far, or are you the one making that decision for her to obtain a PhD as well?

You want her to explore her "potentials" but why aren't these "potentials" explorable with the masters she currently has?

If she don't want to go abroad for PhD,and assuming it is her desire to begin with, what is wrong with paying for her to obtain one right there in the country?,

One of the best ways to go out of this country is through education,

Jackxcollection:
Reading

one question why is that people who study Microbiology nearly hardly find employment in Nigeria? but do well once out of the country??


just asking

Leave things as they are before you destroy your happy home.

Sometimes doing the same thing over and over could be boring, education is fun to some while it's boring to oyhers, and she might just be more comfortable and more relaxed around the family. Please don't push her to where you will eventually regret your decision.....

I m one of them . How I go leave Nigeria permanently ? God forbid.. Wetin I wan Dey chop for the abroad ? No nah… I eat only fresh meals here .. no preservatives.. I kill all animals here for consumption

faithfull18:
Not everyone wants to permanently relocate abroad, some people just want to go and come back from time to time.

Oga ... she no wan make you turn MBA na... Married But Available... abi you sef know say once she moves ; you go begin nack all the smallies around town

I understand her perfectly. As it stands, I'm not interested in relocating abroad but if I eventually leave I'm never returning. Some persons have been through a lot mentally that moving places resurrects their old trauma. I don't think it has to do with getting more qualifications or the lack of desire to improve. It's simply staying with where she has found peace.

LMAO. Housewife of 11yrs, suddenly OP wants her to be a career wife by getting a PHD with no joB experience and no skills. He wants a housewife to suddenly become a hustler. I don’t think this OP is ok in the head. Tomorrow you might wake up and decide you want her to carry gun. Start how you want it to end o. Why not go and hustle yourself? Shebi you are a traditional man?

Your wife is not interested in relocating abroad. You leave am na

faithfull18:
Not everyone wants to permanently relocate abroad, some people just want to go and come back from time to time.

It's not always about us but our kids future as well.

You better leave her alone. You said it yourself that she's a good Woman. And she's refusing because she knows that move will break your home and Yes it's True.

When she Leave for abroad, are you going to be Celibate till she returns?

And she on the other hand, do you think she may not fall for a pressure from a sweet looking dude that may even have more cash than you do?

Don't use your own hand to scatter the Peace your home is experiencing right now.

Chairman to find a Woman that will give you Peace this days is Hard oo.. You're making progress because she's true to you and she's giving you peace of mind.

So don't mess it up.

Oga just start up a good business for her here

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

No everyone (Myself included) wants to relocate abroad.

Personally speaking as far as I'm concerned if you're settled and comfortable here in Nigeria you have no business going to play second fiddle in Europe or America!

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

Don't force her. Relocation comes with a lot of risks and sacrifices. If she is not ready, let her be.

mark2sunny:
Leave things as they are before you destroy your happy home.

Even without her working for 11 years now. What IF the man lose his job or die tomorrow how will the family survive and BTW it's not always about us but the kids future as well.

Kobojunkie:
Your wife has a masters and has been jobless for 11 years. Does she even harbor desires to obtain a PhD on top of what she has so far, or are you the one making that decision for her to obtain a PhD as well?

You want her to explore her "potentials" but why aren't these "potentials" explorable with the masters she currently has?

If she don't want to go abroad for PhD,and assuming it is her desire to begin with, what is wrong with paying for her to obtain one right there in the country?,

or what even made him think she wants to work?

Some women are okay been housewives. Thats as much achievement as they want in life.

uthlaw:
if she obtained it here, it useless,education in this country is useless, Nigeria is useless.... The wife is just lazy!

Not everyone must have PhD..

If she's not interested..

Let her be..

It's not laziness..

There are other career choices..

webincomeplus:
It's just cool reading through a thread like this on NL. Mature, civil, and insightful comments all through. A total breakaway from the tribal, religious, and political jabs and battles that have plagued NL lately. Even the usual trolling and "cruise" mongers aren't here. We need more of this.

That reminds us that Tinubu is a perpetual looter who can never stay a day without looting public fund

Maybe she needs more assurance from you in which you will never cheat on her and also make her to understand your primary aim for her to relocate abroad. Use the future of the kids to blackmail her.

Your steady Cucumber is leading the case


Your wife is a die hard fan of your cucumber

Think twice-told

Wait oo

SHE MUST HAVE HER OWN REASONS FOR THAT...

There are those who don't want to live abroad.Leaving her kids and husband may be too much for her to bear.

Why can’t you guys have a simple transparent discussion ?

Woos!!! Your wife is just scared of responsibilities, so she’s comfortable in her world, the world you provide …
Educations is not everything if you know,
She knows you’re a purpose driven man but she isn’t,
So out of pity she’s rejecting the loads and expenses for you.

Try this my friend…
Move, Relocated to your desired country ALONE first.
Watch and see what happens after 3 months at least

NoToPile:
Not everybody is freaked with abroad matter.

She simply is not interested besides she has told you she values her family more than any pursuit that alone is a good reason.

As simple as!

You have a good life already with a loving wife and three kids.

Don't fix what is not broken!

As long as it's your wish but you need to respect her decision as well. Her insistence on staying back could be a big blessing for you. If she relocated and find another adventural life elsewhere you might eventually blame yourself for poor decision so you need to understand from both ends.
In addition in as much as you are comfortable enough here I don't know where you want to relocate the family. Sometimes the pasture is not always green abroad