Premiumwriter:
or what even made him think she wants to work?

Some women are okay been housewives. Thats as much achievement as they want in life.

then the man should set up a trust fund now!

Even he wants the wife to upgrade, he should soft pedal things and not pushing for a PhD abroad just like that.

If the balance isn't broken, what fix it?

damola1:
Why can’t you guys have a simple transparent discussion ?

Alaye! Have they been having an opaque discussion?

ednut1:
you are talking bullocks. With the competition for phd admissions abroad this madam will have a hard time getting one. Stop playing exception game here

Stop saying rubbish. You can't even read and comprehend, did that woman tell you that she needed to be funded by any supervisor? Why are you so foolish? Can't honor you with a reply again.

Brother I wish you the same.. only enjoyment shall be your portion in this 2022.

faithfull18:

Hanhan, you are enjoying oo

you are with your family now no issues, you want to push her to what shes not ready for, when loneliness make her seek cucumber in that cold weather you will start complaining. bro if you are leaving a comfortable life here pls jus chill and process the whole fams japa idea

akanbiaa:
What works for you might not work for others , you seem passionate about moving out of the country but not others share same sentiments whether they are enjoying or suffering in the country, and about getting a better future for children it is not taking them abroad that guarantees that , we all see so many druggies, rude and spoilt adults from abroad whom their parents once shared same sentiments as yours, so just be prayerful , instill love and discipline in them , seek for a job or seek for solutions to peoples problem and get paid for it, and always learn to adapt to seeing issues from others point of view and respecting their opinion for you will not stand by such person if they follow your advice and things go wrong you might still end up blaming them. The best you can do is to advice by giving both pros and cons and let people decide on what is best for them. It was the Industrial age that having Masters and PHd has semblance of relevance to get competitive salary jobs (not to even create and sustain wealth ) but the age we are now it is those who can solve problems with their unique skills, market a product , or create products in demand or provide unique servuces in demand to customers that are the real deal.

no b issue of suffer,nothing de for this country to enjoy...just leave story!

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

Most men with good paying jobs and a house wife think like u. They want to relocate their family abroad while they keep their job here and use than to maintain the family till they find their feet there then they join them. It’s not a bad plan actually bt ur wife has to be convinced and that takes time.

She obviously values and prioritized family bond than anything else. Give her time to think about it and how it can work. One way to do this is going on holidays and leaving them to stay longer and return afterwards. This will help her get used or have a feel of how she can cope without the whole family being around at same time.

Whatever the case she should be rushed. Let her know ure planning for the future and she will gradually get the perspective.

Not everyone wants to relocate,not everyone wants to live outside Nigeria,I am among them.
Allow her be pls.

Don’t know about other overseas, but in Germany you usually start your PhD straight after completing your master. You apply and with a lot of luck and the right profile you get hired for up to five years by the corresponding university department. You don’t pay for a PhD, you get paid. But there is strong competition, your wife is bound to struggle after an 11 year break. But if she’s willing to try, LinkedIn IMHO is her first stop.

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

How often do you travel abroad with your wife?

You have to move together

Most people won’t know what hardship nigeria can bring today

Many that are comfortable today might not be tomorrow. The country is unpredictable

Even if you are making few millions in nigeria don’t get too comfortable with that . You have kids and family members depending on you.

Move if you can and while you can if necessary

HacheNoire:
Then you that money to establish a good business for her in Nigeria.

You not even scared! You want to send your wife abroad alone? Do you know fine boys like us are very deadly, that any woman born of a lady can hardly resist us.

Please preserve your marriage. Boys are picking hobbies in breaking homes now. I have a friend who has 7 homes under his belt- He has used his peniss to destroy 7 formerly happy homes.

ROTFLMAO

Guy you just made me to laff out so loud inside the bus, I would not forgive you for this!

Omor this one funny me die... Hahahahahahahap

Eagba:

Alaye! Have they been having an opaque discussion?

Yup…

HacheNoire:
Then you that money to establish a good business for her in Nigeria.

You not even scared! You want to send your wife abroad alone? Do you know fine boys like us are very deadly, that any woman born of a lady can hardly resist us.

Please preserve your marriage. Boys are picking hobbies in breaking homes now. I have a friend who has 7 homes under his belt- He has used his peniss to destroy 7 formerly happy homes.

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

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Soffyh:
Bthe man reason well, the family is peaceful right now bcuz the man is well providing for them, nobody's knows tomorrow that's why yu shouldn't put all ur eggs in one crate, the man wants the woman to also work and earn abroad, he only use studying PhD as excuse or to persuade her, the man is planning for future purpose for that woman and kids, but I can see local mentality worrying that woman, maybe sh thinks the man wants to send her away to marry another lady,someone that has masters and 3kids is not lazy,but she need someone to talk sense into her brain, even top big millionaire with financial stability, celebrities wife are abroad working and securing better future for ther kids maybe the wife family are discouraging her or her friends

well you're right in a way but then the woman sees the peace and success of the marriage as more important than going after the PhD. some things should just be left how it is , there can be other options . The man has good intentions but it may bite back at him in many forms and hypergamy is one of those ways too.

Burgerlomo:


I really feel sorry for him because he doesn't really understand what he's toying with, though he has a very good intentions but what he does not understand is that he is at the same time playing with fire, a word is enough for the wise.

I'm telling you

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

Are you sure she was a qualified graduate or one that graduated through the back door?...