sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

fortuneerondu:


Oga the white man you praise so much is worse. Stop talking with a slave mentality. Stop idolising the white man. Africans don't hate ourselves, we've just been socialised the wrong ways to believe the wrong things plus our leaders and living conditions are really tough plus we're easily being exploited on all fronts by everyone so these things make us do things that are not who we are. You should read up on domestic violence cases in other countries then maybe your mind might open up to the fact that Africans are better off.

Datboredberry:
The man beats her and her children and to you that's a little misunderstanding?

He never apologies...

What's your solution smart man?

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

fortuneerondu:


You call this a little misunderstanding? Wow. Now I really see what women mean when they protest against these things. There are certain lines you don't cross and one of them is physical harm. Once physical harm becomes the issue, you're safer and better off loving from afar, so pack your bags and leave. You haven't divorced him, you're giving him time to figure out his shit and if he decides to change then you come back and if he does it again then leave for good but most times perpetrators of physical violence never give their victims a chance to leave for good. The next time they beat you may be your last time on earth because they'll beat you to death knowing fully well that you might leave again


Some men can be cowards sha...

Beverlyjean:


When you say abusive, do you actually think being abusive is only when a man goes physical on a woman. verbal words are also an abuse which we women should stop. Why can't some women understand that men are mostly physical when angry, why provoke him with harsh words.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

fortuneerondu:
This is sad. You married wrong but all hope isn't lost. You either start praying or walking away because that's death you're seeing from afar. Pray to God to help him or walk away. Plus the real damage is not even your skin but your children witnessing all these things, they're being messed up mentally for life. Do you know what a mother is to children? And to see her constantly, helplessly being violated and oppressed not just mentally or emotionally but also physically is a mental scar that takes a long time and conscious efforts to heal. If you don't walk away for yourself do it for your children. Start plotting your emancipation from that marriage. It is a newspaper disaster waiting to happen.

SmileDance:
so what do you want us to do? We should come and flog him for you? Congratulations, just know when your kids grow up they will also flog their wives since you allow yourself to be flogged.

YinkaOlusesi:
but why is it that u women of nowadays always think divorce is the best option in any little misunderstanding in any marriages It baffles me a lot

1Sharon:
Go down on your knees and pray. There is something you are not doing.

Jesus is the God of heaven.

Your husband is God on earth.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

YinkaOlusesi:
but why is it that u women of nowadays always think divorce is the best option in any little misunderstanding in any marriages It baffles me a lot

1Sharon:
Go down on your knees and pray. There is something you are not doing.

Jesus is the God of heaven.

Your husband is God on earth.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

YinkaOlusesi:
what message are you trying to pass to her, she should packed out from her husband house

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Mariangeles:


Stop being insensitive to people’s situation and stop making a mockery of other people’s “religion”.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.