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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Arielle: 9:25pm On Jun 20, 2022
There was an advert that ran about 3 years ago in the UK around Christmas time. It featured an elderly man sitting alone on a roadside bench, watching people strolling along the street: children playing tag, a young husband and wife with their kids, a pair of lovers, teenagers kidding around and laughing. Then the camera did a close-up of the old man's face and a tear came out of his eye and ran down his face. It was heartbreaking. The advert was from a charity, I forget the name, and they were calling for volunteers to keep old people company: read to them, have tea or just spend an hour chatting with them. I felt so depressed. The UK flu season usually witnesses a lot of death from old people who live by themselves. Abroad, whether US or UK, is a cold lonely place if you're alone. The US is better. Americans are nosy and friendly. British people, you fit de die next door, dem go just enter their house close door.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Charly68: 9:28pm On Jun 20, 2022
Truth be told nobody cares for anybody there ..once children reach poverty off they go to fight for their destiny...when You are old,they take you to old people's home which can be boring and not the best for an average African person. At home you have your family around around you . In fact you are at peace here than there ...we must however ask God to wipe out these Fulani killer squard who are presently making the nation uncomfortable..

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Mrpojj(m): 9:29pm On Jun 20, 2022
gambojimeta:

I may be wrong, but I think pension are also taxable.
I don't think so
Though am not sure too
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by erico2k2(m): 9:32pm On Jun 20, 2022
SeriouslySense:
Its good to see a different side to Life, I dread returning to Nigeria, we are fortunate to see another reality. I am grateful for that.

I think some African countries are much better than Nigeria, at least one has peace of mind and some kind of order.

Bross nowhere in Africa has peace of mind,No govt in Africa can guarantee that however its up to you to have your own peace of mind! even in the USA and Uk there is still not 100% peace of mind

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by erico2k2(m): 9:33pm On Jun 20, 2022
Charly68:
Truth be told nobody cares for anybody there ..once children reach poverty off they go to fight for their destiny...when You are old,they take you to old people's home which can be boring and not the best for an average African person. At home you have your family around around you . In fact you are at peace here than there ...we must however ask God to wipe out these Fulani killer squard who are presently making the nation uncomfortable..
so if you come to Nigeria where you do not have family what happens?

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Sunny2034: 9:33pm On Jun 20, 2022
kabukabu50:


Public school really failed you.

My apartment building was robbed in Nigeria for almost 1 hour,they held everyone hostage,police did not show up.
In the US police is there in 5 mins.

Depends on where you are. Don't believe everything you watch in the movies
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by kabukabu50(m): 9:36pm On Jun 20, 2022
GistFullGround:





I NEVER said Nigeria has no crime.
You, "oloriburuku" is just someone filled with SELF-HATE!

What do you do in the US, yahoo-yahoo


Ode.

Your only language is yahoo yahoo

Agbero
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by SeriouslySense(m): 9:36pm On Jun 20, 2022
Thats right. Nigeria is still home cheesy cheesy cheesy
erico2k2:

Bross nowhere in Africa has peace of mind,No govt in Africa can guarantee that however its up to you to have your own peace of mind! even in the USA and Uk there is still not 100% peace of mind
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by erico2k2(m): 9:36pm On Jun 20, 2022
Arielle:
There was an advert that ran about 3 years ago in the UK around Christmas time. It featured an elderly man sitting alone on a roadside bench, watching people strolling along the street: children playing tag, a young husband and wife with their kids, a pair of lovers, teenagers kidding around and laughing. Then the camera did a close-up of the old man's face and a tear came out of his eye and ran down his face. It was heartbreaking. The advert was from a charity, I forget the name, and they were calling for volunteers to keep old people company: read to them, have tea or just spend an hour chatting with them. I felt so depressed. The UK flu season usually witnesses a lot of death from old people who live by themselves. Abroad, whether US or UK, is a cold lonely place if you're alone. The US is better. Americans are nosy and friendly. British people, you fit de die next door, dem go just enter their house close door.
The narrative of what you wrote there portrays a system and a government that cares for its older generation and a society that is willing to do something about it,
We have Old people in Nigeria and Africa, do we as Africans recognise the needs of these Old people? do we do anything about their needs? how many times in our streets in Nigeria has anyone volunteered took a day out from their Biz to take an Older person for an Eye check and paid for it or for health check and paid for it?

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Charly68: 9:36pm On Jun 20, 2022
erico2k2:

so if you come to Nigeria where you do not have family what happens?


They have family which may be extended
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by PeachtreeReside(f): 9:38pm On Jun 20, 2022
t2luv1:


I am freaking doing count-down partner 3 yrs 8months I am collecting that Social Security @ 62 sells the paid-for house then buy a 2 bedroom townhouse. somewhere to stay whenever I come for a check-up.(Ain't staying at any Child's house) . God willing get my black ass to my house in Lagos Nigeria. The only thing I am going to miss is my College Football (University of Michigan) but with a VPN and internet I will resolve that issue. Time to get out of dodge people I have been here for too f**king long. Love this land, home of the brave and land of the free. But Ileya





lolz!


You are hilarious � � �

May your plans work out very well.
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by erico2k2(m): 9:38pm On Jun 20, 2022
Charly68:


They have family which may be extended
The ones who see him/her as central bank?
Abegiii

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by GistFullGround: 9:39pm On Jun 20, 2022
kabukabu50:


Ode.

Your only language is yahoo yahoo

Agbero




SLAVE!!!!!!!!!!!
You know what you do.
The government will catch-up with you soon, LAZY BOY!
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by NOETHNICITY(m): 9:40pm On Jun 20, 2022
The reason is because western life teaches disconnection from loved ones. That's why they have old people's home. Nearly all the old people in old people's homes have family (Children and grandkids).
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Sunny2034: 9:41pm On Jun 20, 2022
chiedozie198100:


My brother na those wey never travel dey talk say abroad dey sweet.
The sense of emptiness can be very overwhelming.
You are surrounded with tons of people and yet you feel so lonely n disconnected.

With all the glitz and glam, lights and colors, beauty n cleanliness, you still feel something is missing.

Me I couldn't endure it no more. I left.

**Ask yourself, why is it that those who make the most noise about how JAPAing is the best decision of their lives, still actively search for things that connect them to HOME(music, news, etc)?

Cleanliness Hahaha

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Interesting2023: 9:43pm On Jun 20, 2022
GloriousGbola:


Not sure where this fabu is coming from. Most of my relatives in Yankee are def going to die there.
Your relatives? let them grow old first and see them say otherwise. You won't understand wot a lonely life at old age means over there, just indoor with birds making noise over your your roof and possibly a nanny coming to collect her pay every damn time.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by gulfer: 9:52pm On Jun 20, 2022
In the disappear, nobody has time for any old man or woman... You either accept to be shipped to an old people's home or agree to a life in solitude and this you cannot manage...... Here in Nigeria, people still want to help and assist you especially when you're old but is not so in most western countries cool cool cool cool cool
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Quiny32323: 9:55pm On Jun 20, 2022
seunoj:


Ask people working remotely and staying naija, you will understand how they are hedging against inflation.

Technically they ain't hedging anything unless they are able to withdraw the foreign currency from their form acct, last time I tried it wasn't possible unless the rules have changed but you still have to spend naira in naija and it's still subject to inflation. Life last last na garbage in garbage out. Their is a price for every thing wether you are abroad or home base just choose your poison.
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Quiny32323: 9:58pm On Jun 20, 2022
Interesting2023:

Your relatives? let them grow old first and see them say otherwise. You won't understand wot a lonely life at old age means over there, just indoor with birds making noise over your your roof and possibly a nanny coming to collect her pay every damn time.

Who no go no go see, I have a friend in his 60s now that works in old people's home,this guy swear that he will never spend a day there when he is weak and I use to pass one in my former neighbourhood, you need to see the frustration in their faces.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by jerrymej(m): 10:01pm On Jun 20, 2022
No place like home �

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by OChimex: 10:09pm On Jun 20, 2022
immortalcrown:
Because the suffering there is not good for old age. Those type of people are selfish people who always run to the most comfortable zones and abandon their relatives at home.

When they are young, diaspora is their favourite. When they get old and begin to pay the price of the enjoyment they had, they will remember "No place like home". If you think they are coming home just because they love home, why did they wait until old age? Are they running from enjoyment in diaspora?

Most of the things you enjoy as a youth will not give you happiness in your old age because they are not what your body and health require in old age. Those people hardly get what pleases old age in diaspora. That is why they run home to search for old-age happiness. There are many reasons.

Suffering is not only about the struggle to make money. Whatever threatens your health or saddens you means suffering.

Calm down Mr. Even people living in Nigeria, outside their state of origin always return to their native homes/villages to retire. Its natural.
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by InvertedHammer: 10:20pm On Jun 20, 2022
Mode4:
I have been thinking why the few peeps I know including some of my distant uncles who spent most of their years abroad came back to Nigeria to live when they became old. Is there something awkward about growing old overseas?

Even my sister in the US, has been telling me that once she gets old, she will come back to Nigeria to spend the remainder of her life. Folks abroad, what's really going on? Is there a harsh reality for the aged over there?
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$2000 per month in US, s/he is a pauper.

$2000 per month in Nigeria, s/he is living large.

The retirement money will go a long way in Nigeria.

/

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by emmi14: 10:32pm On Jun 20, 2022
Nigeria is old people home with old great grandpas as leaders . Nigeria become grave yard
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by nothingspoil70: 10:33pm On Jun 20, 2022
Solofresh2:
Am currently in the UK right now and I can tell you that loneliness and inferiority complex is what is killing most Nigerians here.I came in just last week and I have made a lot friends here.
If you do things with pure hearts and you don't have an average Nigerian mentality, the whites will like you more.
Moreover,some people can't cope being on another man's land for long.
As for me I can die anywhere I find myself as long as am comfortable
OP your contribution made me laugh. You are in the UK for just one week and you think you already know more than those who have been there for decades. Don't worry you will soon find out and experience all these things they are talking about. I want you to carefully read all the responses of people on this topic; you will notice that about ninety five percent are saying the same thing only very few of you are saying something different. OP please start planning for your future back home. My advice peace.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by AreaFada2: 10:48pm On Jun 20, 2022
koyyess:
Even in the zoo, most retired men and women go back to their state of origin to settle. Before retirement, some are already building their houses in their home town or their state capital.

Na bad economy and huzzle fever dey make people migrate.

If all the states in nizooria were developed, very few people will migrate. Use the US citizens as an example...dem dey migrate? Highest they go on vacation and return.


I have seen some reasonable and some very silly comments here. grin cheesy
The bolded is Gbam!

To begin with, most people who went abroad initially planned to return after about 5 to 10 years. But since the mid-1980s, when that time comes, they can't return. Because Nigeria kept going backwards. Family members at home began discouraging relatives abroad from returning. Then people got married and have kids abroad. Returning to 9ja with 3 or 4 kids is never easy. Returning from Abuja with family to Afikpo, Uromi, Ede, Iseyin or Orlu within that same 9ja for good is not even easy.

By the time you have raised all the kids through university, you must have spent around 32 to 40 years abroad. Then you are nearing retirement. In the years you were raising kids, your main responsibilities were (1) Paying high bills/taxes (2) Constantly assisting relatives
and friends in 9ja (3) Investing in 9ja (4) Planning for retirement.

By the way, folks retire from PH, Abuja, Lagos, Kaduna and other cities to their hometown/state too. Even some Americans retire from NYC, Chicago, Boston and others to warmer Florida.

As for (2) above, those you assist can be up to 50 people. Meanwhile because you spread the help to so many people, out of necessity, none will believe you changed their lives significantly with your help. You will still be seen as the stingy uncle/aunty/friend. We see threads here about stingy uncle abroad who only sent little money every time. Now imagine someone sending N100k to just 25 people in a year. That's N2.5m. In 10 years that's N25m.
No corrupt means to make money abroad like in 9ja. Yet he will be called stingy. Whereas a guy doing an average civil service job in 9ja and doesn't face demands from relatives (he's not erroneously considered rich like those abroad) can build a good house for 25m in some parts of most 9ja cities and he can brag that he has made it more than some "useless" guys abroad. N25m that some guys abroad gave out as unappreciated gifts, believing that they are at least trying to help despite also just managing themselves abroad. grin cheesy cheesy

If 9ja had developed as it promised considering our immense resources, many would never have left and many who left would have returned much earlier, after university education, to work in 9ja.
Today, many people who said just 8 years ago that they will never relocate, many want to leave 9ja now.

Of late due to insecurity, kidnapping and worsening economy, the rush to return to 9ja to retire has much reduced. Women are far less keen to return to 9ja.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by koolaid87: 10:51pm On Jun 20, 2022
Because they dont want to end up in nursing homes.


Looking after an old folks like we do in Nigeria will put stress on your career. So they have nursing over there which most poc dont vibe with
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Drone95(m): 10:51pm On Jun 20, 2022
Dramadiddy:
Loneliness is expensive abroad
how?
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Krucifax(m): 10:52pm On Jun 20, 2022
As someone abroad let me tell you why!!

Nostalgia

Weather

Health

Family Friends

Community

Feeling of belonging

Cheaper living.

Loneliness

Not wanting to die Alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Legendoo: 11:03pm On Jun 20, 2022
Feelings of emptiness and lack of a robust living like in Nigeria.

Even the young hustlers are lonely abroad let alone the old one's.

That is why we don't want you people to copy westerners and erase our traditions. Some of our traditional values are excellent.

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Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by Dramadiddy(m): 11:11pm On Jun 20, 2022
Drone95:
how?
you pay for care
Re: Why Do People In The Diaspora Come Back To Nigeria To Settle When They Get Old? by IbeOkehie: 11:28pm On Jun 20, 2022
Mode4:
I have been thinking why the few peeps I know including some of my distant uncles who spent most of their years abroad came back to Nigeria to live when they became old. Is there something awkward about growing old overseas?

Even my sister in the US, has been telling me that once she gets old, she will come back to Nigeria to spend the remainder of her life. Folks abroad, what's really going on? Is there a harsh reality for the aged over there?

Well, I'm well into middle age and I've lived in the USA for over 30 years and I'm quite sure I'm not moving to Nigeria to live even in retirement. Granted, one can never predict everything, but that's my outlook for now.

Also, I'm seeing more and more middle aged to elderly Nigerians WITHOUT any children here in the USA move here bringing their children with them. I know for a fact that many of them intend to live here for the rest of their lives.

Also I've noticed the working age or recently graduated Nigerian immigrants coming to the USA in the last decade or so are doing things or taking steps that send the unmistakable signal that they're not going back to LIVE PERMANENTLY in Nigeria, ever.

I could be wrong, just my own first hand observations. Since the 1970's many Nigerians have left the USA and gone back to live permanently in Nigeria. It didn't turn out well for the majority of them and their experiences have been duly noted. Nigeria has gotten so bad that the risk of moving back is now off the charts.

Still, you might see me settling down in Lagos or PH tomorrow. Or my dead body will end up in my village against my wishes.

Life is funny. To each their own.

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