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| What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 8:59pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
So I’m planning a date with this guy I like but he’s asking me how are we splitting the bills , what should I react to that ? Do you think it’s a good foundation to spilt bills from the beginning? |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:06pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Opinions are needed |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Cypress042(m): 9:11pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
See them beautiful creatures with high intelligence  So the relationship would only be in good foundation if he pays all the bills alone  Una too wise abeg  5 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:19pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Cypress042:is that not what a responsible guy is supposed to do |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by rickpat(m): 9:22pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
the person taking the other for a date should pay the bills....a date should be according to the budget of the host....LET THE HOST PAY...if you are taking him out...you pay....if he is taking you out...he pays... everything within the budget of the host... couples/lovers could plan things like vacation together not little things like a date... c'mon my opinion 3 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Ballzproblemm: 9:22pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:Nigeria women. , Sha na the mentality una take grow up for here , just cancel am 6 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by begoniaa: 9:23pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Ideally, whoever calls for the date pays. Alternatively, do what works for you and that you feel comfortable with... this should not be an issue. I would prefer if either person voluntarily chooses to pay all or split, rather than one asking the other (how) to pay (except in really unavoidable circumstances). It is quite a turn off. The idea is to have fun and enjoy while getting to know each other... who pays for shit would be the least of my worries  . (Although I go still carry 'vex money'.) If serving or pleasing the other person is the aim, the last thing on your mind should be asking them to pay... so since I don't know that guy, and I don't want to go all out judging him on a single line you've written, I'll just say that request carries a tinge of selfishness. I may be wrong, but I really cannot think of any reasonable reason for why he'd ask that of you.And whether you split bills or not, person wey go respect you go still respect you, so I do not consider that as a factor for a good/bad foundation in a relationship. So, you asked this question as a personal experience, not generally, and I am wondering if you will keep bringing other issues here for people to suggest to you what to do? We are not the ones living your life and we don't make your values for you, so why you had to bring this here, because you don't know what to do or the standards to keep to...why would you go into a relationship in the first place then if you can't decide on this? 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by InfinityFabric: 9:24pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
U no dey eat before you meet him ? Abeg order your bottled water jeje. 1 Like |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Cypress042(m): 9:25pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:For you as a responsible lady also need to show him you're not after his money by splitting the bills, that would accord you more respect  1 Like |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:30pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
rickpat:exactly! , well he’s coming to my town , not too far tho , he was the one who set up everything. I don’t know what to expect from that |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:31pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Cypress042:well I told him I’ll pay for something but the thing still Dey make me feel somehow |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by rickpat(m): 9:34pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:keep your expectations very low....go on the date,go with some cash...eat only what you can afford....let your order be way below what the guy is ordering for himself...KEEP YOUR PRIDE INTACT...very important... I wish you the best 2 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Cypress042(m): 9:39pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:Is a Good decision if can pay. If you can't afford to pay it, cancel the date and reserve your respect. My little suggestion sha  |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:43pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
begoniaa:well this is the first time this is happening to me , I have gone on dates where I had to paid for myself, or dates Where I at least bought something for two of us. But being asked such a question puts me a complicated position on what exactly to say or not say , so I’m like what the heck let me hear people’s opinion on it. Its my decision to put it up here which I’m totally accountable for. I’m not bothered about that. |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 9:43pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Cypress042:I can definitely pay for whatever I’ll order |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
If he is inviting you, then he is supposed to pay. If you are the one inviting him, then you can share bills or pay...lol...but i believe he will be feel bad if you pay....that is if he has a man ego Fact is that if he is inviting you and expects you to share the bills, that is a red flag or a man with no enough finances. Most guys will pay on the first date, if they are inviting you... |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by begoniaa: 9:51pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee: Alright. If it makes you uncomfortable or it's putting you in a difficult place, you should pay attention to that. Since you've agreed to the date already, you should go. His other actions there and afterwards should show you the kind of person he is... if he is someone that always wants to split things with you or one that gives freely, with no conditions... 2 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Cypress042(m): 9:55pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:Nice |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by helinues: 10:04pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
A guy that is not ready to pay the first date bill is unserious guy |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by JASONjnr(m): 10:05pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee: This is a common practice in some countries.... But since Nigerian girls are parasite and will never spend 6heir money for themselves on a date or vacation, they will see this as an alien practice. You don't have to lose that guy, he's exposed to the world beyond you... I will say you should get yo know him first. He could as well be a husband material.... But know this, everything will be on a split. |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by scottyoloye(m): 10:06pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
I think the guy is being narcissistic; any guy who truly loves and wants something serious from you wouldn't raise such. I can't imagine myself asking a lady out on a date and bringing up the issue of splitting bills. It would have been a different ball game if you guys are dating; it could come up like "babe, i think we should hang out this evening but I no get pass 5k o, how much you go add." 3 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Did you bring up the idea of a date? If yes ... He is fair If No, he is irresponsible  1 Like |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Silentgroper(m): 10:09pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee:And what is a responsible suppose to do at that moment? |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
JASONjnr:Since you know what goes on in other countries, I believe i should bring to your remembrance that these people do not go on dates beyond their financial capabilities, they don't impress, they are sane enough not to impose on others dates they can't afford. They are very considerate and go on dates happily. Who plans a date on the pocket of another? 1 Like |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by begoniaa: 10:12pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
scottyoloye: This right here. Ehennn, if we've been dating for a while, anybody fit carry anybody out and we fit split bills as we want. No issues. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 10:13pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
JASONjnr:that’s not husband material to me o, in as much as I’ll assist my family , that split kinda marriage is not for me, my father was a man that took care of the home financially that’s the husband material I want |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
begoniaa:This is very true. |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Shugavee(f): 10:16pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
begoniaa:true! |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by JASONjnr(m): 10:24pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Persephone1: You you explain this to her... She needs to know this... This way, Nigerian girls will cut their demands and expectations from men. They will understand what it's meant to work and earn. Some of these girls are very lazy but will call five boyfriends to collect urgent 2k and monthly upkeep. I had a girl who gave me conditions before dating her... Telling me how expensive she is and that I must be buoyant before I could smell her perfume. Believe, she's high class and now have political connects.... Younger guys are bellow her level.. She's into older folks. |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by JASONjnr(m): 10:26pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Shugavee: Well, if you like the dude, then you will expect more of this from him... But if you can't start what you won't finish... I will ask you not to keep to the date.... You will eventually find that guy that will foot all your bills while you save up and use your money to take care of your family. |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by Nobody: 10:31pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
JASONjnr:Sadly this isn't for her but for you who thinks you can make comparison between Nigerian women and women of other countries but ignore a Nigerian Man acting like a parasite. Whoever initiates the dates foots the bill except there is a mutual and unforced willingness to spilt the bills. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Do You Say When A Man Plans A Date But Tells You,you Bth Are Splitting Bill by JASONjnr(m): 10:42pm On Jul 08, 2022 |
Persephone1: Are Nigerian women not parasitic in nature? If she wasn't... She wouldn't feel uncomfortable about the idea... Initiating a date doesn't mean he should foot the bills.... She has every right to say no to pairing/splitting of bills. The dude wants a relationship and that starts by getting to discuss on a date.. and if she must take anything, she has to pay for it. If she's not cool with it, let her call it off.... Stop ranting! |
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