4Humanity4All:


Hmm. Why is it so?

Lol... I don't know
Mostly because we love to form we are better than the others? Or maybe she form b4 then later need help... I really don't know coz I don't do that but one thing is sure, we don't like to show our flaws to others. Girls alws want to be the best, perfect in front each other...

Sweetvie:
Lol... I don't know
Mostly because we love to form we are better than the others? Or maybe she form b4 then later need help... I really don't know coz I don't do that but one thing is sure, we don't like to show our flaws to others. Girls alws want to be the best, perfect in front each other...

Hmm

Yes, I noticed. I have seen women always ask money from unknown men on the but avoid their own fellow women. They know men are free spirited givers.

So since you hardly seek help from your own fellow women, stop finding fault with men who ask you for something in return.

Sweetvie:
one thing u should know aim girls is that they really don't like themselves as they make it seem like. Imagine u went to ur girls for help a person u call friend, she didn't even borrow u the money but start telling others behind ur back... Or she borrow u but Still saying it around as if she save u from death. That's y girls doesn't borrow money fr mom each other, t pmhey do come to guys bcoz u guys can keep secret n you're not like girls

Sweetvie:
Have been reading alot of post about girls begging for money from guys and their reply have not been kind especially if the girl is not in a relationship with them. I mean y do guys have that kind of mentality that u can only give girls ur money if you're sexually involved with them.

Change your circle
Stop using nairaland to generalise for all men , it is a faceless and nameless forum , alot of people lie here and some of them are the lowest kind of people , especially those shouting alpha male , but it's fine , I get bored too and I come here to add my own lie because I know I'm talking to liars

Alpha no dey make noise

There are men out there who give without all that , I think it depends on who you're talking to , actually 2 nights ago I went to withdraw money with baby sis and network was bad so I was just about to leave when the little guy called us back and offered 1500 for no reason , it was cute , coz I was older than him , I could clearly see it but he thought it would help and I no go lie I take am

There are also many occasions where random guys have done one or two , and they don't even ask for your number or your name , they just feel like

I have very few male friends that always forget I'm not their little sister , very few and on some occasions I know if I called them they would come through , and even now they offer to help at some stuff but sometimes you will be very scared of accepting , I always have second thoughts , thinking they want something from me but most times I'm wrong, one of them has never given me money but when we eat outside , I never pay for my food , he doesn't allow it , when he started dating I thought it would stop but his babe was just like him, she also loved paying for my food and I will accept , I will still eat from her plate , because I am a foodie

But you see the 2k geng , they send you 2k and next is "when can we see?"
Those ones will climb you and horse you for hours and give you #150 to go home

Did I forget to add I'm mostly friends with older people , maybe that's why I'm lucky , both men and women and they give both advice , support and anything ,
Change your circle and the type of internet you're on

Nonam:
Yes. I noticed. I have seen a women ask money from men on the road but avoid their women. They know men are free spirited givers.

So since you hardly seek help from your own gender, stop finding fault with men who ask for something in return.

Wow
I've never noticed , for me I ask from help from women than men because I am very suspicious of any man even relatives , for me girls are more generous than men ,

Most times in school when I was broke , I always I mean always had them coming for me , especially on my birthday and I don't celebrate birthdays , even my sisters are very generous, I'm the eldest but they always want to give me something, same with my friends , I've never been abandoned , I have male friends but 90% are women and I can't point one stingy person

LadyD22:


Change your circle
Stop using nairaland to generalise for all men , it is a faceless and nameless forum , alot of people lie here and some of them are the lowest kind of people , especially those shouting alpha male , but it's fine , I get bored too and I come here to add my own lie because I know I'm talking to liars

Alpha no dey make noise

There are men out there who give without all that , I think it depends on who you're talking to , actually 2 nights ago I went to withdraw money with baby sis and network was bad so I was just about to leave when the little guy called us back and offered 1500 for no reason , it was cute , coz I was older than him , I could clearly see it but he thought it would help and I no go lie I take am

There are also many occasions where random guys have done one or two , and they don't even ask for your number or your name , they just feel like

I have very few male friends that always forget I'm not their little sister , very few and on some occasions I know if I called them they would come through , and even now they offer to help at some stuff but sometimes you will be very scared of accepting , I always have second thoughts , thinking they want something from me but most times I'm wrong, one of them has never given me money but when we eat outside , I never pay for my food , he doesn't allow it , when he started dating I thought it would stop but his babe was just like him, she also loved paying for my food and I will accept , I will still eat from her plate , because I am a foodie

But you see the 2k geng , they send you 2k and next is "when can we see?"
Those ones will climb you and horse you for hours and give you #150 to go home

Did I forget to add I'm mostly friends with older people , maybe that's why I'm lucky , both men and women and they give both advice , support and anything ,
Change your circle and the type of internet you're on

Smile... You're so on point
Am not generalizing it
It actually for Nland guys only.They all think so low of girls as if we're dirt and it so irritating that's y i brought the topic up. The way guys on nland see girls ehn like object Just for sex... I just tire.
2k geng

Nonam:
Yes. I noticed. I have seen a women ask money from men on the road but avoid their women. They know men are free spirited givers.

So since you hardly seek help from your own gender, stop finding fault with men who ask for something in return.

Lol... Actually my point is not basically on the money part... My point is why do guys downgrade girls as if we're nothing? Do u get what m trying to type??

1. Yo have not experience betrayals that shut you down.

2. Your experience is base from phillia (friendship) mutual exchange

LadyD22:


Wow
I've never noticed , for me I ask from help from women than men because I am very suspicious of any man even relatives , for me girls are more generous than men ,

Most times in school when I was broke , I always I mean always had them coming for me , especially on my birthday and I don't celebrate birthdays , even my sisters are very generous, I'm the eldest but they always want to give me something, same with my friends , I've never been abandoned , I have male friends but 90% are women and I can't point one stingy person

In my views.

1. It is because, Nigeria girls are curruptly greedy. This limit them to do the unthinkable. (whoring)

2. They are also selfish (entitlement mindset) just to take, take, take, take.

3. Money is their god.

No man in his right mind will throw away a good woman.

Sweetvie:
Lol... Actually my point is not basically on the money part... My point is why do guys downgrade girls as if we're nothing? Do u get what m trying to type??

Nonam:
In my views.

1. It is because, Nigeria girls are curruptly greedy. This limit them to do the unthinkable. (whoring)

2. They are also selfish (entitlement mindset) just to take, take, take, take.

3. Money is their god.

No man in his right mind will throw away a good woman.

I feel you
But you guys are always generalizing it
Especially on nland here
That's y i do tell guys to date girl of same caliber not the one that see u as atm
Imagine following girls that doesn't work or making little money and you expect her not to alws ask for money? Are you there for decoration? No!
Or guys that date girls of 20-23 wat do you expect? They're not financial anything
They see guys as way for getting money of course
Most of them are still in school they need money!
Follow girls of ur caliber, working class... Not one's that still need their mom to buy them pant

Sweetvie:
Smile... Right.
That's what I do say... I just kinda find it ridiculous that guys think all girls are beggars

ost girls are beggars.

Sweetvie:
Thank u... Like those ones that they're still feeding will also be making mouth saying he can't give his money to any girls. M alws felt so irritated when belittle girls

Even the ones that is still under his parents warfare is not exempted for the ladies beggar.

Sukkyy2010:

Even the ones that is still under his parents warfare is not exempted for the ladies beggar.

Lol.. What do you expect? They're not working n they can't always ask their parent for money.

Sukkyy2010:

ost girls are beggars.

Some I agree but
"Most" I disagree
Unless you're moving around with non working class girls/lady
Date ur caliber

Sweetvie:
Seriously I don't know for girls. I alws type with my own knowledge so I can't know for other girls. If you need bedmatic assistance it doesn't have to be same girl. Apart, there's other way she can repay you than sex. How will you help a person and she will think of you as a mumu? That's stupidity

am surprised you don't that' any girl you give money without asking for sex will call you mugu. It happen. She won't even call you a "real man" na mumu she go call you, she go even discuss you with her friends

We generalize them all becos majority wins the vote.

Sweetvie:
I feel you
But you guys are always generalizing it
Especially on nland here
That's y i do tell guys to date girl of same caliber not the one that see u as atm
Imagine following girls that doesn't work or making little money and you expect her not to alws ask for money? Are you there for decoration? No!
Or guys that date girls of 20-23 wat do you expect? They're not financial anything
They see guys as way for getting money of course
Most of them are still in school they need money!
Follow girls of ur caliber, working class... Not one's that still need their mom to buy them pant

Nonam:
We generalize them all becos majority wins the vote.

Lmao... And it not nice at all

LUAN1:
am surprised you don't that' any girl you give money without asking for sex will call you mugu. It happen. She won't even call you a "real man" na mumu she go call you, she go even discuss you with her friends

Like am surprised coz someone that help you, you should be very grateful not calling the person mumu. That's rubbish

Sweetvie:
Smile... You're so on point
Am not generalizing it
It actually for Nland guys only.They all think so low of girls as if we're dirt and it so irritating that's y i brought the topic up. The way guys on nland see girls ehn like object Just for sex... I just tire.
2k geng

I wear my war hat here too but outside I am a softie and I have people that remind me everyday that real men are out there , you just need to understand their language , where some girls Bleep up is when they say yes to every one , even people that did not ask them
When you have cool guys as your friend , better people , they will teach you things , inside scope and still respect you , for my gist and gossip I have girls , but for business advice or you know questions like the ones you asked here I ask the guys

Funny thing is most of the nonsense men do in your dm , only girls know about it

LadyD22:


I wear my war hat here too but outside I am a softie and I have people that remind me everyday that real men are out there , you just need to understand their language , where some girls Bleep up is when they say yes to every one , even people that did not ask them
When you have cool guys as your friend , better people , they will teach you things , inside scope and still respect you , for my gist and gossip I have girls , but for business advice or you know questions like the ones you asked here I ask the guys

Funny thing is most of the nonsense men do in your dm , only girls know about it

Smile... You're so right
Every words are on point. As if you know all my untyped words...
M telling you, it funny how guy will enter ur dm dey beg for relationship anyhow but outside or here on nland they will form alpha male

I think you got this wrong, you are one of the rare ones, that's just it, in this era I don't think there are a lot of girls around who would choose love over money, so guys just use that as a leverage over them

Tekahashi:
I think you got this wrong, you are one of the rare ones, that's just it, in this era I don't think there are a lot of girls around who would choose love over money, so guys just use that as a leverage over them

Smile... Yep, you're right. Most girls will definitely choose money over love

Haynnie:
I’ve had my own share of experience too.

I use to give girls money without asking for anything in return and it got to a point it turned to an habit that every conversation would lead to giving her money but I turned the tables cus it was a new scheme to milk guys off their money.
They don’t appreciate the little you manage to do for them because there are other guys that might have promised them a huge sum of cash even to an extent they will sleep with them to get that huge bag.

There was one girl I sent 2k cus she said she’s hungry and I had enough to give that period. I sent her the money this girl texted me “thank you for sending me money for shawarma” I didn’t reply the text cus she didn’t come out clean to say she wants to eat shawarma. she said she was hungry and wanted to cook something for the evening.

After that day I moved on and we continued talking but whenever she comes up with a new strategy to beg I wave it off or I give excuses till an extent she stopped talking to me. Another one, we’ve been friend for a long time tho and we rapport on a daily. One day she called she was hungry and had nothing in her house to eat and her hostel mate is has traveled, she’s the only one in the hostel. I told her I had network issues and there’s no way I can run transfer and I don’t have cash to send her with POS. So I told her if she can meet with her neighbor and explain to him/her to help her then she should manage maybe by tomorrow I’ll send her money to prepare something to eat. She grumbled a bit and said okay before ending the call. The next day I was able to make transfer and I did her 1,500 but I didn’t called her that I sent her money cus she must have received the alert and would know it’s me.

Later in the evening she called me again and I asked her if she had eaten she gave an unsettled response and said she is managing that she saw the money I sent and it wasn’t enough to take her to this evening thinking the money she expected me to send was 4K. I was like ehnn why can’t u manage it cus I don’t have enough on me so I’m managing myself for now till I get a better cashflow. She kept quiet for sometime before her airtime ran out. Three days after I wasn’t online so she called me and was like “if naso e be naso hunger for kill me abi?” I was confused and was actually thinking why she said that. I was like what do u mean? She said that since two days she hasn’t eaten and I didn’t bother to call to know if she’s still alive. Omo imagine the entitlement as I be her guy or I no get my own personal issues wey I dey take care of to come reason her matter?

You own your pride. But as for me no matter how her story dey emoshunal reach if I no wan give and e no come from my mind, sorry I can’t. Before giving I make sure I see good reason to give out not just because is part of being human.

The entitlement is annoying! I had one like that, always begging me for money to invest in a refurbished MMM. This is someone who has a well-to-do dad and brothers who were doing well. I really don't understand the entitlement.

Gerrard59:


The entitlement is annoying! I had one like that, always begging me for money to invest in a refurbished MMM. This is someone who has a well-to-do dad and brothers who were doing well. I really don't understand the entitlement.

Iswear
What I do now is lend money and add interest to it and she would be like can’t I dash her the money sef. Omo I’m not giving any woman any free money again if she don’t want me to lend her with the intent to pay back I’m not giving shishi cus they don’t spend the money on relevant things not even talk of appreciating the giver

Wotoporiously speaking

This is not a complete story

FORWARDEVERLY:


Any girl that I know that needs such assistance must come for Knacks.. unless she is not sexually attractive to me, then I can render such help free..
If she is my speck, all those banging booty.. hot ass and boobs.. let her come for hot Fucck before I help her.. if she doesn't want to Fvck me,let her go and ask her boyfriend for the assistance..

She is entitled to her body same way I am entitled to my money.. if she is game.. we exchange help simple..

Wotoporiously speaking

You know the matter

Shit ain't free, we work hard for the shit that gender ridicule us for that's why they gotta put in work if they wanna stay employed.

Give it to them for free n watch them tag you a mugu

Nah! I'll pass

Sweetvie:

But what of a girl u know that really need d assistance

What of the Guy that Really Really Needs the Bleep??

Seee eeh, nah the hand way una dey bring dey cause all this wahala so.

I have a female friend that I always help out with things but I come notice say nah only when she need help she dey remember say I dey her contact list and she has never turned up for me if I get issues too so I just cut her off. I give help to girls way even get boyfriend cos I get sisters but once you begin see me as mum, I go just lock up your matter immediately..

OvertheTop:


What of the Guy that Really Really Needs the Bleep??

Silly
You'll look for hookup gal

Sweetvie:
Silly
You'll look for hookup gal

Good,
Using this Same Logic,
if the Lady Sincerely or Really Really need Help, She should Visit the Nearest Bank / Loan Shark
Simple, isn't it?

odinson1:


This life is give and get. You can't go around expecting everybody to render you the help you need without first giving something of value in return.

And also,why do you girls beg so much?

Ask her why must d girls beg from guys,what happened to women helping women? All those things na for mouth .....ask her when she last helped her female friends,u go shock

Another thing is dey can't even help without gossip,before u know e don cast

What happened to women helping women? We all know it all a scam on earth..........see some girls beg alots u see a girl post on her WhatsApp status she need help before u know 10 guys don dm her,if u come check all her female friends go ghost her that is the reality dey beg stylishly.

Another thing is u get tagged as a MUGU if u always turn up to their request all the time,see girls don't appreciate things no matter how small it is they always wants more something dey won't hustle for


But they re complete human being o,e dey surprise me no b say Dem get one leg and one hand wey Dem no fit go hustle.

Girls don use style call me stingy,i no wan no weda na play she dey play, but I hate dah one especially from them Bleep it who cares i give no shi shi