Yesterday night,I couldn't sleep ,I kept turning over in my bed,I couldn't read either,my mind kept going blank, when I tasted food and I felt like throwing up,and damn was I hungry.
I've jokingly joined people to chant the popular breakfast slang recently, never imagining I would be served one soon..
How do you handle this,will the pain ever fade?Cos I need my focus as soon as possible..I feel so messed up emotionally right now and I just have to let it out someway,I don't even mind the insults I might probably receive here,this is my safe place somehow .
I never imagined loving anyone for such a long period of time.... foolishly, pathetically,hung up on him,this guy led me on,and for so long we were in a state of undefined relationship..friends we called ourselves but the attachment was something else, everyone saw this but I lived in a state of constant denial..scared of ruining things..I was enjoying the friendship..of course,all this was mutual..until he announced to me that he was In a relationship with someone..skipping all the annoying details..he wants us to remain friends as he could not bear to lose what we have, my mind spinning, vision blurry,lol .I couldn't believe it, a part of me tho was expecting it but not when we were still together..he said a lot of things I can hardly remember, begging me not to leave him,well I told him it wouldn't be fair to the girl...and he should just focus on her.. it seemed the right thing to say, but I was fuming inside..I had no right to but I was anyway..he is been trying to appease me since but what's the point..I told him to give me spaaccce.
Right now,I just feel embarrassed,I never knew you could be break up with someone you didn't date,lol I feel angry at myself, I've turned down a lot of ppl cos of him..I couldn't even see others, but then I've learnt a lot from this,.. we're both in our very early twenties,he's only a few months older and the girl according to him isn't twenty yet .. never again will I fall recklessly in love like that, never will I be in an undefined relationship again.Never will I let my heart control my head again...I also feel it was God that orchestrated this whole thing,I was already making an idol in my heart out of him,He really is a jealous God , anyways this is my first and hopefully my last experience of this kind again. Phew I never knew I could type this much on NL

I still don't understand how breakfast and love should be your main focus at early twenty.

Omo

young lady be wise and focus on your life... don't let anyone make you good enough for a friend and not good enough as a lover... you're still young..understand this and have peace of mind alongside knowing your worth and how you relate with people..if you love someone and they can't love you back...just SLIDE

mizzhathaway:
Yesterday night,I couldn't sleep ,I kept turning over in my bed,I couldn't read either,my mind kept going blank, when I tasted food and I felt like throwing up,and damn was I hungry.
I've jokingly joined people to chant the popular breakfast slang recently, never imagining I would be served one soon..
How do you handle this,will the pain ever fade?Cos I need my focus as soon as possible..I feel so messed up emotionally right now and I just have to let it out someway,I don't even mind the insults I might probably receive here,this is my safe place somehow .
I never imagined loving anyone for such a long period of time.... foolishly, pathetically,hung up on him,this guy led me on,and for so long we were in a state of undefined relationship..friends we called ourselves but the attachment was something else, everyone saw this but I lived in a state of constant denial..scared of ruining things..I was enjoying the friendship..of course,all this was mutual..until he announced to me that he was In a relationship with someone..skipping all the annoying details..he wants us to remain friends as he could not bear to lose what we have, my mind spinning, vision blurry,lol .I couldn't believe it, a part of me tho was expecting it but not when we were still together..he said a lot of things I can hardly remember, begging me not to leave him,well I told him it wouldn't be fair to the girl...and he should just focus on her.. it seemed the right thing to say, but I was fuming inside..I had no right to but I was anyway..he is been trying to appease me since but what's the point..I told him to give me spaaccce.
Right now,I just feel embarrassed,I never knew you could be break up with someone you didn't date,lol I feel angry at myself, I've turned down a lot of ppl cos of him..I couldn't even see others, but then I've learnt a lot from this,.. we're both in our very early twenties,he's only a few months older and the girl according to him isn't twenty yet .. never again will I fall recklessly in love like that, never will I be in an undefined relationship again.Never will I let my heart control my head again...I also feel it was God that orchestrated this whole thing,I was already making an idol in my heart out of him,He really is a jealous God , anyways this is my first and hopefully my last experience of this kind again. Phew I never knew I could type this much on NL

This is not breakfast.....u were not dating....u were in the friend zone....and u stayed there cos u felt you had him where u wanted him....

Some of u think you are wise....u want to enjoy the attention and care of a guy without really being his girl...
all this time, tell me u ddnt chop penis else where.....??

u led yourself on as i'm sure the nigga never gave u any verbal hope....so dont accuse him of leading you on.....

if no be say u decided to coverup with being cool...u could have still won him over.....but u had to form fergie.......but i guess u realized big girls actually cry....

Most women dont invest much in relationships so u'll be fine in a couple of days....... just give one of the guys in your DM green light....a few trips out and perhaps one quick orgasm will reset your brain...

Last last, e don cast, na everybody go chop breakfast... this is your first, more are coming. i recommend vodka for the pain

advanceDNA:


This is not breakfast.....u were not dating....u were in the friend zone....and u stayed there cos u felt you had him where u wanted him....

Some of u think you are wise....u want to enjoy the attention and care of a guy without really being his girl...
all this time, tell me u ddnt chop penis else where.....??

u led yourself on as i'm sure the nigga never gave u any verbal hope....so dont accuse him of leading you on.....

if no be say u decided to coverup with being cool...u could have still won him over.....but u had to form fergie.......but i guess u realized big girls actually cry....

Most women dont invest much in relationships so u'll be fine in a couple of days....... just give one of the guys in your DM green light....a few trips out and perhaps one quick orgasm will reset your brain...

Go back and read what she typed, this time read it slowly.

@OP, dont feel sad, be happy cos u just joined the breakfast served association.

U can chose to move on or become a hardened feminist

Michelle70:
Go back and read what she typed, this time read it slowly.

@OP, dont feel sad, be happy cos u just joined the breakfast served association.

U can chose to move on or become a hardened feminist

Nigga..if you dont have anything to say....dont jump on people's mentions

advanceDNA:


Nigga..if you dont have anything to say....dont jump on people's mentions

Sorry, i hate to see foolish comments.
I had no choice but to jump on it

Michelle70:
Sorry, i hate to see foolish comments.
I had no choice but to jump on it

Whats all these insult for now...u mentioned me saying nothing....and u still had to insult me...
U are a grown ass man with kids..u should at least reason differently... We all have different view on a matter..this is not calculus or engineering maths question with only one answer..
its a relationship issue that people can look at differently...but u just feel only ur opinion is right....how can u jump on people's mentions and start to insult them..... jeez !! what is wrong with u people on nairaland....u are not one of these teenagers here...act your age nigga

advanceDNA:


Whats all these insult for now...u mentioned me saying nothing....and u still had to insukt me...
U are a grown ass man with kids..u should at least reason differently... We all have different view on a matter..this is not calculus or engineering maths question with only one answer..
its a relatiinship issue that people can look at differently...but u just feel only ur opinion is right....hiw can u jump on people's mentions and start to insult them..... jeez !! what is wrong with u people on nairaland....u are not one of these teenagers here...act your age nigga

hahaha.
Calm down, this is NL and subtle attacks are not uncommon.

I am sorry sha.

@mizzhathaway

You'll be fine last last, next time when you're getting unnecessarily close to a guy and your heart is jiggling, TALK things out and know where you fall, if he feels the same way and how you all want to proceed and what's the end of that script!

Ambiguity to anything is the mother of all fvck ups.

Zonefree:
I still don't understand how breakfast and love should be your main focus at early twenty.

Honestly,it wasn't..it just came like that

mizzhathaway:

Honestly,it wasn't..it just came like that

Then allow it to go like that so you can focus on your life. You shouldn't engage your flower age with relationship brouhaha . Love will get you killed or damaged.

rickpat:
young lady be wise and focus on your life... don't let anyone make you good enough for a friend and not good enough as a lover... you're still young..understand this and have peace of mind alongside knowing your worth and how you relate with people..if you love someone and they can love you back...just SLIDE

Thank you

advanceDNA:


This is not breakfast.....u were not dating....u were in the friend zone....and u stayed there cos u felt you had him where u wanted him....

Some of u think you are wise....u want to enjoy the attention and care of a guy without really being his girl...
all this time, tell me u ddnt chop penis else where.....??

u led yourself on as i'm sure the nigga never gave u any verbal hope....so dont accuse him of leading you on.....

if no be say u decided to coverup with being cool...u could have still won him over.....but u had to form fergie.......but i guess u realized big girls actually cry....

Most women dont invest much in relationships so u'll be fine in a couple of days....... just give one of the guys in your DM green light....a few trips out and perhaps one quick orgasm will reset your brain...

You are off point but anyways Sha..
By the way..I'm not a fornicator

mizzhathaway:

You are off point but anyways Sha..
By the way..I'm not a fornicator

Im a stranger....of what point is it mentioning you sexual life??

Michelle70:
Go back and read what she typed, this time read it slowly.

@OP, dont feel sad, be happy cos u just joined the breakfast served association.

U can chose to move on or become a hardened feminist

Lol
Don't worry I'll move on

advanceDNA:


Whats all these insult for now...u mentioned me saying nothing....and u still had to insult me...
U are a grown ass man with kids..u should at least reason differently... We all have different view on a matter..this is not calculus or engineering maths question with only one answer..
its a relationship issue that people can look at differently...but u just feel only ur opinion is right....how can u jump on people's mentions and start to insult them..... jeez !! what is wrong with u people on nairaland....u are not one of these teenagers here...act your age nigga

It's okay, don't take offence

advanceDNA:


Im a stranger....of what point is it mentioning you sexual life??

Cos u started it..

Yusufisraelj:
@mizzhathaway

You'll be fine last last, next time when you're getting unnecessarily close to a guy and your heart is jiggling, TALK things out and know where you fall, if he feels the same way and how you all want to proceed and what's the end of that script!

Ambiguity to anything is the mother of all fvck ups.

True..I blame myself

mizzhathaway:

Cos u started it..

..i said a lot of things....but u only focused on the last part of my comment where i said good sex can make u get over someone....u could take it or leave it.... u asked for the advice right..??
Now countering me that you dont fvck?? U want me to give u another advice or u just want to form good girl

Or here's another advice...tell him u want him.. u wont die ooo....he might have gone for another lady cos he doesn't know u like him

advanceDNA:


..i said a lot of things....but u only focused on the last part of my comment where i said good sex can make u get over someone....u could take it or leave it.... u asked for the advice right..??
Now countering me that you dont fvck?? U want me to give u another advice or u just want to form good girl

Or here's another advice...tell him u want him.. u wont die ooo....he might have gone for another lady cos he doesn't know u like him

You seem quite troublesome,I've heard ur opinion like every other person ok?,it's the assumption or generalization I was trying to correct.. Its not like I even included it in my original post,but since you seem so affected,I won't talk about that anymore..

mizzhathaway:


You seem quite troublesome,I've heard ur opinion like every other person ok?,it's the assumption or generalization I was trying to correct.. Its not like I even included it in my original post,but since you seem so affected,I won't talk about that anymore..

Trouble keee...no vex oooo....

But i like small vawulence shaa

Take heart.
Time is the greatest healer..
Focus on how to add benefits to yourself, with time you will get over it, might not be immediately but you will trust me.

I do data entry-related jobs and I'm good at it, kindly check my signature for my contact info.

Best Regards

Coolguy34:
Take heart.
Time is the greatest healer..
Focus on how to add benefits to yourself, with time you will get over it, might not be immediately but you will trust me.

I do data entry-related jobs and I'm good at it, kindly check my signature for my contact info.

Best Regards

Thanks.

With time it shall pass away, learn and move on. It's important you see things differently.

Nobadenergy:
With time it shall pass away, learn and move on. It's important you see things differently.

I hope so..