segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

Sweetplum:

Don't want to own her?
Thought you men usually boast of owning us after marriage like say we be luggage?
Segtech68, if you don't want to be Segun Carpenter or Segun Alabaru, go and marry her legally. Cos that's one of the criteria for granting couple visa and also she's an asset to you.
Men run from legal marriage cos they want to v opportunity to cheat in future. Make person dey plan future sin in advance. It's demonic. Extra marital affairs has ruined lots of men.

mojibbz:
You better don't answer or follow all these females/feminazis on these thread. Women have nothing to lose in marriage 80% of the time in nigeria. It's more like 95% of the time outside Nigeria in the west.

They will never understand you as a man and as such will bring feminine tainted advise and shaming tactics to the table instead.

If you don't trust a woman who isn't your blood, do not make the investment of moving yall abroad. She could destroy your life in a blink if she so desired which more often than not, but she will.

I would advise you go by yourself and stabilize first even if you're going to bring her over later but be cautioned. The law over there favor females and will not hesitate to destroy you if they deem it necessary.

Crazy times bro. Gotta protect yourself first. You can't be there for your future children if you get destroyed first.

segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

Persephone1:
You won't be able to travel out as couples without your marriage certificate which is issued to couples by court.
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Foodqueen:
Tell her your fear and u both should deal with it together.

advanceDNA:


Thats not true..... unmarried couple travel abroad as long as they can prove continuous relationship that is not less than 2 years.....

abroad law recognizes civil partnership of two pple living together, contributing and fvcking each other for a significant period of time ...

That said........

If he likes ..he should do only traditional wedding ...she can still fvck him up abroad as long as therr is proof they lived together, fvck, and contributed as couples

Lol... this is you trying to teach me my job. I deal with this everyday . If you want to travel along with a dependent which can only be your spouse or children you need marriage certificate.

How else do you want to "prove continuous relationship" ? Even if you want to fake a marriage certificate you will still be assumed to be MARRIED

Persephone1:
Lol... this is you trying to teach me my job. I deal with this everyday . If you want to travel along with a dependent which can only be your spouse or children you need marriage certificate.

How else do you want to "prove continuous relationship" ?

segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't [b][/b]get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

advanceDNA:


your job.?? Teach you....this is funny.. u are being defensive over nothing....

Pple have been denied even with marriage certificates because they cant prove their relationship, especially significantly new marriages

Madam...if u know your job...u should know how relationship is proven to the embassy without marriage certificate....no need to ask me.... go to travel section and see enough people travelling as couples without certificate

Proving relationship is because the marriage certificate from the specific applicant is not convincing enough . Court gives out certificate even to unmarried couple because it can be "arranged". If a couple married for 20 years tender their certificate it won't be one of the things to probe more by the embassy. This is like a student tendering a statement of account with transactions flow between 300k and 450k then all of a sudden a million plus transaction is reflecting on the statement. The UKVI or whatever embassy or school he or she is applying to will question such transaction and tell him or her to prove it. In such scenario will you say a student can apply for study without POF? Lol

One of the requirements to travel as a couple is Marriage certificate. That you may be ask to prove further doesn't rule it out as a requirement. But if you insist on your point, No problem. You are right. Very right