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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Nobody: 11:51am On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

1.Court marriage provides evidence that you are married, and yes, women become Mrs XYZ whether court or religious building.It is even more binding than any marriage blessing in the eyes of the law.

2.Even if you marry in say church, you have to sign a document...a court document.

. 3.You have the wrong idea about change of name....change of name can be done irrespective of whether one is married or not. You can be married for over 10 years, and change your name , whether husband or wife.

4.Issue here is you don't trust your future wife. If you don't trust her, then better not marry her. If you want to get married, then look for books on building a realationship and communication with your wife and give yourself an education...and it never stops when you marry.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Sleekfingers: 11:51am On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.



Then you are not ready......

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by b0rn2fuck(m): 11:51am On Jan 11, 2023
grin grin if couple fight and get dissolve by court and they continue knacking each other after dissolution, is that a crime
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Ebubu: 11:52am On Jan 11, 2023
mmadu4:
You are not ready for marriage if you can't boldly tell your partner what you feel or talk things out without being afraid of losing them . Lol stop being weak bro .. if she doesn't accept then she's not the one for you
fact! if you can’t tell someone what you feel without feeling like you will lose them, then you’re weak. be strong.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by merits(m): 11:52am On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

See mumu oooo, which kind of generation men are we having now?







Mumu man
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Nobody: 11:52am On Jan 11, 2023
Very simple ,open your Goddamn Mouth and tell her ! that’s it no magic. The fact that you are scared to tell her this shows that you don’t have the upper hand in the relationship , she does and you will be frustrated in this marriage either now or in the future . Better man up and tell her what you want
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by casualobserver: 11:53am On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

“Hello dear, I am not doing court marriage.”

If she doesn’t agree let her go. Don’t get into a legal arrangement In which both of you are not in agreement.

If she is not ok she will walk, so why should you agree to something you are not ok with?
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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Cutehector(m): 11:54am On Jan 11, 2023
Open your mouth and talk.. I dont understand why u men are weak these days. Aint u the one paying her bride price? If you no wan do court marriage u tell the babe, if she no gree make she find another husband.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by lukency(m): 11:54am On Jan 11, 2023
Which one do you prefer, is it the herbalist marriage.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Shakes85: 11:55am On Jan 11, 2023
Tell her with your Mouth.


segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by hosemujica: 11:55am On Jan 11, 2023
Prenuptial agreement! That’s the middle of it all tell her to meet you in the middle.
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by ElijahIme1992(m): 11:55am On Jan 11, 2023
Loooooooooooooool baba no want make Dem carry matchet divide him property into two during divorce.... Guy I will advise you to do the court marriage but the two of you should sign a prenup first... Problem solved.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Invest4growth: 11:56am On Jan 11, 2023
Which marriage certificate will you produce at the embassy?

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by bigdammyj: 11:57am On Jan 11, 2023
Interesting situation.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by SIRKAY98(m): 11:58am On Jan 11, 2023
But if you want to travel abroad, marriage certificate is one of the vital document needed from both of you. So remove court marriage and remove your travel abroad. Thanks.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Iselogunise: 11:58am On Jan 11, 2023
Just as U just did here
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Enemyofpeace: 11:58am On Jan 11, 2023
Just tell her that you don't want to do court marriage, you need not to go into details, if she still wants to go ahead with you and do the wedding, fine, if she doesn't want it without the court wedding, go your separate ways.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Iselogunise: 11:59am On Jan 11, 2023
Common Partner is an option not necessarily Court marriage

SIRKAY98:
But if you want to travel abroad, marriage certificate is one of the vital document needed from both of you. So remove court marriage and remove your travel abroad. Thanks.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Enemyofpeace: 12:00pm On Jan 11, 2023
SIRKAY98:
But if you want to travel abroad, marriage certificate is one of the vital document needed from both of you. So remove court marriage and remove your travel abroad. Thanks.
As if court wedding is the only wedding they issue wedding certificates
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Obason22(m): 12:00pm On Jan 11, 2023
Romanoff:
Whether you marry her in church or court, the same rules apply in case of a divorce.

So your fear us unfounded and it gives you off as a dishonest person.

If you love someone, you'll treat them right. Na if you dey plan to do bad to your wife you go dey consider all these things.
mumu talk
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Nobody: 12:01pm On Jan 11, 2023
SIRKAY98:
But if you want to travel abroad, marriage certificate is one of the vital document needed from both of you. So remove court marriage and remove your travel abroad. Thanks.
Cc

advanceDNA

This is coming from a man maybe it will be easier for you to swallow. grin
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by kingslj: 12:02pm On Jan 11, 2023
Romanoff:
Whether you marry her in church or court, the same rules apply in case of a divorce.

So your fear us unfounded and it gives you off as a dishonest person.

If you love someone, you'll treat them right. Na if you dey plan to do bad to your wife you go dey consider all these things.
.

This one do not know Nigerian women.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by GoodCane: 12:02pm On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.

You're afraid of losing a hoe and liability because of what you want to tell her?

You must be a SIMP!

Continue simping, sooner or later you'll receive sense. Plus I'm very sure she's not a virgin and has been banged by lots of guys before and yet you say You're afraid of losing her? You're a mumu man

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Isabi4lov: 12:02pm On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.
Are you getting married to get divorced, discuss it with your lady , let her know your fears and doubts ..

Those advising you not to take her along , the story will change if the said lady was to be their sisters or relatives ..

My aunt is in abroad with her husband and children and they're doing just fine .

If you're a good man , I see no reason why your woman won't be good to you except her village people is on her head .

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by lukency(m): 12:03pm On Jan 11, 2023
Which one do you prefer, is it the herbalist marriage.
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by like1: 12:06pm On Jan 11, 2023
I think both of you can't travel abroad as a couple if you don't provide evidence of court marriage which most embassies go ahead to verify.

My advice is, life is always a risk and gamble. Do your reasonable part to make the marriage work, enjoy it while it lasts or works. Then invest 'wisely' as a Nigerian while abroad. Whenever it packs up if at all it will, omoh exit the marriage like a big boy, no cry, move on like you were never married before. Trust me if you have this attitude about marriage, your least worries will be if it crashes or not.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by marsup: 12:06pm On Jan 11, 2023
Use sign language, if you can't use your mouth... grin
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Toosure70: 12:07pm On Jan 11, 2023
You can't because you're not man enough period
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by SIRKAY98(m): 12:08pm On Jan 11, 2023
Iselogunise:
Common Partner is an option not necessarily Court marriage


At which embassy is Marriage certificate an option UK,USA,CANADA,SHENGENS STATES OR ASIAN COUNTRIES?

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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by myrates: 12:08pm On Jan 11, 2023
segtech68:
I'm in a very serious relationship which will likely lead to marriage before the middle of this year. she's a good lady, very decent, God fearing and has a good Job. We both love each other so there's no point waiting than to marry her. We've talked about it and she loves the idea. Also , i've met her family and her parent treated me kindly.

The issue is, we are both planning to relocate after marriage to any of the western countries, we are both credible financially and i'm very sure we won't get denied but the stories i've heard about women changing after getting abroad makes me want to think twice about the court marriage. I would love to do every other marital right except court marriage.

How do i tell her politely without losing her? please i'll appreciate your advise.

Thank you.
You may consider to go ahead with the court marriage to facilitate ur relocation as a couple in addition to having a registered prenuptial agreement clearly stating how you and your spouse want things to run in your marriage as well as things both wish to protect in event of changes that could warrant divorce. Let her know ur fears and ensure she signs the prenuptial agreement, get it registered in the court of law as an assurance to mitigate against such fears. Simple.

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