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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:54pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
3kay945: You are welcome thats the main reason why africans we are poor 1 we invest in wrong things kids must be raised not invested in as returns 2 we should learn that raising your own kids is must, not favour or sacrifice 3 learn to invest in things that return your own money over time, not a human being that can change its mind, here we talk of properties and shares etc 4 If you raise them well there will be there for you but if you raise them using the words i sacrificed for you or as if you are doing them a favour they might not like you in the end becoz they didnt ask to be born 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SavageResponse(m): 8:55pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Useless sister 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 8:56pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
OP, abroad life no easy, na 10months I stay for Cyprus come run come back because I was only spending without earning, who no go no know, abroad is not worth the hype sometimes bro. E no easy... I still they send money to some of my guys till today. Only Bills per month will shock you. Then in Cyprus, my monthly house rent was 400 pounds, light bill every two weeks 400TL, water 1kTL monthly, electricity was the worst, I was paying like 8kTL wifi 500TL feeding never they, taxi for school at least 10k TL because I went with student visa and my house wasn't close to school, then 1k Turkish lira(TL) was 41-43k naira and house rent was calculated in either pounds, euro or dollar I was spending at least 1.6mi naira monthly then, Whoever that tells you abroad is easy is lying to you. 15 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 8:57pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
SavageResponse:As if life easy for abroad 5 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by MrDoGood(m): 8:57pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Darammliveth: This one don lost. She don go Oti lo |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by TheChameleon: 8:58pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Pbethel tried with her submissions. In Life, just don't expect people to always reciprocate your good gestures to them. Even siblings. That way you wouldn't be disappointed. Leave that sister of yours. Karma has its ways. 6 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 8:58pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
LikeAking:How you take know? |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by oluwaseyi0: 8:59pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
CosmicDust: Shut up and let your sister rest, before you people will push her into depression if e easy to just clean yansh for canada why you no go? entitled fellows the young lady is probably struggling over their in Canada with no one to even rely on yet you people are talking trash in Nigeria and imagining her to be richer than Dangote 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Sebastine1994(m): 8:59pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by DeLaRue: 9:01pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
[quote author=LikeAking post=122196450] Somebody with Masters degree in Canada, can't be struggling.. . [/quot You're wrong. |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Danlax(f): 9:02pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Mumusaphire: 9:03pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
pbethel:hmm mm. U are right, but many people are just heartless. They won't change no matter what. I also have a brother here in Nigeria, abuja, our first born. Doing well, real big man, working in federal ministry of justice, abuja, na real Senior staff ooooo, that before u get to his office, u must pass many securities. To cut a story short, he can't help financially, he can't help getting we his siblings a job, or connect us. Even his wife also work in federal interner revenue in abuja, high rank also. Last too weeks, I was so down, even till now, but am just managing myself. I summoned my courage to call him because have knew that he won't help. I sent him message on WhatsApp with prove of my health. It was on sat that day, election day. He replied that haha, that i should pls give her till Monday, that he will run around to help me. I thought in my mind that my brother want run around on top how much. Even have spend more than 50k before I decided to msg him. At last, it was on Thursday my brother sent me money. I was surprised to see just 5k. So u can see many of them can't change, but just heartless. But they can donates for church to show off. 23 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:03pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
pbethel: Let me give you one information things abroad and not easy for Nigerians especially in the developed country nobody is employing them. In America today Nigerians and 92 immigrants in employment and in Britain it is no different. The behaviour of the Nigerian people that made them on employable in most parts of the world. So just because somebody is abroad does not mean he is doing well I have seen this in UK Sweden and Denmark a lot of Nigerians are just suffering their even medical students 5 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Goodlady(f): 9:04pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
xavuv:Good thought. But I think there's resentment to the extent the one abroad isn't taking tomher family well so anything can be imagined against her |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by oluwaseyi0: 9:04pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
CosmicDus is your sister married? I can bet no but you guys actually don't care, all that matter is her money 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Majesty33(m): 9:05pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
I support u Op on this one. We entertain and tolerate several rubbish from our family members most especially siblings but we mange to forgive and ignore because of that blood that binds us. As we speak, I won't speak with my younger and very useless brother who have refused to do something meaningful with his life. He says at home eating and fuming but the month u as the elder can't meet up with needs at home. He picks fight with u. 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Mumusaphire: 9:06pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
oluwaseyi0:u don't need to abuse before u bring out point na. Be mature. U come carry another family matter for head like gala. 9 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Gloriagee(f): 9:08pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Sometimes, they prefer to spend on burial. Burial go come resemble wedding... Mumusaphire: 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:08pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
xavuv: 100% correct it is even midwest when you are in Nigeria. You will see other African getting jobs and they will just be there not employed or cleaning toilet |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by idu1(m): 9:10pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
sisisioge: The woman is wicked. It can't be that bad for her in canada. Even it's bad. She can explain her situation make everybody understand. Many of us no too get for here and we have achieved alot with the little in our hands. There are people that don't care about their parents and siblings. Especially women. How many women dey pay their younger brother school fee?. How many can over look buying clothes and bags to pay their younger siblings school fee? 15 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by gentlesmithugo(m): 9:10pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
VenExchangee:cyprus follow for abroad too.call better country abeg.what is different from cyprus and naija.abegi 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Amayabor1: 9:12pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
xavuv: Abeg rest. She is not doing well for herself but she don dey Canada for 5 years. Why she nor come back like some of her mates if she feels Canada is not favouring her? She has delibrately decided not to help her siblings and parents. Some children are like that. You can't be in Canada or US for 5 years and you send peanuts to your parents. You just don't want to help them. Not that you don't have. Or your money is going to projects they are not aware of. 12 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:12pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
sadly, its so difficult to know anything because nobody knows the situation of the sister back in Canada... just because someone is abroad, doesnt mean they automatically can help....some cant even fend for their own selves, let alone help siblings/family back home. its so wrong to make plans on someone else's income unknowingly... thus i suggest you instead talk to her directly about your issues and stop ASSUMING that she is bathing in Riches in Canada. you will be surrised to know that some people abroad have LESS money left at the end of the month than majority of people back home. by the time they finish paying all their student loan, mortgage, car notes bills taxes food etc, you will be lucky if they can send more than 40k back home 4 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Mumusaphire: 9:12pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Gloriagee:that's why I don't look up on anybody. The worst part is, his wife can't recognize us, even his children. He doesn't see us as his brother. I saw his wife just twice. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:13pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
CosmicDust: In u.k. I have seen a lot of Nigerian doctors nurses cleaners they are not even being paid. Just a week ago I made a lady which is working for a law firm and she is complaining bitterly even minimum pay she is not getting. In January one guy was telling me he cannot be borrowing money to be going to work this is a cleaner. Why do you think so many and now trying to run to Australia In America I wanted to do training when I was much younger for a trucking and haulage company and you will not believe what they told me for them to trade me I have to wait for them for 2 years less than minimum pay 1 Like |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 9:14pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
gentlesmithugo:Oga e follow. So you want to compare Cyprus to Nigeria? Cost of living in Nigeria is massively cheap compared to any other continent excluding Africa Mind you I'm a regular travel, I do go vacation always, Cyprus was only country I went and spent 10months because I thought it was cheaper there. 4 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by jaxxy(m): 9:14pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
As much as nobody owes u anything and all that bullshit talk I hate irresponsible and inconsiderate family members or people. If u can't help ur parents or family in geniune need and u have u are a bastard. That's all. u have parents who cared for u bt u can't value them when alive bt when they are gone u come to organise burial party like a very useless hypocrite. 12 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 9:15pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
https://www.nairaland.com/7635539/us-based-nigerian-lady-shares#122195922 OP see for yourself |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by like1: 9:15pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
Gloriagee: If this is not entitlement mentality I don't know what is it. OP do what you can do for your parents without complaining. No dey look your older sister. If you no fit too, lock up too and stop being a baby. Your sister sends 40k monthly, she is already trying. You re calculating how much is 40k in Canadian dollars. You are even expecting your sister who has spent only 5 years in Canada to be able to have enough money to bring you abroad. If your sister id actually who you say she is, it is obvious entitlement mentality from your side is a major factor to the way she behaves. Because there is nothing she ever does that will be appreciated. Moreover, do you know her burdens in Canada, have you tried to inquire? Does she work as a student? 20 hours a week? Has she overstayed her visa and not able to renew and now staying illegally? What is her status in Canada. 9 Likes |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:16pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
VenExchangee: Cost of living is cheap because of the poverty rate in the country |
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by blackgold2018(m): 9:17pm On Mar 31, 2023 |
CosmicDust:Op you are doing better than her Most of them over hype their earnings.. She might be getting paid peanuts.. 1 Like |
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