descarado:

Autistic children are very smart and intelligent.
We simply don't know their general or individual triggers.

All autistics hate noise. It drives them wild. Maybe, that boy is noisy around him. They hardly look for trouble unless triggered.

Since autism is on the spectrum, all autistic children do not reflect same as some are on the high functioning autism (HFA) while some are on the low functioning autism (LFA), some even have an added Neurodivergency of ADHD.

His parents needs to seek professional help for better management, that would hopefully help him transit into a better functioning adult.

GloriousGbola:


They have to know how to fight first though.

Practice makes perfect

The only challenge I see here is just because the child is autistic.

I have a son who is very calm and would rather report to his teachers and me at home than fight back, his teachers even told me he is calm and doesn't like fighting back.

One day he complained so much and out of frustration I told him to Fight back didn't know I gingered something in him. The teachers had to ask me at pick up time if I asked him to fight back, he actually overdid it and we all rested. No more nonsense from anybody for a while.

Very very ideal .. never attack but always defend yourself....
If they stone you , you shoot them .. no mercy
Ija wa ija o si , always guiding

Foodqueen:
When u are alone with your son, tell him to fight back.

When u see the scene play out, just tell your son to stop it. Then take him inside.

Problem solve.

All these other people don't get it till u tell your child to react.

Exactly what I told my daughter 2 years plus old, yesterday evening.

Like you saw me yesterday 😄😄😄

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

Op, people will say it's not OK, well, even me will tell u same. But let me assure u that I am going to encourage my kids to always face and fight their fears so that dey don't become a prey in the future.

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

Which health condition? Bully knows how to bully even with his health condition, then he should be able to get beatings with that also. Let your son fight back they are both kids and you have to start teaching yoir son. The next time ypur son comes crying, make sure u beat him immediately and send him back to fight.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Allow your son to defend himself please. I'll so teach my future kids how to defend themselves against any form of bully. Anyways they'll naturally take after me.

How

It's best to tell them to stay away from troubles and trouble makers.

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

Dicey, but every parent can tell to an extent how strong his or her child is, if you size the bully up and you notice their age mates, report the bully to the school teacher, then mock him privately at home and whisper in his ears, beat that guy up!!! That is if you know your child is not weak. BUT if you observe the bully is older, track his/er folks and report the bully to them, and even to the headmaster or principal. I was a bully though. Hakeem Momodu was my prey🤣😃😅😂😄

CaptainFM1:
It's best to tell them to stay away from troubles and trouble makers.

When I was bullied as a kid, I told my dad about it and he confronted the bully in front of his parents threatened to get the police involved too. That was the end of that issue. Him standing up against the bully on my behalf gave me serious confidence against bullies to last me even to this day.

What do you understand by ideal?.

Ideal situations are situation in which we "Invision". All things consider, all things going in a certain way....

Real situations are all things consider in reality. Real time. Which mean he can beat your child to death or blind him. Do you Want your child blind.

Teach your child self defense. But not to bully. But Defend himself from bullies.

Don't tell your boy to fight back but whenever he retaliate don't caution him. It will tell him take action when you need to and be able to trust his decision. The guy may over power him but when you face a bully they draw back. They know the boy got a fighting spirit. Whenever you fight back you build strength and ground

Bullies don't stop unless and until the one being bullied resists, allow your boy to not just resist but give the bully double of his own dose, the bullying will stop automatically.

victorVIC1:


The kid acts same way. I literally have to double check he's not hanging around when reversing cos he's just all over the place. Unfortunately, his mum is not supervising him closely

Some parents deliberately or inadvertently get careless with their disabled kids, perversely hoping that some accident will come kill the child, thus freeing them of the burden of taking care of such kid.


What they can't bring themselves to do, they creat an environment for chance to help them out


It's what it is.

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

I will not tell my son to fight back, but if I found out he was bullied, I will beat him properly because I will always train him boxing every weekend. He should know what to do with the training

victorVIC1:


My major concerns here is the bully's health. The guy is autistic. Can barely move perfectly but very troublesome

Teach your son to return slap for slap, pinch for pinch and watch the autistic bully leave him alone.

Is like your house should be a face me I face you... Never advise your child to fight anybody.. just pray that God should bless you and you stay in a peaceful place

OP don't do that, let him defend himself!

You're gradually turning that boy into a weakling. I remember what my mum always tell me and siblings when we were kids.


"Don't look for trouble, but if your mate hit you hit them harder"....... Nobody can intimate me, even if you can beat me I won't just allow you hit me without hitting back. I go make sure say I leave "signature" for your body.

Don't teach your son that, you might create what you can never control later.

My baby girl is only 2yrs but now I am praying for her, she started bullying me and her mother when she was younger anytime we scold her, I was saying she is just a child, now I have enrolled her in school, she bully everyone in school even her teacher whenever they scold her, this has been my plight, my baby girl is never scared of anyone whether her senior or junior.

Within the street whenever she go out to play fight is all she do, I have started locking her indoor this days, and if I lock her she will be crying, I don't know what to do.

Enrol your children in a self defense or martial arts class.
We all need it.

The good thing is that they are taught how not to abuse the knowledge and also to know what skills to use for a particular kind of fight or combat.

I will allow my children defend themselves definitely. I won't want my son's or daughters running under the bed in fear for their mates.

Modified
But In the case of the autistic child, your son should be told in clear terms that the boy is not really a bad person, but because of his condition.

You may have to talk to the autistic child 's parents and also tell your son to try as much as possible to avoid him

I had similar experience with my son 13yrs
Inside school bus der was a particular kids dat bully him akways
Solution
I went to school to report
D bully was called I saw d boy that shouting at my son how could dis type of person bully you
Instructed my son anytime he try it again fight back or use your lunch box to hit his head make parents c
come fight themselves later now
Teachers were shock at my response
Since then every kids avoid my kids when it come to trouble
Telling yur kid to fight back is not wrong abeg
Naso Nigeria problem take start

Omo! Remember when I was 13 and I was embarrassed after fighting a guy bigger than I.. Came home crying and the football field was just across the road opposite our house..

My dad came out from his room with towel on his waist and instructed me to head out and he followed me.

Dad, oya who did you fight with and I pointed.

Dad says oya go and continue fight..

I first land the guy blow for nose without him seeing it coming.

After dad saw blood he then said that's enough oya go home and knee down

Him flog shege for my body and said avoid fight before it happens

he was a nepa staff with lots of wires at home

It is good to train kids to defend themselves. But in this case, the autistic child is not bullying. He just doesn't know what he's doing. Autistic children hit themselves and others. His parents are supposed to watch him all times.
Pls, you have to keep an eye on your child. If anything happens, people will blame you because you should know better.

My life changed for the better the day my dad told me, "You won't get in trouble at home for defending yourself. Hit 'em back if you have to. Just don't be the one to start it." I was about 9 years old.

victorVIC1:


My major concerns here is the bully's health. The guy is autistic. Can barely move perfectly but very troublesome

Even though he is autistic, he must have learned not to put his hand into the flame of a burning candle, for example – because it will hurt him.

In the same way, once your son woze him once or twice, he will arrange himself.

You said it yourself, remember he calmed down briefly when your son reacted earlier.

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

That boy is autistic and does not understand what he is doing.

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

If I were you I won't encourage my son to hit back. They are just kids. Don't feed his mind with the adults' pill. There are other ways to go around that.

Time when i dey small if them beat me for outside i run come house, na better flogging i dey collect pass the beating wey i chop outside seff. Na so i man up dey fight some of my mates and seniors in the hood. Omoh street sweet oo