You won't let the boy fight, and you won't fight for him by talking to his parents??

If I were you I won't only allow my kid fight back, I will teach him WAR!

victorVIC1:


My major concerns here is the bully's health. The guy is autistic. Can barely move perfectly but very troublesome

Let your son beat the autism out of him. Most autistic idiots become better when they are handled with iron hands. I have many examples in my former neighbourhood.

gfelo:
Don't teach your son that, you might create what you can never control later.My baby girl is only 2yrs but now I am praying for her, she started bullying me and her mother when she was younger anytime we scold her, I was saying she is just a child, now I have enrolled her in school, she bully everyone in school even her teacher whenever they scold her, this has been my plight, my baby girl is never scared of anyone whether her senior or junior.

Within the street whenever she go out to play fight is all she do, I have started locking her indoor this days, and if I lock her she will be crying, I don't know what to do.

Mindlog, what do you suggest in a situation such as this?

victorVIC1:


My major concerns here is the bully's health. The guy is autistic. Can barely move perfectly but very troublesome

Your son should NOT strike with the boy

He should grapple the guy and put him to sleep.

If he can put the kid in the master lock or leg lock, that will be better.

Your kid should go for submission manoeuvres to silence the bully.

GOVERNORR:
Omo! Remember when I was 13 and I was embarrassed after fighting a guy bigger than I.. Came home crying and the football field was just across the road opposite our house..

My dad came out from his room with towel on his waist and instructed me to head out and he followed me. Dad, oya who did you fight with and I pointed. Dad says oya go and continue fight.. I first land the guy blow for nose without him seeing it coming. After dad saw blood he then said that's enough oya go home and knee down Him flog shege for my body and said avoid fight before it happens he was a nepa staff with lots of wires at home

So, what exactly did you learn from that experience?

Oga, you better teach your chid how to confront adversaries or he ends up becoming a training material for bullies all his life. someone is suffering from autism and the next thing is to beating your child abi? e be like say he dey ment

victorVIC1:
I have a male kid that is about 3 years old and I recently observed that a particular kid in the compound that is 2 months older than him always attempt to bully him at sight.

The few times this have happened in my presence, I restrained my son from retaliating cos the boy in question is autistic. Though my wife also informed me, there was a day my son fought back and the boy stopped his bullying attempt for a while afterwards.

This morning my son was about to leave for school. Immediately he came out of the apartment, the boy ran towards him and hit him. Once more, I stopped my son from hitting him back but this time his mum (my neighbour) experienced the scenario and only made a remark to the boy to stop looking for trouble. I felt she made the remark just to create an impression that she was concerned.

I've been feeling so uneasy about this since morning and this is obviously a bullying case and I'm subtly training my kid to tolerate it. Hence, I've concluded that the next time such will happen, I will ask my boy to fight back.

Just to have your opinion on this matter, is fighting back the best approach in this situation putting into consideration the health condition of the bully ?

What's the alternative? Ask your kid to take a beating.

Well, I don't know about fighting , but I think it is ideal to train your kids to stand up from themselves and never back down, even from a bigger bully. Because even if they lose the fight, they can keep their self respect. And the Bully will not try them again.

Focus on teaching your kids self defense and immobilizing skills. They don't necessarily have to fight back. But they should never run away in fear of their peers. This is how they build self confidence.

If the bully is an autistic kid then it's a special case and the above may not apply. However your kid should learn how to operate out of empathy and not hate or fear.

You on the other hand need to talk to that kids mother; not as a fight or complaint but as one parent to another. Ask how she deals with it and she thinks your kid can deal with it.

All the best.

If you have sized the boy, that your son can shakara him "via motal combat" , then nothing wrong in him standing up for himself.
But on the other hand if that other child na maniac, brut, abeg, no give him "moral" to go on suicide mission ohh..

scoobyblogspot:
Is like your house should be a face me I face you... Never advise your child to fight anybody.. just pray that God should bless you and you stay in a peaceful place

And build a school for his kids to school peacefully

I would have said you should register your child in a takwendo class or if you can't afford it, buy these old Chinese movies like drunken master, karate kids, new legend of shaolin,ip man, but since the attacker is autistic, just have a good dialogue with his mother.

WorldRichest:


Let your son beat the autism out of him. Most autistic idiots become better when they are handled with iron hands. I have many examples in my former neighbourhood.

Not sure you know anything about autism.

4 dis Nigeria way everything na gbas gbos
Na im u want raise weak pikin,continue!
When the Bible said 'right from the days of John the Baptist the kingdom of God suffereth
Violence and the violent ones taken it by force' the Bible was referring to Nigeria cox
No weak person can make it in this current Nigeria.So, train ur son to be a very strong man

ahnie:
I have coached my kids how to always deal with bullies.
Always fight back,the child no get 2 heads.

Lol
You are breeding bullies.

Kasdat5:
If I were you , I'd give my son a pocket 🗡 or a small bottle.

^^^


Sir/Madam, you have no joy.

Wotoporiously speaking

If possible enroll your son in a kung Fu class, make he beat like 3 years commot for the boy body, I hate bullies

Poanan:
Which health condition? Bully knows how to bully even with his health condition, then he should be able to get beatings with that also.

^^^
On behalf of the crater at the top of Mount Fuji, I endorse this message.

Kobojunkie:
When I was bullied as a kid, I told my dad about it and he confronted the bully in front of his parents threatened to get the police involved too. That was the end of that issue. Him standing up against the bully on my behalf gave me serious confidence against bullies to last me even to this day.

^^^
The dynamic is different for males. Your dad got involved because you are female.

Fujiyama:
^^^ The dynamic is different for males. Your dad got involved because you are female.

I never said I was female.

NoToPile:
The only challenge I see here is just because the child is autistic.

I have a son who is very calm and would rather report to his teachers and me at home than fight back, his teachers even told me he is calm and doesn't like fighting back.

One day he complained so much and out of frustration I told him to Fight back didn't know I gingered something in him. The teachers had to ask me at pick up time if I asked him to fight back, he actually overdid it and we all rested. No more nonsense from anybody for a while.

This was interesting to read. It means your son respects, loves and looks up to you. That's why he took your words to heart and your words encouraged him. I believe he sees you as his greatest support.

Kobojunkie:
Violence is never the right answer as far as bullying. Also, since the boy in question is autistic, it wouldn't be right to ask your son to beat him up. You should talk to the boy's mother about the problem so she realizes that you are not at all happy with the situation and if necessary, keep your kid away from him if that is what it takes. At the same time, you should begin teaching your kid what to do when bullied since he is already exposed to it this early in life and might be wondering why his own folks aren't fighting the "enemy" for him.

Equally, take time to teach your kid all you can about autism so he maybe better understand such kids, and why the kid next door keeps being mean to him. At least that way he grows with a strong self-esteem instead of thinking he is hated by the neighbor's kid.

This is the worst advice anyone can ever give a kid. He should teach his kids about autism? He really should teach his 3-year-old kid about autism? Are you smoking something? In trying to be nice with your response, you are actually been unwittingly evil. Nobody should ever have to take this horrible advice.

scoobyblogspot:
Is like your house should be a face me I face you... Never advise your child to fight anybody.. just pray that God should bless you and you stay in a peaceful place

^^^
I was brought up this way...I was never given that talk every father should give his sons in particular, about bullies. I am not repeating that mistake with my kids - I have told them NOT to be the aggressor but they are under strict instructions to immediately return rocket fire whenever bullies and other troublemakers engage them. Those are the rules.

NuCypher:
■ This is the worst advice anyone can ever give a kid. He should teach his kids about autism? He really should teach his 3-year-old kid about autism? Are you smoking something? In trying to be nice with your response, you are actually been unwittingly evil. Nobody should ever have to take this horrible advice.

1. We have here an autistic child as a neighbor. We started teaching the kids early about autism as a result so they know not to shun the boy or take whatever he does personally. The boy is able to come over from time to time on play dates as a result, and the kids do not make a big deal of him and his noisy, sometimes irrational mannerisms, as a result.

The world does not go in a straight line. More times than none you have to take yourself off that path you have been stuck on for so long in order to understand and accommodate perspectives different from that which you have forever been used to.

Kobojunkie:
I never said I was female.

^^^
Are you?

Poanan:


Which health condition? Bully knows how to bully even with his health condition, then he should be able to get beatings with that also. Let your son fight back they are both kids and you have to start teaching yoir son. The next time ypur son comes crying, make sure u beat him immediately and send him back to fight.

Beat him ko, beat him ni. See your twisted mouth like beat him. I'm sure you're very local. Illiterate or semi-illiterate. It's illiterates that beat their children anyhow. You talk like you lack exposure. Why would you beat a child because you want to correct him on how to handle bullying? You're not ok.

My mom tell me say no more head of fish 4 me, I scattered d bully face with blow d next day, from dat day onwards he started dreading me.
My mom was like " u wey dey chop to d extent say ur belle go wan burst, u go let ur mate wey he mama dey hardly buy ice cream or buns 4 dey beat u, nor worry no more head of fish for u again, and she know say I like head of fish dat year". D next day, na me go find d boy.

gfelo:
Don't teach your son that, you might create what you can never control later.

My baby girl is only 2yrs but now I am praying for her, she started bullying me and her mother when she was younger anytime we scold her, I was saying she is just a child, now I have enrolled her in school, she bully everyone in school even her teacher whenever they scold her, this has been my plight, my baby girl is never scared of anyone whether her senior or junior.

Within the street whenever she go out to play fight is all she do, I have started locking her indoor this days, and if I lock her she will be crying, I don't know what to do.

^^^
Don't fret. All you need to do is redirect her aggression to 'self defence only' - and she'll be fine. Besides, she's still a baby.

swiych:
■ My mom tell me say no more head of fish 4 me, I scattered d bully face with blow d next day, from dat day onwards he started dreading me

Yet the average Nigerian is bullied every day at work, by their leaders, etc., thinking it best to make excuses in other to continue in that bullied state.

This post just dey make me laugh...

randymirrors:


Beat him ko, beat him ni. See your twisted mouth like beat him. I'm sure you're very local. Illiterate or semi-illiterate. It's illiterates that beat their children anyhow. You talk like you lack exposure. Why would you beat a child because you want to correct him on how to handle bullying? You're not ok.

Obviously looking for attention. Can't stoop to your level else I get dirty.

The boy In question is autistic …. Proper work should be done on him by his parents.
Dear sir, do not wait till he uses a sharp object on your son before you will put a stop to the act.
Nobody here, I repeat nobody here will accept other wards to bully their child regardless of any medical conditions.
Experience they say is the best teacher.

Yes. Also train him on how to fight back. But teach them restrain.