Its more than delusional but madness, why? Because you can never ever meet perfect partner.

Yes if you are also perfect.

Even the bible attest he who find a wife. Emphasis on "find. There is need for a search in terms of compatibility. That's not to say one will still not have squabbles along the way. But the chances of it being resolve
Are much higher.

Compatibility in my estimate has nothing to do with movies Interest, money chasing interest, e.tc. this are along line of superficialities.

Humility, truth, faith, hope, forbearance. Kindness, self-control. Honesty, yes...that's more along this line.

It’s not
Watch before leap

kokoBoii:
Na perfect one be Una problem, Una go Leave the most important thing wey Una suppose worry about, dey worry about nonsense...Me I'm not marrying until I have the perfect Money

And get a woman that will file out when the money finishes. Have you really asked yourself why perfect money has been your motivation for marriage? Is it to get any woman of your fantasy?
Abeg I'm not judging o, na question I dey ask.

Kemadealadire:
We are in the endtime, the quality and value system of the average man out there is nothing to write home about.

Considering, marriage is a lifetime commitment, lol, I am yet to see anyone who wants to end up with just anything for life.

This has nothing to do with end time, marriage has lost it worth, the desire to be with someone who for all you know have spent the last decade running around from dick to dick.

Very typical of a woman to blame MEN! Still it's not the men doing hookup up and down, it's now on Facebook, Instagram, everywhere you turn, it leaves nothing to be desired.

Marriage used to be interesting, not some social prerequisite for a status.

The question on most men mind is why? Why is it important, most guys that got married in their early 20s, got married for sex, the sex mostly last 3 years and he discover it's not worth it, the mature one in their 30s already understand this so, sex, food means nothing to them.

Built2last:
The worst that can happen to a man is to train children with pension money. Most men gallivanting today never think about old age. So short sighted.

You can't be doing school runs at age 60 because you married late. I dread it. God forbid. If you are struggling to have kids, go and do IVF. forget the bullshit people say. Na your sperm, na your pikin. get ready for old age. If you are 35 years. You have spent half of your life on earth already except God give you extra bread.

At 60, you should be planning retirement. last born is planning to move out of the house and you are ready to tour the world with your wife.

I dread old age without money. That's the only fear i have. So i am now investing in my children while i have the money and the energy

There are fake boys and fake men out there but there are good ones also. If you postponed because you think you will find in the future. Hey, that future is not guaranteed. find a good woman and wife her now.

Don't look for a perfect woman as you are not one. We always set high and unrealistic expectations for the other person forgetting that we are all far from perfection.

Don't marry just who you love, marry who you can Tolerate their madness. All of us dey craze last last.

Love and beauty doesn't sustain marriage. Naa. Tolerance and Trust does.

💯

Built2last:
The worst that can happen to a man is to train children with pension money. Most men gallivanting today never think about old age. So short sighted.

You can't be doing school runs at age 60 because you married late. I dread it. God forbid. If you are struggling to have kids, go and do IVF. forget the bullshit people say. Na your sperm, na your pikin. get ready for old age. If you are 35 years. You have spent half of your life on earth already except God give you extra bread.

At 60, you should be planning retirement. last born is planning to move out of the house and you are ready to tour the world with your wife.

I dread old age without money. That's the only fear i have. So i am now investing in my children while i have the money and the energy

There are fake boys and fake men out there but there are good ones also. If you postponed because you think you will find in the future. Hey, that future is not guaranteed. find a good woman and wife her now.

Don't look for a perfect woman as you are not one. We always set high and unrealistic expectations for the other person forgetting that we are all far from perfection.

Don't marry just who you love, marry who you can Tolerate their madness. All of us dey craze last last.

Love and beauty doesn't sustain marriage. Naa. Tolerance and Trust does.

Wise words. Very wise words.

I got divorced 3 years ago and went on a madness with the mandem for a bit. Now I am leaving my mid 40s I am scared of being alone in old age. I had a very nice loyal 30 year old lady but had to let her go (very painful) because I didnt want to be doing the very school runs you talk about in old age.

I have now met this 30 year old lady with a teenage daughter who doesnt want any more kids just like myself and I am hoping to build something deep and lasting with her. I dont think I will sign any marriage paperwork though cah my eye see pepper last time around.

Delusional ke. Bera to marry late than marry wahala

pappilo:


Wise words. Very wise words.

I got divorced 3 years ago and went on a madness with the mandem for a bit. Now I am leaving my mid 40s I am scared of being alone in old age. I had a very nice loyal 30 year old lady but had to let her go (very painful) because I didnt want to be doing the very school runs you talk about in old age.

I have now met this 30 year old lady with a teenage daughter who doesnt want any more kids just like myself and I am hoping to build something deep and lasting with her. I dont think I will sign any marriage paperwork though cah my eye see pepper last time around.

It's a had one mate, Do you have any kids from your ex wife.

I will strongly recommend you discuss more kids with your new woman. Something comes upon most men when they approach 55 and there is no child that calls or comes around them. Discuss it now and reach an agreement. if you wake up 7 to 10 years from now, she will remind you she told you earlier.

Children are pure joy as you age

Zigzagman:
In Nigeria today, our neighbourhoods and cities are full of young, unmarried eligible bachelors and single ladies with delusions about love, dating and romance. It is not unusual to see lots of unmarried people attending clubs, weddings, churches, mosques and religious programmes in expectation of meeting someone to marry.

Yet, according to the single men and ladies in this video, there's a big unspoken issue around young people and romance. It's really difficult for them.

While many of them are honest and ready to commit, they struggle to find partners who are ready to date just one person today. It appears everybody is keeping their romantic options open, constantly scanning the dating landscape looking for better partners. As such, it's now commonplace to see many Nigerians postponing marriage until their thirties.

Considering the fact that most of our grandparents in Nigeria got married in their early twenties, do you think they have a point or do they just have delusion about love, dating and marriage?

Watch and share your opinion

The question is, Is there a perfect one? The answer is No. So I think people should wait until they meet the right one even if they are not perfect.

I will keep blaming social media for the social distancing of our generation. People are very contented being with their phones and navigating from IG to Ticktock to Twitter to Nairaland etc., than being with fellow humans. This time I'm spending on NL right now, if I had spent it having meaningful discussion with the lady I met at the school eatery 10mins ago, I might find a life partner in her. But no, I prefer to bounce out, enter my hostel room and enter nairaland.

Even in social gatherings, people hardly talk to each other because they enjoy the company of their phones. With the low rate of social interaction nowadays, unknowingly we will keep passing our life partners by everyday without giving a damn about them.

Built2last:
The worst that can happen to a man is to train children with pension money. Most men gallivanting today never think about old age. So short sighted.

You can't be doing school runs at age 60 because you married late. I dread it. God forbid. If you are struggling to have kids, go and do IVF. forget the bullshit people say. Na your sperm, na your pikin. get ready for old age. If you are 35 years. You have spent half of your life on earth already except God give you extra bread.

At 60, you should be planning retirement. last born is planning to move out of the house and you are ready to tour the world with your wife.

I dread old age without money. That's the only fear i have. So i am now investing in my children while i have the money and the energy

There are fake boys and fake men out there but there are good ones also. If you postponed because you think you will find in the future. Hey, that future is not guaranteed. find a good woman and wife her now.

Don't look for a perfect woman as you are not one. We always set high and unrealistic expectations for the other person forgetting that we are all far from perfection.

Don't marry just who you love, marry who you can Tolerate their madness. All of us dey craze last last.

Love and beauty doesn't sustain marriage. Naa. Tolerance and Trust does.

The worst that can happen to a man is not to have the resources to take care of/train his family or children. Age is not the worse. There are well to do men still having children at 50/60's...

Which one is more delusional: waiting to marry someone who will align with/support ur vision or marrying just anyone either bcus u are getting old or bcus ur mates are marrying....only to end up in divorce subsequently?

costandi:
Our parents found it simpler to enter marriage at young ages due to prevailing higher moral norms in their day, while contemporary societal decay has fostered a sense of caution in individuals today.
However, striking a balance between waiting for the right partner and avoiding the mistake of waiting too long is crucial.

God bless you they have good morals but today social media has turn all our women to hallot

Nonsense post

Built2last:
The worst that can happen to a man is to train children with pension money. Most men gallivanting today never think about old age. So short sighted.

You can't be doing school runs at age 60 because you married late. I dread it. God forbid. If you are struggling to have kids, go and do IVF. forget the bullshit people say. Na your sperm, na your pikin. get ready for old age. If you are 35 years. You have spent half of your life on earth already except God give you extra bread.

At 60, you should be planning retirement. last born is planning to move out of the house and you are ready to tour the world with your wife.

I dread old age without money. That's the only fear i have. So i am now investing in my children while i have the money and the energy

There are fake boys and fake men out there but there are good ones also. If you postponed because you think you will find in the future. Hey, that future is not guaranteed. find a good woman and wife her now.

Don't look for a perfect woman as you are not one. We always set high and unrealistic expectations for the other person forgetting that we are all far from perfection.

Don't marry just who you love, marry who you can Tolerate their madness. All of us dey craze last last.

Love and beauty doesn't sustain marriage. Naa. Tolerance and Trust does.

Have you thought about some people should actually have investments that will take care of them at old age and not pension?

Have you thought of the fact that some people will die before 30?

Have you thought of that even those your early born children can all be wiped out before you even get to 60 and your wife already in menopause?

I am trying to tell you that this life has no textbook, if your pattern is working for you, it is not the model that all will follow.

So some people wey never chop belle full will come and spawning children like spider, breeding societal misfits because they have noting to train them with.

In essence respect yourself, respect other people's lifestyle as far as it is not illegal.

Even if a person didn't marry, he can contract and pay nurses who will be taking care of him at old age.
When will you Africans have sense and stop creating unnecessary problems for yourselves.


Side note:
In my work place, when I was busy hustling for education, masters, certification and skills, some of them were busy breeding children like old layers and marrying hundred wives, it is same fools that are envious that I just came and am getting paid 5 times their pay, I am still shocked at how humans will want to eat their cake and still have it.
If you are one of them, respect yourself.

OkukoIgbo:


Have you thought about some people should actually have investments that will take care of them at old age and not pension?

Have you thought of the fact that some people will die before 30?

Have you thought of that even those your early born children can all be wiped out before you even get to 60 and your wife already in menopause?

I am trying to tell you that this life has no textbook, if your pattern is working for you, it is not the model that all will follow.

So some people wey never chop belle full will come and spawning children like spider, breeding societal misfits because they have noting to train them with.

In essence respect yourself, respect other people's lifestyle as far as it is not illegal.

Even if a person didn't marry, he can contract and pay nurses who will be taking care of him at old age.
When will you Africans have sense and stop creating unnecessary problems for yourselves.


Side note:
In my work place, when I was busy hustling for education, masters, certification and skills, some of them were busy breeding children like old layers and marrying hundred wives, it is same fools that are envious that I just came and am getting paid 5 times their pay, I am still shocked at how humans will want to eat their cake and still have it.
If you are one of them, respect yourself.

Read your write up again? Why are you angry? Your life your choices Mate. i simply gave an advice. Chill. This life no hard

Oh well!

I think we need to un-romanticize marriage and look at it as a BUSINESS DECISION first.

Love will be there whether y'all are married or not.

We should prioritize:
1. Is this person displaying qualities that are good to invest in long term?

2. Do they strengthen YOUR BRAND?

3. Is it a good business move?

4. Where do I see this Marriage (Business) in the next 5-10years?

And then again, there's no really perfect business. It always have its pros and cons; so it's best to choose your poison/partner wisely.

By all means, do your Market survey diligently too.

Perfect one lolz

You will wait till thy kingdom come you not even perfect yourself

Just look for someone with a good hrt and excellent behavior

It is.

folake4u:
Oh well!

I think we need to un-romanticize marriage and look at it as a BUSINESS DECISION first.

Love will be there whether y'all are married or not.

We should prioritize:
1. Is this person displaying qualities that are good to invest in long term?

2. Do they strengthen YOUR BRAND?

3. Is it a good business move?

4. Where do I see this Marriage (Business) in the next 5-10years?

And then again, there's no really perfect business. It always have its pros and cons; so it's best to choose your poison/partner wisely.

By all means, do your Market survey diligently too.

You know how people were fleeced in the Nigerian stock market

Plenty game dey ooo

In pH unemployed nfa guys squat with oil workers doing one week on one week off. Babe comes and thinks na oyel worker.

One guy in my old place used company pool car to carry his babe and her fam around. Then he got a new hod with strong eye and the car was taken from him. Nigga had to beg the company drivers to make the car available

And there are people who work with or live around successful people who are able to match their speech and mannerisms. We had one guy like that. Former Dispatch guy for the highest paying unit in the company. Guy could talk the big boy talk with the best of them

And somtimes life just happens.

GloriousGbola:


You know how people were fleeced in the Nigerian stock market

Plenty game dey ooo

In pH unemployed nfa guys squat with oil workers doing one week on one week off. Babe comes and thinks na oyel worker.

One guy in my old place used company pool car to carry his babe and her fam around. Then he got a new hod with strong eye and the car was taken from him. Nigga had to beg the company drivers to make the car available

And there are people who work with or live around successful people who are able to match their speech and mannerisms. We had one guy like that. Former Dispatch guy for the highest paying unit in the company. Guy could talk the big boy talk with the best of them

And somtimes life just happens.

Omooo!

Those fake it till you make it squad!!. They annoy me so much. Fake life wan kill them.

But still, due diligence and thorough investigation should be carried out before getting married to folks like that.

I can be very paranoid and will hire a private investigator for someone close to me.

Question. Is marriage a mandatory bus stop on the road through life? If not, why are Nigerians in particular so fixated on it?

Must you marry?

It is almost a given that if you get married today, you will regret it tomorrow. Of course there are exceptions. But they are so small in number that they are said to be statistically insignificant.

It seems men are not content with the problems facing us. We will wake up, use our hands and go find a liability , put it in the house and watch as that liability becomes a proper locust. Shine your eyes. Let her be your equal in all areas or do not go there.

And yes, do not take that step unless she is the right one for you. The right one for you should be a woman who loves and is truly crazy about you. If she's not crazily in love with you, let her be. If you can't find one who is crazily in love with you, then stay single. There are a million and one ways to get along without marriage.

Zigzagman:
In Nigeria today, our neighbourhoods and cities are full of young, unmarried eligible bachelors and single ladies with delusions about love, dating and romance. It is not unusual to see lots of unmarried people attending clubs, weddings, churches, mosques and religious programmes in expectation of meeting someone to marry.

Yet, according to the single men and ladies in this video, there's a big unspoken issue around young people and romance. It's really difficult for them.

While many of them are honest and ready to commit, they struggle to find partners who are ready to date just one person today. It appears everybody is keeping their romantic options open, constantly scanning the dating landscape looking for better partners. As such, it's now commonplace to see many Nigerians postponing marriage until their thirties.

Considering the fact that most of our grandparents in Nigeria got married in their early twenties, do you think they have a point or do they just have delusion about love, dating and marriage?

Watch and share your opinion

Built2last:


Read your write up again? Why are you angry? Your life your choices Mate. i simply gave an advice. Chill. This life no hard

You didn't sound like you were airing your opinion, you sounded like you were berating other people's choice of lifestyle.
That is where I was pointing at, and those your opinions are flawed kpata kpata, you shouldn't make it public as it is misinforming.

Some couples are so deeply incompatible.

Their value systems, choice of free time activities, senses of humor, energy levels, sleep cycles, physical chemistry, interests and general demeanor all are on completely different planets.

You wonder how they ever got together. The obvious thing for them to do is break up.

But Nope.

They keep moving forward, move in, get married, have kids.

And get divorced 30 years later, 30 years too late.

They one day look in the mirror and realize that time is no longer their friend: they’ve lost to it and are lost in it.

Choose wisely, people. Or pave the long, bitter path of regret.

As a man, if you like go and marry anything that has hole and breast. Na body go tell you later. The worse decision a man can make is to make a wrong decision in choosing a wife. The woman you choose as a wife is not just your wife, she’s also going to be the mother of your kids. If you don’t pity yourself at least pity for your kids. If you marry a retired ashawo, expect your kids not to be trained right. If you marry a woman with a bad character, expect your kids to be same. In all you do, think about your kids when choosing a wife. Very important. Same goes for the ladies. Make the right decision even if it will take some time.

OkukoIgbo:


You didn't sound like you were airing your opinion, you sounded like you were berating other people's choice of lifestyle.
That is where I was pointing at, and those your opinions are flawed kpata kpata, you shouldn't make it public as it is misinforming.

Chief judge of misinformation. Well done sir. The guy who created that topic has since reached out. Apparently, He values my view which sounds flawed to you. Good luck bro

bestman09:
It's delusional to wait as there's nothing like a perfect lady or human being.

Just get hold of any one you like and try to adjust to each other and grow together.

CASE CLOSED!!!