This is long but i would make it as short as possible.
Ok i know girl A (Alex) from school, was 2 levels above her when i left Uni and there's girl B (Jane) which i knew in my area then in Calabar around 2019.
Girl B (Jane) has been on my neck for marriage, actually she isn't in for money. She has never asked me for money before, she do tell me even though i wont marry her but i should at least make her carry my child and she would be ok. Like this girl really bugs me with this talk
that i sometimes get tired of talking to her. She would tell me she knows i don't love her anymore and she does most of the calling. Her talks mostly ends in 2 ways. If its not "i don't love her anymore", "its how do we plan to get married".
Now, i and girl A (Alex) started dating beginning of this year but we've been friends from school, prior to that (Jane) and i were dating. It was the pressure from her getting married talks that pushed me back to girl A (Alex). She knew about (Jane), i told her, it did not really border her but i never broke up with (Jane). I ghosted (Jane) because it would be expensive trying to keep with 2 people had to put 1 on hold. In fact it was her idea we became serious since we now understand ourselves better and we spoke a lot, was serving when we started everything was going well until this girl started acting smh. Like if she doesn't have money she starts acting grumpy. Me wea dey serve dey use 33k dey guide wea no dey reach me, after i buy food suff with almost 25k and i still get little needs i sha try assist in the little way i could, sent her 10k for her BD. Our relationship started sinking because no money and i don't do yahoo, she is mostly not happy and she kinda transfer it to me, if i try to encourage her she would say its motivational talk and she doesn't like that. She too enter camp and through out 21 days, she only had my time for 4 days, inside those days e no dey hours self. She was always busy that was why she could not talk. She's out and needed money to pay rent where her PPA is, she started acting grumpy. Told her i couldn't be in a relationship with someone that keeps acting this way, it wasn't going well for anyone that's why during my time i made sure is stayed in a place that had accommodation but she didn't plan and want to pressure me. Told her if she kept acting the way she acts i would stop communicating with her which i did. After close to a month she called me a day before my BD and said i did not notice she wasn't online, me wea no even send you again. My BD came and she no call, text or anything, I called her a day after to end it and everyone could go their separate ways, i would count it as a lose and move on but this girl done dey beg me, make i please forgive her, she's going to change, cousin called to talk to me too but i had deleted her number from my phone because of her i deactivated my Facebook too. Now its 7 months in and i last spoke to (Jane) earlier last month, she's telling me there are 3 guys disturbing to marry her. Showed me a chat were 1 said he has rented a 3bedroom so she knows he is serious me that is just 27yrs and i know marriage is not beans. Like she would tell me to just go see her people even if its just introduction i can afford that i should just do something, she doesn't wanna marry anyone apart from me and that she gives me a year to sort this. Now this girl isn't responding to me like before, like she's literally busy every time. Its so annoying that she would be online and she won't read my messages, i don talk tire, i vex delete her line from my phone.
I am confused, if i say i don't like the two of them then I'm lying to myself. Smh, i say make i start afresh again, delete both their numbers and stopped talking to them but (Alex) won't stop, what would you have me do?

The first girl(jane) love u but just that u are not financially stable now..
I bet u are going to miss that girl if u happen to lose her, and always remember with time she will forget u...

24dro:
This is long but i would make it as short as possible.
Ok i know girl A (Alex) from school, was 2 levels above her when i left Uni and there's girl B (Jane) which i knew in my area then in Calabar around 2019.
Girl B (Jane) has been on my neck for marriage, actually she isn't in for money. She has never asked me for money before, she do tell me even though i wont marry her but i should at least make her carry my child and she would be ok. Like this girl really bugs me with this talk
that i sometimes get tired of talking to her. She would tell me she knows i don't love her anymore and she does most of the calling. Her talks mostly ends in 2 ways. If its not "i don't love her anymore", "its how do we plan to get married".
Now, i and girl A (Alex) started dating beginning of this year but we've been friends from school, prior to that (Jane) and i were dating. It was the pressure from her getting married talks that pushed me back to girl A (Alex). She knew about (Jane), i told her, it did not really border her but i never broke up with (Jane). I ghosted (Jane) because it would be expensive trying to keep with 2 people had to put 1 on hold. In fact it was her idea we became serious since we now understand ourselves better and we spoke a lot, was serving when we started everything was going well until this girl started acting smh. Like if she doesn't have money she starts acting grumpy. Me wea dey serve dey use 33k dey guide wea no dey reach me, after i buy food suff with almost 25k and i still get little needs i sha try assist in the little way i could, sent her 10k for her BD. Our relationship started sinking because no money and i don't do yahoo, she is mostly not happy and she kinda transfer it to me, if i try to encourage her she would say its motivational talk and she doesn't like that. She too enter camp and through out 21 days, she only had my time for 4 days, inside those days e no dey hours self. She was always busy that was why she could not talk. She's out and needed money to pay rent where her PPA is, she started acting grumpy. Told her i couldn't be in a relationship with someone that keeps acting this way, it wasn't going well for anyone that's why during my time i made sure is stayed in a place that had accommodation but she didn't plan and want to pressure me. Told her if she kept acting the way she acts i would stop communicating with her which i did. After close to a month she called me a day before my BD and said i did not notice she wasn't online, me wea no even send you again. My BD came and she no call, text or anything, I called her a day after to end it and everyone could go their separate ways, i would count it as a lose and move on but this girl done dey beg me, make i please forgive her, she's going to change, cousin called to talk to me too but i had deleted her number from my phone because of her i deactivated my Facebook too. Now its 7 months in and i last spoke to (Jane) earlier last month, she's telling me there are 3 guys disturbing to marry her. Showed me a chat were 1 said he has rented a 3bedroom so she knows he is serious me that is just 27yrs and i know marriage is not beans. Like she would tell me to just go see her people even if its just introduction i can afford that i should just do something, she doesn't wanna marry anyone apart from me and that she gives me a year to sort this. Now this girl isn't responding to me like before, like she's literally busy every time. Its so annoying that she would be online and she won't read my messages, i don talk tire, i vex delete her line from my phone.
I am confused, if i say i don't like the two of them then I'm lying to myself. Smh, i say make i start afresh again, delete both their numbers and stopped talking to them but (Alex) won't stop, what would you have me do?

Turn it up

Marriage is no beans. Do not put the cart before the horse. Do not run when you are still crawling. I would preferred Jane - she is level headed and humble.
But you are not yet ready for marriage so work on yourself first !

It's obvious between both girls who's for u. Focus on building urself and try to carry Jane along but don't stress it. Ur self improvement is of paramount importance to any other thing rn. If she can wait for u to get things sorted like she said fine and if not let her marry someone else but improve urself so u don't get to repeat this class again

I don't brokeshame people on norms but I am making exceptions right away.
You're 27 years old, broke and directionless, instead of vying to better your life, what you're concerned about is satisfying the marital thirst of some directionless fellows? I swear you're stupid and you may most likely live your entire life in penury if you continue with these messed up priorities. Better your life, dump both bannies, commitment is the last thing you need right now. Your parents didn't borrow to send you to school just to be forced into a relationship where garri and salt would be the order of your survival.

rickleye:


Marriage is no beans. Do not put the cart before the horse. Do not run when you are still crawling. I would preferred Jane - she is level headed and humble.
But you are not yet ready for marriage so work on yourself first !

The thing is she no longer picks my calls but if i call via video call on Facebook she picks tho or would i say i feel she doesn't just wanna talk to me. I just didn't press further then i shat her but and still the same thing, so i became angry and deleted her number from my phone. I probably know she would call me but maybe not now though.

24dro:
This is long but i would make it as short as possible.
Ok i know girl A (Alex) from school, was 2 levels above her when i left Uni and there's girl B (Jane) which i knew in my area then in Calabar around 2019.
Girl B (Jane) has been on my neck for marriage, actually she isn't in for money. She has never asked me for money before, she do tell me even though i wont marry her but i should at least make her carry my child and she would be ok. Like this girl really bugs me with this talk
that i sometimes get tired of talking to her. She would tell me she knows i don't love her anymore and she does most of the calling. Her talks mostly ends in 2 ways. If its not "i don't love her anymore", "its how do we plan to get married".
Now, i and girl A (Alex) started dating beginning of this year but we've been friends from school, prior to that (Jane) and i were dating. It was the pressure from her getting married talks that pushed me back to girl A (Alex). She knew about (Jane), i told her, it did not really border her but i never broke up with (Jane). I ghosted (Jane) because it would be expensive trying to keep with 2 people had to put 1 on hold. In fact it was her idea we became serious since we now understand ourselves better and we spoke a lot, was serving when we started everything was going well until this girl started acting smh. Like if she doesn't have money she starts acting grumpy. Me wea dey serve dey use 33k dey guide wea no dey reach me, after i buy food suff with almost 25k and i still get little needs i sha try assist in the little way i could, sent her 10k for her BD. Our relationship started sinking because no money and i don't do yahoo, she is mostly not happy and she kinda transfer it to me, if i try to encourage her she would say its motivational talk and she doesn't like that. She too enter camp and through out 21 days, she only had my time for 4 days, inside those days e no dey hours self. She was always busy that was why she could not talk. She's out and needed money to pay rent where her PPA is, she started acting grumpy. Told her i couldn't be in a relationship with someone that keeps acting this way, it wasn't going well for anyone that's why during my time i made sure is stayed in a place that had accommodation but she didn't plan and want to pressure me. Told her if she kept acting the way she acts i would stop communicating with her which i did. After close to a month she called me a day before my BD and said i did not notice she wasn't online, me wea no even send you again. My BD came and she no call, text or anything, I called her a day after to end it and everyone could go their separate ways, i would count it as a lose and move on but this girl done dey beg me, make i please forgive her, she's going to change, cousin called to talk to me too but i had deleted her number from my phone because of her i deactivated my Facebook too. Now its 7 months in and i last spoke to (Jane) earlier last month, she's telling me there are 3 guys disturbing to marry her. Showed me a chat were 1 said he has rented a 3bedroom so she knows he is serious me that is just 27yrs and i know marriage is not beans. Like she would tell me to just go see her people even if its just introduction i can afford that i should just do something, she doesn't wanna marry anyone apart from me and that she gives me a year to sort this. Now this girl isn't responding to me like before, like she's literally busy every time. Its so annoying that she would be online and she won't read my messages, i don talk tire, i vex delete her line from my phone.
I am confused, if i say i don't like the two of them then I'm lying to myself. Smh, i say make i start afresh again, delete both their numbers and stopped talking to them but (Alex) won't stop, what would you have me do?

Bro girl wey dey call you like u but u blew it... I don't know what to tell u but all the best in Ur next relationship cos it seem the girl wey dey bug u with calls sef don shift when u relegated her ...

izonborn098:
The first girl love u but just that u are not financially stable now..
I bet u are going to miss that girl if u happen to lose her, and always remember with time she will forget u...

that girl wil manipulate him to stupor. She doesn't love the guy as u claimed.

Please try and read your post
Make corrections where necessary

Then come back for advice
Becos I'm not understanding nii

You mean Jane don't love him? Make me understand more

Nonywendy:
that girl wil manipulate him to stupor. She doesn't love the guy as u claimed.